Very weird fantasy about my G/F. advice/opinions

**Confissledone** · 10-10-2004, 10:43 AM

Well I recently started to realize a fantasy that I didnt want to believe was my fantasy. The fantasy is having my girlfriend of almost 3 years to have sex with another guy or guys, once or a couple of times. And/or like one day she (maybe me too) hang out in a room/house with bunch of guys and have her dressed up real sexy and flirty with her high heels and tease all of the guys by dancing and showing herself (I just thought of this since she's so naturally flirtatious). I would also love to be in a 3some with her (mmf). I dont know why it turns me on so much thinking about my girlfriend of almost 3 years which I really truly love, doing all this stuff with all these guys. Last night I told her my fantasy (only the one of her and another guy) and she said she wouldn't do that to me or herself. I'm a jealous guy but I keep imaginin her half stripped down teasing a bunch of guys and doing it, I dont know why I'm ok with it and really want her to it. Do any of you out there have any similar cases or fantasies?
Oh and please dont post if you're only gonna be insulting.

**atropine** · 10-10-2004, 11:17 AM

well theres nothing wrong with the fantasy, although im basically the opposite. and basically no matter how much you want her to do it, shes told you she doesnt want to so i wouldnt go trying

**matthew** · 10-10-2004, 11:23 AM

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Oh and please dont post if you're only gonna be insulting.

darn

Is your fantasy based on seeing your girl go with other men ... but you having power ??? ...she will return to you .??

This thing about letting your g/f be with other men is weird (TO ME) but maybe not wishing a g/f to be with other men is just as controling...mmm maybe controling is the wrong word ... maybe confidence or lack of it.

**Seru** · 10-10-2004, 11:26 AM

ok here's my view, i'll get physocoanalysisic, i think that you're so proud of her you want to show her off to other guys but still know she's yours.

**Confissledone** · 10-10-2004, 11:37 AM

Yes I'm very proud of her, in fact I wanted her to be a stripper back in May when she turned 18 (I actually posted it here too) I would really like for her to do it, it could be controlling as you mentioned, didnt think of it that way but I was listening to the radio a couple of days ago and this girl said that she did 2 other guys while her bf watched, I wouldn't mind trying that out, having my g/f have her brains fucked by another guy....I know she's gonna read this tomorrow, (sorry baby I have to say it so dirty) Also I just read this post from this girl that her husband had the same fantasy and they're both loving it. Which I hope she decides to give it a try...maybe we'll both love it.

Thanks for all your opinions, and keep replying

**peacefuljeffrey** · 10-12-2004, 11:33 AM

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Originally Posted by Confissledone

Yes I'm very proud of her, in fact I wanted her to be a stripper back in May when she turned 18 (I actually posted it here too) I would really like for her to do it, it could be controlling as you mentioned, didnt think of it that way but I was listening to the radio a couple of days ago and this girl said that she did 2 other guys while her bf watched, I wouldn't mind trying that out, having my g/f have her brains fucked by another guy....I know she's gonna read this tomorrow, (sorry baby I have to say it so dirty) Also I just read this post from this girl that her husband had the same fantasy and they're both loving it. Which I hope she decides to give it a try...maybe we'll both love it.

Thanks for all your opinions, and keep replying

I think this is rooted in either a real or perceived inability on your part to sexually please your girlfriend. I cannot imagine why any guy, with a healthy sex drive, in his right mind, would want OTHER guys to be fucking his girlfriend or wife!!!!!

You made a freudian slip there, you said, "having her brains fucked" but not "fucked out." Yes, I think that if you push this with a girl who has expressed that she does not want to do it that it will "fuck her brains" -- and quite likely your relationship with her as well. It's not fair of you to do that to her. Many or most women, I think, want the confidence and comfort of being with their guy, and expect he will want only her. To have him want her to have other guys could make her fear that you might want her to want you to do other women. Look, she just may not be into the same things you're into, period. You said that she's told you as much. You need to do some introspection and figure out why you would want something so counterintuitive as having your girlfriend fuck other guys. It is not normal to most women to want to be involved in that, so don't push it.

-Jeffrey

**peacefuljeffrey** · 10-12-2004, 11:44 AM

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Originally Posted by Confissledone

Yes I'm very proud of her, in fact I wanted her to be a stripper back in May when she turned 18 (I actually posted it here too) I would really like for her to do it, it could be controlling as you mentioned, didnt think of it that way but I was listening to the radio a couple of days ago and this girl said that she did 2 other guys while her bf watched

Dude, sorry if this sounds insulting, but what the hey...

I think the best thing that could happen to your girlfriend would be if this fantasy thing of yours pushed her away and caused her to drop you.

You want stuff "for her" that is really for you and you alone -- it is super selfish of you, and dangerous and risky for her. I don't think you have a moment's thought for either what she wants, or what is best for her. It's all about you.

You want her to be a stripper. You want her to do other guys, possibly even two or more at a time.Fine, as a fantasy. But to attempt to make it happen is manipulative, controlling, egomaniacal and self-centered.

You admit to wanting to be controlling, etc. Why should a girl want that? Why should a girl want a guy who thinks of nothing but his own gratification, through essentially whoring her out?

The things you want of your girlfriend are bad for her; one must hope she realizes this before she gets used by you. The dangers of abuse, disease, and loss of dignity and self esteem for her are very real.

-Jeffrey