How do women feel about bisexual men?

[Patrick]

This is a question for the women. Are you turned off by bisexual men? Are you turned on by them or perhaps indifferent? I would like to know so that if I am dating a women should I tell her that I am bisexual? Or would that be a bad idea and I would be better off keeping it a secret?

[nimh]

hm, i think it's kind of hot.

you shouldnt feel like you have to hide a part of who you are from someone you're getting intimate with. if you feel like you have to keep it a secret from someone you're involved with, then i think you should question that and try to deal with it in an honest manner.

[PhotoGra1]

A female friend of mine would ONLY date bisexual men...

She said they were more sensitive.

[ZePpeLinA]

yeah i would tend to agree with your friend PhotoGra1...most gay and bisexual men i know are so sensitive and easy going than straight males...
I'd definitely date a bisexual guy, why not?

[mrpiddleslives]

I'm fine with it, but then I'm bi myself. I've been out with a bisexual lad and he was actually one of the nicest boys I've ever met. They seem to be a lot more open minded.
If it bothers her that much when you tell her maybe you should reconsider being with her. But hopefully she'll accept it. Just reassure her it's no threat to her or how you feel about her. I find alot of people feel theres twice the threat when your bisexual.

[GreenButterflyDaisy]

Yeah I would really be fine with it. I actually consider ti is kind of a turn on, that may have something to do with the fact that I myself am bi but either way I think it is kind of sexy when I see two guys kiss and it wouldnt bother me at all if a guy was bi:)

[SkeeterVT]

This is a question for the women. Are you turned off by bisexual men? Are you turned on by them or perhaps indifferent? I would like to know so that if I am dating a women should I tell her that I am bisexual? Or would that be a bad idea and I would be better off keeping it a secret?
Patrick, you're not the only bi guy who'd like to know the answer to your question. So do I.

But before you respond, ladies, please read my post in the thread, "Bisexual? What's Your Preference?". In it, I admit to having difficulty in forming opposite-sex relationships - and I explain why. After reading that post, perhaps you can offer me some advice. I'd really appreciate it.

-- Skeeter

[smilez]

I think you should be totally honest. You are who you are and if you are gonig to be with someone they have to accept that. I personal am turned off by bi-sexual men, but turned on by bi-sexual women. To each their own, right?

[Enonemouse]

yeah i would tend to agree with your friend PhotoGra1...most gay and bisexual men i know are so sensitive and easy going than straight males...
I'd definitely date a bisexual guy, why not? I'm bisexual too.
EXACTLY!!!!!!!

[Snowdancer]

Well from my experience. Honesty is the best. Even if it does mean that you loose someone who isn't going to be able to accept you, the real you. I know that sounds heartless but when you think about it if this is going to be an issue for her she is going to dump you anyhow eventually.

Now for your question of if women like bi men. I would say that there are some who do and some who don't. Again this is from women I have met. Just for the heck of it (& maybe you did this) how about posing this question in the Love & Sex part of the forums. There are more straight ladies there & a larger population in general. Maybe here in gayland you would get different answers since the ladies here are more GLBT aware. Just a thought......

[Abyle]

Hm. I'm totally okay with bi guys. I wouldn't date anyone who wouldn't at least sleep with a transgendered person. Personal standards though.

[moonlightdelerium]

Personally, I'm indifferent. Monogomy is monogomy as far as I'm concerned and when you love someone you don't sleep with other people (in my world, others opinions may differ). I think thats the main concern when it comes to bisexual partners is you feel that you can't offer them everything they crave.

[Patrick]

Personally, I'm indifferent. Monogomy is monogomy as far as I'm concerned and when you love someone you don't sleep with other people (in my world, others opinions may differ). I think thats the main concern when it comes to bisexual partners is you feel that you can't offer them everything they crave.I think you bring up a good point. Although I am capable of being faithful to one woman, I think I would still have that unsatisfied desire to have sex with another guy every so often. I would end up fantasizing to gay porn if she insisted on sexual fidelity. I suppose other bisexual people face similiar dilemmas?

[tigerlily]

Personally, I'm indifferent. Monogomy is monogomy as far as I'm concerned and when you love someone you don't sleep with other people (in my world, others opinions may differ). I think thats the main concern when it comes to bisexual partners is you feel that you can't offer them everything they crave.this is how i have always felt... my boyfriend is bi-sexual and i wonder about this... if i'll be able to satisfy all his desires... i figured out he was bi-sexual pretty much from the beginning so i've always known, and it kinda turned me on, honestly... to think of him doing certain things to another guy. but since we've gotten closer i've gotten mixed feelings about wanting to covet him, keep him all to myself, and the idea of being okay with sharing him. we talk about including more than one partner in our relationship (in a fantasy sort of way) so hopefully if he feels the urge to be with another guy some time i'll be able to support him doing it... *sigh* it's definitely an insecurity of mine though i'm trying to get over it... unfortunately i'm afraid i'll end up hurt and looking to other ppl if i feel my boyfriend already is.

needless to say, i think honesty is the best policy :p if you want to get close with a girl you should be honest about yourself, and i think your sexuality should probably be addressed early on...

hope that helped.... http://www.hipforums.com/forums/images/smilies/confused.gif

[SkeeterVT]

this is how i have always felt... my boyfriend is bi-sexual and i wonder about this... if i'll be able to satisfy all his desires... i figured out he was bi-sexual pretty much from the beginning so i've always known, and it kinda turned me on, honestly... to think of him doing certain things to another guy. but since we've gotten closer i've gotten mixed feelings about wanting to covet him, keep him all to myself, and the idea of being okay with sharing him. we talk about including more than one partner in our relationship (in a fantasy sort of way) so hopefully if he feels the urge to be with another guy some time i'll be able to support him doing it... *sigh* it's definitely an insecurity of mine though i'm trying to get over it... unfortunately i'm afraid i'll end up hurt and looking to other ppl if i feel my boyfriend already is.

needless to say, i think honesty is the best policy :p if you want to get close with a girl you should be honest about yourself, and i think your sexuality should probably be addressed early on...

hope that helped.... http://www.hipforums.com/forums/images/smilies/confused.gif
There are certain levels of intimacy and pleasure that I can share with a man that I can't share with a woman -- and likewise, there are certain levels of intimacy and pleasure that I can share with a woman that I can't share with a man. VIVE LA DIFFERENCE!

-- Skeeter

[gertie]

there's somethine hot about a guy who likes girls and guys. sensitivity, maybe? understanding, maybe? its just kind of a turn on.

[Patrick]

this is how i have always felt... my boyfriend is bi-sexual and i wonder about this... if i'll be able to satisfy all his desires... i figured out he was bi-sexual pretty much from the beginning so i've always known, and it kinda turned me on, honestly... to think of him doing certain things to another guy.

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just out of curiosity,what kind things would you like to see your boyfriend do to another guy?

[tigerlily]

just out of curiosity,what kind things would you like to see your boyfriend do to another guy?
well i happen to know he loves to suck cock, and has a lot of experience with it. sooo... i would love to see him suck another guy off while stroking his own cock... looking over at me, and then after finishing him off come over to me... knowing he enjoys something turns me on, so yeah, that would be something i would like to see some time. :) (hope that wasn't too graphic, i know this isn't the love and sex forum)

[monosphere]

Personally, I'm indifferent. Monogomy is monogomy as far as I'm concerned and when you love someone you don't sleep with other people (in my world, others opinions may differ). I think thats the main concern when it comes to bisexual partners is you feel that you can't offer them everything they crave.
But for a lot of bisexuals, me included, it's not a matter of what can a boy do that a girl can't, or vice versa. It's all about the person. I can be involved with one person and be completely satisfied, not wanting to look elsewhere for anything. I think it's a matter of looking beyond the gender into who the person truly is on the inside. I don't think anyone should be afraid of dating a bisexual person. Most of us are monogamous.

[tigerlily]

But for a lot of bisexuals, me included, it's not a matter of what can a boy do that a girl can't, or vice versa. It's all about the person. I can be involved with one person and be completely satisfied, not wanting to look elsewhere for anything. I think it's a matter of looking beyond the gender into who the person truly is on the inside. I don't think anyone should be afraid of dating a bisexual person. Most of us are monogamous.
oh thank god... i was really getting freaked out by some responses i've been seeing about bisexual ppl who prefer to be polyamorous because they want both...

[gertie]

its kind of a turn on... but in regards to relationships i prefer monogomy and it has to be about the person.

[SelfControl]

Most chicks I know who've been out with bi-guys get horribly clingy because they convince themselves their man wants to nail everyone he sees. True or not, it's not a great basis for a relationship. That's my two cents, anyway.

[Patrick]

well i happen to know he loves to suck cock, and has a lot of experience with it. sooo... i would love to see him suck another guy off while stroking his own cock... looking over at me, and then after finishing him off come over to me... knowing he enjoys something turns me on, so yeah, that would be something i would like to see some time. :) (hope that wasn't too graphic, i know this isn't the love and sex forum)I am glad to hear that. I would like to be able to do that myself someday. :D

[aprilrose]

I absolutely ADORE bisexual men!!!!
I mean, I would like to have one all to myself and not have to share him with men, but I think that everyone I've ever fancied has been a bisexual man!!!
I prefer their personality AND their looks!!!
I love that lean, toned body (not too muscly, but not too skinny), small delicate bone structure, but a nice strong jaw... hair a bit longish.... thats my idea of Gorgeous!!! But even when I fall for someone's personality and not their looks, they are ALWAYS bisexual.... so sweet!!!
I had a major crush on a guy 30 yrs older than me with grey hair, and when I found out he was bi, i thought "Of course!" I've never fancied an older man before, so I'm sure that bi men have something I really go for!!

[DirtyVibe]

Hm. I'm totally okay with bi guys. I wouldn't date anyone who wouldn't at least sleep with a transgendered person. Personal standards though.I think you'll find that about 99% of guys whether gay, straight, or bi wouldn't knowingly sleep with a post-op.

[Samhain]

I think you'll find that about 99% of guys whether gay, straight, or bi wouldn't knowingly sleep with a post-op.
thats actually highly offensive and untrue, I know a lot of t.s males to females, who where completely honest and have never had any trouble getting men before or after.
so stop making sweeping statements
S

[DirtyVibe]

thats actually highly offensive and untrue, I know a lot of t.s males to females, who where completely honest and have never had any trouble getting men before or after.
so stop making sweeping statements
SWho cares if it offends people? If people can't handle the truth that's their problem.

Anyways, just because your transgendered post-op friends had no problems getting guys doesn't mean that most guys would sleep with a post-op. I personally know some guys anyways that have slept with post-ops and found out the "girls" were post-ops later and went in to depression over it. One thing you may want to ask them was whether the guys knew they were post-ops or not.

I could be friends with a post-op but I would never knowingly sleep with a post-op.

Go survey random guys and ask if they would sleep with a post-op. At least 90% are going to say no.

Making false statements because they feel good doesn't make them right. Anyways, I'm just trying to clear up a misconception that you might have had.

[Rigamarole]

oh thank god... i was really getting freaked out by some responses i've been seeing about bisexual ppl who prefer to be polyamorous because they want both...
Tigerlily, I am also a bi guy and I want to echo monosphere's sentiment. Personally I prefer girls because I like being emotionally intimate with them as well as physically, and with men it's mostly only a physical thing for me. So while I do crave cock occasionally, and might even check out a hot guy, I would be perfectly happy spending my time exclusively with one girl especially when I can share these feelings with her safely. In fact, it's quite a turn on for me and it makes me feel much closer to the girl.

So I guess the point I'm trying to make is: there's always strap-ons...

[Man_of_Death]

I absolutely ADORE bisexual men!!!!
I mean, I would like to have one all to myself and not have to share him with men, but I think that everyone I've ever fancied has been a bisexual man!!!
I prefer their personality AND their looks!!!
I love that lean, toned body (not too muscly, but not too skinny), small delicate bone structure, but a nice strong jaw... hair a bit longish.... thats my idea of Gorgeous!!! But even when I fall for someone's personality and not their looks, they are ALWAYS bisexual.... so sweet!!!
I had a major crush on a guy 30 yrs older than me with grey hair, and when I found out he was bi, i thought "Of course!" I've never fancied an older man before, so I'm sure that bi men have something I really go for!!

That's odd... Not in a bad way, just simply odd :?

[aprilrose]

That's odd... Not in a bad way, just simply odd :?
Yes, I know it is, that's why I'm on this forum trying to figure myself out!! :jester:

I wonder if it should be classed as a separate type of sexuality in its own right, or as a part of bisexuality...?

[Samhain]

Who cares if it offends people? If people can't handle the truth that's their problem.

Anyways, just because your transgendered post-op friends had no problems getting guys doesn't mean that most guys would sleep with a post-op. I personally know some guys anyways that have slept with post-ops and found out the "girls" were post-ops later and went in to depression over it. One thing you may want to ask them was whether the guys knew they were post-ops or not.

I could be friends with a post-op but I would never knowingly sleep with a post-op.

Go survey random guys and ask if they would sleep with a post-op. At least 90% are going to say no.

Making false statements because they feel good doesn't make them right. Anyways, I'm just trying to clear up a misconception that you might have had.
you don't have a clue what you are talking about, as far as sex goes theres a huge fetish for pre op T.s's thats how so many of them get the money for their operation, because men want to sleep with people who are a mixture of men and women.
and unfortuantly not all t.s's look convincing it is easy to tell and when the men sleep with them, they have always gone back for more.
in the big cities on the club circuits many men get a kick out of not knowing who they are going to end up in bed with female or a mixture of both.
but above and beyound that the partners of my friends love them and are mature enough not to let whats between their partenrs legs effect them.
stop being so naive or stop posting in the areas of this forum that are about sexuality beyond hetrasexuality.

why are you here making such sweeping statements anyway? are you questioning your own sexuality?
EDIT also it has to be said that most transexuals, want to be seen as just being humanbeings and not an object of sexual fascination that has been outlined above
S

[DirtyVibe]

I said most guys wouldn't sleep with a tranny. A small group of guys with a fetish doesn't account for most guys.

[Samhain]

I have now deleted references to transexual sex on this thread, I have responded to posts and have given information out accordingly, however the author of the posts has stated that he doesn't care if he offends.
well the gay community is a part of the LGBT community (lesbian, gay bisexual and transexual community) as such terms that are used that could cause offensive will not be tolerated.
S

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[Someguy1111]

I told my girlfriend i might be Bi because lately i have been fantasizing alot about a guy filling me up. And ive always wondered what it would be like to be with a guy but the thought is strictly sexual. I have no emotional feelings for any men, just the want for cock.

My girlfriend totally understands n asked me to experiment if i wanted. I couldnt tho because i love her too much and dont want it to ruin our relationship.

So anyways, she loves me no matter what i am because she knows I am going to be with her forever.

[l-foote]

being bisexual isn't strictly about sex ^^^
if i'm in love with a man, i'm not gonna have fill my sexual needs with a woman, and vice versa.

[Samhain]

being bisexual isn't strictly about sex ^^^
if i'm in love with a man, i'm not gonna have fill my sexual needs with a woman, and vice versa.
exactly
S

[Someguy1111]

Well its all that interests me, Bi or not. She understood n that was cool.

[moongazer]

doesnt matter to me, im bi myself so id be a hypocrite if it botehred me! live and let live, i dont care<3

[Miss_Beatle]

Doesn't make a difference to me, if your bi, your bi. I commend you for it in fact :)

[topper]

My wife is fine with it and encourages it. She is bi too.

[Faye]

First and foremost be honest with her tell her that you care about her but the fact that you are bi will always be a part of her and hopefully she will understand. If you think that she is going th have a problem with it then she is not the one for you and you should leave her. Some women like bi men some don't I am a bi women and I have crushed on bi guys but never dated one. But I also know bi guys who have treated friends of mine real shitty like cheating on them and shit like that. So for me it would depend on the guy and who he was as a person not just his orientation.

[Kiwi_Toast]

I don't mind.
It's all good.
Actually, I think it's even better.
Makes for better sex options.

[PLURx3]

My boyfriend is bisexual, but Im not really. I don't care, so far i've only dated bi guys and my bestfriend who I'd more then happy have a somewhat sexual relationship with is bi. I actual find it a turn on. If you are capable of being attracted to people regradless of what sex they are, more power to you.

[Pax]

My ex boyfriend was bi curious and the guy I like at the moment is also bi. I'm bi too, but I doubt it would matter. I mean I didn't even realise the second guy was bi for AGES lol. But if I'm dating someone then I feel they have the right to know that I'm bi, cos it's up to them who they date and I just think they should know

[cricketlind]

Be honest. Even if the girl is straight as an arrow. If it bothers her than she is not a person whom you ought to be with. Even casually. You never know. I think bi-men are sweet and sensitive and I would and have dated a bi-man. I lived with two-lovers that were bi. Being bi myself it did not bother me. I met them at work. I was living at the Salvation Army trying to save up for an apartment. It was a good gig until I got fired. I still count them as cherished friends and would like to meet again someday. I was spoiled and pampered and had a wonderful time as their roommate. I do date straight guys sometimes and if they have a problem with me being bi then I send them on there way. I would get serious about a straight guy if he was really cool and OK with me and accepted me totally for who I am. But to be honest any future serious relationship will most likely either be with a female or bi man. If someone doesn't accept you totally for who you are then why be with them. It is like hiding a part of yourself. That is the worst type of self-abuse there is. Then the other person never has the opportunity to either accept or reject you on factual grounds. It can also spark jealousy because they will think you are hiding something, but not know what you are really hiding.

Honesty is truly the best policy. Think enough of the other person to be honest and open with them. You may just get the surprise of your life.

Peace, Cricket

[Smokin4Peace]

I only date bisexual men. I don't go into it that way, but it has always just happened. My fiance' is bisexual, and we have a mutual partner (that I'm sure many of you have heard mention of) that is also bisexual (of course). I call myself a "girl-fag" meaning my personality most fits that of a gay man trapped in a female body :) now don't get me wrong I don't take that to the extreme, but it is fun to think that way, as that is how I feel!

[Rue Takedo]

I'm bisexual, my boyfriend D is bicurious. We're quite happy with each other...and whoever else we bring to the party.

[Stoner Slygirl]

I think gay men are erotic. I like watching gay men porn!@!! i just do. I do not know why. It turns me on. But sexually, i prefer a woman!!!!!

[Stoner Slygirl]

I only date bisexual men. I don't go into it that way, but it has always just happened. My fiance' is bisexual, and we have a mutual partner (that I'm sure many of you have heard mention of) that is also bisexual (of course). I call myself a "girl-fag" meaning my personality most fits that of a gay man trapped in a female body :) now don't get me wrong I don't take that to the extreme, but it is fun to think that way, as that is how I feel!
There is NOT A THING wrong with that!!!! I think its awesome you are so open!!!!!

[knotdirty]

I'm fine with it. people are people, no matter who they're attracted to.

I'm not into threesomes (I'm a fool for monogamy), and I'm not the jealous type (regarding the thought that there would be twice as much "competition"), so I don't see any problem with a bisexual guy as long as he knows that about me.

[Applespark]

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