Court Today

[warmhandedcanadian]

I just want to get into the house. That's it that's it. I told him my car broke down and he basically said that's my problem. I can see clearly now. I am wearing black capri dress pants and a black blouse. Do they still call them blouses? I was going to wear pink but I have a red hairclip in so it wouldnt match right. Should I wear boots or high heeled sandals? I'm so nervous. I hate him again. I think he did use me. I am kicking his ass once I get this charge dropped. I will kick it legal-like. If I wear sandals my tatoo will show, that may make me look like more of an abuser no? You guys are all woking and stuff today I'm all aloooone. wahhh

group hug!!!!!!

*waits for group hug.

[hippychickmommy]

{{{HUGS}}} Jess. Hang in there, and let us know how it all goes afterwards. I'll be thinking of you.

Oh, and go with the boots. http://www.hipforums.com/forums/images/smilies/smile.gif

[warmhandedcanadian]

ok thanks!

*muah mommy

[andcrs2]

Stop.
Concentrate.

Feel us? *s*

[ihmurria]

*HUGS*


(I vote boots)

[Samhain]

hugs, feel your internet family we are all behind you 100%
come on everyone send Jess postive energy she is in court today!
S

[seamonster66]

I can already sense that you have won, or are winning right now

[warmhandedcanadian]

nope, it was remanded, no change at all ..... tomorrow I go see my lawyer and try to get D outta the house somehow.

[andcrs2]

Remanded?
Is that Good? Expected?

Calmed down yet?
Court's usually a bitch...

[seamonster66]

glad to hear, so now time to go on the offensive?

[warmhandedcanadian]

Right he obviously never approached the crown as I had hoped. I have to look out for myself now.

[seamonster66]

I think thats for the best at least right now, you get to be back with your kids now though right?

[warmhandedcanadian]

I'm not apart from them except that I cant go home and I cant communicate to him without a third party still. I am thinking of not taking them this weekend. I just dont have suitable arrangements and D is using me .... to his advantage in more ways than just with "babysitting".... its complicated I'm tired. Im sick of this. I'm lonely to boot.
I think if I dont take them he will be enouraged to better support me coming home.

[Samhain]

I'm not apart from them except that I cant go home and I cant communicate to him without a third party still. I am thinking of not taking them this weekend. I just dont have suitable arrangements and D is using me .... to his advantage in more ways than just with "babysitting".... its complicated I'm tired. Im sick of this. I'm lonely to boot.
I think if I dont take them he will be enouraged to better support me coming home.
so what does all this mean and where do you go now.
are you relieved its over for today, or does it still feel ongoing?
edit: felt like I was fireing to many questions at you after your busy day!
get in touch if you wanna talk! love ya
S

[warmhandedcanadian]

No nothing has changed except my lawyer pointed out to me that he is twisting my mind out. I cant talk to him, we are going to get him out of the house somehow or he will have to buy me out. I cant keep the kids with me in this crazy house, I havent had a vehicle for days, my parents are insane etc.

[hippychickmommy]

Oh geez, what crap.

[warmhandedcanadian]

Totally .........I'm so sad, I dream about him everynight....I'm pissed off after putting him through 5 years of schooling and this is how all the hard work paid off?

I miss my kids .

I still love him and I have to keep that to myself. I feel so stupid.

[hippychickmommy]

Don't feel stupid. I think what you're feeling is completely normal. You don't spend years with someone and have children together only to have your feelings just disappear overnight. You've been through hell, but I'm sure there were good times as well, and still having feelings for him does not make you stupid. You're human. Don't be so hard on yourself!

{{{Hugs}}}

[warmhandedcanadian]

thank you ... you make me cry today hippychickmommy

[hippychickmommy]

I'm sorry! I didn't mean to make you cry!

[warmhandedcanadian]

Oh its ok nothing new ..... I've been crying alot again. I am homesick.

[hippychickmommy]

I am homesick.
I can imagine. :( I really hope that things start looking up for you Jess. I'm so sorry that it's been such a crappy ride lately.

[andcrs2]

Totally .........I'm so sad, I dream about him everynight....I'm pissed off after putting him through 5 years of schooling and this is how all the hard work paid off?

I miss my kids .

I still love him and I have to keep that to myself. I feel so stupid.You have to close this Chapter of your Life period/ dot /end of subject

It only took me a coupla years to finally realize the necessity of closing mine/ admitting 'defeat'.
In Hindsight the 'defeat' was actually a Blessing in disguise.


Ever heard the saying 'Time heals all'?
It will in this instance given half a chance...

[Samhain]

Don't feel stupid. I think what you're feeling is completely normal. You don't spend years with someone and have children together only to have your feelings just disappear overnight. You've been through hell, but I'm sure there were good times as well, and still having feelings for him does not make you stupid. You're human. Don't be so hard on yourself!

{{{Hugs}}}
ou have put this perfectly, so i'm just going to say 'I agree!' and add another hug!
S

[ihmurria]

I'd make you a sundae and cuddle with you til you felt better, if I could
(platonicy, don't think I'm your type)
:(

I wish I could fix everything for you babe, I really do.

[warmhandedcanadian]

I'd make you a sundae and cuddle with you til you felt better, if I could
(platonicy, don't think I'm your type)
:(

I wish I could fix everything for you babe, I really do.awww thank you, yeah I'm considering women but I dont do the ... well you know.

[ihmurria]

d'accord
chicks make great cuddle buddies though

[warmhandedcanadian]

why is this a sticky????

[Lying in a field]

Because we love you and we want to be in your life.

*Hold's warmhand's hand in my own even though i know where its been*

You can be strong. :)

[Samhain]

Because we love you and we want to be in your life.

*Hold's warmhand's hand in my own even though i know where its been*

You can be strong. :)
yeah Jess thats why I made it a sticky and because I thought this was an important issue, for you and everyone who knows you.
if you feel uncomfortable with it, i can unstick for you
S

[Lying in a field]

yeah Jess thats why I made it a sticky and because I thought this was an important issue, for you and everyone who knows you.
if you feel uncomfortable with it, i can unstick for you
S
Jess's hand is sticky.

[warmhandedcanadian]

Jess's hand is sticky.ha ha....

Well its ok but I just feel like a "fuckin bring down the forum with my negativity hog".

Thanks again for the support.... I will try to post something joyful one day.






Maybe in July.

[andcrs2]

July's a Fine time to be Joyful.

Ya don't have to wait...... unless you choose to... *s*

[warmhandedcanadian]

Yeah I do I cant go home yet this fuckin sucks so bad. WHY would he hurt me so badly? Or is this my doing?

[andcrs2]

Yeah I do I cant go home yet this fuckin sucks so bad. WHY would he hurt me so badly? Or is this my doing?No doubt partially but what's done is done.

There are all sorts of Lessons for speculation/ to be learned.
One of the more important (as in immediate) is keeping your wits - chill.
It's not easy by any means but it's not optional.

It's amazing how Strong we actually are when put to the test.

Thinking of you,
A


Booze never helped me...... actually made things more acute.

[warmhandedcanadian]

No I'm not doing much to help myself that's for sure.

[andcrs2]

I wasn't either until one day and something clicked.
Don't remember what...... ahhh... yeah......
kiddoes are Good for something after all. *s*


Keep your chin up,
A

~~~~~~
Forgot to include above -
Sleep deprivation proved to be of more benefit than drinking......
at least for me.

[Samhain]

your actually a wise person on the queit andcrs2 and Jess I admire the honesty in all your posts which is much more important than trying to make them joyful
S

No doubt partially but what's done is done.

There are all sorts of Lessons for speculation/ to be learned.
One of the more important (as in immediate) is keeping your wits - chill.
It's not easy by any means but it's not optional.

It's amazing how Strong we actually are when put to the test.

Thinking of you,
A


Booze never helped me...... actually made things more acute.

[andcrs2]

ty *all uncomfortable*
I wouldn't wish her situation on anyone.


There is a Time for everything...

[warmhandedcanadian]

hey thanks guys.... I went out lastnight to an outdoor patio and had a seafood pizza at Earl's with Feta cheese and sundried tomatoes... was very good. Couple of drinks, coffee, a joint, and today I had a great day out with the kids. I made a new friend recently and we are going to a Louisiana shrimp boil next weekend .. with Hurricaine drinks... I made up with my best friend and the girl she was helping out moved out so she has room for me too ... However... she has NO COMPUTER.

a little concerned suddenly ...

I was happy a minute ago.

[Samhain]

hey thanks guys.... I went out lastnight to an outdoor patio and had a seafood pizza at Earl's with Feta cheese and sundried tomatoes... was very good. Couple of drinks, coffee, a joint, and today I had a great day out with the kids. I made a new friend recently and we are going to a Louisiana shrimp boil next weekend .. with Hurricaine drinks... I made up with my best friend and the girl she was helping out moved out so she has room for me too ... However... she has NO COMPUTER.

a little concerned suddenly ...

I was happy a minute ago.
lol the internet cafes are calling, glad things sound on the up
S

[warmhandedcanadian]

Court. Court

I know you all wanna know about court.


It got remanded ............ Until July but I dont have to go anymore ......my lawyer didn't show up until it was almost over.... I had to call her and "remind" her to come. She had it scheduled I dont know what the hell happened. Anyways I had to stand up and ... well then she walked in... my dad was so livid he called her a "fucker" or somthing.... He doesnt even swear.

After it was delayed again I freaked on my lawyer told her I have no where to liive (basically) etc. and that its my LIFE and my fuckin KIDS .... she took me to an office and called the Crown right then and there .... she says she will hopefully get the charges dropped by next week. Then we will get forceful with the husband.

thanks for all your concern everyone...
love yas
Jess

(:p so silly of me to ask a bunch of hippies for their opinions.... Maybe cause you dirty hippies CARE *huggerdoodles*)

[hippychickmommy]

I had to admit that I started giggling when I read your father called your lawyer a f*****. Oh that was too funny!

Anyway, I'm glad to hear that you don't have to go back to court again, which I'm sure is a huge weight off your chest, and even more glad to hear about the charges hopefully being dropped by next week. That's definitely good news!

{{{Hugs}}}

[seamonster66]

Awesome Jessica, finally things seem going in your favor, as we all know they should

[nimh]

i hope that everything gets resolved in a timely fashion. sometimes things take forever to happen. i cant believe that they wanted to wait so long, it's gotta be so tough on your kids, and on you :(

[warmhandedcanadian]

I can't believe myhusband would let it drag on for this long... I know that he is able to get some restrictions dropped at least- even if I had to still face the charges.

[Samhain]

well I hate to be selfish about this, but I wish they'd hurry up then I can send you a camp congratulations card!
S

[ihmurria]

hope it gets over with soon and vastly in your favour :( well, in the kids favour at the least, whatever that entail

[daisymae]

Glad things are moving along....:D As they say, you can always tell who your friends are when you are in trouble....

[fritz]

Missed it...
I do hope things look up for you though. Sounds like a slice of hell. :(

((((bighug))))

[AshtonsMom]

Court. Court

I know you all wanna know about court.


It got remanded ............ Until July but I dont have to go anymore ......my lawyer didn't show up until it was almost over.... I had to call her and "remind" her to come. She had it scheduled I dont know what the hell happened. Anyways I had to stand up and ... well then she walked in... my dad was so livid he called her a "fucker" or somthing.... He doesnt even swear.

After it was delayed again I freaked on my lawyer told her I have no where to liive (basically) etc. and that its my LIFE and my fuckin KIDS .... she took me to an office and called the Crown right then and there .... she says she will hopefully get the charges dropped by next week. Then we will get forceful with the husband.

thanks for all your concern everyone...
love yas
Jess

(:p so silly of me to ask a bunch of hippies for their opinions.... Maybe cause you dirty hippies CARE *huggerdoodles*)well hugs to you girl, and keep y our head up. :D

[andcrs2]

See? *big ol giant grin*

BTW I've been called many a name but never a 'hippie'.
Should I feel insulted or what? *takes another toke*

[warmhandedcanadian]

You guys have given me so much support... at the risk of sounding too cheesy

"I love you man"

[Samhain]

awwww
but we love you more!
S

[warmhandedcanadian]

NO (gets angry) I love you MORE!

[Samhain]

throws pussy at you and takes bra off head, come on then lets duel
S