Fork in the road [Archive]

BBAD

04-20-2009, 09:18 PM

Tell us about the most life changing moment you experienced so far

I'll start...

It was around 1996...I was driving a three wheeler Honda bigred and I hit a bump...I wasnt even driving stupid...and felt something pop in my back...my life totally changed since that day.Every thing I do now is completely dependent on how much pain Im in.Every step I take is measured..every risky thing I do is weighted by the fact that if I hurt it worse It may mean I wont be able to walk,and I always think to myself "is this fun enough to be worth it?"

Sorry mines kind of a downer
I'm hoping some of you have some positive experiences to post

McLeodGanja

04-20-2009, 10:51 PM

I thought this was a thread about the new Neil Young album.

NotDeadYet

04-20-2009, 11:01 PM

my life totally changed since that day.

I can relate. I had a foot injury that bothered me for years. I finally found a surgeon who knew exactly what needed to be done, and I don't have pain there anymore. But I don't take it for granted. I know just how easy it can be to have your life changed by one little incident, without warning.

During the years that my foot was making my life miserable, I got heavily into computers for the first time. That definitely changed my life.

BBAD

04-20-2009, 11:57 PM

I thought this was a thread about the new Neil Young album.

Sorry to disappoint :cool:....

So....any forks happen on your path?

eyeagainsteye

04-21-2009, 04:29 AM

my fork was definitely when I went in the Army at 17. Igot Stationed in West Germany before I was 18 and then discoved drugs soon there after..lots of hash and LSD in those years..

mystical_shroom

04-22-2009, 03:50 AM

ROLLINGALONG

04-22-2009, 04:15 AM

april 27 1994 12 noon gorgeous day..so nice i decided to ride my sportster to work..on the way a co-worker and his lady pulled me over for a chat and off we went..me leading..buddy followin..he was goin to a different theatre but also downtown toronto....sowe are cruisin down lakeshore blvd...towards the light at coxwell and i can see that there is a van facin me waitin to turn left through the lights..and i can see that he is just sittin there.....i slow a little for safety sake..as i cross the line entering the intersection the guy in the van just goes...pulls right into my path......i got my leg up out of the way...buckled his passenger door with my foot....i flew 32 feet in the air...my bike 22 feet....11 months in riverside rehab hosp. in a wheelchair...broken back in 3 places...both ankles and both feet.....my buddy went into shock cause he thought he had just seen me die...his girlfriend had to slap him..he gets out and comes over..i'm lyin face up and he says ''dont move we're gettin the ambulance..your face is fine...not a mark but dont look at your legs''.....so now i have the pain but its been so long its normal for me to live the way I do...I take no meds except weed..oh yeah..just remembered this part....so i wake up in the hospital...on serious drugsand my dad is there..he worked close and buddy had called him....they are wheelin me to the O/R. for suegery..i tell my dad to come closer to me and then i tell him ''reach in my right front pocket and take whats in there....it was an ounce of weed that would have been found only minutes later.....then......i wake up the next day..still not sure what the fuck is goin on....i open my eyes and i hear people sayin..he's awake...he's awake...i look and my ex girlfriend is on one side and my very ''new'' girlfriend was on the other side,,,they were both cryin and behind them is all my family...i'm thinkin..just go back to sleep cause this is not somethin i wanna deal with right now.....thats one of my moments....i have morehttp://www.gun-law.co.uk/assets/images/Harley-Sportster.jpg

BBAD

04-25-2009, 07:31 PM

...also...my last day of highschool...I dont know what...but something definitely changed that day when I walked away

Unknown American

04-26-2009, 05:44 AM

Many years ago I was in love and living with my fiancee. We had been together for about 2 years.

She had Bulimia, an eating disorder that causes someone to binge and purge (throw up) food.

I did not understand it fully then and even now.

I woke up one morning and new something was wrong. After I called 911, I held her in my arms and she died as a result of something rupturing in her body.

I suppose I went into post traumatic stress. I blamed myself and was overcome with guilt.

The result was quitting my job and wandering the streets of Dallas. I was homeless for 4 years.

Not a happy thing. But yes it changed me forever.

Fuck that was hard to write.

Therese Aline

04-26-2009, 06:29 AM

My first fork/milestone would have to be when I quit going to church. I was finally able to think for myself and become the person I wanted to be. Second would have to be when I got my driver's license, which was last August. Just a few weeks before I turned 21. I waited so long; I have so much more freedom now. My dad told me that I was only allowed to use the car to go to work. No errands, no visits to friends. But he's never enforced it. I take that car everywhere. I have so much more freedom now. I'm more reliable at work for having my own transportation, so my career has benefited. My quality of life has benefited. If I need to go to the store or pay a bill, I can do it whenever it works for me and I can go see my friends.

NotDeadYet

04-26-2009, 02:20 PM

My first fork/milestone would have to be when I quit going to church. I was finally able to think for myself and become the person I wanted to be.

That is a big one for me too. I have so many forks.

eyeagainsteye

04-26-2009, 04:21 PM

Damn UA, I never knew that..thanks for sharing something that I imagine would not be easy to share..

I to, just like not dead yet have plenty of forks, which I imagine all humans do..some more dramatic than others..

Unknown American

04-26-2009, 07:37 PM

Damn UA, I never knew that..thanks for sharing something that I imagine would not be easy to share..

Yea, it is not something I share with many people.

I suppose I posted about it becase on many levels it still haunts me

IamnotaMan

04-26-2009, 08:08 PM

UA thats really sad.:(

I think u mentioned sthg about it before.
2 of my best friends in business had their wives die from illness when they were newly married.

I remember meeting one on the anniverary of her death.He's a *really* tough guy.He'd been drinking a huge amount by midday.It looked like he was just about to burst into tears all day.And this was 10 years before he'd remarried and had 2 8 year old kids.

I can't imagine what sthg like that would feel like.
But with both my friends, they went from poor-ish to *really* successful in business.I'm sure their tragedies made them both truly realise that "life isn't a rehearsal".
You sound much the same!

Maybe *everything* is part of a greater scheme?

IamnotaMan

04-26-2009, 08:19 PM

I can think of about 3, maybe 4 or even 5.
They were similar things.

Perhaps it was when a public organisation did me a really bad turn.
I was still a kid so "knocking on someone's door" wasn't really the way.It involved about 30 or 40 people involving judges, cops,toffs, all sorts of dirty scummy pompous pricks.

At the time, my motivation and passion for my career was intermittent.I'd started down one path but it wasnt *really* me, I later found.

All I wanted was a level of fairness.But I didnt get it.I realised how much I hated Britain's "Establishment".A sleazy cronies club.Talentless toffs blocking the path of working class people with more ability than them.

I realised they were fakes,nobodies or gobshites as I call them.
From then on, I was motivated to be the best I could possibly be.No matter how hard it was.And success would be defined as beating those tossers, by whatever means necessary.:mad:

:D

NotDeadYet

04-26-2009, 08:51 PM

I suppose I posted about it because on many levels it still haunts me

I have been around anorexia (same mindset as bulimia) just enough to know that you can't reason with those people. It goes too deep for that. There is no way you could have "fixed" her. You are just as much a victim of this condition as she was.

Unknown American

04-27-2009, 12:29 AM

Thanks for your responses.

Do not get me wrong. I have a good life. I am richer than I ever dreamed I would be.

I guess what I am saying is every major event of change offers us forks in the road. Even if we can't see them. They are there

Whether it be graduation or tragedy. There are constant forks in the road of life