Can you like males in a sexual way

[Vicar_in_a_Tutu]

But not be gay?

[Taylor]

in my opinion, anything is possible.


For me, being "fully gay" if such a thing is possible is wanting to have a relationship with someone of the same sex and not just sex... but thats just my opinion.

there is no gospel when it comes to this sort of thing.

[FallenFairy]

you can have sexual feelings for the same sex and not be gay is totally possible. really all it means is either your subconcious or concious is curious and wants to experiment. so its perfectly normal for these feelings to be felt. and hopefully you will either play out these feelings or just have to deal with them for who knows how long

[BellaItalia77]

The way I usually explain sexuality to people is like so: I believe that if you have a emotional attraction in addition to a sexual attraction to your own sex, you are either bisexual or gay. Since you only have a sexual attraction, I have no earthly idea! Don't try to label it...just feel it out and make your own decision, honey.

[Snowdancer]

It sounds kind of like supressing but everyone is different, I suppose..

What is your definition of gay? Is there reason you feel that even though you are turned on by same sex relationships but yet think you aren't gay or bi?

[The World of Dan]

I don't like labels myself... so why even bother trying to label yourself... just be YOU, and if you feel like fooling around with guys - go for it.

However, saying that... I believe that being "Gay" is about your emotional attachment to people, and not so much who you're *sexually* attracted to, but who you're *emotionally* attracted to.

But like I say, don't worry about labels, they are for loosers... just be YOU!!

[txbarefooter]

with two of my male friends, I love them with all my being, kinda like two very close brothers .. but I'm NOT attracked to them in a sexual way. they are both straight and I'm gay.


So I guess the opposite could be true also, you could like guys in a sexual way without being gay.

[The World of Dan]

with two of my male friends, I love them with all my being, kinda like two very close brothers .. but I'm NOT attracked to them in a sexual way. they are both straight and I'm gay.


So I guess the opposite could be true also, you could like guys in a sexual way without being gay.I'm not sure that works.You've just contradicted yourself. First you say it's not sexual, then you say it is.

I think what you mean is that you can feel LOVE for someone of the same sex as you (father, grandfater, friends, etc..), but not in a sexul way.

[BellaItalia77]

I'm not sure that works.You've just contradicted yourself. First you say it's not sexual, then you say it is.

I think what you mean is that you can feel LOVE for someone of the same sex as you (father, grandfater, friends, etc..), but not in a sexul way.
He didn't contradict himself. He said that HE loves two other guys...like brothers, not sexually.

And he's saying that the other guy could probably like guys sexually, and not emotionally - as one would a lover. Like we're all saying.

[The World of Dan]

He didn't contradict himself. He said that HE loves two other guys...like brothers, not sexually.

And he's saying that the other guy could probably like guys sexually, and not emotionally - as one would a lover. Like we're all saying.Oh, whoops. my bad. OK cool, yeah, what he said.

[BellaItalia77]

lol :D Yep, we're all on the same page here.

[deez nutz]

Is not a sexual attraction more than an appreciation for the person? You can appreciate beauty as well.

[txbarefooter]

Is not a sexual attraction more than an appreciation for the person? You can appreciate beauty as well.
I agree. I really like Katy Holmes and think she is very pretty, but thats it, she doesn't do anything for me ... now Orlando Bloom thats a different matter. :-)

[PhotoGra1]

I just wrote a paper on "African American Men on the Down Low," which is men of color sleeping with other men of color, but leading an otherwise heterosexual lifestyle. The mantra of this phenomena seems to be, "it's about gratification, not orientation." Anything is possible, and I do not really care about labels, so I respect the individuals choice to identify as a straight man that sleeps with other straight men. In my opinion, however, this is very, very gay. It seems to me to just be semantics.

[SageDreamer]

Can you like males in a sexual way and not be gay?

Sure, lots of women like males in a sexual way and are not gay.

However, if you're a man and you like males in a sexual way, you are gay by definition...unless you also like females in a sexual way. Then you're bisexual.

If you are a man and you like males in a way that is not sexual, you are not gay.

[SelfControl]

If you're attracted sexually to guys and girls, you could be bisexual. If it's only one guy, it could just be an infatuation, or a bit of curiosity. In the case of the former, I have no idea how you do deal with it, and the latter is always worth exploring, if only to get it out of your system.

I know a few guys who don't consider themselves gay because they only take the "male" role in sex with guys (i.e., receiving rather than giving blowjobs, penetrating not being penetrated), and I can see where they're coming from, as you don't have to be homosexual to enjoy a blowjob from a guy.

Mainly, you don't have to brand yourself gay forever just because you fancy guys. You're still a person and it won't have any disasterous effect on your personality. You won't be forced to start dressing well or smelling nice or whining nasally and liking musical theatre. So do what you like.

[kppdlevel1]

No because if you do, then you're GAY.

[SelfControl]

However, if you're a man and you like males in a sexual way, you are gay by definition...

I dunno if this is true. I kind of said it in my last post, but a lot of guys who are essentially straight just prefer guys' attitude towards sex. This straight guy I know goes to gay clubs because he knows he can his end away there. I can understand this totally; guys just understand how important sex is to other guys way better than women do.

[SelfControl]

I agree. I really like Katy Holmes and think she is very pretty, but thats it, she doesn't do anything for me ... now Orlando Bloom thats a different matter. :-)

It's official: Orlando Bloom, Johnny Depp and Brad Pitt are all attractive enough that if you fancy them it doesn't make you gay or straight, it just means you're alive and post-pubescent.

[The World of Dan]

It's official: Orlando Bloom, Johnny Depp and Brad Pitt are all attractive enough that if you fancy them it doesn't make you gay or straight, it just means you're alive and post-pubescent.Johnny Depp and Brad Pitt are HOT!!! I realise that with me being bi-curious, I'm not helping much with the whole "able to view guys as sexy and no be gay" thing.. but the thing is that I DON'T think guys are sexy... they are the only ones...

[SelfControl]

I've actually never really cared much for Johnny Depp, but Brad Pitt is probably the most attractive object in the universe. He's at least 40, doesn't wash and has a big beard, and you'd still drop to yr knees for him.

Gore Vidal said there's no such thing as homosexuality, only homosexual acts. Make of that what y'all will.

For example, I consider myself completely gay, but right now I'd fuck anything with a hole.

[Lizard Lady]

<<However, saying that... I believe that being "Gay" is about your emotional attachment to people, and not so much who you're *sexually* attracted to, but who you're *emotionally* attracted to.>>

I so agree with you The World of Dan! This thread reminds me of a really great episode of Northern Exposure I saw years ago. Ruth Anne (the proprietor of the local store/post office) is talking with Maurice (ex-astronaut and general pompous but lovable ass) about fetishes. It came out in this episode that Maurice (who is a raging homophobe) has a massive shoe fetish. He was asking Ruth Anne if that made him some kind of a social deviant, and her reply was awesome. She said that sex is the jungle, it doesn't adhere to rules, it's primal, and whatever goes, goes. I think that's very true. If it feels good, and doesn't hurt anyone, why not?

<<Is not a sexual attraction more than an appreciation for the person? You can appreciate beauty as well.>>

I also whole heartedly agree with deez nutz. I am a straight woman, but, I can appreciate the beauty of other women.

<<.. but the thing is that I DON'T think guys are sexy... they are the only ones...>>

In regards to women, I feel that way too. I generally don't find myself thinking like that either. However...Jeri Ryan (aka the infamous Seven of Nine on Star Trek Voyager) produced a reaction in me that I have not experienced before or since for another woman.

Does this mean I think I'm bi? No. When it comes to sex, nothing gets to me like men. It doesn't mean you can't appreciate the same sex though. My emotional attachments are generally stongest with men. It may sound funny coming from a woman, but I just understand women! Too many head games! Men seem (to me anyways) a lot more straightforward.

[SelfControl]

I've not thought seriously about being straight for years, but there are women I would fuck:

Helena Bonham Carter
Kate Garside (from Queen Adrena. very nice, very scary woman)
Marilyn Monroe (I know it's a trendy choice, but look at that ass!)

This does not make me straight or even bi. They are desirable women, desirable enough for even me to give them the time of day. I'm not going to lose sleep over it.

[Snowdancer]

Stolen from http://www.bradpittfan.com/ I've add commets in italics pink
William Bradley Pitt is the oldest of three children. He was born on December 18, 1963, in Shawnee, Oklahoma. His mother was a school counselor and his father worked as an executive at a trucking firm. The family moved to Springfield, Missouri, where Brad attended Kickapoo High School.
That would make him nearly 41
Height:
6'0 / 183 cm

Weight:
159 lbs / 72 kg.

Hair:
Blond

Eyes:
Blue

Education:
Graduated from Kickapoo High School in Springfield, Missouri, USA in 1982. Studied journalism with a focus on advertising at the University Of Missouri, USA, but dropped out two credits short of graduation in 1986.

School activities:
School choir, football and tennis. Voted 'Best dressed' in his school in 1982

Nickname at school:
Pittler

Smokes:
Yes. His favourite brands are Camel Wides and Marlboro. Started smoking in 6th grade.

Drinks:
Coffee and beer.

Hobbies:
Interior design, architecture and nature. Collects functional metal art pieces and furniture. hmmm, ok, a stereotype but interior design is often more of a gay person's hobbie than say, skeet shooting

Pets:
He probably have pets now and have had several dogs before (Blanco, C.C. Rider, Purdy, Saudi and Todd Potter).

Car:
White Toyota hybrid car.
Previous a black Mercedes G500 SUV and black Jeep Cherokee.

Favourite author:
Cormac McCarthy

Favourite candy:
Twizzlers

Favourite cereal:
Frosted Flakes

Favourite drink:
Mountain Dew

Favourite movies:
Planet of the Apes and Saturday Night Fever [COLOR=Pink]hmmm, you don't have to ve gay to be a male & like Saturday Night Fever but it would help. :)

Favourite music:
Jimi Hendrix, Gipsy Kings, Stone Temple Pilots and Bob Marley. The first album he bought was Elton John's 'Captain Fantastic'. He also likes Shirley Manson (Q Magazine March 1999). His first concert was the 'Dobbie brothers'

Favourite snacks:
Pizza

Favourite sports:
Bicycling, rock climbing and tennis. He's a cyclist! I'd draft on his wheel anytime :)[COLOR=Pink][i]

Favourite TV-show:
All in the Family

Hates:
Sharks and spiders.
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Stolen from [COLOR=Pink][I]http://www.johnnydeppfan.com
JOHNNY DEPP
DESCRIPTION
Name: John Christopher Depp II
Birth date: 6/9/63
Height: 5'10"
Weight: 155
Birth place: Owensboro, Kentucky
Hair: Brown, usually uncombed
Eyes: Brown
Occupations: Gas attendant, pen salesman, musician, actor
Distinguishing Features: High cheekbones, pouty lips
Tattoos: Right Arm - Wino Forever, Indian head;
Left bicep - heart with Betty Sue and
inverted triangle;
three rectangles on right index finger;
The Brave doodle on right forearm;
skull and cross bones on right ankle (no image);
symbol similar to a 3 on his left hand;
Lily Rose on chest above heart;
Jack and a swallow on right forearm;
Two more unknown.

When he was twelve, his mother bought him a guitar which became his obsession. Johnny decided to drop out of school at age 16 to concentrate on his music career. He played guitar for a group called The Kids who opened for several prominent acts including Iggy Pop. He and his band moved to Los Angeles with high hopes of making it big. He was married at age 20 to makeup artist, Lori Allison. His career as a musician failed to skyrocket and he resorted to selling pens over the phone to make ends meet. A divorce soon followed. But during those years Johnny got a lucky break, Lori had introduced him to actor Nicolas Cage. Although at first they did not like each other, they became good friends. Nicolas convinced him to try acting and he signed on with Cage's agent. Nightmare on Elm Street was the beginning of his lustrious career....

[COLOR=Pink][i]Have a look @ the attached pictures. How could anybody not like to look at them?[COLOR=Pink][i]

I've actually never really cared much for Johnny Depp, but Brad Pitt is probably the most attractive object in the universe. He's at least 40, doesn't wash and has a big beard, and you'd still drop to yr knees for him.

[SelfControl]

Kickapoo

HEHEHE, I'm so immature

[Snowdancer]

The Kickapoo Valley & River isn't far from here. I loved saying it too as a kid. There was even Kickapoo gas stations around so we could have all kinds of fun with that. Like kick your poo & yeu get more gas. (It was an 8 year old's joke) :D
HEHEHE, I'm so immature

[SelfControl]

Like kick your poo & yeu get more gas.

Hehehehehehe!!!!

There's a town near me called Wetwang. I don't get it.

[Snowdancer]

I hadn't thought about this earlier but Mick Jagger had m2m trysts but didn't persue same sex much on a regular basis that that I have heard of.

I decided to look to see what I could find & I came up with this.....
Interview magazine did an interview with Mick when promoting his first solo album. And in that interview Jagger admits to having had a number of gay dalliances. None of them serious, he points out. And he laughed about it. No big deal.