help me

[snowdude420]

hey every onei kinda have a problem abouth weither or not i am gay when i think about takeing it up the ass or sukcing dick i get hard btu when i touch girls i get hard to you kno i dotn get turedned on by thinking about them though i also liek to crossdress i have only did it a couple of times but i relly liek help do u htink i am gay?

[gertie]

you could be gay, you could be bisexual, you could be straight with natural gay/bi fantasies or tendencies. don't worry about fitting society's mold. just be you.

[Borgy]

Hey snowdude don't worry!
I'm a guy and i'm also 16 and i have the same problem as you and i really think i'm bisexual and not gay, although i have no sexual experiences.

[WynterFrost]

it alright man screw a woman and then see how you feel ....if it not good as you thought than its not whats meant to be .....then you are gay.

[The Sandreckoner]

Snowdude, you're still young. Go with what feels best and sooner or later you'll figure it out and it'll feel so natural you'll wonder why you ever questoned it at all. I think everyone with a brain questions their sexuality when they're 16ish or so. Some turn out gay, others turn out bi, either way we're intellectually superior to the breeders!

[SkeeterVT]

hey every onei kinda have a problem abouth weither or not i am gay when i think about takeing it up the ass or sukcing dick i get hard btu when i touch girls i get hard to you kno i dotn get turedned on by thinking about them though i also liek to crossdress i have only did it a couple of times but i relly liek help do u htink i am gay?
The only way you can find out for sure is to explore your sexuality and find out for yourself what you're most comfortable with; what works and what doesn't work. I would hold off on labeling yourself either way until you're certain who turns you on the most. Don't worry; you're a young man; you've got plenty of time to explore.

Believe me, I've been there, too, so I know exactly where you're coming from. When I was 16 (in 1969), I had the hots for both hippie dudes and hippie chicks (Long hair was -- and still is -- my biggest turn-on. More on that later). I had an incredible crush on a celebrity: Psychedelic blues queen Janis Joplin. When she died in 1970, I was utterly devastated -- so much so that my attraction to women fell dormant and I remained exclusively gay for 23 years.

It was also the era of the feminist movement -- and I have to admit, I was a male-chauvinist pig back then. Being gay, I often joked, was the ultimate expression of male chauvinism. A very nasty, poisonous sibling rivalry with my sister didn't help matters. By the time I finally came out of the closet in 1978, my social circle was all-male. I really wasn't prepared to relate to women -- until I fell head-over-heels in love -- albeit in vain -- with a female housemate of mine in the early '90s. After that experience, I knew I couldn't honestly call myself gay anymore; I've been openly bi for nearly 12 years.

Whatever you do, don't rush it; take your time. Eventually, you'll find out what gives you the most joy and pleasure. Once you find it, stick with it through thick and thin.

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Now, as for my "fetish" about long hair: It's always been the single most powerful visual aphrodesiac for me -- partly because I'm half-Native American and long hair is part of my heritage. I'm a member of several Yahoo! communities of long-haired gay and bi men (Unfortunately, Yahoo! requires that you be at least 18 years of age to join any of those groups).

Blessed Be,
Skeeter