i dont know wether i am bi or straight

[toxic90210]

hey yall,

I have wondering about this for a long time now because im not that attracted to guys but, then again i am. ok let me explain:

I know i am attracted to girls because, thats what i fantasize about most, but also when i see a very good looking guy i feel sort of attracted to him. But i only fantasize about oral sex with guys, never anything else, anal sex with guys just doesnt appeal to me. Also another thing, i supposedly 'like gay music' (i listen to stuff like justin timberlake, britney , christina, brandy,...ect) Also sometimes people say im gay because i like fashion and im good at interior desgin and stuff like that (i know thats somthing dumb to decide upon)
But, i dont have the 'gay lisp' and i dont act feminine in any other way, im actually very masculine like. My 3 best friends are 2 girls and a guy who seems gay to me but u can never tell. im am in no way attracted to him, so he doesnt really matter.

so, i know ive rambled on and stuff, but i just wanted to share this and see what u guys thought (im new here, but ive read alot of sutff on here b4)

also another thing. i support gay people, like when someone says somthing about gays negativly im always like, uh thats dumb u shouldnt say that its ignorant. ANd i do it automaticly, i dont even think of what im saying

im guesing im bisexual (like 25% gay or somthing)
anyway, thanks for reading:)

[VieBon]

Ah well, just go with what you think I guess because people might tell ya other things.

[Samhain]

so forget about the music and the clothes comments thats just sterotyping and isn't helpful instead think about your emotional and sexual attractions to the sexes.
but above all stop worrying, you may well fine it depends on the person not their sex and hey if you can find happiness with someone that sexuality isn't really such a big issue
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[yarapario]

You sound just fine to me...Why do you have to choose a label for yourself...you're you first of all. If you mostly like girls but sometimes the right boy really appeals..ahh, life is good. So many beautiful people...love the one you're with! And if ya wanna get technical, find the Kinsey scale somewhere and pick your label...best of all...Enjoy!

[sentient]

Also another thing, i supposedly 'like gay music' (i listen to stuff like justin timberlake, britney , christina, brandy,...ect) All you need now is a Tina Turner album, a Kylie minogue single, and a Gloria Gaynor album and thats it - you definitely will have the right credentials to leave your girlfriend for. I suggest you get a George Michael single and all of Boy Georges records too but boy george and George Michael in the collection would just be showing off rather than the real thing.

Also flout around saying things to people like "ooh what have you been up to - you smell like an old dolphin"

[KewlDewd66]

Yeah, leave out the labels for the time being. You are a young guy and you wanna go out and have some fun.

Take your time and explore. Once you reach a safe conclusion and feel comfortable about sharing it with the others, you'll do that, too.

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[mushie18]

As stated above, forget about labels.

Don't bother yourself thinking about it, you have plenty of time to figure it out.

[ihmurria]

so forget about the music and the clothes comments thats just sterotyping and isn't helpful instead think about your emotional and sexual attractions to the sexes.
but above all stop worrying, you may well fine it depends on the person not their sex and hey if you can find happiness with someone that sexuality isn't really such a big issue
S
Exactly!

Remember, a lot of people (myself include) subscribe to a belief in a scale of sexuality - at one end there's 100% straight, the other 100% homosexual and bisexual completely in the middle, but there are varyign shades between them. I'm somewhere between bi and straight myself.

As for the defending homosexuality thing, even if you end up feeling like you're straight, that behaviour is typically called "Ally"... our LGTBA on campus (lesbian gay transexual bisexual and ally) welcomes allies too for sure, basically just people who are accepting of various forms of sexuality without judgement or prejudice. Acceptance is awesome.

[mynameiskc]

well, also, you might just be open to finding love somewhere outside the typical conventions of love. you might just be more open to finding the right person, whether male or female, though you definitely lean towards female. no one is ever exactly like another person. for me, being bi means one thing. for you, it may just be that you have one or two experiences that you never regret.