Are relationships - intimate sexual Connections necessary or even helpful in the Work ?
No - at times the only way another will open to another, is through that kind of sharing. But often the timing makes that kind of sharing inappropriate within the social norms that we live in. Most of us are heavily programmed to exclusivity within an intimate sexual relationship, and usually try to maintain and keep it from changing from the desired level of reciprocated sexual tensions and emotions that we have come to accept as love - which is also by definition -a type of co-dependency - anything in which we try to restrict from change is a type of co-dependency.
From the Other Side - love is not limited. Most of us are uncomfortable with an unlimited, impersonal love - a love that does not restrict the focus to one. A love that honors All recognizing we are all connected - and that connection is love. But it really is not about the close sexual bonding - it's just that it's as close as we can come to explaining how it feels. We tend to describe it in those terms (mystics down through the ages speak very romantically about the Connection - having little else so suitable in the language available - but recognizing it as a poor way of expression - just having no other medium to express the intensity)
Very often people feeling the Connection relate it as a romantic connection - it is the only way we know how to feel with that intensity - and another reason for detachment - .
Detachment means we do not get blown away by the phenomeology. We stay centered, we keep the focus on the end goal; not the tintillation of the emotions and senses overflow that can be very distracting, and for many become a goal unto itself. And what is the end goal ? To re-connect in wholeness to the godhead, honoring our connection with the all and growing and we do this through this maya land of becoming - this plane of process - and this IS the Work - Growing Beyond.
And trying to talk about this often leads to misunderstandings and often peole construe it as an OK to open themselves to inimate sexuality with those with who they feel the Connection
Again Detachment enables us not to get blown away by the phenomenology of receiving and giving that awesome Love which is the trademark of our Connection to All. Getting blown away by the phenomenology - trying to restrict it's flow will only lead one to lessons that will show them the error of their ways - often with stressful emotional overtones. One cannot possess this Love. One must freely Be that Love. And Love constantly directs us to open more to being vulnerable and allowing Change to help us to grow Beyond that which we Are - the method by which the godhead grows through us.
Any attempts to explain this always comes up short. The human language is not really capable - even telepathy cannot fully elucidate. Hence the call to intuition and Being true to Self - that Connection inherent within all that IS their connection to the godhead.
So please make leeway for the failings in this attempt to answer some questions put forth - To really understand you must turn within - and you must Still the mind - And Know.
Blessings to all along whatever Way each chooses on their Path to Growing Beyond.
We enhance the quality of Existence
We fulfill our potential in a manner beneficial to All
We seek Full Awareness, Total Cooperation
and Complete Union with our GodSelf
Surrounded by Love........ Mind Creates the concept
Full of Love...................... Desire provides the motivation
Channels of Love............. Doing is the test
One with Love
Life is an opportunity and becomes what you make of it
May the Light of Love ever Guide your Way
Grow on ... Enjoy !