rocknroll_girl
10-02-2004, 04:50 AM
I've been out for about four years to myself, two years to my closest friends and family, and a year to the world. At the beginning of the last school year (I'm a senior in high school now, junior then) a few coincidences made it the right time to come out, so I did. I wrote this huge big-deal article about the shit gay kids go through in most high schools, headed up the GSA with some seniors, and have been a vocal advocate in the classroom ever since. I assumed that word spread and everyone in school knew, including my very supportive sports teams.
Yet today, I guess I came out to half my volleyball team. I couldn't figure out! We were talking about some kid who dropped out of school because he was queer and one of the girls said "but weren't there some gay kids in the senior class last year? Phil and Mike? they were stable." And I was like, ummmm...."well, I'm gay and I'm fine." Their mouths dropped and it was so, so weird. I said, "oh, sorry to drop it like that, I thought you knew."
They were all sincerely dumbfounded. Not that they had been ignoring a prevelant rumor or anything, they simply had no idea. I find this remarkable. I mean, people talk about it all the time! A TON of people do.
Anyone had a similar experience? Where you thought you were completely out and REALLY obviously gay yet people who spend tons of time with you were oblivious?
Yet today, I guess I came out to half my volleyball team. I couldn't figure out! We were talking about some kid who dropped out of school because he was queer and one of the girls said "but weren't there some gay kids in the senior class last year? Phil and Mike? they were stable." And I was like, ummmm...."well, I'm gay and I'm fine." Their mouths dropped and it was so, so weird. I said, "oh, sorry to drop it like that, I thought you knew."
They were all sincerely dumbfounded. Not that they had been ignoring a prevelant rumor or anything, they simply had no idea. I find this remarkable. I mean, people talk about it all the time! A TON of people do.
Anyone had a similar experience? Where you thought you were completely out and REALLY obviously gay yet people who spend tons of time with you were oblivious?