Friend is a closet case.

Originally Posted by Puddingtame

Hmm you're right I don't understand his mindset. He's clearly asking for it in both sober and drunk times and can be a very big flirt. Yet, he then feels bad like a second later. To answer how I felt and feel about being gay and the way others felt on it. Yeah I was in denial for a bit but he started coming onto me lol. Guess it's an issue that I don't flaunt and not many people ask me, though there's been a few. I developed attractions that became impossible to ignore to myself at least.

I told him I'd be totally cool and of course never talk about it to people we know, even when caught one time. We were both picked on a lot, then I asked why we should give a crap what people think. I told him I love be around him and thought he was one of the best looking people I've met. Tried to make him feel good about himself and maybe open up, but maybe I did the opposite. Guess I care because I feel that he's beating himself up over osmething he does want.

It's definitely a tough issue; but you're trying and you should be proud of yourself for that.

Just make sure that he knows you're there for him if he wants to talk (which, I assume he does already, but you'd know better than me) and try to be understanding and supportive without being too pushy.

All you can really do.

Originally Posted by Puddingtame

Hmm you're right I don't understand his mindset. He's clearly asking for it in both sober and drunk times and can be a very big flirt. Yet, he then feels bad like a second later.

I told him I love be around him and thought he was one of the best looking people I've met. Tried to make him feel good about himself and maybe open up, but maybe I did the opposite. Guess I care because I feel that he's beating himself up over osmething he does want.

some guys have a harder time with it than others. and a guy's psychological makeup plays a huge role in it. we're not all the same under the identical circumstances. some guys discover they like men and the rest is pretty self-explanatory for them, others find it so unbelievably difficult to accept that part of themselves.

and it does get frustrating being with someone like that. but there isn't much you can do. he has to figure it out for himself that self-denial and regret doesn't get him anywhere good. and he either gets it or doesn't. unfortunately some guys go their whole lives trying to be something they're not, living a lie. and it is one of the saddest things to see. you can be there for him as much as you can, but you also gotta retain your own sanity in the process. some guys do come around eventually, but if he's not the one, there is nothing you can do about it.

I say have ur fun with him and then find some one new

I say call him up right this minute and the two of you fuck each other till you're cross-eyed....then get some glasses so you can see and do it again. Enough wild-eyed fuck me silly stuff and you'll both be too tired to get all psycho-dramatic. Repeat this approach More often than necessary...hire help if necessary

This^

Hehe wild cross-eyed sex. Thanks for response guys. I do feel like maybe I did fall in love a bit and was just trying to make something happen
. I'd hate for something like that to be one sided of course so I think I'll try to move on as best I can, I'm starting to feel cheap.