Do you think you have a community

[Samhain]

I think Bisexulity seems to be the most misunderstood area of sexuality, legal sexuality I mean!

gay men have a very definate gay scene and so do women, transexuals have clubs and support symtems.
I might just be being ignorent, but there doesn't seem so much in place for Bi people and so much misunderstanding 'they're being greedy' 'they are home wreckers' 'they're just confused'
statements that if applied to the gay or transexual community would lead to mass anger, but somehow seems more acceptable in the biworld

any thoughts?

S

[ihmurria]

There are a lot of assumptions about bisexuality and they annoy the piss out of me. The biggest one I've run into though is the assumption that because you're bi, you want to date both a man and a woman at the same time. That you want a polyamorous relationship, that you can't possibly handle monogamy because you think all genders are wonderful. I've heard it from straight people, gay people and a few bisexual people too (who, realistically, were being greedy - they wanted to fuck whoever they wanted but didn't want their partners to be able to pursue others, but such folks are a rarity)

Just because I'm bi doesn't mean I'm a raving slut who'll fuck anyone alive. Seriously. *grumbles*

[Samhain]

There are a lot of assumptions about bisexuality and they annoy the piss out of me. The biggest one I've run into though is the assumption that because you're bi, you want to date both a man and a woman at the same time. That you want a polyamorous relationship, that you can't possibly handle monogamy because you think all genders are wonderful. I've heard it from straight people, gay people and a few bisexual people too (who, realistically, were being greedy - they wanted to fuck whoever they wanted but didn't want their partners to be able to pursue others, but such folks are a rarity)

Just because I'm bi doesn't mean I'm a raving slut who'll fuck anyone alive. Seriously. *grumbles*
you know I wasn't suggesting that yeah?
I've always seen it in terms of loving 'people' Bipeople love both genders, but that doesn't mean that when it comes down to it they are incapable of loving just one person
S

[ihmurria]

you know I wasn't suggesting that yeah?
I've always seen it in terms of loving 'people' Bipeople love both genders, but that doesn't mean that when it comes down to it they are incapable of loving just one person
S
:confused: you were asking about misunderstandings that bisexual people had experienced due to their sexuality yes? That's what I was responding to.

[Samhain]

:confused: you were asking about misunderstandings that bisexual people had experienced due to their sexuality yes? That's what I was responding to.
yep, just was making sure you didn't think i was making those assumptions myself

but going on, gay and straight people often have more than one type, like a woman might like blondes and brunettes, but people wouldn't say that in that case she going to want to have both at the same time, so i don't see the difference with bi people and gender if you get what i'm saying
S

[mynameiskc]

you know, i never knew that there was any sort of harshness against bisexuals. it's kinda funny to me. i've never been overly concerned with what people think of my choices, i guess i never paid attention. for the most part, though, i try to figure out why they feel the way they do and address it personally. never once has anyone told me i'm just being greedy or that i need to pick a side. sweeping statements aside, which should be emotionally ignored and rationally addressed.

[ihmurria]

yep, just was making sure you didn't think i was making those assumptions myself

but going on, gay and straight people often have more than one type, like a woman might like blondes and brunettes, but people wouldn't say that in that case she going to want to have both at the same time, so i don't see the difference with bi people and gender if you get what i'm saying
SWow, you actually think I'm dense enough to have thought that about you?


KC, it's funny, because any weird reactions I've gotten have only been on the internet. And, the bulk of them on hipforums vs any other internet communication I use. Never as a personal attack or anything, but this sort of "oh, I thought all bi people wanted to have a relationship with multiple people" sort of reaction, it's very strange.

[Samhain]

Wow, you actually think I'm dense enough to have thought that about you?


KC, it's funny, because any weird reactions I've gotten have only been on the internet. And, the bulk of them on hipforums vs any other internet communication I use. Never as a personal attack or anything, but this sort of "oh, I thought all bi people wanted to have a relationship with multiple people" sort of reaction, it's very strange.
do you think having a bi forum would help, and ihmurria I don't think your dense although sometimes i get insecure about upseting people
S

[ihmurria]

do you think having a bi forum would help, and ihmurria I don't think your dense although sometimes i get insecure about upseting people
S
It might help yeah, if nothing else it's a place to vent about some of the stuff people have to deal with in terms of their sexuality. *shrugs*

I'm comfortable with who I am so it's not a big deal to me, it's just silly what some people think when they hear bi. And the assumption that because I'm bi I automatically must want to end up in a threesome is hilarious.

[mrpwonder]

I agree with kc..I've never had anyone make comments or reactions to the fact i'm bi vs. gay or straight. I guess i've been lucky..



you know, i never knew that there was any sort of harshness against bisexuals. it's kinda funny to me. i've never been overly concerned with what people think of my choices, i guess i never paid attention. for the most part, though, i try to figure out why they feel the way they do and address it personally. never once has anyone told me i'm just being greedy or that i need to pick a side. sweeping statements aside, which should be emotionally ignored and rationally addressed.