Lesbian terms and lables, where do you stand?

[VillaVillekulla]

hi there, this is really confusing, you guys must have at least 100 expressions for 'lesbian'. ok, i think i know what you mean by 'butch' and 'femme' but what´s a 'stone butch' or 'stone femme' (are there stone femmes??) and what´s a 'lipstick lesbian' and 'girly girl'? are girly girls lipstick lesbians? oh help, could you explain this to me? thanks!

[backtothelab]

butch is like a woman who acts like a guy, and lipstick, i think, is a lesbian that still acts affeminate

[rocknroll_girl]

No definitions will serve you completely. As we've been discussing in recent threads, butch and femme are very transient concepts - to each her own. Here is a copy of a "queer dictionary" I came about online: www.geocities.com/WestHollywood/Stonewall/4219 (http://www.geocities.com/WestHollywood/Stonewall/4219)

Traditionally a stone butch is one who "doesn't flip for anyone," more bluntly, only gives pleasure to a partner and does not receive. A stone butch would never desire to be penetrated, and in the old days, wouldn't want oral sex. These things aren't set in place the way they used to be. A stone femme? I'm guessing it's the opposite.

I like "chaptstick lesbian" - in other words, a jock. :)

[VillaVillekulla]

thanks, that dictionary was quite helpful. having read the explanations i think i like girly soft butch chapstick lesbians. oh wow, what an expression...sounds sexy! :rolleyes:

oh, the one in your signature looks just like that

[erzebet1961]

I honestly never ealised how many types of lesbians there are , its amazing how many labels exist for one gender.
I enjoyed this thread , it was a real eye opener for someone who grew up a lesbian.

[mynameiskc]

i wonder if i'd be classified as a switch. seems very complicated, and there's so many derogatory uses. *sigh* people are people.

[l-foote]

i didn't realize there were so many labels either.... theres not as many for people who are straight. why cant we all just love... doesn't matter who, male or female...

[MysteriousNight]

I'm just me, ha. I don't think I fit into any catagory, but I have been told I am quite girly, so.....anway.... The whole label thing is really unfortunate, b/c it really doesn't matter. I'm attracted to women of all types, although, I must admit if I have a hard time telling if she is a male or female at first then I am usually not attracted to that. Doesn't mean that it's bad or anything, just not my personal preference. I once got rejected b/c of my lack of "butchness". I think I posted something about it a while ago. It was probably that girl's personal preference and now I get that, but at the time it was kind of confusing. I was like "Wait a minute, she doesn't like me b/c I am too much like a woman?" Ha.

[mynameiskc]

people just have their types. i'm not into blondes. though on rare occaision someone has overcome their unfortunate hair color. ;)

[Rainbow Starlite]

I'm girly I guess but then not really? How about "Human, mostly"

[l-foote]

human, mostly works.

[threads&flames]

i dont really work by labels if u click u click dont u? i must admit im not exactly attracted the the men-looky likies but thats just cuz i want to be lookin at a beautiful woman, hence not going for men.....thats my tupence worth hahaha

[lutsko67]

How about this;

I am woman you are Man!!

you love who you want, and so will I!!

[Bocks]

*baby dyke!*

That thing on the freedom rings was interesting, how the meaning differs, depending on which hand the rings are worn on...