XXX How to give a good Blowjob

[Harmonys_Decade]

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[ZePpeLinA]

how dare your guy tell you you suck at blow jobs (Sorry about the pun!) he should be grateful he's even getting one.

try to practice with a banana...that seems to help you get some practice...

...but on the real thing use, your hands and mouth at the same time, coordinating your moves to his breathing and you'll be fine.

practice makes perfect

:p

[migle]

As a boy i must say that it's your boy who sucks for hating it, you should leave him with no blowing for some time, but this is just my point.

Anyway, if you want to learn, you just have to practice. My ex, at the begining, didn't know how to do it, but after some time she became incredibly good.

And the secret is hiding your teeth behind your lips, and get it really sallival, really really wet.

I hope you find this useful, but i stay thinking that he should be more polite.

[Third Eye]

I find this site to be helpful for a lot of people.... here is the section on blowjobs, I hope this helps you out :)


http://www.sex-project.com/blowjobs.shtml

[Anarcho-Hippie]

great site! I'm going for a record of mastrubating 28 a week so the multiple male orgasms article should really help me out. Thanks

[We_All_Shine_On]

you don't have to like it... I hate giving Bjs, ugh...*shudder* but yeah, watch your teeth, make sure theres alot of saliva, and yes, gagging is normal...

the bets thing i guess is maybe watch porn I guess. cuz then you get to like, see how to do it....sorry it's a gross suggestion, but it'll prolly work.

and he's being a dick(i love puns) because he should be grateful...

[eyeoffatima]

how dare your guy tell you you suck at blow jobs (Sorry about the pun!) he should be grateful he's even getting one.

He should definitely be grateful that you tried, but he shouldn't be thankful to be getting head if its bad head, i mean, would you? girls act like guys are lucky to get any head, and then think they deserve to get eaten out all the time. Psh, fuck that double standard! If i give good head to my gal, i expect some good head back(not every time, of course, sometimes i do it just for doing it... but, as a general rule..). The ol' golden rule!

As for tips... just ask him what feels good, and what doesnt. As with all sex, communication is KEY.

just my $0.02,
peace

[ronnyromance]

Umm so he should be greatful for bad head??? I think not. If the blowjob sucked what is he supposed to be greatful for? It obviously didnt get him off. Get some practice on bananas or something like somebody said and watch some pornos. Then you can give him some head that he will appreciate. Another thing to remember is that guys vary in how they like their blowjobs. For instance some guys like it rough with alot of rough jerking and some will like it soft and slow. The biggest thing you need to work on is not gagging. When the chick keeps stopping to gag it ruins the blowjob. This is probly why he mostly hated it. Try learning to breath through your nose and not being so sensitive to a cock touching your throat. Another thing is you need to take in more than just the head as well. I hate when girls just suck the head and basically just jerk you off. We want it all in your mouth.

[AOFpunker]

Just keep it simple for now. Start out by running your tongue up the underside of his penis because I've found that to be really stimulationg for guys. Make sure you lick the whole thing so its well salivated. Then, just start sucking it like its a popsycle. Since you can't get it all the way in your mouth, wrap you hand around the base and coordinate you strokies to that of your mouth. Honestly that probably feels better cuz the other day my man was telling me how he wishes he was "bigger" so that i could use my hand while i sucked. But anyway..... Try to make eye contact with him during it cuz that seems to get guys really excited. And just have fun with it. Maybe lick/suck on his balls a little while workinf his dick with your hand. I'm not a guy by any means, but my boyfriend seems to enjoy this a lot. Have fun! Hoped this helped you some

[AutumnAuburn]

If he is willing to offer that you aren't doing a very good job, then he should be prepared to give you advice on what to do.

The reason why you got vague advice before, was probably because everyone is different. Some guys like it slow, some guys like it fast, some guys like a lot of suction, some guys don't like suction, some guys like you to concentrate your mouth on the head and use your hands on the shaft, some guys like it deep, some guys like teeth, some guys like their balls sucked or massaged, etc, etc.

It really helps if you can read body language, because then you know what they are enjoying and you can keep doing it. Also, ask him, straight up. "Babe, I want to make this good for you, tell me what you enjoy."

Also, on the gagging... I've found that again, every guy is different. The angle of the dangle varies from guy to guy. Get into different positions to see which one triggers it the least. I have found, that in general, if I can hang my head backwards (say, over the edge of the bed or something), then he has more of a straight shot in, thus less gagging. Similar to that of a person who swallows swords, you need to have your airway straight, so everything goes down smoothly. But, some guys like it when girls gag on them, the squeezing feeling of the gag reflex feels good to them. The only bad part is that you may vomit, if you aren't used to it. In that case you just have to gracefully swallow it back down...

I don't recall who mentioned it, but yes, you need to be enjoying yourself. Guys like a girl who enjoys sucking their cocks. So, look up at him and smile, once in a while. Make humming noises, like you are enjoying it. Let him know that pleasing him, is pleasing you. Even if you're gagging, you can still enjoy it. The gag reflex is just a physical response to stimuli, it doesn't mean you don't like it. Be sure to let him know that...

But, overall, I would say the best advice you can get is to ask your partner what they want and listen to their body language. Know your partner, know what they like and don't like.

Good luck. :)

[Alomiakoda]

Is it just me who has a problem with jaw ache? :P

[Rockstock2004]

I really enjoy getting head. The first time my Ex tried it, she gagged, and bit me. I was sore for a week. Though i didnt get mad at her at her. She tried it, that was the thing. She didnt have to just do that to me at all. I told her simply, it's alright what you did. If you don't ever want to do it again, ill understand you are scared, and wont ever ask you again. She told me she really wanted to please me like i pleased her. i said, it dont matter how you please me, im not always 100% wanting to be pleased. I just liked pleasing her, and didnt care what I got back in return. After a couple weeks she tried again. She didnt gag, or bite, she even took it all the way. So he should be lucky you even tried it hun, cuz if it was me, I would say, you tried, you did your best, and it was good, not can I please you, lol, pretty much how it went with my ex.

[Fractual_]

i agree with the person who said you should enjoy it! or at least pretend you are!



and hey the guy isnt completley wrong, its very disappointing to get a girl to go down on you and then find out shes terrible at it.

[Chongo Blanco]

When my girl blows me should kind of circles her tongue around the head of my dick. Wow is that amazing. You should ask him what feels good and what doesn't. Don't feel bad for not knowing, and he should not get mad at you if he fails to tell you what he wants. Also if you want some extra practice let me know. If nothing else works tell him that all the other guys you blow like it and see if that changes his mind.:)

[David]

Giving a Blowjob is like anything else it takes practice. First of all you should want to do it, if not, you won't enjoy it. Best way to learn, ask your boyfriend what he likes, no two men are the same. Don't worry, if this is something you really want to do, you'll be fine. One thing, it was really shitty of your boyfriend to be as crass as he was, he should have coached you, do you think all men know how to eat pussy well? Nope, you ladies have to show us how it's done and what you like. Peace.

[vanilla]

I think Zeppelina meant 'appreciate' more than 'grateful'.


Your man should appreciate the fact that you gave it a go regardless of the fact that it was good or not. If he doesn't appreciate it, even if it was good, you would be thinking whether you want to do it again or not.

I have the same problem with gagging too. So like many people had said, I combine my hands and mouth. So far so good.

[ZePpeLinA]

/\ yeah that's what I meant. appreciate the fact that sucking cock can be a hard (sorry about the pun) task, it takes skill and lots of dedication. if she didnt do it "properly" the guy should appreciate that she at least tried.

[Bonky]

talk to him during the act! I always did that,it's the best,trust me. and don't be embaressed :)

[xaosflux]

... Guys like a girl who enjoys sucking their cocks. So, look up at him and smile, once in a while. Make humming noises, like you are enjoying it.
No, don't start humming your favorite song :p at this point either , espeically if it's "Don't want no short dick man"

[AutumnAuburn]

No, don't start humming your favorite song :p at this point either , espeically if it's "Don't want no short dick man"
ROTFLMAO!!!

I guess I should've specified... Hum, nummy noises... LOL Not songs... LOL

[DarkLunacy]

Never blow him again. Ever. Tell him your afraid of disapointing him. Watch him beg... Get him to go down a bunch on you first... yeah! Be evil :D

[crackforkids]

i dont know... i have had some HORRIBLE blow jobs. period. girls who dont know what they're doing should back off and watch some porn. and teeth hurt. We_all_shine_on, you should never do such things. your too beautiful, i wouldnt let you if i were your BF.

[Miss_Tambourine_Girl]

ha

[kittykat]

I gave my b/f a blow job for the 1st time the other night-he HATED it! I was so embarrassed...and now i'm afraid he might tell people I suck at it...and I REALLY wanted to get him to enjoy it, for he is always the one to give ME pleasure.
I'm meeting him tonight, and I wanna show him I can do it. I need tips on giving a blow job-I posted this on the old Hip Forums, and the tips were not very detailed...
Might I add that when I sucked him, I couldnt take him all because I'd gag, and have to stop...any help with that? I really need it!:( Why would he tell others about how you "suck at it"? Does this guy love you at all? If not, just dump him and get a nice boyfriend who'll love you. BJ techniques may be important, but it’s mostly about how you feel about each other. Most of the BJ excitement for a guy comes from knowing that the girl he loves is taking him in her mouth. A more experienced guy will actually subtly lead you how to suck him and make it good for both of you. Again, BJ techniques are great things to know, but they can’t replace the loving relationship between two people – a $10 “no feelings involved” street hooker will invariably beat almost any “next door type of girl” in BJ techniques since that’s what she does for living. Yet, you rarely hear any guy brag about getting off with a hooker. Anywho … good luck.

[ronnyromance]

Hmm if you tell a man to put his penis in somebody elses mouth its very likely he will. Then he might find somebody who does give good head.

[exetaycblues]

IMO ALL blowjobs received are good blowjobs. Also if you do receive one remember to return the favour, its the polite thing to do :)

[rockchef]

yea man totaly agree there what an ungratefull git your boy friend must be no such thing as a bad bj in my expierience unless girl friend is a vampire ouch:D

[southern_bell]

Keep hand on bottom half and move up and down while suck it in and out. move your head and hand around in swirving motion. sucktion is the key. lick the middle shaft towards the balls. massage the space between balls and asshole hole with one hand while sucking.lick the head a little not a lot.look into his eyes-drives him crazy! ;-)

[TripleA]

In my opinion, some women focus too much on "sucking", and not enough on licking and kissing.

I always need to remind my wife. Sometimes she goes straight for the whole thing, if you know what I mean. The best is when she starts by kissing my chest, and then my stomach, and then maybe my balls. The REALLY best is shen she licks the underside of my cock, dragging her toungue up the length of it four or five times, and THEN taking it into her mouth.

Try talking dirty too.

Drives me crazy.

[crazy_gurl]

all you have to remember is: no teeth whatsoever! and use your tongue as much as you can! heres some more tips for you:

try to take as much as him into your mouth as you can. i know some people have complained about gagging, but my bf is about 7inches and iv managed to get nearly all of him in my mouth! try to 'tuck' him into the side of your mouth, into one of your cheeks, and that should stop you from gagging.

flick your tongue over the head, and get plenty of spit on there so its all slippy and slidey.

keep eye contact with him often when your giving him a blow job. my bf tells me thats a major turn-on.

try giving him a hand job and blow job at the same time: just give him a hand job as usual, then bring your mouth down on top of his dick and suck and lick. if you can, with your free hand slowly and gently circle your fingertips over his balls. its tricky doing that all at once but i know my bf loves it!

finally - pay attention to his reactions to find out what he likes. if he moans at something you do, you know you've done something right! more importantly, ask him what he likes, either during the blow job or after. just ask him questions such as 'how does this feel?'.

hope that helps!

[Dizzy Man]

I posted these tips here recently, but I'll post them again for this thread:

Some blowjob tips
(NB: these are all things I like, not every man is the same)

1. Most men love eye contact during a blowjob. They also love women to talk to them while they're getting their cock sucked. Try and talk with the cock almost in your mouth, licking it between words. This drives me crazy!

2. Although eye contact is good, try to avoid very quickly glancing up. It just looks a little sly and uncomfortable and seems like you're not enjoying it too much. Try to look as if you're enjoying it or the guy won't feel comfortable.

3. Don't actually suck or blow — "sucking" and "blowing" cocks are just figures of speech. Just fuck him with your mouth; no need to play him like a bagpipe.

4. Men like to be teased, too. Don't just suck cock. Lick it all over (down to the balls). Kiss it. Move your tongue all over it slowly. I often think the more time women spend with the cock not in their mouth, the better the blowjob is! Just putting your lips near to it, breathing on it, or caressing it lightly with your lips, is a massive turn on.

5. Dunno about other guys, but I love to feel hair on me when I'm having a blowjob. Try your best to get your hair to brush the guy's stomach, or if you can get it to, to touch his cock. We love hair.

6. Please DO NOT fake an orgasm from sucking a guy's cock. It's just weird! Why would a woman moan from sucking a cock? If you seem phoney, the guy won't enjoy it. (By the way, talking dirty doesn't count as phoney, and all guys appreciate that.)

7. Don't be embarassed to make "squelchy sloppy" noises. The noisier, the better. If it's too quiet down there, it's a little weird.

8. It's amazing what a difference it makes the way a girl holds a cock when she's sucking it. If she holds it firmly in her fist, it's a little off putting. If she holds it delicately with her fingers, like a glass of wine, then it's very sexy and feminine. (Unless you're being dominant and nasty — then go for the fist.)

9. Drool and spit more! Personally, I don't think you can have too much spit on a cock. If you can do it, try and get a spit trail to go from the tip of your tongue to the head of the cock. We love to see that. Not every guy does, but I personally love having my cock spat on.

10. Whether you're wearing clothes or not, putting a cock between your tits and squeezing them together is very sexy.

11. When a guy gets a blowjob, he doesn't just want to fuck your mouth, he wants to fuck your face. Women's faces turn us on. If you can sometimes brush his cock with other parts of your face, that makes for an ideal blowjob.

12. If you can, lick under the balls and round the sides of them. We love that.

13. When you first put the cock in your mouth, or when you're taking it out, move your lips really slowly over the head of the cock. We love to savour the sight and the sensation of the cock going between your lips, so the slower you do it, the more enjoyment we can take from it.

14. If he's close to orgasm, tell him how much you want his cum. Tell him you want it on your face and you want to swallow it. We know it's phoney, but we love to hear the words. And by the time we actually cum, we usually don't even care what you do with the cum. It's all just talk.


Again, I must stress that this stuff is just my preferences and some of it may not apply to every man, so maybe check with your boyfriend? :)

Are there any girls who can offer any similar oral tips for men?

[HippieFlowerGirl67]

My friend asked if I'd suck him and I said yes. Then he asked if I'd swallow and I said I dunno (give my advice on that and or what it tastes like if I do swallow) and if I'd deep throat. I'd definetly gag with that so I don't think I'm gonna do that....

[AutumnAuburn]

My friend asked if I'd suck him and I said yes. Then he asked if I'd swallow and I said I dunno (give my advice on that and or what it tastes like if I do swallow) and if I'd deep throat. I'd definetly gag with that so I don't think I'm gonna do that....
Cum has the consistency of thin snot, or a whipped raw egg... So, if you can handle something kinda slimy, then you've got half the battle won. :)

Taste... Well, that differs from guy to guy... It's hard to describe... Tangy, bitter, salty and sour, all rolled into one. If you get a guy with mild spunk, then it can actually be a pretty good taste. But if you get one that's really strong, it can be hard to handle.

If the jizz gets into your mouth, then whether you spit or swallow is irrelevant, because you're gonna taste it and feel it... So you might as well swallow it, while you've got it in your mouth to begin with. :)

Deep throating is something that you may need to practice. Also, the angle of his entry may make it easier for you to take him deep. Just experiment to find the right technique.

[april922]

swallowing is so much easier, cleaner. and i dont mind the taste.

[Al13n]

after reading dizzy mans post I want a bj really bad! anyone care to help me out :D

[Gabino]

Dizzy man is clearly an expert at recieving blow jobs, and giving instruction, As am I.

He and i disagree on only one particular.

He says, don't fake orgasm, and he is correct.

On the other hand, if a man knows how to talk to a girl on her knees, with his cock in her mouth, and if a man knows how to use his hands on her nipples and between her legs at the same time,

Faking orgasm is seldom necessary.