so many scared?

[Fractual_]

man... almost every kid you meet these days has anxiety disorder or panic attacks or obvious insecurities...........its mind blowing... what could be the cause of it all?

[Lilyrayne]

Take a look around you... what isn't the cause of it all?

[Fractual_]

yea but its just nuts how such petty things can have such a big impact on us...

[Enonemouse]

I am not so sure you could call them petty.

My two youngest children (8 & 10) have gone through hell and back with their Daddy fighting in the Iraqi war, coming back a completely different nasty person to the fun loving father that went. Dealing with the rejection they now feel as he wants noting to do with any of us anymore. Also with more and better new coverage of these events they seem to know more about what is happening in Iraq then we ever did about what was happening in Nam back in the day. So the whole 9 months he was away they freaked out. It is nasty to say but I think they would have been better off had he been killed as at least they could have greaved then get on with life. The way it is now they see a man that looks like their Dad but isn't everyday. In a a way their Dad did die and this other horrible man replaced him but they can't see that or greave as he is still here. My main reason for moving back to Canada NOW! To get them away from the world crap they are living in.

They have also witnessed an attempted suicide by their older brother (very very recently). Who they love dearly and they both where hysterical while he was in the mental hospital being assessed as they didn't know if he was alright. He feels the worst about what it did to them more then anything else now that he is home.

These things weigh heavy on little minds and hearts so it is no wonder there are so many children with issues, there is far more in this world to have issues about now. Hell we live in the UK and they didn't sleep properly for 3 days after the twin towers and they where only 7 & 5 when that happened. I blame the news for why the children have so many more issues. Even if we don't watch it there are other children who do and they pass it on in a childs way which in turn freaks them out about it. We lived through Nam blissfully ignorant as children, the odd mention of a war someplace but we didn't have all the graphic news footage etc that they have now. Hell we had only just got a TV with its one channel then not 500 channels of complete crap.

I can't really call these petty things. My own childhood's most upseting events where things like Grandparents dying which is a fact of life and loosing a pet. I had a friend commit suicide but I was 17 by then and not really a child anymore. Not really a whole lot of real serious issues there when I was little.

Children these days deal with for more serious issues far earlier in life the we ever did, which is why I feel there are so many children with problems. I do the best I can with my kids sitting down explaining anything they don't understand or admitting I have no ideas why either as it was with their brother but you can't ever take worries away from children. Unfortunately these are the signs of the changing times and I hate every blasted minute of it. I want my children to be able to be children not mini grown-ups but the world won't let them.

Blessed be the children for they shall suffer our mistakes!!!

Love & Deep Aching Sadness
EnonEmouse

[white ginger]

I would say media and school. The media supplies us with everything we don't need, more than implies that we actually should be plastic„our skin must be some kind of mistake, and presents sexuality in unnatural ways, not to mention what mouse was talking about, other people's issues, and war. I think part of school is a reflection of the media. Kids watch tv and get their ideas and expectations of themselves and others from behind the screen, and pretty soon people start putting people down so they can stay up. And the teachers treat the kids with so little respect. Kids have a natural love for learning! It's instinct; it's built in; it's a thirst! But schools turn that around. It is a difficult and unhappy experience to be forced to learn. And those years are so important! It's when we are wiring up for adulthood!
I'm sure most people who read this has questioned the roots or our problems. I would say 1. Insecurity (lack of love) and 2. Misunderstandings.
I've let myself get sexually abused, hurt and other things, and all the people that hurt me didn't have a lot of love... so spread the love. I'm trying to put my insecurities aside to do that.

[dilligaf]

butttttttttttttt,,,, personally i think that society as a whole has weakened ,,,, been told n taught that we can have an excuse for anything n everything in life and then accept no responsibility for our actions and behaviors.... we have been told that this that n the other drug can cure what ails us be it mentally emotionally or physically.... the human race overall has become weakened through the years with modern technology etc and being catered n pampered to ,,,, things that would not have bothered us in the past now for whatever reason do and we allow ourselves to mentally be broken down ,,,,, i personallythink society as a whole is way over medicated and we are using drugs meds and labels for things to help us cope with day to day life rather than facing the trials and tribulations..

[white ginger]

I agree with you though. The things I said are not reasonable excuses. It's just what is.

[Fractual_]

that makes a lotta sense dilligaf... also about the school ruining kids curiosity makes some sense too.

[Heat]

What has happened?


I has become socially acceptable to blame and to take no responsibility for what we feel and do. It has become as catch all society of we blame others for what we do not or feel we can not face and then it is easy as we hold no ownership for anything that happens to us.

We have become a society of sheep.....a little pill to make it all better and a little blue pill to fix that too....

Called in most cases ( excluding medical conditions that require intervention) a society that simply wants to feel good.

[dilligaf]

What has happened?


I has become socially acceptable to blame and to take no responsibility for what we feel and do. It has become as catch all society of we blame others for what we do not or feel we can not face and then it is easy as we hold no ownership for anything that happens to us.

We have become a society of sheep.....a little pill to make it all better and a little blue pill to fix that too....

Called in most cases ( excluding medical conditions that require intervention) a society that simply wants to feel good.
thanks again heat ;) ,,, ya always say things so much more eloquently than i can,,,oh n luvyalots bythe way....:D

[sweatininthesouth]

Are kids really more messed up now than in the past when we were teens? Maybe society just brings teenage angst to the forefront now, more than we used to in the past. I knew alot of fucked up kids when I was in middle and high school, but no one had a label for erratic behavior back then, like ADD, ADHD, Anorexia/Bulimia, and all the other associated disorders. We just knew when a kid was acting strange and that kid would usually wind up in Juvenile Hall, prison or a mental ward.


But I also agree that our popular culture is negatively contributing to alot of the troubles our youth is experiencing. A parent really needs to be actively involved with their kids now more than ever because of the intensity of today's media, which we freely pump into our homes.