SageDreamer
07-28-2004, 04:12 PM
I had a really weird experience yesterday, and I'd really like some feedback from some other gay folks.
Yesterday afternoon I was coming home on the bus, listening to my Walkman, and this guy asked me what I was listening to. He asked me if my name was... (and said my name!) and if I lived on a certain street (my street!). He only gave his first name, and I thought at first that it was someone else with his same first name. Then it dawned on me who it was. It was the first gay person I'd ever met, back when we were in our teens. He had even asked to be my lover after we'd known each other a few years, but I said no because I had met someone else and was kind of serious about him. Besides, we were two very different people who didn't have much else in common and I was getting ready to go out of state to college.
I think one of the reasons I doubted it was him when I saw him because he was with a woman who had her hand on his leg and was sort of hanging all over him. We talked a bit about where we'd been and what was going on with our families, etc. Not much really heavy or personal came up.
We talked about getting together and talking more later. I'm certainly intensely curious to hear about more of the details and changes. I wrote my name and number on a slip and he took it saying he would call. I'd give even odds at best that he'll call; he's couch surfing among his mother's house, his brother's house and his sister's house. He is in town only because his mother is dying of cancer.
What I really want to ask him is is he's str8 or bi or what, and just how did he come to where he is now. Even though he's certainly crossed my mind many times over the years--even to the point of Googling him on the Net--I've never thought of him as husband material.
Assuming he actually does call or I see him again, I'm not sure what the best way to handle this is. Any insights?
Yesterday afternoon I was coming home on the bus, listening to my Walkman, and this guy asked me what I was listening to. He asked me if my name was... (and said my name!) and if I lived on a certain street (my street!). He only gave his first name, and I thought at first that it was someone else with his same first name. Then it dawned on me who it was. It was the first gay person I'd ever met, back when we were in our teens. He had even asked to be my lover after we'd known each other a few years, but I said no because I had met someone else and was kind of serious about him. Besides, we were two very different people who didn't have much else in common and I was getting ready to go out of state to college.
I think one of the reasons I doubted it was him when I saw him because he was with a woman who had her hand on his leg and was sort of hanging all over him. We talked a bit about where we'd been and what was going on with our families, etc. Not much really heavy or personal came up.
We talked about getting together and talking more later. I'm certainly intensely curious to hear about more of the details and changes. I wrote my name and number on a slip and he took it saying he would call. I'd give even odds at best that he'll call; he's couch surfing among his mother's house, his brother's house and his sister's house. He is in town only because his mother is dying of cancer.
What I really want to ask him is is he's str8 or bi or what, and just how did he come to where he is now. Even though he's certainly crossed my mind many times over the years--even to the point of Googling him on the Net--I've never thought of him as husband material.
Assuming he actually does call or I see him again, I'm not sure what the best way to handle this is. Any insights?