how long do you wait

[We_All_Shine_On]

in a relationship before you fack for the first time with them? On average. I dont mean how long till ur facking like rabbits I mean until you 2 finally do it.

[sugrmag]

It really just depends on the couple. Some people feel like they need to wait a long time, while others do it right away. Just make sure that you are emotionally ready to accept everything that goes along with having sex. And be responsible, of course. Ya know, birth control, STDs, but I'm sure you know that already! Sorry I couldn't be of more help!!

[sila]

I waited until I knew the person I was with was the person I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. :) I have only slept with one person (my wife).

[WayfaringStranger]

i ideally like to wait until im comfortable with the girl, and i know she's comfortable with me, and that its a relationship that has a chance of lasting. my experience though is that if i dont sleep with a girl within the first week of meeting her, she never wants to talk to me again. and of course now its been so long that i'd prolly be an easy lay. some times i think i was born on the wrong planet.

[We_All_Shine_On]

Im not gauging for myself.. Im just wondering how many months(I really dont tihnk it should be less than a month, really ppl) you wait. I'd say 6 is good. too much?

[vanilla]

Its all up to you. You will know the feeling best. I have waited for about a month before and also on the first date. However, the occasions where it was the first date, I had known the guy for some tiem already. Its not like its the first time I've met him.

You will know when is the right time

[maryjaneguitargurl]

ABSTINENCE lol

[makno]

Im not gauging for myself.. Im just wondering how many months(I really dont tihnk it should be less than a month, really ppl) you wait. I'd say 6 is good. too much?6 months girl you be robbin yerself! how long do you think you have in this veil of tears called life 6 month dont come around a hundred times for most folks . your gonna sit around for 6 mos wantin to fuck someone? ...2 days max i say... you could die tommorow! iv seen it happen people die . both the girls i lived years , with we did it the second time we got together , and if your not planning long term thing , whatcha waitin fer?

[Velouria]

...until i know i love the person!

[Danielle]

My man and i waited 5 months before having sex and think that it worked out right. We waited long enough to know we felt something for each other. We knew it b 4 hand but it just felt right when it happend. But every 1 is differnt. :)

[ZePpeLinA]

i think it really depends on how comfortable you feel with the other person and if there's somewhere where to "do it"

I've waited from 11 months with a guy and within the first week with another. I usually wait a month or two, it depends on the guy too.

[Luvrgrl]

well how old are you? a 16 year old girl shouldn't be having sex...and how old is the guy? I know that sounds harsh, but you have your whole life ahead of you to screw...don't do it when your 16. That's why we have so many dam teenage pregnancies.

[migle]

well how old are you? a 16 year old girl shouldn't be having sex...and how old is the guy? I know that sounds harsh, but you have your whole life ahead of you to screw...don't do it when your 16. That's why we have so many dam teenage pregnancies.i don't think anyone should tell anybody what to do and when to do it, if someone wants to do something he or she is going to do it.

i think you should do what you want when you feel it. i mean it's no t a question to ask people, do it if you feel like, but when you really feel like.

but this is important, be responsible.

[We_All_Shine_On]

It's not about me, and thanx but I decide for myself at what age it's appropriate. I'm at the age of consent.. so it's not so ridiculous.

I said before: Im not gauging for myself..

[AutumnAuburn]

Well, for me, sex is a very important part of a relationship. So, I want to know, before I commit to this person, if we are going to have a good sex life.

It really depends on the guy. However, I generally don't do anything until about the third date, or so. That said, there have been a few guys that just had that intense chemistry with me and we did it on the first date. As well as there have been guys that I felt nothing for and never did anything with them.

But, I am an unusually highly sexual person. Perhaps more normal people don't have the problem of wanting to have sex with someone, right away. But, I do. Alas, enjoying sex a lot, is a burden that I must bear. ;)

[autumn_jewels]

i am 21 and still havent had sex yet. when i was with my ex we were together 5 and a half months and by that time i felt more than ready though didnt earlier on in the relationship..unfortunately i got hormonal thought (s)he didnt like me and broke up - damn! lol. but we might be getting back together hopefully, 10 months later hehe...im sure i wont wait so long this time if we do get together again lol. mmm....whenever feels right and youll kno. it felt right for ages with me but i never said yes coz i wasnt 101% sure.

[Fractual_]

yikes! 6 months!?

more like 6 days for me, 6 weeks tops.


when your comfortable with the person, and feel like you all really have something sounds like a good rule of thumb.(which shouldnt take long, if your 2 kewl cats)

[Sunnie]

I've never slept with anyone I was in a relationship with, and I've never been in a relationship with anyone I've slept with.

[WayfaringStranger]

i would wait till the end of my days to have a chance with a woman as wonderful as sunnie, and ive felt that for a while. sunnie i hope you do find someone who is capable of loving and respecting you.

[Sunnie]

That makes two of us Wayfaring!
Thanks for the compliment though, I really did need that. Made my day.

[WayfaringStranger]

:D :D no prob chicka

[KozmicBlue]

It depends. Waiting usually increases the sexual tension and it makes everything so much more exciting and interesting, so I actually prefer waiting a bit. ;) But then again I have this bad habit of losing all the interest after having had sex... Ahh well.

[Miss_Tambourine_Girl]

always too long ;)

[Jaque Imo]

You're 16.....WAIT.

[know1nozme]

It seems simple enough. If it's time, you will know. If you are asking yourself "Is now the right time?" Then it probably isn't. When it is, you won't have any doubts. My first time, I was 15 - I had no doubts and the experience didn't damage me or my partner in any way that I am aware of.
I had sex with my lifemate/soulmate on our first date... and it wasn't even really a date, we were just out together with others and decided we wanted to be alone together for a while (we had only spoken to each other for a few hours on two previous occasions, both times at parties). We have been together for many years now. I never had a doubt in my mind and still don't. It was the right time.

[freeinalaska]

I've always said "Why wait?" Sex has always been an extremely important part of my life and I find it a shame to mix in jealosy and mind games with what I see as a spiritual act.

I really don't want to get emotionally committed with someone and then find out that we are sexually incompatable. There is a lot more than sex to a relationship, but I feel that while sex can be great outside a relationship, good sex is an integral and necessary part of a healthy, long term one.

[Loki]

I've never slept with anyone I was in a relationship with, and I've never been in a relationship with anyone I've slept with.

Yeah i was thinking about the same thing. I have had a decent amount of sex, but honestly never with anyone i cared about.

[DoggoD]

It depends on how long the gal holds out on me. They always regret holding out in the end.

[Forgetmenot8524]

im just wondering whats wrong with waiting? people back in the old days did and they were fine... if you dont wait whats going to happen to you? are you going to die.. i really dont think so. on the other hand if you have sex with all of your boyfriends then you might get pregnant or get an STD. you might not. also if you are a Christian God says that you shouldnt do that either. is one orgasm worth that much.. i want to know

*peace and hugs*:cool:

[Tamee]

it all depends on the person. I just wait until I feel like I'd really like to have sex with the guy. then if he feels the same way, let's get it on!

[lace_and_feet]

Waited 'till my birthday, which ended up to be around 3.5 months from the time we began our relationship.

[Summertime]

With my first (serious) boyfriend we waited about 5 or 6 months and were together for just over a year, but with my last boyfriend we only waited a month and a half. It really depends on how you both feel- I don't think you can put a time limit on it, or an age really. Some people are ready at 14/15, some aren't ready until they're 23/24. It really depends on the person. :)


Summer. xx.

[Autentique]

Well I´ve never had sex. With my previous b/f´s is something that i never wanted to do.. maybe I was too young, or wasn´t really into it. Now with the guy I´m with.. we´been together about 3 months, but I know him since a year ago, since like a month ago, I feel ok about having sex with him, though it hasn´t happened yet.

[drewbee]

It's just sex. why the big deal. To tell you the trut, I have had sex with 4 different people. 2 I dated (waited 3 weeks both), 2 were one night stands. I just want someone to be with ... why does everything in this world, no matter what it deals with, lead up to sex? Whats the big friggin deal. you stick dick in hole... I definatly dont think it is worth no baby. Oh wells...

[Sailor]

The time you wait depends on who you are. My girlfriend, who I dated for 9 months, tried to rip my clothes of the first night I met her. I was still a virgin back then, so I decided that we should wait. We only waited a couple of weeks, 'cause I wanted to be with her so badly!
Personally I like would like to trust the girl before I have sex with her. That's the most important thing for me, that we trust each other. There's so many feelings involved with sex, that I'm really carefull not to get hurt.

[Mintaoism]

6 months... i seriuosly don't think the guy will wait for that long. You just take your time girl but after your ..21 i wouldnt wait more than 1 month.

well I have had sex on a first date, and had sex with a girl I knew for...7 years.. but she was form school. gotta love that gym hall ;)

[missfontella]

Waiting is fine when you are starting out but once you are grown....

I have to have sex fairly soon in a relationship. I need to test the product. A couple of times I got all emotionally wrapped up in the guy and then his sex (and equipment) was horrilble. I just ended hurting him that much worse because I'm too shallow to live with bad sex. So now, I nip it in the bud. Or he nips it. Oh, you know what I mean.

[galvatron]

id say a good week and a half/two weeks...but again, it depends on how much i like her/him and well, if i want to have sex

[honeyhannah]

About an hour.

[MamaTheLama]

Wait until he's 18 and take a life insurance policy out on him in case you fuck him to death ;)

[BoozeJockey]

I would wait a long time if i really cared about the girl. I would gladly wait 6 months for the wonderful weallshineon...

[HappyChild]

I've pretty much been friends first with all of the girls
I've dated, so....the wait is shorter. ;)

[WayfaringStranger]

ill wait 6 months for wealshineon too, when do we start??;)

[beatlerific]

i waited about 3 weeks with one guy but we weren't really in a relationship to begin with. it just sorta happened you know. anyway, three weeks is a short period of time but for some reason it just worked with this dude and i. and it's still workin'. heh.

[neckienoo]

Until I truly get to know someone. At minimum I like to wait at least a month or two!

[Shane]

A few months for me. As people have said, you have to know to trust people first.

[corinnex420]

if you are still a virgin, then you may want to wait until the time is "perfect" as you say. but whenever ur doing it, its never perfect its not as it seems in the movies if u know what im sayin. But it all depends on the time and the place. i was dating the boy whom i lost my virginity to for a year and we were 14. And then i dumped him becuz he was really boring. Then i got into another long relationship a couple months after that. And we waited 2 months. but the guy i was dating had 4 previous sexual partners but i didnt feel pressured becuz i loved him. Now i am still with that guy and the guy who i lost my virginity to.. i absolutely hate. So it all depends. but remember stay away from STD's, they can ruin your life.

[PureInnocence]

Waited about a month for my bf. I was so damn horny all the time, and so was he. We were both virgins so I was sort of hesitant... and I kept testing him to see if he'd try to take advantage of me... I'm a tricky one! But then I caved. I couldn't help it. And we're still together! Almost 2 years now. yay!