When do you have officially sex?

[bird_migration]

A time ago I tried to have sex with this girl, but only the head of my penis got inside her vagina (I think it got in anyway).
We did not have any lube ready and I just could not get it in deeper, how hard we tried.

I wonder if I can still count it as sex?

[missfontella]

no that is not sex. that is questionable penetration aka bumping-n-grinding

[sugrmag]

I'd have to say no. Get her wet next time!

[Fractual_]

peoples definition of official varies.

to some people, they have to get off to sex.
for others, if you just put the damn thing in they had sex.

its up to you really. its just a name, after all.

[Miss_Tambourine_Girl]

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[sweet_mama]

i wouldn't count that as sex...try spitting on it next time...

[dj_reegz]

No thats not sex

uh here's a suggestion. For play! Kiss the back of her neck, run your hands over her body, suck her nipples, EAT HER OUT. not only will you have great sex. She'll come back form more. sorry that was kinda x rated but yah gotta be some times.

one last thing for any guys questioning this. I am a man. Real men do for play.

[Omniwulf]

What they said ;)

[cherryiceangel]

Somebody *cough* bird mirgration *cough* needs to read a sex ed book.

[meishka]

you officailly have sex wen you get inside her. the it's officail, the documents are signed you can go home after.

[DandelionPrincess]

one word: foreplay

[cherryiceangel]

I don't see why his question is about if he can say it was sex or not...shouldn't it be "how can I make sex easier for the first few times?" or something along those lines?

[TelimTor]

x

[Pablo]

why do you care is its "official" it depends on why your asking

can you catch/give deseases that way? Yes
can you get her pregnant like that? Posible but not likely if it didnt go in very far and you didnt come
would that make her feel good? most likely no, if a womans ready to feel pleasure from it her pussy will be very soft and slipery. It probably hurt.

I think the way some people start having sex is all wrong, dont just go "ok now were gonna do it" and then get naked and try to jam it in there. Go with what feels natural, make eachother feel good, and when shes all wet and soft and saying she feels the need for you to put it inside, then you do it. That worked great for me and my girlfriend (my first and current lover), and all the playing, feeling, fondleing, fingering, oral stuff and other fun that led up to it over time was awesome.

[xthevalkyriex]

I think it's safe to say you're still a virgin.

[pughman]

spit on her pussy next time

[cherryiceangel]

spit on her pussy next time
Okay that is so gross. My friends and I have all had a guy do this.
I mean you're all in the mood and the guy is standing in front of you...and ya think he is going to start but then he decides that no there needs to be a bit more lube. So he just spits on you...thats gross, and such a turn off. I (along with my friends) have all gotten up and went to take a shower.

Oral is one thing but to just simply spit, totally not acceptable. IMO

[Pablo]

But either way if shes turned on enough it'll be plenty wet, spitting on it wont make it wet enough anyway if her own juices arent coming out, why dont you stop being selfish and actually get her excited?

[pughman]

i knew i'd get some girls with that one!!!! BAHAHAHAH!! i dont do that ! just kiss on her neck ,and rub your dick on her pussy ..she'll get hot!!!

[Woog]

foreplay or Ultraglide (at your local drug store)
depending on if Mom and Dad will be back in an
hour or ten minutes. Just be careful what hole
ya aim for bucko. Some chicks don't like da back
door man.

[malina]

in the right mood i dont find a little spit gross. but .. not for a first time with a girl.. get to know her desires and limitations. ok.. everyone here is assuming it was bird's fault that he couldnt get it in further .. but that is also not necessarily true. anyway, getting a girl all hot and bothered is the best way to go if in fact lack of lube was the problem here... second best.... lube from drugstore works wonders. spitting does not suffice and girl may not enjoy it depending on her. as far as answering the question.. was it sex or not? well... thats up to you man.. do you feel it was sex?

[NaykidApe]

As soon as you start talking about your date to your buddies it officailly becomes sex, no matter what really happened.

[mebesideme]

lol, that's priceless. But unfortunately so true. Anyway, foreplay is a good thing to learn about. Make sure you are both ready for it before you actually penetrate her. If you are planning on a quickie, keep her horny all day until the tie you can actually go at it. My ex and I had lots of fun like this. We were alone together in the daytime a lot at her house, just hanging out doing whatever. If one of us was horny we'd drop little hints. If the other was ok, we'd "play". Basically we wouldn't start fucking yet, but we would tease each other randomly, like I would come up to her while she was washing dishes, lick her neck, grope a little, and just be naughty. We would both do that to each other until we couldn't stand it any more, and then just go fuck and make each other come a few times til were both tired. Then take a shower together and sart over. Good times.

[kelticman]

The legal definition of sex is penetration. No penetration = no sex.

Don't worry, you'll get there.