Does it happen to you too? Am I a bad person?

Originally Posted by Illidan

How do you know what's the truth in MY head? Ok, I'm not exactly thrilled that she ended up with some other dude, but she's not the only one I sometimes enjoy seeing fail, get it? So you're wrong. Don't jump to conclusions specially sounding like you know the absolute truth about everything and you speak only the truth, while the rest are completely wrong, that just makes you sound like a dick, more than me in this thread even.

Thanks for your input anyway, a LIL BIT of politeness goes a long way you know.

Mimimimimimi. How do I know the truth in your head?, by your whiney reaction. That made it sound like I did hit the nail in the head

Now before you blow a gasket. I'm being rude on purpose.

Yes of course we all like to see people who have everything fail, especially if they are arrogant about it e.g. Charlie Sheen.

But this case is a bit more personal isnt it. It is cos she didnt want to be your girlfriend, and perhaps was a little arrogant about that, or patronizing. "We are such good friends" when she needs free tutoring from you.

But wanting to see people fail in this way comes from jealousy. Everything about the Green eyed monster comes back to bite you in the arse. No good ever comes from it. And now you feel guilty about those feelings, hence this thread.

Someone has a crush

Originally Posted by Vanilla Gorilla

Mimimimimimi. How do I know the truth in your head?, by your whiney reaction. That made it sound like I did hit the nail in the head

Now before you blow a gasket. I'm being rude on purpose.

Yes of course we all like to see people who have everything fail, especially if they are arrogant about it e.g. Charlie Sheen.

But this case is a bit more personal isnt it. It is cos she didnt want to be your girlfriend, and perhaps was a little arrogant about that, or patronizing. "We are such good friends" when she needs free tutoring from you.

But wanting to see people fail in this way comes from jealousy. Everything about the Green eyed monster comes back to bite you in the arse. No good ever comes from it. And now you feel guilty about those feelings, hence this thread.

Someone has a crush

What reaction? What I was trying to prove is that not EVERY girl I sometimes enjoy see fail, was a failed dating attempt, get it? And this last answers of yours was more polite, I don't get the point of being rude...

Last thing, I don't tutor her, I got my own worries and courses to pass, I thought about it but it would be too much wouldn't be? And I don't have a crush on her, I like her but it's far from being a crush, I consider crushes being serious stuff.

You're right about the last thing, nothing ever good comes from jealousy but I just can't help it sometimes. I should stick to my own shit.

But I still wanted to know if it happened to all of you.

it's not like her arms got ripped off and you did cartwheels when you found out

yes, if you are really high minded and spiritually evolved, etc., you tend not to glory in other people's misery

she'll recover though. if she really has everything, things will probably work out for her

you felt rejected, so now you feel a little secret joy in her misfortune. it's not a good thing, but I don't think it causes much harm, and you should probably not worry about it too much

if I were you, I would offer to tutor her in exchange for sex

Originally Posted by Cherea

Even though I can bend spoons with the power of my mind, I would still have to say thoughts are not actions. Sticks and stones, buddy.

holy shit, you can bend spoons????

Originally Posted by McFuddy

Rather than having me blow you, I'd suggest getting a sense of humor.

blame the material not the audience

Originally Posted by ROLLINGALONG

blame the material not the audience

I'll blame the guy who is so insecure that he insults someone he doesn't even know based on a rather benign opinion he read on a message board (one that was somewhat facetious I might add). It's not even that it matters whether you found it humorous, it is the incredibly rude way you decided to respond.

Originally Posted by Illidan

Am I a bad person?
Does it happen to you guys too?

nah, that doesn't make you a bad person.

Originally Posted by Illidan

Ok here's the deal:
I'm at the university studying and working, my major is Pharmaceutical Chemistry. I have this female friend, she's doing optional courses with me, and has been doing for a while. She's a very good person, lovely girl, beautiful too.
We went out together once, I was totally psyched but at the end I found out it was just a buddy's outing and later on she ended up dating some other dude and they're totally together now.

When she failed the test, I was genuinely sad but at the same time I enjoyed the bad news, I'm sorry but I did :P. The reason is the following: I believe in some sort of balance, or justice, what i mean is you can't have it ALL. I mean, except passing Calculus this girl has pretty much everything. So whenever a pretty girl that apparently has everything fails in life someway, I feel good :S.

Am I a bad person?
Does it happen to you guys too?

The parts in bold contradict each other. She's your "friend", a "very good person", but because she didn't see you as a romantic interest you enjoyed that she failed part of her studies because that restored some sort of "universal balance" because, after all, she can't be pretty, a good person, AND have an education...

At the risk of sounding rude, you sound like an insecure person, kind of a shitty friend and somewhat egotistical.

If she doesn't wanna date you, take it like a man. Don't find happiness in her failures just because your ego is fragile. If you were a good friend you'd have sympathy, and would try to offer her some help.

Originally Posted by lunarverse

The parts in bold contradict each other. She's your "friend", a "very good person", but because she didn't see you as a romantic interest you enjoyed that she failed part of her studies because that restored some sort of "universal balance" because, after all, she can't be pretty, a good person, AND have an education...

At the risk of sounding rude, you sound like an insecure person, kind of a shitty friend and somewhat egotistical.

If she doesn't wanna date you, take it like a man. Don't find happiness in her failures just because your ego is fragile. If you were a good friend you'd have sympathy, and would try to offer her some help.

Like.

The original post spells out symptoms of obsession and hatred.

You are right where you are supposed to be.
Why?
You walked there.

Face it it you handled rejection badly and your response was totally inappropriate. The good news is that you can reflect on your actions and that you will grow up one day.