dealing with people

[indian~summer]

i wish i was good at dealing with people
cause i'm certainly not

not when i actually care that is
when i actually care about the person i fuck everything up


i'm in need of a class that teaches people skills
cause that's important when you're in the field of work i'm in
and that field is whoring yourself out

or i need a mentor that will teach me the wax on wax off approach to dealing with people

any tips?
i'll accept a bag of chips as a tip
i have low standards

[Allonym]

:( im sorry, im socially retarded otherwise id try to help you out

[indian~summer]

:( im sorry, im socially retarded otherwise id try to help you out
i have a feeling going to the internet for advice on this subject might have been a bad idea....

got any chips?

[Unknown American]

To vague of a question for a meaningful response.

If your field of work is whoring yourself out to others it is just a matter of subjugating your ego for others egos, long enough to make the transaction.

What do you do exactly?

As for interpersonal interactions with people care about that is a whole different game. Give examples of what you are talking about.

It would be easier to give you some chips than explain all of that in one post.

Have some chips:)

[indian~summer]

thanks :D

i'm a bartender, and basically i live on tips, i do not make much in hourly wages and rely on people tipping me
and when they don't tip me, theres pretty much no point to me working
so i have to whore myself out there to make as much as i can
and it works upon occasion

i'm good at selling and dealing with people but it's all fake

when it comes to dealing with people i care about, i become a spastic
i over think things

[Unknown American]

Well personal interactions with people we care about is a complex thing. Over thinking can get you in trouble.


Again it entirely depends on the situation and who is involved. No way for anyone to give you an answer unless we know more about what is going on.

Selling and dealing with others is easy. But I understand that can be fake. I do that myself all the time.

It is hard to have all the secrets to life. I suppose that is my burden that I must bear.

Have some more chips:)

[BraveSirRubin]

All you need. (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yjnvSQuv-H4)

[seamonster66]

who the fuck does not tip a bartender?

whomever does will drink some piss at some point, even girl piss is gross to drink

[indian~summer]

All you need. (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yjnvSQuv-H4)
i used to say "don't worry, be happy" to my dad, it would just piss him off even more :D


gary, you'd be so surprised about the amount of times i don't get tipped

it pissed me off so much last night, a couple drunk guys come in,*if an inspector came in i could have gotten in trouble for serving them* i serve them they take all their change and start playing pool, next round comes i serve them, one guy says "did you even put booze in this, it tastes like water" ... next round they come up i say something along the lines of this " if you want me to serve you perhaps you should learn to tip and not harass me about the drinks i serve you*smile*
they then tip me like a dollar fifty and the change they had in their pockets, fucking pennies

rule number one, DO NOT FUCK WITH PEOPLE THAT SERVE YOU FOOD, goes for drinks too


UA, i don't really want to get into the specific problem over here, that's why i'm being so vague
but i will take more chips :)

[Allonym]

i have a feeling going to the internet for advice on this subject might have been a bad idea....

got any chips?
no, but theres chocolate cheesecake and im willing to share it with you

fuck, i always tip at least once. usually for 3/4 of my drinks, including water. i always tip at least 50 centsn when im getting water, cuz nobodys getting money from it

[indian~summer]

chocolate cheesecake, that sounds intriguing
i wish people tipped on water here...

[Penny]

I guess I don't care about being or not being good with dealing with people.

I don't know if I am.. I guess I am. I don't like it really.. dealing with people.. dealing with drama.. like.. kill me, please, you know?

I guess I am good at it, just don't like it, yeah.. that sums it up.

[indian~summer]

i don't care about what most people think about me, but in situations where i do care i choke, i get awkward and pretty much feel like a teenager with a crush on the most popular guy in school type shit
i'm good at dealing with people in many situations but i'm very good at faking things :)
in the end it's all fake and i really want to be real

[fitzy21]

you can be real with me :D

[indian~summer]

yo nigga wanna be hitting up some nudie bars tonight, i've got me eye on a prime ass piece of real estate know what i mean bitch be all up in my shit yo and next time some cracker ass ho wants to lay down witcha i'll set a player up we be stone killas fo rilla playa holla

[fitzy21]

ok...what the fuck is that?

i said you can be real with me?

[Allonym]

chocolate cheesecake, that sounds intriguing
i wish people tipped on water here...
well, if the persons an ass/bitch of course i wont, but generally i do
then again i rarely go out to the bars anymore and generally just lurk in the karaoke bar that my mom frequents every month or two. and the serving staff there knows my moma nd her friends and loves em all

[indian~summer]

i'm pretty sure i'm not an ass or a bitch

chris, i'm pretty sure that was what some might call a joke....not a hundred percent sure though...

[Aristartle]

Possible that you just haven't met any real cool people.

[fitzy21]

i'm pretty sure i'm not an ass or a bitch

chris, i'm pretty sure that was what some might call a joke....not a hundred percent sure though...i was drunk...what can i say :D

[Tree-Hugger]

I can deal with people, unless I'm in a relationship. Relationships scare me.

[indian~summer]

I can deal with people, unless I'm in a relationship. Relationships scare me.
thats pretty much it right there


this whole thread is pretty much void at this point

:)

i'm not that bad with dealing with people, except for when i point out how bad at with dealing with people i am :D
i'm an awkward awkward person
:D