I'm socially awkward

I have social anxiety and it sucks. I miss out on a lot of things because of it. I can't talk to a stranger if my life depended on it. I want to get over this but I haven't been able to. It's really unfair because my brother and sister don't have this but god hates me just enough to give it to me.

Do you guys suffer from this? Have any of you got over it?

...........i would think it is good practice to post more on a forum like this......if you start to learn how to respond here it would just be a small step to bring it out side..i mean technically you talking to a stranger right now with me,right?

I used to be like this.
My problem is I think everyone is an idiot and if I think that, then I automatically assume they think the same as me. I can't ever go anywhere without people annoying me. Their de meaner, their personality etc and I therefore assume also that they think bad of me.
But then I got this whole attitude of "well hell to them" and I just stopped caring. I'm out there to do my own thing and if I get in somebodies way then good. Makes me feel better that I got to annoy someone else.
As with talking to people, because they are all idiots, just talk to them as normal as you can. They won't remark on it unless they're nasty individuals and you'll just flow along with the conversation.
Not everyone is an idiots, but for fools safe, if you know nothing about them then they have to prove to you that they aren't idiots.

Originally Posted by Irminsul

I used to be like this.
My problem is I think everyone is an idiot and if I think that, then I automatically assume they think the same as me. I can't ever go anywhere without people annoying me. Their de meaner, their personality etc and I therefore assume also that they think bad of me.
But then I got this whole attitude of "well hell to them" and I just stopped caring. I'm out there to do my own thing and if I get in somebodies way then good. Makes me feel better that I got to annoy someone else.
As with talking to people, because they are all idiots, just talk to them as normal as you can. They won't remark on it unless they're nasty individuals and you'll just flow along with the conversation.
Not everyone is an idiots, but for fools safe, if you know nothing about them then they have to prove to you that they aren't idiots.

I think this is terrible advice.

Good way to go from socially inhibited to socially hated.

Originally Posted by RooRshack

I think this is terrible advice.

Good way to go from socially inhibited to socially hated.

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I used to be very socially awkward, I also disliked people a lot. But eventually I found people who had the same interests as me, and after a while it wasn't as difficult to associate with new people.
I got so lonely when I disliked other people! I mean I still have a certain distaste for a lot of people, I don't let it hinder me too much. I also still have slight issues talking to some strangers on occasion, but thanks to a lot of new friends I've made, I'm gradually getting better.

Find the right people and they will help you discover your true potential

Yes, I had social anxiety for a while. I still do to some degree, though subjecting myself to people on a regular basis has put me into a position where I need to produce words. Words now be getting produced. Good luck.

I have kinda broken from that a bit. It is easier than was. I've self-diagnosed that, so it could be something else, but whatever.

But still, I go somewhere, want to start small talk, person looks at me with "wtf you want, get lost" or just stare surprised that I want something...

Irminsul, if you see me and you think I am an idiot and I see you and think that you are an idiot, how will that work? I guess it doesn't work this way. You just can't come to someone and ask him to prove he is not an idiot...

It would be easier to assume he is not an idiot, but keep in mind that he might be. Should work better this way...

I have social anxiety…

I too have this “problem.” However, I’ve discovered the cause of my anxiety is that I think most chit-chat conversation is lame, lame, lame and therefore very boring. As a result, I find participation in ordinary chit-chat conversation mind-numbingly dull. I wanted to be social and participate in conversations in which people seemed to be enjoying but couldn’t. This was a source of anxiety for me. I discovered this about 20 years ago.

So, the solution you might think is to create your own “interesting” conversations. Well, I had a problem there too. I was not skilled at it and I had nothing to say…

I then discovered reading. It enabled me to choose topics of interest to me. I still find most conversation boring but now I’m capable of having satisfying conversations. My problem now is finding people who are interested in subjects I find interesting.

Hip-forums and you have changed that. Thank you

Ya know ... that could have been me writing that, outthere 2!!!!