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kidswillbeskeletons
11-12-2004, 05:43 AM
this is another advice post, sorry if you were expecting something exciting.

heh well here goes:
i was wondering what i should do about this relatively major incident. first of all, i should inform you that i am a girl and the friend that i speak of is a girl as well. i recently told this good friend of mine that i thought i was bi-sexual. she and i were discussing gay-lesbian profiles on a website. i had mentioned that i posted one to find "friends", and then I later went on to tell her the real deal behind the profile. she kinda of looked at me strangely and then laughed. I said " i hope that you dont feel differently about me because of this" and she replied with, "oh, no, not at all i think it is okay too look at women and think they are attractive" but I think she missed the point. I not only think of women as beautiful beings, i want to be with them intimately also. Of course, I didn't tell her this. I knew what her reaction would be. Needless to say, she hasn't spoken to me since. What doesn't help the situation is that I only go to school for two hours a day. So, I rarely see or hear about things that happen at my school. But, everyday I walk into school at the same time she is on lunch break and her and a group of boys are standing in the door way, hanging out, and they stand there and STARE at me, while I walk through them as if I am not bothered by their blantant oogling. She has been a friend of mine, since I was in 3rd grade (now in 12th),and now, has not spoke more than a "hey" to me.
I feel really uneasy about the situation. I wonder if she has told all of her immature friends and now they will increasingly alienate me from the school. I am already in the process of alienating myself from the school, because I take post-secondary classes at college. Thus, limits my time at my high school. I would like to sever all connections with the school anyhow, but am afraid that i will miss out on the "high school experience". (somehow i dont think i am missing out on anything.)

any advice and/or similiar experiences?

Snowdancer
11-12-2004, 07:00 AM
I feel pretty safe in saying that it has happened to anyone who has come out. It doesn't have to happen nor am I saying that it allways happens & most of all I want to say that it should never happen.

You said that your friend & a group of boys oggle you when you are walking in. Is there something you could do that would take them off guard? Nothing nasty preferably something friendly or a little thought provoking, maybe a little provocative. I don't actually have an answer in this I'm just trying to share something I saw one of my best feriends do. There was a guy who had a habit of staring at her butt as she walked past him. She just turned & looked him in the eye & gave him a huge smile. He knew he was busted. That is just an example but I think you get the idea.

For what it's worth, you are going to find plenty of more friends as you move on to college. It is also posible that your old friend will grow up enough to appreciate you for yourself.