bi roles

[sweetval]

I'm curious and I'd like to know if other bi-girls have similar experiences.

When I am with my girl friend I naturally assume a submissive attitude with her. I prefer that she "lead" sexually most of the time, and enjoy very much being disciplined by her. Sometimes I will initiated oral sex, giving it to her, but as far as using any of the things we use with each other, she always takes the lead and I always follow.

With boys, it's funny. I would prefer to be the one meting out the discipline if there was any (so far no luck!), I have a real urge to spank a boy. In intercourse I usually take the lead as far as position, vaginal, anal, oral, etc. Yet I prefer the purely submissive position (on my knees) when I give oral sex to a guy.

SO, do any of you bi girls find that the dominant/submissive role is reversed depending on whether its a male or female?

[gertie]

i think in most of my relationships its comes down to teh individual involved.

[rocknroll_girl]

I'm not bi, but I think submission and dominance are really interesting from that perspective. A few of my bi friends have told me that they tend to be more aggressive in relationships with guys and passive in relationships with girls. It seems like it would change more depending on the person, but that a bi girl (being sexually liberated in the ultimate way) would be reluctant to just "give up power" when with a guy. I imagine that if I were ever to be with a guy, I would be really open and in control with him. But like you said, with girls, I tend to like butcher girls who are more aggressive than I am.

[Taylor]

I'm the exact opposite of you, Sweetval. I tend to take the dominant role with girls and the passive role with guys... I dunno why. I like to have a bit of change every now and again though...

[Snowdancer]

You only got a couple of answers anyhow & the subjects in your message are both quite familiar with me.

Generally sexually, I am bottom with a male & top with females.

When it comes into things like spanking & other S&M play though I really can be either way. Although I am most comfortable in the sub role. Now maybe this is where a biological female will differer from me, I don't know. Who knows what all makes up who we are really. :rolleyes:

[sweetval]

You only got a couple of answers anyhow & the subjects in your message are both quite familiar with me.

Generally sexually, I am bottom with a male & top with females.

When it comes into things like spanking & other S&M play though I really can be either way. Although I am most comfortable in the sub role. Now maybe this is where a biological female will differer from me, I don't know. Who knows what all makes up who we are really. :rolleyes:
With my girlfriend I am the submissive and prefer being spanked to spanking her (and she does it so well! :) ). When we first hooked up, I spanked her
(we were experimenting) and it just didn't "fit".

I haven't actually had the opportunity to spank a boy yet, but the thought of it turns me on and I really have no desire to be spanked by a boy.

[sweetval]

I'm surprised there is not more talk about spanking on these forums, it's got everything else.....

[psilonaut]

I'm not gay, or bi for that matter. But when I'm with a girl I prefer to be submissive for the most part. But theres a part of me that loves to take on the dominant role.

Take the best of both worlds, give and receive the spankings! :)