The Great Big Anal Sex Thread!

[freedbypeace]

I was reading the top or bottom thread and it made me wonder if you can get an orgasm from anal. my bf is real into wanting to, but it hurts so bad even with enough lube to cover the entire state of montana!

[MinneBi]

sounds to me like you're not relaxing enough or possibly that your partner isn't going slow enough. If it's a relaxation issue, I don't know what to tell you. I generally don't advocate drug usage, but poppers can help with this. Have you tried the lube called analease? It has a numbing agent added in for those who are new to anal. Now if you think the problem is your partner, then tell him to slow down. If he doesn't, then pull away from him. He'll get the hint real quick. Good luck....

[Disarray]

I never tried anal, it isn't my thing. But I know that you CAN have an orgasm, because of this special spot, associated with (similarities of) the girls g-spot. I actually think it is part of it. But guys have it too. And yep. Read up on it.

[Snowdancer]

Just as Disarray said some great orgasms come from anal. The spot is the prostate gland. Having that rubbed can cause you to ejaculate withut even getting an orgasm but also if it is stroked just right it gives a very special kind of orgasm that is nothing short of fantastic. :)

Good lube does make it much more enjoyable. As does doing things to stretch your sphincter muscles. Some wear but plugs but fingers or patient partners can accomplish the same thing.

[MinneBi]

oh yeah, I agree on the anal orgasms. They can be mind blowing!

[freedbypeace]

is it ever,.... messy?? ,..........................*blushes*

[Disarray]

Do you plan on getting an enema before-hand? Ha...

Sure it can, it's a dick going up your ass. The shit has to go somewhere, right? It'll probably be slightly noisey. Maybe...

[veinglory]

As far as I am aware the prostate is a 'man' thing. Men are more likely to orgasm from anal, but women can to. On the whole though if you don't enjoy it much you should be getting something you do like from the boyfriend in return...

[Snowdancer]

Maybe getting into too much information here but you did ask. :p Some lubes seem nearly impossible to get off after playing.

Actually lately that is the only thing that has been "messy" for me in a long time. I do have more gas typiclly the next day. I did have an incident long ago where I bled a little after but that only happened once to me. I hadn't really thought of it but it is interesting that back before everyone used condomes I never experienced an enema effect.

Maybe this is just my experience, as with everything, I'm sure individual mileage varies.



is it ever,.... messy?? ,..........................*blushes*

[monosphere]

Good lube does make it much more enjoyable. As does doing things to stretch your sphincter muscles. Some wear but plugs but fingers or patient partners can accomplish the same thing.
I'm so glad someone mentioned that. Start off slow and with something smaller. Circle the anus with your finger just to get used to being touched there. Your partner can do this or use his tongue, depending on how much you two trust each other and how clean everyone is. Try using one finger up to the first knuckle until you get used to it. Then try going a bit deeper. Once you've become comfortable with one finger, start the process over again, but with TWO fingers going up to the first knuckle and so forth. IF your partner is going to use the fingers, he can integrate the anal foreplay while paying attention to your happy places. You should try the anal foreplay for a day or so before going all the way. Some people are fine the first day, but some just have a hard time dealing with it. And also make sure you are completely relaxing those muscles or else it will hurt more. Unfortunately, our first instinct when being penetrated is to clench those muscles. Bad idea. You don't want to really push out, but just kinda give a slight push to try to allow for easier stretching of the sphincter. And there's no such thing as too much lube.

In regards to cleaning the lube off, I've never had that problem because I make sure I shower thoroughly after engaging in said activity.

[MinneBi]

good advice there monosphere... couldn't have said it better myself..

[barefoot_boy]

I can orgasm from anal without any help.Lol.It

depends on how sensual the guy is who's fucking you.
I like a guy to play with me while Im bieng fucked,fondle me(Nipples,ass,balls etc.)
Go to bed with somebody who's sensual,not just wham bam.

[GGSagen]

Actually, in the male it is the prostate, but the same spot as the male prostate in the female body is the every mythical "g-spot". There isn't anything special there, that I know of, but it is the same spot of the body that needs to be hit in a woman. Or so I have been told, at least.

Anal is different for every person. I myself am what I call a natural bottom. I have yet to find a man who doesn't go in without pain. Of course, it is important, no matter what, that the man take it a little slow in the beginning going in. I've actually found that different men react differently to going inside of me. One guy, who had never done anal before, said it was too tight, that it hurt. Other guys have wanted me to bear down on them while inside of me. As with all things, every one is different.

The most important thing, IMHO, is communication. If it hurts you, tell your partner. Its not about pain and any partner worth having will be patient and make it good for both of you. When they do, it is truly a mind blowing orgasm and well worth the wait, and work, involved.

[freedbypeace]

when you get that orgasm, do you cum?

[Disarray]

Guys cum, and (some) girls squirt.

[velvet]

hm.. I tried anal once myself.. it was completely unplanned during sex.. we were having regular sex when he accidentally pulled his penis all the way out.. instead of putting it back in my vagina I put it in anally.. completely on impulse. It didn't hurt at all, even though it was my very first time (didn't even try it with a dildo or something before). It probably helped though that I was on top, very horny and soaking wet. Because it wasn't planned I didn't go to the toilet before or had an enema.. but it wasn't messy at all.. so, good experience.. although the week after I bled a little from there and it kinda hurt (felt like a papercut or sth like that).. but I don't know if that's related, 'cause there were several days between that and the sex. I don't know if I would be into it again.. just doesn't do anything for me and the idea is still kinda weird.. kinda 'exit only'.


I've also used my finger on two different guys.. they both kinda liked it, but more like a one time experience. One of the two came but said it was a very different orgasm then normal and it wasn't as good.

Ah well.. don't deny before you try! ;)

[beachmonkey]

I've also used my finger on two different guys.. they both kinda liked it, but more like a one time experience. One of the two came but said it was a very different orgasm then normal and it wasn't as good.


You probably stimulated his prostate, which caused him to ejaculate without reaching orgasm. It can be kind of fun under the right circumstances, but no, it wouldn't be nearly as good if he was hoping to really cum....

[Snowdancer]

when you get that orgasm, do you cum?

Again, I can only speak for myself. I have had those ejaculating without orgasm sometimes but more often I get these body shuttering, mind blowing events without ejaculation. :D I call them anal orgasms. It sounds like there are some here who know the body pretty well so maybe there is a better explaination. All I know is if these aren't some sort of orgasm they are such an amazing thing that I am sure glad that I experience them & tried anal sex the first time I did. I was hooked for sure, possibly to the point that if I weren't bi before my first one I would be after. I, so far, have only gotten them from the real thing, dildos or fingers just aren't the same.

[GGSagen]

I would have to agree with the previous post. Fingers and dildo's aren't the same thing, but then I don't use either of those very much myself. It may be all about the technique, as with everything else.

As to not enjoying the orgasm as much...the truth is, it is an amazing, mind blowing orgasm. But it is also as much a mental orgasm as a physical one, at least with my limited experience. Your guy may have been kind of "batteling" the sensation. Most straight guys are uncomfortable with recieving anal stimulation. The stimulation still works, but they don't let themselves enjoy it as much cause they think it means they are gay. Truth is, it is a simple, biological response. Just like a woman raping a guy. They physical body will always react to the stimulus, though sometimes the mind can over ride it.

Probably, the guy just didn't "want" to enjoy it, inspite of actually enjoying it. Does that mean you should do it again? Only if he wants to. I mean, really....if he doesn't want to enjoy it, he won't, so don't worry about it. Its all about making your partner feel wonderful. If he doesn't want to do it again, don't make him or bug him to try it again. Its really all about him. If he wanted to do anal on you, and you didn't want to do it, you'd probably be upset if he kept bothering you about as well, wouldn't you? So long as you honor his wishes and both have fun, its all good. Go with what works, try new things, but if your partner says he/she didn't like it.....don't do it again.

At least, that's my advice. Have fun :)

[snowdude420]

hey everyone so kno that i have relized i am gay i have been out looking for a boy and i found one:D and i have sucked his dick but i htink he is going to want to u kno fuck me and i dont mind this i am just a little nervouse about it liek if it will hurt schould i do nayhting before hafn {fingering buttplug}

i dont kno any advice wil be very help full thnax

[cerridwen]

now I'm not gay but my husband has done anal on me a couple times... just need to relax, that's the best advice.

And hey, you're only 16... relax - you can wait to have sex (I know that sounds totally adult and parental, sorry).... you never know what's out there, you're best off waiting before jumping in to something, it would suck if you contracted something so young...

[Sunburst]

LUBRICANT LUBRICANT LUBRICANT!!

Also, start off slow. No need to shred your insides!

[The Sandreckoner]

Condoms Condoms Condoms!

[Duncan]

Condoms Condoms Condoms!
Amyl, amyl, amyl

[klein]

Amyl, amyl, amyl
Whats amyl?

[txbarefooter]

Amyl Nitrite or poppers .. a "drug" that is inhaled and is supposed to increase the sexual sensation.

[The Sandreckoner]

Are those legal? Where do you get'em? Kava kava is legal and increases sexual sensation pretty well, but it tastes like shit and has to be drank in massive quantities that are kinda hard to get down the gullet.

[Mui]

and kava is bad for your health.
Lube.Lube.Lube.
Never stinge on the lube

[The Sandreckoner]

Kava's bad for my health? Polynesians guys do it every night!

[Mui]

its bad for your heart more specifically

[Duncan]

Kava's bad for my health? Polynesians guys do it every night!
http://www.amazinginfoonhomosexuals.com/fisting.htm

And there are some guys who insert their fists into the rectums of other guys. I don't think that's too good for one's health either.

Just one man's opinion.

[Snowdancer]

Amyl, amyl, amyl

Sure it's a fun buzz for a little while but I always get incredible headaches after using it. I bet it's from the instant lowering of the blood pressure or just the effects of it being in my body. I personally don't think it's worth it. I keep hearing that it helps relax your sphincter but for me just breathing normal air is best. Nice full breathing, maybe a little breath of fire technique if it gets too intense but amyl always gets in the way of my concentration & full enjoyment of having anal sex. There are some dangers too. Too much use can do you in.

Here's what Gay Health Channel (http://www.gayhealthchannel.com/partydruguse/drugs.shtml#amyl) has to say about it (& a few other party drugs)

Amyl nitrate was originally developed as a treatment for angina; it directly affects the heart and cardiovascular system. The most popular street name for amyl nitrate, "poppers," comes from its initial packaging in thin glass vials, which were crushed or popped to release the vapors. When inhaled, this yellowish fishy-smelling synthetic liquid enters the bloodstream, lowers blood pressure, and increases pulse rate within seconds. It is also a muscle relaxant and causes feelings of well-being and tranquility. Because its muscle-relaxing effects affect the anal sphincter muscles, some use it prior to anal sex. Some people experience blackouts, dizziness, and respiratory problems; overuse can cause vascular collapse and death.

Amyl nitrate is sold in small brown bottles by head shops and smoke shops as "room odorizer," "head cleaner," "liquid incense," or "rave."

[Snowdancer]

Kava's bad for my health? Polynesians guys do it every night!

FDA has put out a warning that it's bad for your liver
FDA's KAva comment (http://vm.cfsan.fda.gov/~dms/addskava.html)

I haven't tried this one so I can't comment from effectiveness but I think I'm going to stay away from it.

[Snowdancer]

It will help stretch your sphincter as well as help you get used to the feel of something there.

Everything people have said about lubricants, condoms, & playing safely is good advice. Lube will definitely make it a much more enjoyable experience as well as make it a safer one.

Possibly the most important is to have a patient partner. If you have one who cares about you, believe it or not, it will be better too. I realize that this isn't always possible but for your first time if you can have these things you will always look back at that first experience with even more tender feelings than if it is a random thing with a stranger or something like that.

[The Sandreckoner]

Kava-containing products have been associated with liver-related injuries – including hepatitis, cirrhosis, and liver failure -- in over 25 reports of adverse events in other countries. Four patients required liver transplants. In the U.S., FDA has received a report of a previously healthy young female who required liver transplantation, as well as several reports of liver-related injuries. .Rohoho! Of the thousands of Kva users the world over, 25 got sick and 4 required surgery. Fab...

[syd]

But, what if the other guy goes too far, is that dangerous at all?

[txbarefooter]

goes too far ? thats a loaded question. if you mean depth-wise .. umm yeah it could be dangerous. There are a lot of considerations, his length and girth, how hard he does it are just a few.

If you are relaxed and loosened up (fingered or a small dildo) and LUBED up that will help in reducing the pain. Above all as others have said PLAY SAFE, use condoms.

[Snowdancer]

Suit yourself, Sandreckoner, it's your body.

[maryjaneguitargurl]

GET A STRESS BALL .. haha... sorry haha..

peace
chickens

[naturewhore]

lots of lube, practice jerking off with a condom on so you know how it feels what to expect, most importantly is be relaxed, let the other dude stick 1 and then 2 fingers in you first to reduce some of the initial pain and don't jump into anything your not ready for, stand your ground man! There are plenty of other fun things to do other than anal! Have fun!

[WynterFrost]

my friend and i was haveing sex and well he got me up the ass lol ...it hurt alittle at first and then it felt really fucking good...you will get used to it

[LogsOnSticks]

Alright, even though I've never had any experience with anal sex or self-penetration whatsoever, whats the deal behind it that makes it erotic?

Like for me, I'll definitely try it when I get older with a boyfriend (hopefully), since it is passionate in it's own way. So in that case, it's erotic in that sense.

I've recently discovered through research that the reason why anal sex is such a huge sexual issue for men more than women is because we have the prostrate gland, which arouses men to have an orgasm and ejaculate when touced.
Since the inside of a man's anus has a lump which is part of the prostrate gland inside of us, it would make sense that the constant penetration and motion of the penis in a man's anus would lead the other guy to ejaculate.

For those who have experience, is that so, or makes sense? Aside from all of the pain that occurs due to the contraction of the anus around whatever is being placed inside, is there still that significant feeling of pleasure and arousal that leads you to engage in an orgasm or close to it?

[Patrick]

Alright, even though I've never had any experience with anal sex or self-penetration whatsoever, whats the deal behind it that makes it erotic?
For those who have experience, is that so, or makes sense? Aside from all of the pain that occurs due to the contraction of the anus around whatever is being placed inside, is there still that significant feeling of pleasure and arousal that leads you to engage in an orgasm or close to it?
If you are relaxed and the guy is using lube and going slow, there will be minimal discomfort at first. As you become aroused it will become easier and you will begin to feel pleasure from it. Personally for me the most intense orgasms I have had are while receiving anal sex either with another guy or with a dildo.

[dmgreen]

If you are relaxed and the guy is using lube and going slow, there will be minimal discomfort at first. As you become aroused it will become easier and you will begin to feel pleasure from it. Personally for me the most intense orgasms I have had are while receiving anal sex either with another guy or with a dildo.
I would agree.....my man loves when I stick my vibrator up his ass, he gets off alot harder and much more intense!

[SpliffVortex]

I would agree.....my man loves when I stick my vibrator up his ass, he gets off alot harder and much more intense!sound like you get off on doing this as well . lucky guy. just dont let the rumor get around.

[Snowdancer]

The prostate really can only be stimulated well through the anus. Oh, sure, there can be all kinds of psychological play along with it relating to submission etc. but the core value IMHO is what I call a man's G-Spot, the prostate. For me there is also a psychological value of "giving myself" to my partner but I don't think that it is necessary for enjoyment of this.
I think I have mentioned this before but I have orgasms anally with penetration. Usually not with any ejaculate but it has happened. I had a partner who set out to see how many times he could make me ejaculate (10)so he gave me oral sex while stimulating me anally so that was different but it was quite an afternoon & that wasn't the only play we had that day. ;) I have only a few times had any pain from penetration but usually my partners have had some good lubricant & have taken it slowly. I do have a pretty good handle on being able to relax myself so I'm sure that helps.

I am always amazed when my Doctor appologizes before she gives me a prostate exam. It feels so good I almost ask for more. There are 2 Doctors who see our family that job share both are Women about my age. Both give good anal but one is just a little better than the other & she always gives a love pat or two on my tush when she is done which makes it a little more intimate. Please don't get me wrong they are professional about this but I can't help but enjoy this & the one who adds the love pats I think recognizes it a little more & if she or they are enjoying it themselves they are still business like enough about it that they wouldn't let on. Anyhow, I'm not about to complain in any way. If I can get some good feeling out of the poking & proding that is the usual anual check-up that is fine with me. I just came out to them so it will be interesting to see how these yearly things go in the future. Sorry I'm rambling but the point is a prostate is a very fun thing even if it is stimulated with just a finger. I do have to add though that I have had it "milked" by a urologist. He managed to do this without my feelingany enjoyment from it. :( I was quite disappointed.

You can experience prostate stimulation yourself to a certain extent without anything more than your finger(s) & some lubricant. Your prostate is most likely reachable if you feel for it & believe me you will know when you have found it. It isn't quite the same as having a man's penis doing the job but it still beels quite good.

If I remember correctly the details have been covered in another thread. Try a search for anal sex or maybe taking it up the ass. I can't remember right now. If you can't find it go ahead & PM me I can go into it in more detail if you want.

Alright, even though I've never had any experience with anal sex or self-penetration whatsoever, whats the deal behind it that makes it erotic?

Like for me, I'll definitely try it when I get older with a boyfriend (hopefully), since it is passionate in it's own way. So in that case, it's erotic in that sense.

I've recently discovered through research that the reason why anal sex is such a huge sexual issue for men more than women is because we have the prostrate gland, which arouses men to have an orgasm and ejaculate when touced.
Since the inside of a man's anus has a lump which is part of the prostrate gland inside of us, it would make sense that the constant penetration and motion of the penis in a man's anus would lead the other guy to ejaculate.

For those who have experience, is that so, or makes sense? Aside from all of the pain that occurs due to the contraction of the anus around whatever is being placed inside, is there still that significant feeling of pleasure and arousal that leads you to engage in an orgasm or close to it?

[PhotoGra1]

I LOVE it! No pain whatsoever! Sometimes I may get a pain a few hours later from air that has gotten trapped inside during the encounter, but thats easy enough to take care of!

[The Sandreckoner]

I usually give, being intro younger guys and all. The first guy who ever gave it to me when I was a young sprite had biceps the size of tree trunks, and I was so happy to be wrapped up in'em that if here was any pain, I don't remember it!

I had a guy that I slept with once who was kinda small and just a freshman in college and it kind of hurt him when I tried to go in, so I laid on my back and let him be on top and go down as slowly as he wanted. It was great fun! We're still friends.

[be.]

Oh, my gods I love to be on top. After so many times I got used to the feeling, but at first it was a little weird, just a little. I'd been doing myself, practicing like, for quite awhile. I can cum with no penile stimulation too, if it's really hot times.

Also, hi everyone! I'm not exactly new here, but it's been awhile. I had a different name though, which I don't feel I need to be forthcoming with.

[twentyoneforever]

Masturbation reached new levels of pleasure the day I bought my first vibrating anal butt plug. The intensity of my orgasm was incredible and I can only imagine what it would be like if it were a real penis.

I can't imagine any of the girls I 've ever been with being able to understand this pleasure. More people need to be made aware of this hidden pleasure.

[Seru]

this thread is great :)

[kokuei]

okay...i have a question. my bf and i haven't had anal yet and we want to. we decided i'd be on bottom for the first time. i've been putting it off though because i'm worried about it getting messy. Is there any way to tell when a good time to do it is? And would it be a total turn off if there was some 'stuff' there? i'm so worried could someone please give me some advice?

[Abyle]

Lots of guys and gals alike enjoy "natural" anal sex, which means you don't use an enema and there will be waste on the penis/condom. It washes off! Do it when you're relaxed (not drinking because you're not aware and could hurt yourself) and use LOTS of water-based lube (KY or Wett or something similar). Don't rush it, and if it hurts too badly, stop. If you want to use an enema so your anus is clean, remember to stay hydrated and give yourself a good butt-washing after you've finished going to the bathroom. Remember, anal sex isn't for everyone. (The ancient Greeks had a VERY gay-friendly culture, yet anal sex was unheard of.) Be prepared to feel like you have to go to the bathroom during sex; it's natural, but believe it or not, you won't.

[txbarefooter]

make sure you are really loose. have your partner finger you to get you loose, maybe even a small dildo and LOTS of lube, be very relaxed and take it SLOWLY. Let him enter and then stay still, when you are comfortable take some more of him, pause and repeat.

[monosphere]

IF you don't want to go through the hassle of an enema, keep hydrated and make sure you have a healthy movement and a good cleaning before you engage in anal sex. But don't be suprised if there's still something there. It's to be expected when engaging in an activity like this. You should use a condom for obvious reasons, but also to help keep things a bit cleaner for him, just in case. happy rimming!

[squ1ggy123]

its hot

[LogsOnSticks]

See, where I stand, I'm not into it in terms of pleasure, you know? It kinda skeeves me out to take it up the ass, since I've NEVER had anything up my ass, except for a thermometer...lol...But that was a LONG time ago.

But, I AM curious towards anal sex, and would be willing to try it or mabe someday do it with myself...

To the rest of you when you first got plugged, whether with another guy or with yourself, were your thoughts towards it skeevy or uninterested at first? Did you grow on it? lol

[kokuei]

thank you so much!! i feel a bit better about all this now. is there anything i could change in my diet so there might be less waste present, though? or anyway to know? are you sure it won't make him uncomfortable or ruin the mood? i feel like such a wrry wort but i can't help it. you guys are great. thank you all again.

[The Sandreckoner]

Kokuei, most people find this suprising, but it takes food about 12 hours t ogo from mouth to ass. If you eat very very lightly for the twelve hours before hte deed, yuou should eb okay. Have a light snack beforehand, but nothing too much. Remember that sex is exercise -- eat enough for energy, but not enough to slow you down.

[kokuei]

really!? i had no idea...okay i'll try that then. thank you so much! <smile>

[SpliffVortex]

and no hot mexican food.

[kokuei]

lol...no i'd can imagine not!! any other foods to avoid or eat more of?

[be.]

Hey all...don't get to a computer too much these days. In answer to the last question, I have never been uninterested in the slightest bit, getting "plugged," as you've put it, so gently yet so firmly -kinda like how it's supposed to be. I think the case may be that I was designed to love it in the ass, by nature and nurture. I've also never been "skeeved" about it either because I always make sure that I get with beautiful boys who respect and admire me for the magical creature that I am, and wouldn't want me to have anything but the best times.

[StonerBill]

what do you gay guys do when they get hemmeroids? like, with anal sex n all.

[Snowdancer]

But actually I only get them for a day or two after a night of hot & steamy sex. It generally goes away on it's own without doing anythng.

[StonerBill]

wouldnt they like, make anal sex impossibly painful?

[Snowdancer]

To be honest I haven't had hemeroids before I had anal, often after though. I only get out maybe once a week or less so there is plenty of time for it to clear up. I'm not talking about the bleeding kid anyhow, just itchy & puffy. I suppose if I had a live in male partner it woulld be different but I also suspect that If I were getting it closer to daily the hemeroids wouldn't react that way. I also think that using some good lube could make another go at the back door possible even if I were to be expereincing them as they come to me.
wouldnt they like, make anal sex impossibly painful?

[StonerBill]

do you all think my question was stupid or waht?
thanks for replying, snowdancer

[Snowdancer]

If you walked up to me in the street & asked me this I may verbally make you think that you were receiving what you indirectly are asking about. :X

I assumed though that you had a curious question on your mind so I answered it as such. Isn't that what newsgroups are for anyhow? I can't see your face or hear any inflections in your voice so if you have other intentions I couldn't really tell so I chose to think that you were being sincere.

Anyhow, one of the cliche` things that I heard teachers said when I was in school that actually makes sense to me is this "The only stupid question is one that isn't asked." I hope you keep asking questions. Keep asking here, ask everytime you have something that you want to learn no matter where you are. No matter who you are talking to. Questions that come from the heart with the intention of learning are the best thing to make sure that things improve from generation to generation. I could rant on for a while more on this but I just wanted to let you know that I don't think that it is a stupid question.

BTW- Hemorrhoids don't always get inflamed with anal activity. I forgot to mention that earlier.

do you all think my question was stupid or waht?
thanks for replying, snowdancer

[StonerBill]

haha yeh you replied again but like, i wanted more oppinions, otherwise i may as well have pm'd you, you know?

[StonerBill]

listen, im not putting this one down, i would very much like answers

[StonerBill]

what the hell is with teh stubborness

[hippychickmommy]

I'm not gay, but maybe I can help somewhat.

When I was expecting my twins, I had horrible hemmorhoids. After I had my babies, the hemmorhoids became even worse. Every bathroom trip was sheer agony, and I was bleeding when I'd go. Ouch.

What I did was increase my fiber and water intake. I also used aloe wipes after going (I actually used baby wipes) Also, do not, do not, do not, strain when you go. If you can't go, don't force it, because you can cause tearing and more pain. After a while, things cleared up, and I honestly have not had problems with them for close to year now. Thank goodness.

As far as anal sex goes, I have still been nervous about resuming anything there again, but my husband doesn't mind. He prefers the "normal" route. ;) So I can't tell you how it would feel once you've had the hemmorhoids, but I wouldn't try it until you're feeling better or else you can cause yourself a lot of misery, plus the risk of infection from tearing.

If you try those suggestions it may help matters for you. But if not, you really need to see a doctor. They can prescribe medications to help and/or you can have laser surgery. You need to be sure that the cause of your pain, and bleeding if you have any, is indeed from what you think it is.

Hopefully you'll feel better soon. I know it's far from fun. :(

{{{Hugs}}}

[Brutus]

Recently I've been getting intimate with a very good friend of mine, marking my first homosexual experiences. We are both excited and I am ready for penetration, but don't know how to start.

I know there's more to it then just sticking it in. I know you're supposed to train your anus and all of that. What's the best way to get ready? I live with my parents, so I can't just go out and buy a dildo or KY Jelly. What other ways are there to prepare myself? Are there any lubricants you can use that are seemingly innocent.

Please help. Thanks.

[james q]

don't 4get the condom. try using ur finger up ur arse to see how it feels. take it v slow. any water based lubricant is safe, but these are specially manufactured 4 sexual intercourse so i dont know how u can make it look 'innocent'. can i ask u a question? do u wanna be fucked yet?

[PhotoGra1]

Train your anus?!

Do you offer it a Beggin Strip when it is good? Rub it's face in it when it is bad?

[SageDreamer]

Go slow. Be gentle. Lots of lube and lots of patience.

After my gay support group meeting broke up last week, a few of us were talking about anal. These other guys loved it, while I'm not too crazy about it. One guy was talking about an ex-bf of his who made anal a wonderful experience and he said that rimming (oral stimulation back there) was key.

Does your very good friend live in a situation where he can buy and keep dildos or lube? James Q is right; condoms are important.

[Brutus]

do u wanna be fucked yet?yes


Does your very good friend live in a situation where he can buy and keep dildos or lube? James Q is right; condoms are important.
Not really. We can get condoms though.

[james q]

do u wanna be fucked yet?

yes.

happy fucking :D

[pianoperson60]

I know nothing about any of this myself, sorry.... lol

[txbarefooter]

the first real key to anal is being RELAXED, VERY RELAXED, if you tense up it'll be harder for him to get in and it'll cause you pain. Also, foreplay with finger stimulation of the anus will help loosen things up and may help you relax. take things slow and has been said, don't forget the condoms.

[kif]

I get no enjoyment out of being a bottom, I'm more of a top man. But theres occasions where I bottom for my partner of 3 years and this is what we do. Start off with a little rimming, that should get you relaxed and into it more. Then have your friend lube his fingers up and finger you with one finger while getting oral, it helps you relax (does me anyway). after you get used to one finger, have him start to work a second in slowly, once you adjust to that, have him roll a condom on, lube up good and have him ease it in slowly. You will be ok, and maybe you'll enjoy it a lot. I know my partner loves to bottom, and I love to top.;) Hope this helps you out.

[mushie18]

how old are you?

[james q]

you can fuck me then i can turn over and fuck you. what's fairer than that?

[Ocean Byrd]

Psh, not fair for me... I have issues about that organ, lol.

[Defence_mechanism]

hahaha not fair for me, i don't have a penis!

but i like the way you think! :P

[james q]

hahaha not fair for me, i don't have a penis!

don't let that stop u. strap on a dildo and assume the alpha pose girl!

[gertie]

i like that idea

don't let that stop u. strap on a dildo and assume the alpha pose girl!

[SageDreamer]

Wouldn't oral penetration then be fair for men?

If strap-ons are an option, wouldn't oral and vaginal be fair for women and mixed-sex couples?

Fingers can also penetrate.

[Jorma's Branches]

I hate anal sex. And i've had a lot of it. I...I just don't /like/ it.

[james q]

Wouldn't oral penetration then be fair for men?

If strap-ons are an option, wouldn't oral and vaginal be fair for women and mixed-sex couples?

Fingers can also penetrate.
oh god, what a can of worms. let's just say i was addressing my original comments to other gay men.

I hate anal sex. And i've had a lot of it. I...I just don't /like/ it.
it can be an acquired taste, that's for sure. but that doesn't make it any less democratic ;)

[Jorma's Branches]

it can be an acquired taste, that's for sure. but that doesn't make it any less democratic ;)Oh, it's quite democratic. :)
I'm just not a big fan.

[james q]

Oh, it's quite democratic. :)
I'm just not a big fan.
which begs the question: 'what does please you, young prince?"

[kif]

I love to top, but not into being the bottom. Sure I do it every now and then for my partner, but thats only because I love him and he enjoys pitching at times. Other than that it does nothing for me what-so-ever.

[txbarefooter]

I'm just the opposite of kif, I only bottom and I really enjoy anal sex.

[Ocean Byrd]

i like that idea

omg... I wish there were more girl's like you. ;)

[james q]

Wouldn't oral penetration then be fair for men?

If strap-ons are an option, wouldn't oral and vaginal be fair for women and mixed-sex couples?

Fingers can also penetrate.
on reflection sd let me put my question again:
'you (finger) fuck me then i roll over and (finger) fuck you. what could be fairer than that?
there, all genders are catered for and the world remains safe for democracy!

[james q]

I'm just the opposite of kif, I only bottom and I really enjoy anal sex.
me too altho' i used to top all the time. that was when i also fucked girls. i sometimes wonder if gay guys who only top have more in common with straight guys than they do with nelly bottoms.

[Duncan]

Does anyone know what he is even talking about? DEMOCRATIC? Do you mean reciprocal? No two are alike. It's the gunner, not the gun. Why am I even responding to this ?

[StonerBill]

look ive asked this before without much luck, i dunno why, seems like people dont wanna talk about it? at any rate, having got hemmeroids and experienced how doing a shit is on them, ive not heard anything about hemmeroids with men who have anal sex a lot? it makes no sense to me that some men would get bad hemmeroids very often from putting so much pressure and stress on their anus.

so whats the deal? do gay men get a lot of hemmeroids? any? why can doing a shit give em but not anal sex???

and they fuckin hurt sometimes too, i could imagine it would put a gay feller out of action for a while

[txbarefooter]

from what I understand, roids are sometimes caused by lack of fiber in the diet and/or forcing the process while taking a dump.

I haven't been bothered by 'roids by having anal sex.

[Green]

I really need to look into this before I do anything agian.

[hipunk]

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Hemroids may be internal or external (a protrusion of the rectal muscles.) Bleeding when you wipe may be a symptom. Itching is usually caused by aggravating the area.

There isn't a consensus on why Hemroids occur, part of it may be heredity. I have yet to talk to anyone who engages in anal sex (self included) who has gotten hemroids. Indeed, anal sex may reduce a tendency toward Hemroids.

Hemroids are most often associated with straining while taking a dump, or trying to "force it". So, avoid constipation (where you have a tendency to push). Eating a high-fiber diet, consisting mainly of fruits, whole-grain products, and vegetables, creates softer and more regular BMs. Drink six to eight glasses of H2O a day.
Do Not force it. Do not strain or hold your breath on the toilet. Choose a time when you are not rushed, and don't try to hold it in for long periods.

Contributing factors may include the upright posture (while on the stool) which places a lot of pressure on the anal and rectal veins. Aging, obesity, pregnancy, chronic constipation or diarrhea, excessive use of enemas or laxatives, straining during bowel movements.

During anal sex, you are actually relaxing the rectal muscles. Otherwise you are doing it wrong. If it hurts during penetration, stop. You may need to manually stimulate the area to loosen the muscles. The contracting and stimulation during anal sex may help to strengthen the rectal muscles and veins. Having contol of these muscles also helps you not to Strain during a bm.

Hemorrhoid pain is often eased by sitting in a warm tub for about 10 or 15 minutes two to four times a day. Bleeding hemroids may stop if you take two teaspoonfuls of apple cider vinegar in a glass of H2O at every meal. Straining, rubbing, or cleaning around the hermeroids may cause irritation, and itching.



Some of this info was gleaned from : hemroids.us (http://www.hemroids.us/).

[vimmeroony]

are you feeling enlightened, StonerBill?

[SageDreamer]

I feel obligated to add that gay men are not the only ones who have anal sex. You might get more information asking about this beyond a gay forum.

[Green]

I'm not gay and I love anal.

[joker_900]

Hi im a 16 year old guy. I've never done anything with a guy before but i probably will this wknd coz im meeting with someone to do it. I'm a bit nervous about it - can u tell me what 2 expect? will it hurt much?

[hipunk]

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Look for this title: Anal Pleasure & Health (http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0940208202/002-3742973-4320049?v=glance&n=283155&v=glance).

I would advise against fucking on your first date with someone. Or that your first time is with a stranger. Get to know the person and work into anal. Try messing around doing other things before you go that far. You'll be able to relax and enjoy it more.

Get a butt plug or dildo to practice with. Something simple like this Crystal Jellies Probe (http://www.velanta.com/details.asp?iid=2125), or the Butt Plug 4.5" from Doc Johnson (http://www.amazon.com/gp/search.html/002-3742973-4320049?me=&node=3760931&keywords=Doc%20Johnson%20Butt%20Plug%204.5%22) (note the links may change and redirect) They sell them at sex shops and on line. Never use a dildo with a wire support or vibrator, they can do damage. You want something that is soft and totally flexible, like jelly or Silicone. You may wrap the plug or dildo in a condom for easy clean up.

After you feel comfortable with a plug, try a larger size. Practicing by yourself will help you to relax and learn to control the muscles. Anal sex should be pleasurable. Stop if it hurts.

You may want to use a small, plain-water douche before hand, to clear the area. You can buy the kind that girls use. Don't go over board on the enema.

Even though you are the "bottom" it is still your responsibility to have a new condom ready for anal sex. Don't forget to bring one along.

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[joe_l]

Does anyone have any tips on how to give a man an orgasm through anal sex. Have any of you managed to reach his prostate gland to make him cum?

[BT343]

I appologize in advance if this thread seems a bit crude, but it is something that has been bothering me for a while. I do expect serious answers though, so please don't make stupid comments.

My boyfriend of 2 months and I are planning to spend a week together at the end of March, during which we will be taking each others' virginity. I am of course ecstatic about being able to spend time with him (sexually or otherwise), but there is one thing that has been bothering me:

I am very sensitive of personal hygiene, and one of the things I am the most sensitive about is feces. Now obviously, anal sex involves the area of your body where feces are expelled, and I have been quite nervous about what that will mean when my boyfriend and I make love to one another. If you're diligent with personal hygiene, how big a risk is there of getting feces on your penis? Also, is there any safe, effective, and preferably easy way to clean out your rectal cavity?

Any advice or info is greatly appreciated.

[GayOldBoy]

Hi BT343. Firstly, the only sure clean and safe way of having anal sex is to use a condom! Only have unprotected anal sex with someone who you either KNOW is disease free, or has had the respective HIV etc. tests done, and is proven clear!

You can buy anal douches from any sex shop, some chemists outlets may sell them too. These are simple to use. But from my own experience, use this some good long time before having sex, (several hours at least.) as sometimes you may find that there is still some dirty water "inside" your partner. (It doesn't necessarily all come back out at first motion!) Also, subsequent farting may expel some water too! (Honest, I'm not joking!)
Make sure that you are both freshly cleaned/washed before having anal sex! Apart from these options, there's not too much else you can do! Don't forget to use plenty of lubricant! If using a condom, use ONLY WATER-BASED LUBRICANTS!
Please take very good care, and enjoy your experiences together. I wish you both the very best for your future.
Have fun, Love, Dennis.

[KewlDewd66]

Obviously, your plan ought to include condoms and lots of water-based lubricant. Douche (enema) is a prerequisite, too. Yet, there is not much more you can do to avoid 'accidents'. There is a rest risk here which simply cannot be eliminated.

Anal sex seems to be the easiest thing on earth, if you go by the porn movies these days. It all works like a charm. And so it does in the movie world only.

Anal sex happens to be a bit on a 'kinkier' side, so if you want to go there, make a conscious decision to relax, go with the flow and accept the realistic possibility that accidents may happen, no matter how much time and effort you put into your 'preparation work'.

Make allowance for the fact that both your BF and yourself are embarking on a very intimate exploration and that both of you lack the experience and the routine needed. Again, keep in mind that there is much more to it than you usually get to see on the porn and/or hear from the guys who reportedly know all about it.

My bottomline here:

a/ Do your prep work
b/ Relax, relax, relax
c/ Understand that yeah, 'accidents do happen', no matter what
d/ Take your time. Practice makes perfect and both of you lack practice
e/ Teach yourself the virtue of great patience. You'll need it.
f/ Understand that anal sex might be right and great for some but not for all. There is love and great sex without it, too.

Let all of us here know, if you need more info and help. Feel free to pvt, too.

KD

[hipunk]

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Only have unprotected anal sex with someone who you either KNOW is disease free, or has had the respective HIV etc. tests done, and is proven clear!

I must comment on this. The only way to KNOW if your partner is "disease free or had the respective HIV etc. tests done and is proven clear!" IS if you are God or a psychic. Didn't think so. No matter what your lover says or what you want to believe, there is always the possibility that he has an STD that he himself doesn't even know about. Or he might not want to tell you about that fling he had last summer, espically if you don't know about it all ready. It happens every single day! How do you think people get AIDS? If someone loves you, they won't be offended if you insist on using a condom. While some committed couples may not use condoms, that isn't something I could advocate for you or anyone. You do so at your own risk.


There are books on the subject, for the best I've seen, look for this title: Anal Pleasure & Health (http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0940208202/002-3742973-4320049?v=glance&n=283155&v=glance)


If this is your first time and you're worried about a mess there are a few precautions you can take.

Douche. You can use a regular disposable douche that women buy or an enema bag. Using just plain water is recommended, though people have used the vinegar and water douches; they will disrupt the chemical balance of the area. Depending on your physical make up, doing a vinegar and water douche once a month may not prove harmful. (1 teaspoon vinegar to 2 cups water) Stay away from ALL Scented douches or ones containing other ingredients. If need be you can empty a store bought douche and refill it with plain water. You may want to take a double treatment of a disposable douche. One thing I'd like to note is that you can "over" douche. By that, I mean too much and too often. Doing an enema every day may disrupt the chemical balance of the area and can cause complications. A douche can actually leave the area somewhat dry feeling because you are clearing out the natural lubricants as well.

I would recommend you parctice douching before your big night. Also a good idea to buy a butt plug or dildo, cover it with a condom (for easy clean up) and practice. That way you will have a idea of what to expect.

Also, take a shower or wash the rectal area with soap and water before you "go to bed" like you would wash your face or hands.

Fag Rag. Have a hand towel ready. Or, some people will lay a towel on the bed, or place it underneath. You can do that if you're worried.

Be aware of what you eat and your current regularity. Of course you won't want to have anal sex after having Thanks Giving dinner. Like wise, you may want to time sex with your normal time of the day to dump. Wait several hours after you eat or until after you clear. Some people have suggested to eat light, a sandwich or rice during the day and salad at dinner. That seems to be going a bit far for me. But again, it depends on your own physiology. If your cavity is full, you won't be able to accommodate a dick up there.

Also if you have been having loose bms or are constipated, that may not be the best time for anal sex. The area could be too tender for sex or too difficult to relax or accommodate. It's best to wait for a time when it you will be able to relax.

I don't think your question is out of context for this forum. One of the aversions people have to anal sex is the mess. Taking the precautions above should eliminate the risk of an accident. And I don't agree that anal sex is kinky at all. That's like saying oral sex is a 'bit' on the kinky side.



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[GayOldBoy]

I must comment on this. The only way to KNOW if your partner is "disease free or had the respective HIV etc. tests done and is proven clear!" IS if you are God or a psychic. Didn't think so. Please accept my sincere apologies for this. But in this instance, as both appear to be virginal, I "assumed"! This was obviously a bad mistake to have made!

However was this: had the respective HIV etc. tests done and is proven clear!" totally incorrect?

I don't want to be stepping on any toes here, being a newbie, an' all. But I think the terseness of your GOD remark is a bit O.T.T, Hipunk! You also forgot to highlight my very FIRST comment!Hi BT343. Firstly, the only sure clean and safe way of having anal sex is to use a condom!So please don't try coming across as though you are THE safe sex adviser to the world! I was only trying to give a little help/advice! I wasn't telling anyone that THIS IS WHAT YOU (have to) DO!

I appreciate what you're saying, but don't make comments about me that can be taken in an adverse way! I don't know your age, but I haven't reached 55yrs old by being dumb! You don't know me, don't judge me! OK?

[hipunk]

.

Sorry dear, but at no time did I comment on you, as a person or your character. (I continue to let that speak for itself.) I did comment on one of your comments. Even in context, it is grossly wrong.

When I said "if you are God or psychic," I was not referring to you personally but every fool out there who believes it when a partner says, "I don't have an STD," or who believes when they say, "I tested negative." The tests are usually kept confidential. Sometimes a test is wrong, and as I mentioned some guys won't get tested because then they have to admit they cheated on their mate.

I certainly don't know everything about how AIDS is spread, but I have met plenty of folks who got it through having unproteded sex with a committed partner who they KNEW to be disease free and had the tests to prove they were clear.

Sorry, I had a problem with your post, but I gotta call 'em like I see 'em. And that post was off the mark. No offense, but dude -you should be old enough to handle that.

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[bj_Eric]

this is a good topics. Thank you both the one who asked and the ones who answered. I did worry a lot abt this. This released my fear some how.

[GayOldBoy]

OK Hipunk, I admitted that my comment was wrong, and made a full apology. But reading BT343s' original post, he stated that BOTH are anal virgins. Therefore I still don't agree that what I said was GROSSLY wrong, in their case!
I am fully aware that with guys already practicing anal sex, this WOULD have been grossly wrong, but these guys aren't!

To pick up on another point here... If two people, in a relationship, are going to commit to each other, and they have the necessary tests done, I don't agree that either would "hide" the results. This would only be the case if either one felt obliged to have themselves "checked out" for whatever reason. Then I agree that they might want to hide the results.
But if two people were having the tests because of their relationship, then wouldn't both partners want to see the others' results? If you're with someone who is cheating on you, you are better off with someone else anyway, and should pick up on their reluctance to show their test results! I, for one, wouldn't take it on trust from anyone who wouldn't consent to my seeing the results for myself, given the nature of those tests!

Agreed also, that test results can be inaccurate. But if you live your life wrapped up in a plastic bubble for every little "possible threat", you're not LIVING your life. You are merely skipping around the edges of A life!
I realise now, that you are most likely to come back with some pretentious little quip/retort, but I AM BIG ENOUGH to totally ignore you from here on in! OK?

By the way... You still don't give any indication as to your age! Are you old enough to have any "life" experience, or are you just another little "know-it-all teenager" who's so worldy wise, and educated, that you think you know everything? C'mon DEAR... Answer please!

If we are going to continue to have "problems" with each others posts, maybe we should avoid responding to them! EH? (Dear!) :rolleyes: http://www.hipgallery.com/photopost2/data/500/thumbs/fsm_rock.gif

Dennis.

[BT343]

The whole STD god/psychic/whatever argument aside, I sincerely thank everyone for their advice and responses. This has given a good idea of what to do and expect. Thank you very much.

[hipunk]

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I understand that your advice was on the condition of anal virginity. However AIDS and other STDs can be transmitted through oral sex as well as other means. To suggest that it is "safe" for "anal" virgins or committed partners to have unprotected sex is grossly wrong because it is patently, and unconditionally wrong. Unprotected sex is always a risk you take. And your partner may lie about his virginity. You may wish it otherwise, you may access it otherwise, but the fact is there will always be a risk with unprotected sex. Dream on, it don't change the facts.

Not all clinics will allow your partner to see the result of a test, nor will they confirm that the results make you risk free, because that places the clinic in a position of being the authority that signals that it is okay for two people to have unprotected sex. If you can find a doctor who will do that, let me know, he needs to have his license revoked. But you won't find that doctor or clinic anyway.

You may not know this, but the thing with cheaters is that they don't ever tell their partner that they are cheating, otherwise it wouldn't be cheating.

Now, you are welcome to take the risk of unprotected sex and many other risks if you desire, but I hope that when you do so you are fully aware that you are indeed taking a risk. You can fool yourself into believing that it isn't a risk, but you won't fool me. Sky diving is risky. Any instructor will tell you that. A person who jumps out of a plane with a parachute and deludes himself that there is NO risk at all, is a fool. I agree that we can isolate ourselves in a bubble, but I hardly see how wearing a condom is living "your life wrapped up in a plastic bubble." The reason there are so many young gay people contracting AIDS today is because they don't believe there is a risk in having certain kinds of unprotected sex.

You asked how old I am. I have chosen to not list my age. It is none of your business; because you have no need to know. I would hope that anyone here who has something to say, that it would be accepted on it's own merit, regardless of the age of the person posting it. But to give you a clue as to my age: when closet cases about your age were raising families and running off to the park to suck somebody off in the bushes, I was marching in Gay Pride Parades and burying dear friends, some of the first people to die from AIDS. I hope that doesn't change how you feel about me.

I have never suggested that someone ignore my posts because they disagree, I don't know where you get that idea. But Dennis dear, if you would rather I didn't respond to your posts because I believe you're misleading people and I am willing to explain why I feel that way; well than you're a bigger risk taker than I imagined, because you're going through life with blinders on. I don't hate you, I don't even dislike you. But I do question you, that's the difference.


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[GayOldBoy]

Hipunk... I quote your signature:
Dream as if you'll live forever
Live as if you'll die today
~ James Dean

"Live as if you'll die today"...!
Does that make sense to anyone, after reading this persons' posts? Sounds a bit too "Idealistic" for such a cautious person to be quoting.

I know I'm taking risks! I know what risks I'm taking! I've been hidden away from "Life" for so many years, that I really don't give a damn what anyone says about me, or my behaviour!

At 55yrs of age, and having already wasted the last 23 of them, I intend having the maximum amount of pleasure, and enjoyment I can, until the time has come for me to die!
Whatever the cause, whatever the reason for it, my death will only be a sweet release from that which has burdened me for so long!
If I am responsible for my own demise through my own careless actions, then that's MY problem. I fully absolve YOU of any blame whatsoever!

I appreciate your concern for the original poster in this thread. I understand that you are giving your very best advice. I also give you my heartfelt condolences for those you have lost to STDs. I withdraw my advice to the original poster in this thread!
I am sorry BT343, if I have mislead you in any way. Please ignore EVERYTHING I have said!

There Hipunk... Is that good enough for you??? EH???

Now GET OFF MY CASE AND GO PREACH TO SOMEONE WHO GIVES A FLYING F*CK!

Yours Sincerely, Dennis! XXX :rolleyes: :rolleyes: :p

[hipunk]

.
Thank you.

and for anyone who's interested,

Dean did not mean

"Die as if your life is worthless,
dream as if you'll die today."

[PhotoGra1]

I don't think it is necessary or advisable to use an enema to cleanse the colon.

[reece_price]

hi i like anal masturbation i do it about 8 times a week but i wondered if you had any tips on it


reecexxxx

[yo_me_2_go]

Why do u guys make it sound so complicated. Good God!! If u want to have anal sex then do it. If u don't care about safe sex then dont use a condem. If u no the person really well then no need for a codem. If this person is someone u dont no then use a condem. God, just enjoy yrself and f*ck away. Have some fun already.

[peacelovebarefeet]

Why do u guys make it sound so complicated. Good God!! If u want to have anal sex then do it. If u don't care about safe sex then dont use a condem. If u no the person really well then no need for a codem. If this person is someone u dont no then use a condem. God, just enjoy yrself and f*ck away. Have some fun already.
This guy will have 47 STDs by age 23....:rolleyes:

[fungitoo]

The biggest fallacy about HIV testing is that a clean test means you don't have HIV. It is EXTREMELY common for someone with HIV to test negative for several months, then test positive. During those months they are just as capable of transmitting the virus as after they test positive. A negative test is good, but it is far from proof.

[nealallen]

Can't say i'm into it, sorry.

[Green]

What do you want to know?

[fitgaykid]

the first time you had anal sex what was it like to give and recive and the last time you have anal sex was it good?

[fungitoo]

I have never received, but I have always loved fucking a man, woman, or tgirl anally. The first time with a man was so hot. Reaching around to stroke his hard cock while my own was sliding in and out of that tight, hot opening was incredible. A sexy tgirl is great too, because you get the best of both worlds. Even the worst anal is good.

[fitgaykid]

what was it like and whats it like now?

[whereami]

First time? Well of course it hurt but it can hurt anytime you don't take your time. You can't just throw something in there & expect it to feel good. You have to be relaxed to be able to enjoy it.

I started with pens & smaller things then moved on to a few fingers at a time gently adding another,not just shoving three in at a time. Now I love using big thick devices whether it be a big dick (although that's been awhile) or a thick dildo. For me,the bigger the better but I have to be ready for it. I'll start out by using my index fingers on both hands & gently pulling away from each other & you can feel it stretching. Do that for a few minutes then I just finger bang myself til I'm horned up & feel like I'm ready to go bigger. When you are ready,it feels so fucking good that you won't even have to stroke yourself to get off. I usually ride slow just to enjoy every inch going deeper & pulling out,then when I get close to cumming that's when I pick up the pace & ride hard & hit it as deep as I can go to where it's up against your prostate. It makes for an intense orgasm that lasts a few seconds longer than usual.

Oh and another thing that I use to highten the sensation? I use a mirror. I love watching it go in & out of me. ;)

[fitgaykid]

is anal sex good?and the first time you do it is it painfull and tight?cheers

[Sasssss]

is anal sex good?and the first time you do it is it painfull and tight?cheersI'm assuming that when you ask, " is anal sex good?" you are asking if it feels good. In that respect yeah it feels awesome (with the right person)

The draw backs to anal sex the first time is if you don't have a partner that is concerned about you it can be extremely painful and a very bad experience. You never want someone who, "just wants to stick it in."

You need to be with someone who knows what they are doing and willing to take the time to prepare you for the experience. By that I mean you have to be in the mood and he has to take the time to make sure your body is completely relaxed and properly stimulated and the anus itself has to be prepped or stretched prior to pentration.

Keep this in mind, when someone is fucking you its your butt and YOU are in control period! You don't want to be with someone who is only interested in getting their rocks off and only using your butt as a means to their own self gratification.

One of the best positions to have anal sex is to straddle the guys chest facing him and slowly sit on his dick, by having anal sex in this manner you can control the rate of penetration and you can stop at any time it feels too painful and than continue as your anus stretches and becomes accustom to the intrusion.

Another thing that helps a great deal is to masturbate while he is penetrating your butt hole, it relaxes the anal muscle and makes it a lot easier

With that said lets talk about what you can expect, ok?

I'm going to mention this because I've been with some guys that don't know this. YOU NEED TO CLEAN YOURSELF out prior to anal sex or it can be "very" messy and embarrassing. There are a few ways to prep yourself, the most common method is to use a douche bag which nothing more than a water bottle with a hose. Simply fill the water bottle with warm (not hot) water sit on the toilet, insert the plastic syringe into your rectum and release the clip and let the water flow until you feel full and than just let it pour. Do that a few times should do it. Most guys will run through two to three bottles of water just to be sure and confident.

You can also buy a Saline soulution called "Fleet", you mix it according to directions with water and drink it down. Don't go far from the bathroom because for the next 4 hours you will be pooping. The Fleet method really works the best because it cleans out the entire intestine track and not just the rectum. However, you need to be on an empty stomach when you use it.

There are also disposable Fleet douche's but I don't recommend them they don't seem to do an adequate job and they're very awkward to use.

Ok, now that you are nice and clean and confident lets get to the nitty gritty.

Lets assume the boy you are with has prepped you properly by blowing you, rubbing your back, kissing your butt gently, caressed your butt crack, rimed you and used his fingers to prepare your anal ring, ok?

The very first time you have anal sex you will feel very "full", meaning once he has his dick inside you, you will feel like you have to take a "massive" shit! It is natural and it only happens the first few times you have anal sex.

The great thing about anal sex is while the boy is fucking you his dick stimulates the prostate gland. The closer you are to orgasm the more intense the sensation becomes, and I mean intense. By that I'm telling you this, take the feeling you normally get from blowing a load and multiply it by 100 that's how intense the orgasm will be.

Something else will also happen while he's fucking you, without even touching yourself your dick will flow with semen and you will feel what I call a "bonus" orgasm. It won't be your natural total orgasm but since the sperm is flowing out your penis it will feel like a regular orgasm. You may not understand now what I'm talking about, but you will and man is it great!

Ok, that about covers all the basics and what you can expect. But now I'm going to tell you about something, however you have to use common sense with what I'm about to tell you or you can hurt yourself if you are one of those guys who is into putting huge things up your butt.

There is a product called Orajel, its designed for tooth ache pain. It contains 20% benzocaine which is a temporary expediant, in other words its an anesthetic. Just one(1) very small drop massaged onto the anus will numb the area, and even if the guy has a thick dick you won't feel the pain of the soft tissues tearing and stretching. However, the next day YOU WILL BE VERY SORE.

I'm going to add one more thing and I don't mean this as an insult to your intelligence.
I know that you have heard about STD's and especially HIV and Hepatitis. The fact is the guy on the bottom getting fucked has a more likely chance of getting a STD than the guy doing the actual fucking. And that's because the soft tissue and the tiny blood vessels in the rectum have a tendency to break with little irritation. There are also unproven theories that guys that are uncircumcised are also more prone to STD's. Just a, "word to the wise."

I say this only as a caution and not telling what to do, but the more you know the better. As the ole saying goes, "you can't fool the educated".

I hope this was informative for you and if I didn't explain something fully feel free to contact me.
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[JI G]

WOW^ ya i cant answer your question sorry.. but that should have^^

[fitgaykid]

whats anal sex like and first time does it hurt

[Dr Phibes]

_stan_ sounds like a nice boy !
I bet if you ask him nicely he would join your forum with a lot of posts
and some cool links you would all enjoy
Who knows he may even be very "accomodating"

[The_Warden]

whats anal sex like and first time does it hurt

Anal sex will hurt alot if you do not take the right steps to ensuring it doesnt.. The best thing to do is first off take a little bit of lube.. If your intending to be fucked.. Place some on one finger and first off slowly finger yourself and learn how to relax.. I know that after one try two three and then four.. Usually four fingers covers the width of an average cock.. Undertake this activity for five minutes taking it easy relaxing and chilling out without hurting yourself during the sensation.
After it has been done then request that your shag sticks a condom on.. Under no circumstances go bareback because you can never gurantee 100% that he could be clear of everything.. But wearing protection lowers chances.. Ensure that he places plenty of lube on the condom and places your legs over his shoulders so your in like a U position.. Slowly begin breathing and it may sting the first time but once its in dont withdraw immediately just hold it there for a few moments as the pain does fade away once your anal passage has expanded..
Take it easy and slowly to ensure minimum pain is felt.. Slowly get your shag to fuck ya and take deep breaths to ensure your remaining relaxed.. You may feel a small pain from within but that small pain turns to pleasure once you relax as it is your G spot that is being pressed.. Once your comfortable take it as fast and hard or slow and gentle as you wish..

I would recommend though emptying your bowels first and having a top to tail Bath so that your clean as there is nothing more embarrissing than a small stain on the condom as it comes out but most cases both parties expect that to happen.. Its great though when it doesnt

Good luck =)

[Samhain]

I'm bringing this back, after a private email from a thread requesting an anal information thread

[anvil]

Anal sex can be a lot of fun if you relax and enjoy the feeling of a cock moving in and out of your rectum. I am a bottom and enjoy having a man fuck me. I also have used my fingers to rub the prostate gland while giving head to a guy and usually he will pump a much bigger load than normal. I have come while being fuck by a man most of the time if he is really moving his cock over my prostate gland. It just feels GREAT. Sometimes I come a lot and other times it is only a small amount and the rest is dry pumping.
Also, This is not part of the discussion, but if you ever suck your man's balls while he or you jack him off - he will really love it when he cums. He will feel like his whole body is moving forward.

The biggest thing is to take it easy and slow until he can get his cock in and then just get use to the feeling by having him move it around slowly and in and out slowly before going to town so to speak.

[NJnudedude]

I was probably 14 or 15 in the Boy Scouts in Kentucky. An older scout asked me to go skinny dipping with him and told me to leave my underwear and socks in the tent. When we got to the river and stripped I realized there might be more to this than swimming. After playing and touching in the water and getting back on land he got me into a doggie position and started licking my hole. Then he fingered me and I guess I really opened up, cause then I felt his cock slowly coming up my hole. The hot cum just filled everything up/

I still like doing it out in the dirt and leaves. There's still something about good ole naked ass fucking in the woods that still turns me on.

Anyone else out there who likes fucking in the woods?

[mrpwonder]

Hell yeah,,,fucking in the woods is wild!!!

[txbarefooter]

yep, brings a whole new meaning to 'wild monkey sex' LOL

[Cubby Stoner]

I personally like it when a big man is giving it to me. Being on my back is the best position. Him holding me down while pounding is awesome, hehehe.

[whereme]

hihihihihi, that's nice

[*Andy*]

Just one question - Is butt secks messy?

I havent read all these posts so sorry if someone has already asked this.

[mushie18]

It can be.

It's nice to have a towel handy.

[Jonny6]

This thread would really give me the impression that it's really messy but I've really never had a problem. I've been the top and bottom with a couple people and we've never had any cleaning to do- off comes the condom and that's pretty much it. Cum flying in various directions is the issue.




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[*Andy*]

So no poop or anything..Except mushie18 said that it can be messy. Can you tell me how and when it's messy? Isnt there something in your butt that makes you want to go to the toilet when it has pressure applied to it?

[ponderingsoul]

Okay so I'm still in the process of building the courage to tell my mom I'm gay. Today, I was curious as to how anal sex felt like and if I would even like it and if I didn't would I have to be straight and all that jazz to I decided to experiment. I slowlt inserted a dildo inside me and it was okay. It didn't hurt as much as I expected but when I was moving it in and out, I kept having this sensation that I had to pee but I knew I didn't. Why is that?

[coco]

All queers need to take a reality check. YOU WILL NEVER BE ALLOWED TO ADOPT KIDS IN THE UK! Capiche??
It is sick that you think it is ok to stick your di*k up another man's ass. Homophobia is a term invented by queers for right minded, clean living people, when they refuse to accept that homosexuality has a place in society. It is wrong, dysfunctional, and sick. I believe that all queers, and that is what you are, need to have treatment for their condition. You are not born gay - it is a sickness you develop in your teens when the brain gets confused and issues the wrong signals, during the transformation from childhood to adulthood.

Homosexuality needs to be stamped out. It does does not have any place in a christian society. If you feel your rights are oppressed because of this, then you need to leave the UK and go live in San Francisco, where you can get stoned and fudgepack all you want. Remember - IT IS NOT OK TO STICK YOUR DIC* UP A MANS ASS! PERIOD!

[bidude]

You were probably massaging your prostate and at first you do get the peeing sensation if you're not used to it. It will go away in time (not a long time mind you) and it will most probably be replaced by pleasure. Have fun :D.

[passion561]

Hi, I new on this site!!!I have a boyfriend, we are somewhat together, have feelings fo each other deeply. I feel we are on our way to LOVE!!!! We just have one problem, he has a 8.5 thick dick, giving him orally isn't a problem. Its just trying to get pentrate my love. I really am I bottom and love to feel a penis inside, me!!! Our first time getting intimate, was my first time in a year having anal sex. I tried lubricating(Astroglide) and put anal-ese in my rectum for pain discomfort. I couldn't take any of it. My boyfriend was cool about it, really and said,we can work sex!! I was happy, but a little disappoint with myself. So, currently while he is away I have been practicing lubricating the rectum, while trying (anal ese) again. I put two fingers in my anus and started pentrating myself. Hopefully trying get use again of being a bottom and getting pentrating.Didn't feel that bad!!! (had go bathroom a littlt later though) Question is, what else can I do to make getting easier to my boyfreind penis, I want it to be pleasurable for both of us. Should I buy a dilado around his size and started pentrating to starting getting used of it again and preparing myself. Just tell me what else can I do, please help???Should I repeat this everyday to get use of feelings??? Anything will help!!!

[bidude]

Well, I'd advise you to get not one, but 3 or 4 dildos of increasing size, the biggest one being close, or just as big as your boyfriend's penis. Take it easy, don't rush it, play with the smallest one and take your time relaxing your muscles, you'll eventually get to the biggest one. I personally would recommend that you don't use anything that numbs the pain, since (in my opinion and limited experience) if you take it easy enough you won't need it. Good luck :D

PS: If 3-4 dildos are too expensive, I recommend cucumbers with condoms on them. They're really great :D

[skullcandy]

I have been experiencing some anal pains after me and my partner make love, any suggestions, we have been trying different lubes but nothing seems to work, plz help.

[pollolittle]

Im new to this thats why this question might be dumb.. I read about the analease thing but are there toys that comes in smaller size for beginners like myself? I cant relax to the normal size yet and you know.. well i dont know hehe if you guys know any site where i can buy one can you pls email it to me? Thanks a million.

[mushie18]

look into butt plugs.

i'm not familiar with any websites.

[subtle_black]

Alright, even though I've never had any experience with anal sex or self-penetration whatsoever, whats the deal behind it that makes it erotic?

it's erotic. yeah, thats what i say. damn right it is. :)

[gaypridelover]

you like gettin it up your ass by your daddy!!!!! your shit is spread all over his dick!!!

[White_Male_Canada]

I like toping Tgirls aka chicks with dicks. I also like being topped by men. Makes me feel like a panywaist after but it feels so good.http://www.hipforums.com/forums/images/smilies/sunglasses.gif

[jennysmith]

Excuse me for (I Guess) being frightfully rude .... but am Seventeen (yeah am a Homo) ... I want my first Gay experience I duno hw to sy this erm erm when you go to sleep with a guy & I know all stuff about condom and eveyrthing for HIV etc safety but what about faeces? like isn't there going to be faeces when you put your penis in? I am sure I am being rude or you think i am insincere but I asure you am not! two times I have been to a club now and am just terrified I dont know what will happen properly. Then I sweat and have to leave...I get panic....surely there will be faeces when you penetrate?

[mushie18]

If you keep it clean down there it shouldn't be a problem. Though it is known to happen sometimes.

There are many methods to keep it clean down there such as douching, but if you just go to the restroom beforehand and then shower, you should be fine. I've never had a problem and I've never douched.

[Cerunnos]

Kava Kava can cause permanent liver damage rather easily, especially in quantity...

Poppers are legal, but are they really worth the effort? I know some people swear by them because they can relax muscles and lower inhibitions. However, a little patience can go a long way. Often, it's easiest to straddle to start out. Then the receiving partner can sit down and control the rate of insertion. It's my opinion that it helps to push slightly and bear down until the muscles relax. Maybe I'm just a big whore, but I've never needed anything artificial to have anal sex. Any yes, when done right, it can be fabulous.

I don't know about others, but I've always found average (6-7 inch) penisies work best, if the person is skillful. If the person isn't, then size really doesn't matter, as its usually unpleasant anyway...


Are those legal? Where do you get'em? Kava kava is legal and increases sexual sensation pretty well, but it tastes like shit and has to be drank in massive quantities that are kinda hard to get down the gullet.

[*~nathan~*]

from what i have felt, yea i would say you could

[biguy001]

problems with gay sex...

Lol. ok. this might seem gross but whatever.
I'm a mostly straight bi guy. but I've fantasized about guys alot. and have tried anal masturbation but recently there always seems to be something in the way, if you get the picture. I've turned down some advances and such because I was afraid where they could lead and problems that might arrise... wink wink.

ugh.. enough with the subtlety. Is fudge in the shoot a big problem for gays? and what do they do about it? eat more fiber??

I did have anal sex with a guy one time but it just made me want to poop and I had to retire to the bathroom.

so, yeah. this is a big problem

[mushie18]

As long as you go to the bathroom, shower and clean thoroughly it shouldn't be an issue.

I've never had a problem with it.

[Danny1234]

LMFAO!!!! That never even crossed my mind.

[ardus]

My first time with a guy I had the same worries, but I discovered that as long as there was a recent, how to say this politely, evacuation, then that didn't pose any problems. Given the area that we are dealing with, showering together is a good way to make sure everything is nice and clean before getting hot and heavy.

[lovelorned]

I have a question since you all are guys who have had anal sex..does it hurt,does it please you?..Or do you just feel it???

It sux that you can't have sex while looking at your boyfriends face. ( unless you turn your neck very far to look at it..which would get very uncomfortable..).us girls can do a lot..:)...

just wondering though..

[nikon3211]

Today I bought a buttplug. It was a little larger then I think was wise, but I figured I would give it a try.

I got it inserted, without using any lube, just water ( I diddnt know you should be using lots of lube). It kinda hurt a bit and it too a few tries, but one I relaxed, it popped right in. I wore it for a little bit, and then took it out and went to the restroom.

When I wiped, there was a spot of blood. I can pretty much wipe at any time, and theres always a spot of blood.

Did I hurt myself? Any advice here would be helpful!

[Night_Owl49]

Just use a lubricant of some sort next time. Don't worry, you didn't cause any irreversible damage. :)

[*Andy*]

Owww...Yeah use lube next time or you'll end up tearing your ass up

[Sanderson]

Hi all

My partner and I have been given oral to each over for the past few weeks and I really enjoy doing this, But I am really worried about having anal sex.

I really want to and have used toys and fingers during 4play,but I find it very messi during and after. And we both find this off putting?

Anything I can do to stop this?

Peace-X-

[HippieFlowerGirl67]

My bf wants to do anal and I'm thinking omg you sick fuck no way in hell! I highly doubt I'll do it. Pretty much exit only for me. It already hurts like a bitch when he enters me the 'right way' and on top of that no matter what I do to clean myself, I still get a damn UTI infection!

[Jerimiah]

The first time that it happened to me, I was so worked up that the guy I was with was able to slip his cock into me without effort. After that the experience was awsum.

[superpooper]

hi how's it goin im looking for tips on anal masturbation any good ones
what give the best feel? any household objects or creams of any sort?
i dont care will try anything just love the feeling of it all! any concoctions will try!

[Geneity]

Get a dildo and some KY Silk. If you're looking for a cheap alternitave, fruit can help you out. XD!!!

Personally I think it just hurts a lot, but I'm in no way used to it.

[superpooper]

thanks any more suggestions guys?

[ImRon]

Iv never tried it but hope to!