You totally arn't gay [Archive]

Stella_Drives

11-30-2006, 11:23 AM

erzebet1961

11-30-2006, 11:38 AM

Too Funny.....I was told that I cant be gay becasue I wear dresses all the time , and I like velvets and laces.....I just looked at the person and told them to check with my girlfriend at the time ...and ask her if Im gay.....the guy shut up....and never did ask her !!!

hellaclean

11-30-2006, 01:03 PM

yesterday i had a conversation with my classmate during physics:
mate:look at that chick, she's f*ckable, innit?
me: dunno, taste might differ
mate: oh, come on, just tell me
me: i guess u have a completely different taste
mate: so, r u rly gay?
me: does it rly matter?
mate: aha, u got spotted
me: i've never said that i'm str8
mate: no, u can't be gay coz u don have a tah gay lisp, walk, gestures. maybe thing is that girlz don like u so u r tryin to find any kind of sex?
me: nope, i've never liked girlz sexually...
mate: yeah, right, and how about that girl u allways hang our with?
me: she's lesbian so there is no way we like each other sexually
teacher: keep silence plz when i'm talkin!!!

(during the brake he said that he hates gay-ppl and they must be executed but he doesn't believe that i'm one of them)

Rue Takedo

11-30-2006, 04:11 PM

Makes me glad I'm out of high school. *shudder* The worst I got was "What's with the rainbows? You gay or something?" or "You CAN'T be bisexual! You're either gay or straight, you just haven't decided yet! Get off the fence!" ....That stung a bit then, but compared to what I saw happen to some gay (or perceived as gay) people I knew, I got off easy.

The college I went to was very accepting though...the Pride club was wonderful.

*Minxy*

11-30-2006, 04:53 PM

well being a bo girl also havin a gay baby bro, ive heard many comments made towards being gay like "why is he gay" "has he been with a girl" "i bet i can turn him straight" (yess silly comments)

being bi ive had ppl say to me "theres no such thing as bi, ur rather gay or straight... no inbetweens*

i mean how hard is it for ppl to understand that some ppl caant help it if they are sexually attracted to both male and female

Stella_Drives

11-30-2006, 06:18 PM

I think it worse if your bi because I've heard gay people say they hate bi people because they are not really gay and I've heard straight people say they hate bi people because they arn't straight!!!

SelfControl

11-30-2006, 08:10 PM

If she's joking then meh. If not just tell her she's a nob.

Most people don't believe I'm gay. Strange people.

mushie18

11-30-2006, 09:31 PM

When I first came to school, no one would believe I was gay.

They said I was doing it to hook up with chicks :rolleyes:

I could have cared less.

SelfControl

11-30-2006, 11:01 PM

That's the one thing I never had, and I think it helped; I only got female attention of any kind once I'd come out, and I guess it put paid to those accusations that I didn't take any of them up on it.

l-foote

12-01-2006, 03:23 AM

i'm not openly bi at high school because people are biiitch and looooove to stereotype and be homophobic. i'll probably be more open about it when i'm done with all the high school bullshit

CrazybutLazy

12-01-2006, 03:59 AM

I'm not out at my school. My town is very conservative. In the last year or so, my town has STARTED to accept the fact that black people live near us. If I came out, I would be killed. I mean that literally, too.

amp7325

12-01-2006, 04:58 AM

I'm really sorry about that Crazy. *sends love* That must be really hard.

There have been some people who haven't believed that I'm gay. Actually, my friend told me that another friend was talking to someone about me being gay or something like that, and the person she was talking to said, "No, he's not gay. I heard that he double teamed Crystal (my friend who told me this) with some other guy." That cracked me up.

Nobody's really been an asshold to my face about it. I have heard other people tell me what they've heard though. I started hanging out with this guy (he's gay, but we were just hanging out as friends) and hardly anyone else knows he's gay. And he's got this tough guy image that he upholds on the outside. And he said that this other friend of his kept asking why he was "hanging out with that fag" and stupid shit like that.

mrpwonder

12-02-2006, 04:09 AM

Being bi I've heard that alot...I think it worse if your bi because I've heard gay people say they hate bi people because they are not really gay and I've heard straight people say they hate bi people because they arn't straight!!!

SelfControl

12-02-2006, 04:12 AM

Gay "biphobics" piss me off immensely.

CrazybutLazy

12-02-2006, 08:51 PM

I'm really sorry about that Crazy. *sends love* That must be really hard.
Thanks, amp. Yeah, it's tough. But I've also told two of my very good friends and they seem to be totally cool with it. Maybe things will get better faster than I thought.

Lanze

12-02-2006, 10:52 PM

I get the same thing almost. "You can't be gay you have no fashion sense, and your more masculine than most guys at this school!!" alot of my friends who are girls originally supposed liked me and then found out i was gay, I felt bad but they got over it. Alot of my friends who are female even make a joke out of it, heck even some friends who are straight guys, I have a "straight boyfriend" lol.

I go to a Catholic school though so people are so homophobic and ignorant and I've been slowly changing their close minded views by being out and just being another guy who happens to like guys. I'm also working on spreading open minded ness for other religions, especially the lack of a religion in Atheism and Agnosticism. I'm very loud about my Libertarian views and frankly, the school hates it, but most people have learned that having dissenting views can make life more interesting through me and that it is a good thing to share the world with people with many different views.

AutumnsMoonChild

12-02-2006, 11:16 PM

Gay "biphobics" piss me off immensely.Yes...what is the sense in being prejudice against someone because of their sexual orientation? Also, the homosexuals who hate heterosexuals as well as the bisexuals...hating someone because of their sexual orientation is just plain hypocritical and ignorant, whether you're gay or not.

*Andy*

12-03-2006, 01:55 AM

I haven't read all of this, but a few months before I realised that I was gay, I had a rather heated argument with these morons from my school. They claimed that all gay people are evil and "God hates them" and that all gay people are going to hell. They also said that they were going to kill a whole lot of gay people when they grow up. Not very pleasant..I think I actually saved that conversation somewhere..Anyway rather sick people.

As for that moron who keeps saying you're not gay..Just ignore them tell them to just leave it..I think that they might actually like you and might be confused about their own sexuality and are trying to make sure that you're gay so that they can talk to you..something like that?

oshinn

12-04-2006, 11:51 PM

why do people try to argue with a person about their sexuality?... it would make more sense to me to have some religious person chastise me for being gay than try to tell me i'm not... that's like saying "oh, the sky's not blue you just think it is. you'll know better when you're older" etc...

as for biphobics they piss me off. i understand where they're coming from especially now that 'bisexuality' has been sensationalised and it's really disappointing to start to date a girl only to find out she just wants to see what kissing a girl is like or wants to have a threesome to please her boyfriend... but i have never felt comfortable in the gay community, just because i'm bisexual. i am very open and vocal about it, but i think lesbians don't take me seriously and think it's just some phase i'm going to get over. i would think that homosexuals would be more openminded about the idea of people exploring their sexuality than straight people.. but who can make that judgement?..

i work at a restaurant and my fellow expediter is a lesbian and very open about it. the cooks, who are all mexican, believe she is just a girl who needs a good dicking to set her straight. since i can understand spanish and she can't they're always asking me to tell her things from them... and every time you do i holler, "she's a lesbian you morons, it doesn't matter" she always laughs about it but i know it gets on her nerves.

safe to say that everywhere you go no matter what you're into or how you are people are going to bug you about it. :)

moonlightdelerium

12-05-2006, 12:02 AM

When I went to book camp over the summer I was in the bathroom and the girls were having a conversation about how *God Forbid* a girl had tapped one of there asses and how offended they were. I was like, "Ahem, I'm bisexual", and their response was "At least you like guys too".

Rainbow Starlite

12-05-2006, 03:21 PM

I came out at college- I talk about my girlfriend openly with my good friend at school. Just friendly, normal "OH I see my girl this weekend! I can't wait!" type stuff. Now everyone knows and a few people have said "NO way! Really?" But not in a rude way. One guy didn't believe me (but he wasn't being a dick or anything) so I opened the laptop and showed him a not too racey but very cute pic of us kissing and he finally believes me LOL

If somebody says those things they probably are just curious or can't understand it bc they never experienced it. Most people are honestly pretty cool with it I have found.

sun_heart_girl

12-05-2006, 04:29 PM

I think it worse if your bi because I've heard gay people say they hate bi people because they are not really gay and I've heard straight people say they hate bi people because they arn't straight!!!
Nah, I prefer being bi. That way both gay and straight people feel you understand them. I guess it works one of two ways: Everyone accepts you, or no-one does.

a_rabid_pineapple

12-05-2006, 11:16 PM

Nah, I prefer being bi. That way both gay and straight people feel you understand them. I guess it works one of two ways: Everyone accepts you, or no-one does.
That's exactly how I feel about it.

Stella_Drives

12-07-2006, 05:21 AM

I met my friend's friend Kerrianne last weekend in NYC and I started talking about my girlfriend and such. Kerrianne just stared at me and said "but... you're too pretty to be gay. You're wearing a Burberry scarf for god's sake!!!" She was really really freaked out I guess... Hahaha

Writing Rainbow

12-10-2006, 04:51 AM

Nah, I prefer being bi. That way both gay and straight people feel you understand them. I guess it works one of two ways: Everyone accepts you, or no-one does.
And....you get a bigger pond to choose from.

*Andy*

12-10-2006, 05:49 AM

I think the thing about bi people that annoys some gay people, is that they have the option of "being straight" and not having to go through all the crap that gay people have to go to. Also I think (some) gay people feel that people who are bi dont totally understand what it's like to be properly in love with the same sex. Not sure if you understand what I mean but I hope you do.

rain_in_summer

12-10-2006, 03:00 PM

I don't think bi people can "decide" to "stay straight", as having the ability to fall in love with people of both sexes doesn't mean you can choose who you fall for.

Oh and @topic: My girlfriend's mum once asked me: "How come you don't look gay?" which was meant as a joke though. And some friends I came out to said they would never have guessed, but there was noone who said I couldn't be gay. ^^

bkcmar

12-10-2006, 11:21 PM

it is so horrible the things one must endure. high school was an absolute torture. i did not fit into the male sterotype as a youth, young adult. i was into art, acting and i hated sports.

the ignorant comments, the name calling, the idiotic perceptions of what a gay/les/bi/trans person looks like, dresses, speaks, behaves are unbelievable.

ignore those that belittle you. seek out supportative friends. stella, does the school you attend have a gay organization? people that make such comments have closed minds and are unwilling to see us as the wonderfully diverse people that we are.

lutsko67

01-30-2007, 03:59 PM

R u a lez? Really? OMG!!
You were such a pretty girl when you were little. Is it because your mom sent you 2 Catholic school? But you are so pretty in dresses, you have such nice legs and a big bosum!! Does your mom know??<-------- that 1 really cracks me up when asked.
Yep, typical questions I get whenever I run into my mom s old friends and they find out. Now, my answers 2 those questions............ready? U better pee 1 st or you might pee ur pants laughing!!

My answers:::

1.Yes I really am a Lez.
2. I know I was pretty when I was little, now I m very cute and sexy!! hehe
3. Yes, its def. mom s fault( a typical blame our parents answer lmao)
Yes,you see, it s mom s fault cause all those short skirts, knee highs, and see thru white blouses w/the little bow ties( ewwwwww I so hated the bow tie thingys, I really wanted to wear a real tie like the boys and long pants)
4. I still have nice legs, even if I now have tattoes on them and my g/f just loves my bosum!! She snuggles up 2 them every chance she gets!!
5. Yes, my mom knows I am and guess what? She still loves me 4 it and being myself and being happy.
The answers? Cute
The look on their faces when all questions are answered? priceless!!
LMAO but still all is true.

Sunburst

02-19-2007, 03:43 AM

The easiest way to deal:

"You're not really gay."
"Uh, yeah I am actually."
"Prove it."
"No, I don't really care if you believe me or not. Go ahead."

It always worked for me in high school. You don't have to try to prove your sexuality to anyone, that's just silly, and let them know that! The harder you try to prove it, the more it'll seem like you're doing it for attention ;)

Bocks

02-25-2007, 04:36 AM

The worst thing I heard wasn't actually in relation to me specifically. It was something about how gay men aren't allowed to donate blood in some places. Someone said to me "well, at least that way they're not passing their gay gene on to anyone else."

I've just finished high school, and although I haven't openly come out (to me, coming out is telling your parents. Once my parents know, it really doesn't make a HUGE difference to me who else does, because I've already told most of the important people in my life), I am CERTAINLY way more relaxed since I left high school. I wouldn't, under ANY circumstances, have come out at high school.

In my first year at my last high school, I was found writing a letter to a friend (a FRIEND), and it began with "My dearest, darling", and the name of the person I was writing to. For that, I was cornered and questioned by people I barely knew about my sexuality. That was probably what put me off coming out at high school...

FangHether,

04-07-2007, 07:03 PM

my situation was kind of opposite. in highschool, people would ask if i were a lesbian, and when id say "No, Im Bi" they wouldnt believe me. i honestly have no clue what made them think i was completely homosexual. and if ever i asked, i never got a straight answer.

And for reasons that are vague, i dislike calling myself bi. i prefer to say im 'open to love'. Maybe its because I get kind of annoyed with girls that say theyre bi, when theres no indication that they truly are. i am not sure if its 'in' to be bi, cause its a like a 'bi-bomb' went off and there are hundreds of 15 year old girls saying they are. ahh, i get frustrated but what does it matter. i know myself alot better now, and thats all that matters. right/
I didnt realize i could like girls until i was 14, when i had my first girl crush [which was heart-aching, she was straight and i was hurt that nothing could ever happen between us]. To this day, i prefer girls over guys. So if bisexual werent a word, and you had to be either gay or straight. id be gay for suure.

im super boggle-headed. so i hope you can make sense of this ...

one_hip_mama

04-13-2007, 03:23 PM

I am bi but married, so I don't get many comments because not many people know... My friend, however, was at a party not too long ago. She is a lesbian, and was sitting on her girlfriends lap... a girl at the party walked right up to her and told her she couldn't be a lesbian because she was wearing high heels! OK, She's sitting on her girlfriends lap, kissing her and holding her hand, with a shirt on that says " I dig chicks" What the hell do high heels have to do with anything??!!?

GoogleIsMyGod

04-13-2007, 11:22 PM

My ex boyfriend told me he doesn't think I'm a lesbian. I dated him when I was fifteen. I was more than vastly confused. And, more to the point, we never did anything. Ever. I mean, not anything. But he thinks the fact that we were "boyfriend/girlfriend" in name means something. He said, "maybe you're bi...maybe." Then I was like, "Dude...I have a girlfriend. And I don't like boys." And then I told him who my girlfriend was and it turned out he had a crush on the girl. Go figure. But that's about the most homophobic anybody has been to me yet. I go to a VERY liberal school.

I did have people tell me I was a lesbian before I ever came out though.

We_All_Shine_On

04-18-2007, 04:34 AM

flirt with her.

The Beat Poetess

05-25-2007, 06:22 AM

So for the past couple of months I've been fighting with a girl in one of my classes if I was gay or not. The chats usually go like this
"Are you really gay?"
"Yep"
"I don't believe you"
"Well, it's true"
And that goes on for hours.
Today she told me "I dont think your gay because lesbians can't get men. That's why they are gay! I look at you and I can totally see you hooking up with guys!" and then "You dont look gay!!! Your clothes are so cute and neat, you never wear flannel!!!"

Toooottttallly. Uhgggg ignorance!!!
I had no idea how to respond to this.

What are some of the most ignorant things you have heard about homosexuals/homosexuality? HOW the hell did you respond more importantly?!

Lesbians can't get men?! Someone needs to educate this girl.

It bothers me when people try to decide your sexuality for you, period. I had a close friend who was a male lesbian, and needless to say he was quite effeminate (he considered himself a woman). However, he didn't want to tell people because he knew he wouldn't be accepted. Everyone continued to push him towards men and make gay jokes, even when he explained that he liked women.

Society has a habit of categorizing people into binaries based on stereotypes.

Rigamarole

05-25-2007, 08:25 AM

tyrak

06-01-2007, 07:38 PM

lol, who knows? i have yet to convince any of my friends, even my best friend who is gay wont believe me... and this would be after actually having been with women...
i think it has to do with dissonance, people have a set way of thinking, and when anything arises to contradict that, they dont like it not making sense, so they fight to keep it the way it is in their heads... instead of simply changing the way they think, they deal with it by denying it...

MojofanXY

09-06-2007, 10:27 PM

Try explaining to this ignorant girl that not every lesbian is a certain way.

Maybe think of some examples.

NatureBoy93

09-07-2007, 12:08 AM

My sisters response to me saying I'm not Christian was. "... yes you are." lol. and I said i really wasnt and she yell "YES YOU ARE!" lol.

If shes into followign gossip and stereotypes shes not very informed. hasnt she ever heard of the "Im a lesbian" "thats so hot" thing that tends to be thrown around in tv shows and movies. and dotn forget that alot of guys look up lesbian porn.

jolie

09-10-2007, 01:18 AM

I once told a guy I was a lesbian, and he just kept on with the offers of "going back to his house to talk". He would hang around outside my house, yelling in the middle of the street for me to come outside.

I'd yell out the window: "Leeeesbiiiiaaaaan!!!!"

Albatron

09-10-2007, 07:13 AM

Wow, I guess I've gotten off easy so far. I got a few "really?" and "this isn't just to be trendy is it?" but after I confirmed that I was indeed bi, everybody seemed ok with it. And I think some the disbelief was because I was pretty good at hiding my bi-ness

whatshappenin23

10-18-2007, 07:24 AM

i'm not openly bi at high school because people are biiitch and looooove to stereotype and be homophobic. i'll probably be more open about it when i'm done with all the high school bullshitI know this is the girls only club and im gonna get deleted, but I just wanted to say...if a girl as cute as you told me she was bisexual in highschool. Id do more than accept you!