Originally Posted by Puddingtame
Hmm you're right I don't understand his mindset. He's clearly asking for it in both sober and drunk times and can be a very big flirt. Yet, he then feels bad like a second later.
I told him I love be around him and thought he was one of the best looking people I've met. Tried to make him feel good about himself and maybe open up, but maybe I did the opposite. Guess I care because I feel that he's beating himself up over osmething he does want.
some guys have a harder time with it than others. and a guy's psychological makeup plays a huge role in it. we're not all the same under the identical circumstances. some guys discover they like men and the rest is pretty self-explanatory for them, others find it so unbelievably difficult to accept that part of themselves.
and it does get frustrating being with someone like that. but there isn't much you can do. he has to figure it out for himself that self-denial and regret doesn't get him anywhere good. and he either gets it or doesn't. unfortunately some guys go their whole lives trying to be something they're not, living a lie. and it is one of the saddest things to see. you can be there for him as much as you can, but you also gotta retain your own sanity in the process. some guys do come around eventually, but if he's not the one, there is nothing you can do about it.