Being a 21 year old virgin

Originally Posted by Jimmy P

I'm not sure what you are getting at. Experience = happiness? That would also be false.

Sex is insignificant. It's perceived as very important mainly by people who aren't having any. Sex for the sake of an orgasm is on par with masturbation. You might find that preposterous now, but go have sex with 50 people and then get back to me.

Sex as a physical expression of the love two people feel for each other is a different story.

I have enjoyed sexual activity since I was 3 - by choice - and don't just do it 'for the orgasm' either but love all sex play. I continue to have a lot of it and I consider it to be significant. Your statement, in my case at least, is therefore a little presumptuous. I am now getting back to you, as so rudely requested in your post, as I have had sex with way more than a mere 50 people. lol.

My point was - simply - that sex is a prime reason for forming relationships. If someone has had a lot of sex and still finds it trivial and unimportant, then that is simply personal to them, not a general fact.

Sex isn't that great. Oh the simple days of being a virgin... come back to me.

the plus side to not having sex when you're young and stupid is that when you're older you're not as likely to fall in love with the first bimbo who slobbers on your knob

I'm 20 n I'm virgin....I hear stories that girls here in my town get down but I haven't experienced any of it and it's making me go crazy...

Originally Posted by santosnj

I'm 20 n I'm virgin....I hear stories that girls here in my town get down but I haven't experienced any of it and it's making me go crazy...

First of all, you should accept that there is nothing wrong with being a virgin.

Secondly, ever since the age of puberty, when everyone starts to become aware of the changes in their body & start to understand what sex is really about, the chances are that most of your peers will have been claiming to have sex with a whole harem of partners, the chances are, in reality, that most of them are probably also virgins, and just as frustrated about it as you are.

Finally, when you eventually do lose your virginity, most partners will consider it an added bonus to be given the honour of being the one to whom you lose your virginity to.

Just talk to more girls. Be confident. Don't make a big deal out of being a virgin.
Hell, I wouldn't even bring it up unless you're trying to lose it in a serious, deep, lovey-dovey relationship. And even then, wait a decent amount of time.
If you make it awkward or come off as desperate, you'll never get very far.