Still a virgin

[Spuff]

I don't really know why this is. I don't think I'm particularly unattractive but I've just never been lucky enough. Is there something wrong with me?

[ericf]

I know why I am still a virgin (basically the church I grew up in made it impossible to consider dating until you knew you were going to get married -- don't ask how that is supposed to work). It left me very shy and also socially inept. I am working on getting better. The worst part of this is that I never even believed in most of what the church was pushing... I just had to play along (it was very cult-like).

I have come pretty close to losing it but then I just get unlucky... aka roommate starts banging on door wanting in... or something happens. Then she started doing coke and the new love of her life wasn't me anymore. :( Ah well... it will happen one of these days.

[kazinspace]

i think u lot r pritty hot 4 bing vergins, i personally dnt think any1s hotter then vergins cus like u no that no1 has had that intermacy with u and like u no that ur the 1st 1 2 hav that connection with that person! but i gues its ur own opinion rly

[Spuff]

I guess the worst thing about it is sexual frustation and the feeling of inadequacy. I've always been a quiet person and only just coming out of my shell so that's held me back. Also, I always seem to choose unwilling girls too ... and because I respect their feelings, I don't get any. It's a lot to think about!:(

[NatureFreak412]

Ha Im a virgin, and I always keep a girl friend. Ive gotten real close but turned it down, I guess Im waiting for the right one.

[kazinspace]

i was a shy person, but then i like went outs and that made me cum outa my shell a bit, i stil hav rhat shy part, but i gues that will l alwayz b with me. steve martin was a vergin til he was 23 and hes shit hot!!

[Ginge]

I guess the worst thing about it is sexual frustation and the feeling of inadequacy. I've always been a quiet person and only just coming out of my shell so that's held me back. Also, I always seem to choose unwilling girls too ... and because I respect their feelings, I don't get any. It's a lot to think about!:(
You're such a sweet guy!! I'd kill to have a guy like you! So sweet... :)

Never lose that quality. http://www.webpost.net/we/Webspace/awwhug.gif

[Spuff]

That's nice of you to say so ... thank you!:o

[kier]

http://www.webpost.net/we/Webspace/awwhug.gif
that is sooooo sweet!!! that's going in my sig :)

[kier]

oh, i'm a virgin too


hey, we've got a pretty damn cool club goin on :p

it doesn't really bother me though, when i find that someone then i will give it to her, but untill that day i'll stay innocent (sorta ;) )

[beachbum7]

To be brutally honest, I haven't been that great with the ladies, and I'm a virgin.

[crackforkids]

im not a virgin. but it sucked when i lost my virginity, that slut got pregnant with my friend and tried to get money out of me and my friend! neither of us knew about each other!


and she was real tight, my dick got all burned and shit. my opinion is, get the first one over with so you can start having fun.

[KaleidascopEyes]

you sound like an incredible person, dont rush things now. you've waited this long, it might as well be at least a little special. i wish i had waited

[Spuff]

I do want it to be special but I guess my 'animal instincts' want that special moment to come sooner. Plus, I live in a region where teenage pregancy is sky high so considering where I live, I ain't done too bad already! I would just like to experience it myself sooner rather than later.

[Spuff]

Would anyone say I was unattractive though? I often wonder if it's my looks that lead me to still being a virgin.

[WayfaringStranger]

the less you worry about things, the better life is. just know youll ahave sex at some point in your life, and be content with that. and talk to every girl you see.

[JamminOTR]

Hey ya'll I'm in the club too! Still a virgin, and I'm ok with it. I've had many girlfriends and have been in love, real love twice. I still love both the girls beyond explanation. There were certainly times of incredible intimacy that we shared, but it as never felt right. I lost one because of that. I am not religious, I don't really believe in abstinance, I just feel like sex is such a wonderful wonderful thing I want to cherish it and have the most incredible time when it finally feels right. Don't get down...all in good time guys, all in god time.

I'm kinda jealous of my best friend though. He met that person just recently and everything fell into place for him. I am so happy that he has this new beauty in his life, but am kinda suprised as we both thought for sure that I would loose it before he did. Haha, funny the way destiny works.

In Lak'ech :)

[Ginge]

You are NOT unattractive! :D I'd get with you. ;) You know, if we were in the same country and all. lol

You'll find that right girl someday. I PROMISE you. <3

[Flowerchild]

You are seriously not unattractive! Just wait until I come back to Europe! ;) Just don't give in to peer pressure or anything to get w/some stupid slut...I think the first time should be special!

[kazinspace]

yer..aload of ppl loose it cus of peer pressure or just 2 please there lover and that kinda suks cus they just fuk them and not make luv. at least if u wait then u hav nuthin 2 regret. i dnt think its 2 do with luks cus thers alod of bad lukin ppl hu has fukd sum1, but thats the thing, they fukd sum1 but hasnt made luv.and i dout u just wana loose it 2 sum1 that u just fukd. and anywayz i dnt think its 2 do with luks anywayz,just that it happens wen it happens.

[Spuff]

It's nice to know I'm appreciated anyway! Thank you!:D

[Jennifer19]

I am still a virgin too. don't worry I am sure their is nothing wrong with you. just have to find the right person.. :)

[SapphireSerenity]

I'm a virgin and I think it's great that you're still a virgin... It would be nice if there were some guys like that around here... It's all abt sex here... Kind of gets annoying.. lol.. But, don't do anything with anyone until you know it's the right person ! :)

~ Sapphire

[BraveSirRubin]

i an a virgin by choice.

i do not want to have sex with just a random "slut".

It must be special.

Don't be down just because you have not had sex. Life does not surround it, what does Froyd know?

[Spuff]

I'm not so much a virgin by choice ... it's just that I'm also waiting for the right girl, especially because I live in a place full of teenage pregnancy and STDs. I guess a lot of guys, more so round where I live, may have pressured girls into sleeping with them just to lose their virginity and have just continued in that fashion ever since. I couldn't imagine doing that to someone and I think my recently-ended two and a half years sexless relationship proved that.

[kazinspace]

wel.. its pritty kool that u went in to a relathinship for so long with no sex. u must have great mental strength

[user__friendly]

Spuff, the fact that you are so respectful of other girls decisions is a MAJOR turn on/ good quality to many women I'm sure. I think it is incredibly* sweet of you! Try not to focus on so much as getting laid and all of the sexual frustration, but focus on finding someone you really care about, that returns your feelings. Making love to someone you really care about is so magical.

Good luck, :)

[kazinspace]

i agree, u do seem really sweet

[Spuff]

I do know that most girls would probably find it good that I respect feelings. The problem with me is that I've never been much of an outgoing person and I guess my first impressions kinda sucked. I'm beginning to overcome that now anyway. I think that school completely shattered my self confidence and up until about late 2001, I had no confidence and could have just snapped. Luckily, that didn't happen but it still left its mark on me and as a result, I'm still a virgin. Also, whenever I wanted to discuss the possibility of sex with my (now) ex girlfriend, she took that offensively and thought I was pressuring her (even though I only asked to discuss it ... she was a 'I'm not taking the risk, even with protection' person and, ok, I respect that but she didn't need to think I was pressuring her) and that shattered my sexual confidence ... but that has since returned! lol

I think I'd better stop writing before I bore people to death! Sorry! lol

[butterfly]

Hey don't worry, me too.....I think the time is near though....I can sense it ;)

[Spuff]

Lucky you, butterfly! lol

[kazinspace]

I think I'd better stop writing before I bore people to death! Sorry! lol[/font] nah, your not boring its kool that u can talk about this, alot of guys just lie about this kinda stuf

[Spuff]

Well, I have a habit of just talking non-stop over the net! But I don't see the point of lying anyway because it gets you nowhere!

[Andy73]

I'm an attractive 30 yr old and I'm still a virgin. Not out of choice. There's absolutely nothing wrong with me.

[kazinspace]

I'm an attractive 30 yr old and I'm still a virgin. Not out of choice. There's absolutely nothing wrong with me. yer.. i really do not thinkthat its 2 do with looks, its ur time, wen its your time

[Seb]

[QUOTE=ericf]I know why I am still a virgin (basically the church I grew up in made it impossible to consider dating until you knew you were going to get married -- don't ask how that is supposed to work). It left me very shy and also socially inept. I am working on getting better. The worst part of this is that I never even believed in most of what the church was pushing... I just had to play along (it was very cult-like).


Hey I know how you feel about the whole church, cult like thing, and the dating thing. Yeah, I live in Utah. (come on, can anyone bet that?)Almost everyone here in Happy Valley is a virgin. ( I am) Here, people thing that its wrong to have sex. But i'm kinda glad that I havent had sex yet because I think that I would have regretted it.

[turtlefriend]

I don't really know why this is. I don't think I'm particularly unattractive but I've just never been lucky enough. Is there something wrong with me? I'm still a vergin too. I think it's just that I haven't met the right one. . .

[Technique]

im in the club, i accually want to stay a virgin till i am married. this is something i dont want to mess up on. i was always getting down on myself cuz i was mormon and i had smoked weed ONCE, so i thought i was a bad person cuz NO ONE ELSE had. but this is something i want to do .... VIRGIN TILL MARRIGE BABY!

[Spuff]

I posted this thread a while ago and I might as well say that it's not applicable any more, as of two days ago. But thanks for your help and advise guys!:)

[lakeoffire]

no nothing is wrong with you, sex is special so maybe you are subconciously waiting for the right moment dont worry about it though we all lose it at different ages

[beautifulhippie2]

I'm going on 19 in 4 days and I'm still a virgin too, but that's only by choice. And I've had some chances, but never did go for it. I was told that the longer you hold your virginity the better you'll be in bed. And I don't know if that's true oe not, but I'm just hoping that something good will happen soon cuz I am like totally sexually frustrated.

[peace_sells]

yeah me too!

I have had so many offers that it makes me hate guys sometimes because it seems like they only see wombmen as something to fuck.
All my best friends that are guys have offered me their penis some time or other! graaa!!
So yeah, me out of choice too. The church drilled much nonsense into me too! but sex is something I wouldn't feel guilty for doing outside of marriage, I just know I have to be in LOVE!

peace xx

[iscreamchocolate]

i'm a virgin too!!! woohoo!

[Nisha]

I don't really know why this is. I don't think I'm particularly unattractive but I've just never been lucky enough. Is there something wrong with me?aah dont worry. when did you wanna loose it? any age is ok you know.. the time will come soon. i lost mine way way way too young (2 years before 15.. do the math) and well.. i regret it because i was initially savin it for someone else.. its rarely ever too alte to have sex .. its one of th things you can wait for believe me! and when you do it.. it should be when the girl or guy lieks you fo who you are and not just because they wanna shag some pretty person....

[Spuff]

Well, I'm not sure many people saw the the last thread I posted! I'm not a virgin any more but I lost it two days ago with someone I love dearly and we discussed things and with no pressure from me whatsoever (I'm not with her primarily for sex and I didn't want to hurt her feelings). She said it was what she wanted and we both agreed that sex would bring us closer. As we're both unexperienced, we're taking things slowly and steadily but it has definately brought us closer together.:)
Personally, I would have still liked to have lost it sooner (say around 16) to gain more experience but on the upside, there's something new for me to explore!