Ever take someone's virginity?

[lunchbox]

I have x5.

Karen S, Amy J, Amanda M, some chick at a party and Lorna D (yeech!)

[_orgazmik_]

Yes.

[Number6]

No, I prefer women who know what they like and have a good idea of what I will like before we get there.

[andcrs2]

/me reaches for knife to count notches.

[YankNBurn]

Once, shall never ever forget her or the night! She is forever burned into my mind, I can still see everything from that night like it was yesterday and many a years have past.

[ihmurria]

yep
one

[andcrs2]

/me reaches for knife to count notches.Not serious ^ ^ and not saying.

[Smelly Socks]

Yep. Quite a few. I won't mention any numbers, for I am ashamed. http://www.hipforums.com/forums/images/smilies/embarassed.gif

[Duck]

my own

[Duck]

No, I prefer women who know what they like and have a good idea of what I will like before we get there.you only say that as compensation

[Natedog]

Yup:p must have done good and taught her well - we were together 10 years after.

[wolfie65]

As my signature line implies...the answer is most definately 100% NO
Never have and never will.

[Duck]

As my signature line implies...the answer is most definately 100% NO
Never have and never will.hoping this doens't come off as rude, but why?

[BigKing]

First girl I ever slept with, and 3 since at their request not mine, gota go with Number6 on this, really not my thing. Although I’d rather they do it with someone who will be kind and gentle with them, I hate how many girls have bad first experience's.

[DQ Veg]

As my signature line implies...the answer is most definately 100% NO
Never have and never will.Aren't you proud of yourself!

[Duck]

First girl I ever slept with, and 3 since at their request not mine, gota go with Number6 on this, really not my thing. Although I’d rather they do it with someone who will be kind and gentle with them, I hate how many girls have bad first experience's.

wow
Saint BigKing: The Saint of Virginity-Taking


dude, stop with the Miss America bullshit

[ExistentialPencil]

Although I'm not entirely certain that Free Love is the most appropriate place for this thread, I'll leave it to the moderators to make the final judgements if they please.

I have taken the virginity of one person and I disliked it for a few reasons:

1: She didn't know what she was doing in the least and that made it very awkward for both of us, especially considering I wasn't really interested in teaching her anything, and wasn't really able if I had wanted to.

2:I hadn't, at the time, the respect or maturity to create a situation in which she wouldn't feel unsatisfied and regretful afterward. I assume to this day she does, as it happened on a bedroom floor with little preperation and little foreplay.

3: I wasn't in love with her and, at the time, was a very predatory individual on many levels and didn't care at all how she felt about the situation, just so long as I was pleased.

I think losing my virginity to someone who was also a virgin and to someone I cared for very deeply would have probably been a very beautiful thing, though, and anyone who's experienced the situation is a lucky person.

The situation, to me, is one to be regarded as a delicate one and discretion should be taken, as it is something that can only occur once, ofcourse. It all depends on how deeply you value your virginity and how you view sex, I suppose. If it doesn't mean much to you, the situation takes on a much lighter connotation, atleast.

[Supermegaman]

4

[wolfie65]

Aren't you proud of yourself!
To be honest YES I AM!!

[wolfie65]

hoping this doens't come off as rude, but why?
No it's not a rude question. I've been asked many times.
The answer is quite long so I won't bore everyone to death
with it....but simply....I'm not really THAT interested in having
sex with anyone. Happy enough to stay as I am!

[DQ Veg]

I'm not really THAT interested in having
sex with anyone. Happy enough to stay as I am!You know what I think? I think if you were so all-fired happy with being that way, you wouldn't go so far out of your way to emphasize to everybody that you're a virgin-I mean, half your posts on this forum (at least) have been about how proud you are to be a virgin. If you were so happy with your state of life, you wouldn't go so far out of your way to point out how different you are. As hipforum's resident lobotomist, that's my expert opinion.

[ihmurria]

No it's not a rude question. I've been asked many times.
The answer is quite long so I won't bore everyone to death
with it....but simply....I'm not really THAT interested in having
sex with anyone. Happy enough to stay as I am!
then,
um
why are you lurking about in the love and sex forums?

[Duck]

then,
um
why are you lurking about in the love and sex forums?could just be a curious person
I've lurked about the old hippies forum

[andcrs2]

Aren't you an Old Hippie?

[wolfie65]

You know what I think? I think if you were so all-fired happy with being that way, you wouldn't go so far out of your way to emphasize to everybody that you're a virgin-I mean, half your posts on this forum (at least) have been about how proud you are to be a virgin. If you were so happy with your state of life, you wouldn't go so far out of your way to point out how different you are. As hipforum's resident lobotomist, that's my expert opinion.
OK so maybe "happy" isn't the right word.

[johnschlong]

Sadly, I've had to do this quite a few times.

With my first girlfriend everything went pretty smoothly. But later experiences were less pleasant.

For some reason, girls always seem to pick me for their first experience, - probably because I'm a pretty relaxed dude in control of myself, and I'm kind of a listener who girls seem to trust.
I really have the impression that they use me for this reason: I'll use this guy to lose my virginity, and then I dump him so I can go out and have fun with the guys I really like. http://www.hipforums.com/forums/images/smilies/smile.gif http://www.hipforums.com/forums/images/smilies/confused.gif

But then the problem: each time I go with such a girl, she complains that it's "too big" and that it hurts too much. (I can tell you, I'm not "too big"). So this requires a lot of psychology and negotiation skills. Lying naked there, I have to convince them that it will only take a short time, and that it wouldn't be wise to go back. And so they give in.
Most often, this relationship then lasts for a days ("exercising") and that's it. http://www.hipforums.com/forums/images/smilies/confused.gif

All in all, I've helped about 25 girls like this. Lately, I try to be more of an asshole and a hysteric, when a virgin approaches me. I don't like to be used as a mere cock.

[RetroGroove_Grrl]

25 girls.... wow man, and thats just the virgins?

Crazy!

I've got two virginities under my sleeve as far as I know.... its not the best feeling in the world... because... you dont feel deserving of the honour

[johnschlong]

RetroGroove_Grrl, i'm an old man, I'm talking about a 'career' of more than 20 years. http://www.hipforums.com/forums/images/smilies/smile.gif Twenty years of free sex is a whole lot, trust me.
You're only 20 and already you've got two ticked! http://www.hipforums.com/forums/images/smilies/tongue.gif

[RetroGroove_Grrl]

thats two out of 11, and I'm not planning on many, if any, more

[johnschlong]

4 at least... i've been with alot of REALLY tight pussy that claimed not to be virgin though.. Strangely enough, I've been with a lot of 'loose' pussy that was virgin. I don't think all virgins have 'tight' vaggis. The hymen comes in many forms, and often it's already half-broken before a girl has sex.

[RetroGroove_Grrl]

tight usually means nervous.

I've been told that I'm tight though, by a few people. Sometimes it doesnt even fit in, which sucks, and that makes me tighter cos I feel bad. Or when it hurts, I clench up. My b/f said I'm the tightest girl he's been with ... that makes me feel happy

[andcrs2]

tight usually means nervous.Or religious 'exercising'.

They actually work...

[fexurbis]

Yep. Didn't notice any difference. Oh, and someone took my virginity too. LOL

[whereami]

I've only been with one virgin. It was fucking great. We had talked for awhile about her wanting to lose it soon before she graduated high school. She was 17 & I was 25 at the time (two years ago). She had a list of about 4 guys including myself that were potential prospects to pop her cherry. Of course I was the one who talk to her most so I was chosen to be the lucky guy. I had to set a few rules for her first: I'm not down with dating younger chicks at all,especially in their teens. So I pretty much told her that if this means that I'm gonna be her b/f or if she expected me to give her attention,like call her everyday & expect me to go with her to prom or whatever after we did it then she can go right ahead & choose another guy because I'm not going to have any drama from a 17 year old virgin.

I pretty much told her that it will more than likely hurt. I would be as gentle as I possibly could but even then I'm pretty sure it was going to hurt regardless if I was forceful or gentle with her. I'm pretty big,about 8 inches,so there was no way around that. I also told her not to expect some kind of fantasy like candles & flowers & all that crap that naive girls always think it's going to be like when they decide to lose it. I wasn't mean about it because I had known her for awhile & kinda considered her a friend of sorts but I was just being honest. She said it was all good & that she was ready. It took me a little while because I wasn't sure if she was just ready to lose it or if she was serious because the last thing I wanted was a teenager bugging me. So I finally got it over it...

Finally the day came when her parents weren't home. I went to her house & it was right out of a wet fantasy. She was as ready as ever,I took her to the bed,stripped her ass naked & admired this fresh,clean,untouched never-been-penetrated pussy right in front of me. I went down on her for a few minutes & just savored the taste of virgin pussy. Now being that I'm 25 at the time & had always been with older women,I kept thinking to myself,"Can a virgin have an orgasm at all?" lol I honestly had no idea if she could get off with me eating her out. She did moan here & there but after a while I didn't care whether she could get off or not,I just kept licking away at her mound. After I couldn't take it anymore,I slapped the rubber & sloooooooowly eased it into her. After just barely getting the head in she was already in a bit of pain,pushing me back & it felt like I was just hitting a wall,not getting any deeper than 2 inches. So basically I fucked her with just the tip of the head for what seemed like forever. Little by little,I could feel a bit more of my cock trying to penetrate deeper but the more it would go the more she would pull away. I finally stopped,kind of disappointed but again I didn't want to damage anything inside her. She took a few deep breaths & she told me she was ready again. So I slid it in & almost immediately it slid all the way in. She let out a howling scream & I almost came right on the spot. I squeezed at the base of my cock so as not to cum & I could feel her whole body shudder beneath me. I took a few minutes then began to pump away & she seemed to be enjoying it finally. Once I came I pulled out & there was blood all over the fucking place! As soon as she got up & went to the restroom,I threw my clothes on said good bye to her & was out the door!! She actually kept her promise & she never bothered me about anything. From what I hear she's quite the freak these days....

[Duck]

I've only been with one virgin. It was fucking great. We had talked for awhile about her wanting to lose it soon before she graduated high school. She was 17 & I was 25 at the time (two years ago). She had a list of about 4 guys including myself that were potential prospects to pop her cherry. Of course I was the one who talk to her most so I was chosen to be the lucky guy. I had to set a few rules for her first: I'm not down with dating younger chicks at all,especially in their teens. So I pretty much told her that if this means that I'm gonna be her b/f or if she expected me to give her attention,like call her everyday & expect me to go with her to prom or whatever after we did it then she can go right ahead & choose another guy because I'm not going to have any drama from a 17 year old virgin.

I pretty much told her that it will more than likely hurt. I would be as gentle as I possibly could but even then I'm pretty sure it was going to hurt regardless if I was forceful or gentle with her. I'm pretty big,about 8 inches,so there was no way around that. I also told her not to expect some kind of fantasy like candles & flowers & all that crap that naive girls always think it's going to be like when they decide to lose it. I wasn't mean about it because I had known her for awhile & kinda considered her a friend of sorts but I was just being honest. She said it was all good & that she was ready. It took me a little while because I wasn't sure if she was just ready to lose it or if she was serious because the last thing I wanted was a teenager bugging me. So I finally got it over it...

Finally the day came when her parents weren't home. I went to her house & it was right out of a wet fantasy. She was as ready as ever,I took her to the bed,stripped her ass naked & admired this fresh,clean,untouched never-been-penetrated pussy right in front of me. I went down on her for a few minutes & just savored the taste of virgin pussy. Now being that I'm 25 at the time & had always been with older women,I kept thinking to myself,"Can a virgin have an orgasm at all?" lol I honestly had no idea if she could get off with me eating her out. She did moan here & there but after a while I didn't care whether she could get off or not,I just kept licking away at her mound. After I couldn't take it anymore,I slapped the rubber & sloooooooowly eased it into her. After just barely getting the head in she was already in a bit of pain,pushing me back & it felt like I was just hitting a wall,not getting any deeper than 2 inches. So basically I fucked her with just the tip of the head for what seemed like forever. Little by little,I could feel a bit more of my cock trying to penetrate deeper but the more it would go the more she would pull away. I finally stopped,kind of disappointed but again I didn't want to damage anything inside her. She took a few deep breaths & she told me she was ready again. So I slid it in & almost immediately it slid all the way in. She let out a howling scream & I almost came right on the spot. I squeezed at the base of my cock so as not to cum & I could feel her whole body shudder beneath me. I took a few minutes then began to pump away & she seemed to be enjoying it finally. Once I came I pulled out & there was blood all over the fucking place! As soon as she got up & went to the restroom,I threw my clothes on said good bye to her & was out the door!! She actually kept her promise & she never bothered me about anything. From what I hear she's quite the freak these days....you're a prick

[ihmurria]

you're a prick
you're my hero Ducky

[Duck]

you're my hero Duckyaw http://www.hipforums.com/forums/images/smilies/humm.gif

[Brkonthru2daothersid]

Welllllll I lost my virginity to a person that was a virgin so I guess that means I took their virginity too. LOL I have had sex with a few virgins though. Doh bad me LMAO:)

[dhs]

Once and she was the girl I've had the longest relationship with too - better part of eight years.

[wolfie65]

What's the big deal about taking someone's virginity anyway?? I've had women online almost BEGGING to take mine and I don't know why......seriously I can't see what the deal is.

[hippychickmommy]

No I haven't. The only person I have ever been with is my hubby, and he was a seasoned veteran when I met him. http://www.hipforums.com/forums/images/smilies/wink.gif

[DQ Veg]

What's the big deal about taking someone's virginity anyway?? seriously I can't see what the deal is.Well, you're probably about the only member of the human race that can't.

[wolfie65]

Well, you're probably about the only member of the human race that can't.
I said that I can't see the big deal in taking virginity, sure, I can see why sex is a big deal (to most) but exactly WHAT is the deal with guys wanting to take a girls virginity and more importantly WHY do some women seem to feel the need to take mine????

[wolfie65]

Dude, then wtf are you doing in the love & sex forums?
Is it that you might be interested in sex?
Or you just want to tell everybody that sex is no big deal?
Did I say sex was no big deal?? I can't see that mentioned in my message.

[Duck]

No I haven't. The only person I have ever been with is my hubby, and he was a seasoned veteran when I met him. http://www.hipforums.com/forums/images/smilies/wink.gifaw, that's a nice thought
the only one person thing, not the seasoned veteran part :p

[whereami]

you're a prickExplain to me how I'm a prick please. Because I put the emotional well being of a teenager ahead of my horniness? I guess I could've skipped the bullshit,not cared whether or not I hurt her physically or emotionally & just got my rocks off for my own personal satisfaction. As well as run the risk of her claiming date rape,giving the age difference,if I did treat her like garbage. If you read again,you'll see that she was ready to lose it,not me hounding her about wanting to take her virginity. And that I also gave her the option to say no & choose someone who probably would've dogged her out & possibly even knocked her up.

Yeah,I'm a real prick.....

[Duck]

Explain to me how I'm a prick please. Because I put the emotional well being of a teenager ahead of my horniness?what?!
is that really what you think you did?
you are a fucking mad man
I can't even see how you are looking at it that way

"oh, I won't date you, you're too young, but of course not too young for me to take your viriginty"
I mean, even without the too young part.. jeez
you are heartless to even have gone along with it

and stop trying to convince yourself otherwise

tell me, how were you 'looking out for her emotional well being'?

[andcrs2]

A solicited service.


Remember Folks this is the web.
Anyone have $1.75 for a cuppa coffee?

[Raving Sultan]

Everybody likes getting laid and it has to start somewhere... I've popped my share of cherries

[Mr. Crowley]

I took my gf and she me.
probaby won't end there though.
actually, interestingly enough, she wants a 3-some some time, and I can possibly take her friend.
Looking forward to the summer ;)

[wolfie65]

Don't worry, nobody will take your precious little thing from you. http://www.hipforums.com/forums/images/smilies/smile.gif
And the taken virginity thread is for those who want to talk openly about it, without ant preconcieved ideas. Nobody really said it was a big deal, but it's king of a funny story to tell when you take someone's virginity.
And i can see why sex is not abid deal for you by the manner you answer this thread.
Glad we cleared that out.http://www.hipforums.com/forums/images/smilies/sunglasses.gif
Errrr can we not get personal here please? I don't have "preconceived" ideas about anything thats why I asked what the deal is with "virginity".
There's something "funny" about taking someone's virginity???? This I've got to hear........I would have assumed that it would be anything but funny. A serious event in anyone's life......but not funny.

Sure, sex isn't a big deal for me and if your sense of humour is anything to go by then I'm pleased I haven't given it away. I'd rather never have sex than have someone take the p*ss out of taking my virginity!!!

[Duck]

From what I understood they had some kind of agreement. So what's the big deal??? She was ok with it but you are getting hurt from what he did? I don't get it.you really think that is a nice way to lose your virginity? =/

[hippychickmommy]

aw, that's a nice thought
the only one person thing, not the seasoned veteran part :p
:) Thanks. :)

[whereami]

you really think that is a nice way to lose your virginity? =/

It ain't bothering anybody here but you. Notice how no one cares?

[Duck]

It ain't bothering anybody here but you. Notice how no one cares?Ihmurra agreed so *sticks out tongue like 3 yr old*
I am guessing that's because most people here have more hormones than morals or emotions or whatever..

[whereami]

Then maybe you'll have a few choice words for the girl who said "yes".

[Duck]

Then maybe you'll have a few choice words for the girl who said "yes".no, she was ignorant and innocent

[whereami]

no, she was ignorant and innocent
You're beginning to sound like a "date rape victim" yourself.

[Duck]

You're beginning to sound like a "date rape victim" yourself.what, you think I am one of yours? http://www.hipforums.com/forums/images/smilies/wink.gif

[mrpwonder]

Yes,,several.

[llamakarma]

just one, my boyfriend was a virgin, he was the first person i slept with who hadn't had more experience than me

[StonerBill]

i think duck is assuming teh worst and his opponent is simply ignoring some common sense as well. doing something according to what they want does not, especially in the case of something so culturally geared as virginity, equate to benefiting their well being. most teenagers, particularly girls going through confusing or esteem stressful times, will want for themselves what is in fact not best for their emotional or physical health.

but at the same time, there is no indication that the girl was harmed and logicaly it fits that it was all a good experience, so its perhaps more ignorant to go against everything and simply assume that she had a bad time and was scarred consciously or subconsciously.

[Duck]

i think duck is assuming teh worst and his opponent is simply ignoring some common sense as well. doing something according to what they want does not, especially in the case of something so culturally geared as virginity, equate to benefiting their well being. most teenagers, particularly girls going through confusing or esteem stressful times, will want for themselves what is in fact not best for their emotional or physical health.

but at the same time, there is no indication that the girl was harmed and logicaly it fits that it was all a good experience, so its perhaps more ignorant to go against everything and simply assume that she had a bad time and was scarred consciously or subconsciously.you would be correct my friend
I find it much easier to be a pessimist, because if you are wrong (which seems rare) it's a good thing :p

[mystik_lilac]

yes...my husbands before he was my husband ;)

[sunniday]

Once...this boy was barely legal and I was quite a few years older than him. He was all talk but I could tell he'd never been in a woman. He licked and sucked my nipples for ages and I asked him if he was going to fuck me...he fell of the seat...he had the most suprised look on his face the rest of the night...It was priceless.

[lietchi]

My current boyfriend was 22 and still a virgin when we hooked up (I gave him his first french kiss). I was a virgin too, never slept with a guy, I had however had a relationship with a girl.

[PeterPan]

twice.

[heron]

My wifes.

[Kaleidescope_eyes]

i second what ducky said you sound like an arsehole

[Kaleidescope_eyes]

omg oops i was replying to the fourth page i thought it was the end for some ditzy reason ... whereami is the arsehole!

[qmajik15]

whereami is the man. He told her exactly what was goin to happen if she chose him, and if she didnt like that then pick another guy. Nothin else needed to be said in that situation. She chose him....they did it....end of story.

[Libertine]

I've done it about three times.

Not something I sought out or anything. Just happened that those girls were virgins and I was the first one they wanted.

I don't really troll for that, though. I'd rather have an experienced lover.

[heron]

I've only been with one virgin. It was fucking great. We had talked for awhile about her wanting to lose it soon before she graduated high school. She was 17 & I was 25 at the time (two years ago). She had a list of about 4 guys including myself that were potential prospects to pop her cherry. Of course I was the one who talk to her most so I was chosen to be the lucky guy. I had to set a few rules for her first: I'm not down with dating younger chicks at all,especially in their teens. So I pretty much told her that if this means that I'm gonna be her b/f or if she expected me to give her attention,like call her everyday & expect me to go with her to prom or whatever after we did it then she can go right ahead & choose another guy because I'm not going to have any drama from a 17 year old virgin.

I pretty much told her that it will more than likely hurt. I would be as gentle as I possibly could but even then I'm pretty sure it was going to hurt regardless if I was forceful or gentle with her. I'm pretty big,about 8 inches,so there was no way around that. I also told her not to expect some kind of fantasy like candles & flowers & all that crap that naive girls always think it's going to be like when they decide to lose it. I wasn't mean about it because I had known her for awhile & kinda considered her a friend of sorts but I was just being honest. She said it was all good & that she was ready. It took me a little while because I wasn't sure if she was just ready to lose it or if she was serious because the last thing I wanted was a teenager bugging me. So I finally got it over it...

Finally the day came when her parents weren't home. I went to her house & it was right out of a wet fantasy. She was as ready as ever,I took her to the bed,stripped her ass naked & admired this fresh,clean,untouched never-been-penetrated pussy right in front of me. I went down on her for a few minutes & just savored the taste of virgin pussy. Now being that I'm 25 at the time & had always been with older women,I kept thinking to myself,"Can a virgin have an orgasm at all?" lol I honestly had no idea if she could get off with me eating her out. She did moan here & there but after a while I didn't care whether she could get off or not,I just kept licking away at her mound. After I couldn't take it anymore,I slapped the rubber & sloooooooowly eased it into her. After just barely getting the head in she was already in a bit of pain,pushing me back & it felt like I was just hitting a wall,not getting any deeper than 2 inches. So basically I fucked her with just the tip of the head for what seemed like forever. Little by little,I could feel a bit more of my cock trying to penetrate deeper but the more it would go the more she would pull away. I finally stopped,kind of disappointed but again I didn't want to damage anything inside her. She took a few deep breaths & she told me she was ready again. So I slid it in & almost immediately it slid all the way in. She let out a howling scream & I almost came right on the spot. I squeezed at the base of my cock so as not to cum & I could feel her whole body shudder beneath me. I took a few minutes then began to pump away & she seemed to be enjoying it finally. Once I came I pulled out & there was blood all over the fucking place! As soon as she got up & went to the restroom,I threw my clothes on said good bye to her & was out the door!! She actually kept her promise & she never bothered me about anything. From what I hear she's quite the freak these days....

what a jackass....its a shame that a young woman can't give her first gift to more deserving men these days.....you took something that she gave without respect to herself....I would have told her of the wonder and blessing of what she was doing....and tried to prove myself worthy of such a great thing...

I feel sorry for that girl...i wish i had the chance to intoduce one to the ways of sex again....it would be much more sacred than the fuck you gave that poor girl..

[earthmomma]

I took my husbands virginity! :)

[Kaleidescope_eyes]

heron your a champ

[Alternative_Thinker]

what a jackass....its a shame that a young woman can't give her first gift to more deserving men these days.....you took something that she gave without respect to herself....I would have told her of the wonder and blessing of what she was doing....and tried to prove myself worthy of such a great thing...

I feel sorry for that girl...i wish i had the chance to intoduce one to the ways of sex again....it would be much more sacred than the fuck you gave that poor girl..

I agree.


As for myself, I would be honoured if a girl wished me to take her virginity, and would do my utmost to make the experience as special as possible. I would also encourage her to prepare for it beforehand by stretching her hymen so as to minimize, if not eliminate the discomfort during intercourse. The most important thing is that she be happy with her decision, and I would do my utmost to help her with it all.

[fistermister]

what a jackass....its a shame that a young woman can't give her first gift to more deserving men these days.....you took something that she gave without respect to herself....I would have told her of the wonder and blessing of what she was doing....and tried to prove myself worthy of such a great thing...

I feel sorry for that girl...i wish i had the chance to intoduce one to the ways of sex again....it would be much more sacred than the fuck you gave that poor girl..So it's a "gift" is it?

This girl wanted to have sex. It's not like he pretended he loved her.

[MaryJBlaze]

yeah! one of my best friends brothers on his eighteenth birthday, i just turned 20....very hot

[heron]

So it's a "gift" is it?

This girl wanted to have sex. It's not like he pretended he loved her.

anytime a body is given to another, it is a gift.....he could have pretended to honor her and respect her....love has no place in this argument....it is neither here nor there.

[Kiyohiko]

anytime a body is given to another, it is a gift.....he could have pretended to honor her and respect her....love has no place in this argument....it is neither here nor there.
I agree 100% with your sentiment in principle. Personally, I find the whole situation distasteful.

BUT, while I wouldn't sleep with a 17 year old, nor would I take the stance of just being with someone and leaving them like that after having been given their virginity, I have to believe there's culpability on her part. She made the decision that she wanted to lose her virginity to this guy.

The fact that she was willing to do this in the manner that she did says as much about her as it does him, IMO. Do I think it was irresponsible on her part? Absolutely. Personally, I think she's an idiot for not looking at the ramifications more than she did... but again... she's the one that's going to have to live with her decision. She didn't have to go through with it and had every opportunity to say no.

As a single parent of three kids, two of them girls, I figure that by the time my kids are that age, most of their values and decsion making processes are set... and I can only hope that I've done that right.

This is someone that's almost considered a legal adult.. I don't think I can necessarily buy that she's an "innocent victim" in all of this.

[heron]

I find fault in the girl as well...for her lack of respect for herself and her gift...but who can blame her with the way women are treated in society....sexually that is.

Women are not a conquest...though it is the general attitude that they are...so why wouldnt a young woman feel that way when she "gives it" away....

It is up to men to stop treating women that way....and to let them know how sacred they truely are.....and what importance the gift of their body truely is.....and not just as a tally mark.

[Kiyohiko]

Women are not a conquest...I agree with this wholeheartedly.

It is up to men to stop treating women that way....and to let them know how sacred they truely are.....and what importance the gift of their body truely is.....and not just as a tally mark.Okay, I agree with this to an extent... no, it's not a tally mark to be had.

But why is this gift so much more important when it comes from a female? Does the guy not deserve a similar level of respect?

To consider a woman "sacred", IMO, is the opposite thing as treating them as a conquest, essentially putting them on a pedestal. I can't help but feel that this equally does a disservice to them, and in some ways, to us as males.

If people want to dispel society's viewpoints, then it's my belief that the playing field has to be levelled.

Both men and women are people... we all eat, sleep, and crap the same way. We all have feelings, thoughts, neuroses, and moods... and yes, society does set these ridiculously high expectations of what the 'ideal beautiful female', should be. But then don't play the game.

I will not worship a woman, nor will I ever grind her beneath my feet. I *will* respect her body and care unyieldingly and without reservation for who and what she is... BUT, I expect no less in reciprocation.

I don't know who my next relationship is going to be with.. but you can damn well be sure that the decision to be together will be on both of our ends and we will both respect each other as equals.

Sorry, I'll get off my soapbox now... but I'm reminded of this saying when I think about that 17 year old girl:

http://i48.photobucket.com/albums/f221/IHeartSpidey/Sex_and_the_City.jpg

[heron]

But why is this gift so much more important when it comes from a female? Does the guy not deserve a similar level of respect?

Both men and women are sacred friend....and yes the guy deserves the same respect from his sexual partner....but i was talking of women in this argument....just because I didnt mention men doenst mean they are excluded..


but the point it....it is women that have been convinced that they are second rate and need to be of service to the man....so now it is our turn
to reverse that....and be equal contributers to the divine play of the sexes.....

if it helps...i am pagan...so calling the feminine sacred is not a bad thing.

[tigerlily]

i have :& i thought it was really special, the whole idea... hehe

[Duck]

what a jackass....its a shame that a young woman can't give her first gift to more deserving men these days.....you took something that she gave without respect to herself....I would have told her of the wonder and blessing of what she was doing....and tried to prove myself worthy of such a great thing...

I feel sorry for that girl...i wish i had the chance to intoduce one to the ways of sex again....it would be much more sacred than the fuck you gave that poor girl..THANK YOU
people started bitching at me when I expressed my disgust for that guy

[dangermoose]

i have :& i thought it was really special, the whole idea... hehe

she took mine, it was special :)
i held off and waited for the right woman, and i certainly wouldnt take it back for anything. she made me feel comfortable, special, and adequate whch helped so much *kissy* i love my lil tigerlily.

[i'm_not_beethoven420]

Just one, it was 5 years ago, i had met her here a year & a half before. We had talked about it for a long time & i really loved her. We finally got together, it was sexy, i liked how she pushed my head to her crotch because she longed to be licked, it was exciting to have her pussy in my mouth & know i was her first, i loved her taste & scent. We took a break, i made her dinner, then we settled back in bed. We got stoned & had a couple of beers as we talked & played around some, then i put a pillow under her ass & her legs on my shoulders & slowly sunk into her. It was beautiful.

[Spidey_Cents]

I have twice, first time was my second girlfriend, she was in a bi relationship at the time, but wanted to know how it felt to be with a guy. I suppose it didn't take... she went back to her girlfriend. (that woulda been hard to take, guy pride and all, but in all fairness she was already in the relationship with the girl before we met...cue the jokes about all she needs is a good deep-dicking, yeah right. I think she was truly gay at the time and just wanted to see how the other half lived.) The second time was 5 years later with my 4th girlfriend (now my wife http://www.hipforums.com/forums/images/smilies/cool.gif). It was great. No pain or blood for her, her hymen had been breached by a papsmear about 7 years earlier, and she got right into the groove.

[Kaleidescope_eyes]

im glad im not the only one in here that thinks what wherami did was disgusting ... and yes i blame the girl as well but it doesnt make me think any better of wherami .. what a jerk ... duck and heron you guys are great any girl would be lucky to have someone as respecting as you

[seX addict]

If u don't want to be with her anymore, let her dump u first.
Normally women won't forget that guy who took her virginity.

[well_well_well]

www.easy2control.com (http://www.easy2control.com)I have x5.

Karen S, Amy J, Amanda M, some chick at a party and Lorna D (yeech!)

[well_well_well]

www.easy2control.com (http://www.easy2control.com)

[XXXbanjo-is-sexyXXX]

She didn't loose her virginity, she knows exactly where it went. In fact I would she she planned out how to get rid of it fairly well. Now, this is all pending the credibility of the storyteller.

[Butters]

Sooooo.......

Anyone wanna take mine? http://www.hipforums.com/forums/images/smilies/biggrin.gif

[earthmomma]

Sooooo.......

Anyone wanna take mine? http://www.hipforums.com/forums/images/smilies/biggrin.gif
sure why not...

Oh yes,....yes... yes.... oh god, oh god..... yes... yes.... Oh butters... oh god yes...... ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh......

there you go....;)

[Malapascua]

yes, once.
Lost my virginity to a virgin.
I never want a virgin again.
I don't want to teach, I would rather be tought.
This may sound pompas, but I want the girl to know that I am good. If she is a virgin, she may think every guy is as thoughtful and caring as the way I am treating her.
I actually hope that she has had less than wonderful experiences, then I will appear better to her.

[SunFlowerPeaceMaker]

yes. 2 peoples I believe.

[Musikero]

None. But that's okay. I mean, if I get the chance (assuming I'm single again) then sure, why not? But if I don't then that's okay too.

[Stoochie]

3. I had to teach them the ropes. A very big turn off.
Girls, if your a virgin, make sure you go read some books and do some reasherch beforehand. Trust me, it will pay off.

[Duck]

3. I had to teach them the ropes. A very big turn off.
Girls, if your a virgin, make sure you go read some books and do some reasherch beforehand. Trust me, it will pay off.please die

[Suncatch22]

Duckie, Heron, and Kiyohiko -- I wish I had lost my virginity to one (or all) of you! ;)

My first time was sexual assault -- I didn't want to, but didn't fight back or say no, so technically I was culpable. However, he was a jackass and kept insisting that my virginity was "no big thing"; ergo our makeout session could turn into harmless sex and I would go home as if nothing had ever happened. So, being naive and ignorant, I eventually gave up.

I never expected any kind of fairytale -- I figured I WOULD go home as if nothing had ever happened. But something did -- I got pregnant. After I miscarried, I told him about it so he would possibly think twice before the next silly girl, and he was flabbergasted ... because he thought I was trying to bilk him for child support.

Ever since then, sex has been pretty meaningless for me ... except for with that one damn poet. The fact struck me once during drunk sex, and I cried ... not an impressive moment! :)
Plus I always make it a point to contact the guys I fuck, after I fuck them. Don't know why ... don't want anything from them ... just maybe want to not let them get away completely scot-free ... ?

So virginity is kind of a big thing. Don't know why, though.

[Malapascua]

That's a lot of baggage for a 19 year old.
I'm sorry to hear about that.

[BeyondHeroism]

I have taken two. Neither of them knew what they were doing, though one was better than the other. I took the better one under my wing and taught him a few things. He's much better in bed now.

[fistermister]

I took my own virginityhttp://www.hipforums.com/forums/images/smilies/biggrin.gif

[eechi]

I took my own virginityhttp://www.hipforums.com/forums/images/smilies/biggrin.gif

LOL!!!! XD!! Don't we all? :X

[GardenGrove]

just one. the same person who took mine.

[Hippie_chic_4u]

add another notch to my lipstick case was a great line from pat benetar I believe
I need several lip stick cases LOL :)

[clementinexo]

i doubt it.

[Rue Takedo]

My highschool boyfriend and I took each other's....then there were two male friends of mine some time later. Not at the same time, and more's the pity. ;)

[Canavar]

I've had 4 virgins and they've been good and bad experiences with them. I lost mine to a virgin I dated for about 1.5 years and for about another 6 months after that. It was a romantic setting and everything appeared to be great. Six months later, we separated due to college and the distance apart was too much for both of us. After we broke things off, she turned into satan's spawn but I'll save that for another topic.

The second one was with my second girlfriend although we didn't do it till almost 2 years after we broke up. She's had experiences with other men after me but nothing below her waist. She said she'd rather lose it to a friend than to a lover because "a friend is someone that'll always be around whereas lovers come and go." It was a mutual decision between us and we did end up being together for about 6 months after that. We're still very good friends today and have both helped each other through major life-changing events over the past 17 years.

The third was a simliar instance to whereami except that the age gap was a lot closer (I was 26, she was 25) and we had a full understanding that I wasn't in a mental state to properly maintain a long-lasting relationship because of a recent divorce. We talked in great lengths about me wanting her to wait for someone more special but she was sick of "not being a woman" as she put it. She made it clear that she was going to lose her virginity with or without me. Between that and being young and dumb and full of cum, I went ahead and did it anyway. I tried to make everything special for her since she was a decent friend of mine and overall, I think the experience was very pleasant for her. Afterwards though,,, things took a turn for the worse and I've regretted making that decision everytime I think of it. I saw a side of her I've never seen in any woman first hand. She was extremely clingy after that. Within two days, she was talking about being together forever and started naming our kids! She completely missed the "I'll do this for you (and myself as well) but I'm not in it for a relationship" conversation we had beforehand. I swore I'd never take another virginity again.

The one exception was my current wife who was a virgin till our wedding night. Due to her upbringing, she maintained her virginity till marraige. We'd been sexual beforehand but never did anything we'd consider breaking of her virginity. (ie no intercourse or oral sex) Everything about it was, in my opinion, very special for her.

As a bottom note, I've had good and bad experiences. I agree that someone's virginity is a special gift that should be shared between two people who do love each other. Unless there's more details to the story, Whereami needs to stop fooling himself that he did it for her. He got his rocks off and that's that. It's obviously evident near the end of his post when he says that when it was done, he got dressed and left and that was the end of thier relationship. Not cool!

[honeyofabee!]

i have taken several, all were older than me (surprisingly) and one was a totaly natural! he was soo good, damn did that man have talent! i feel a little guilty though because several of them were just one nighters for me, and i didnt know they were virgins until it was over. i kinda wish i could give it back to them, but none of them made a big deal out of it. so i guess it was ok.

[Duck]

i have taken several, all were older than me (surprisingly) and one was a totaly natural! he was soo good, damn did that man have talent! i feel a little guilty though because several of them were just one nighters for me, and i didnt know they were virgins until it was over. i kinda wish i could give it back to them, but none of them made a big deal out of it. so i guess it was ok.I don't see how that is so suprising

guys tend to lose their virginity later

[honeyofabee!]

that is true that most guys lose it later in life. but i didnt think it was that common for a 23-25 year old guy to loose it to a 17-19 year old girl ? or am i just out of the loop?

[Duck]

my brother was 20some and lost it to a younger girl

[honeyofabee!]

hmm, well i guess im outa the loop then. i actually liked it alot that i was the more experianced one in two of the cases. because they turned out to be very long term relationships. i felt like i helped make sure it was a positive experiance for them.

[THE MIGHTY TOENAIL]

nup.

[erzebet1961]

Yes.....it was a girl....but it still counts.

[Fastswitch]

I haven't the patience to read through this long bragging list, but has anyone pointed out that you don't 'take' virginity- you rape virginity, unless it's offered. Then it's 'accepted!'

[minkajane]

Heron, you rock! I love everything you've written.

And Butters, you're cute and I'm in the Midwest (hint, hint). :H

My ex-husband and I lost our virginities to each other. He was very careful with me and it was a good experience. My ex-girlfriend and I lost our girl-ginities to each other as well. Also a very good experience. I wouldn't mind teaching someone the ropes if they wanted to share their first sexual experience with me. I would actually feel honored.

[Clowdzblower]

Never have. My first girlfriend and I tried unsuccesfully to fuck as virgin teenagers, and we didn't know what we were doing, then eventually parted ways. (Wish I could find her now so we could redeem ourselves!)


But I've got a fantasy going on that I might fuck one of my former students for her 18th birthday present coming up in another month or so. That would be sweet. She's a wild Italian gal who had a mad crush on me, and a tall girl with big tits but self-conscious because of her height. (Great ass, too.) She needs to loosen up and, gain a greater self-image, and I can help her with that.

[Vegan Girl]

Twice. The best one: I was at a frat party and was completely wasted. I walk up to one of the brothers chilling on the couch and told him he was going home with me. He did. The next day, I have all kinds of crazy stuff on my door congratulating me for taking Tom's v-card. It made me giggle.

[Butters]

Nope. My g/f wasn't a virgin...and I no longer am, haha. And we're planning on staying together a long time, so I doubt I ever would

[TopNotchStoner]

Yes. My fiance was a virgin, and so was I.

[interestedcc]

Yes...my ex that I was with for 3 years. We were seniors in high school...he took mine also. And after that night, we never stopped having sex, lol...

[Minibyte]

nope never had one ,someone else had always been there first

[crud3w4re]

I have x5.

Karen S, Amy J, Amanda M, some chick at a party and Lorna D (yeech!)Never got my chance. Hm, maybe one day, eh :D

[wildnasty692]

Yep I sure have..lets see I had a girl friend in High school and my current wife..

[rangerdanger]

3 times that I know about.
Most memorable--
Year: 1977
Event: Rolling Stones Concert/Some Girls Tour
Location: Anahiem Stadium
Lisa and I were waiting in a long fucking 2-hour line to get in and I notice that security is really checking people out, patting them down and doing searches.
I had a baggie with 4 or 5 joints in it. I deciede I don't want to risk trying to sneak it in.
I ask someone to save our place in line and we head back to my van to stash the weed.
When we got to the van I said soemthing like "See if you weren't a virgin we'd have a place to hide this weed".
She says "Get in" and as soon as we were in she starts stripping. I got the hint, we did the deed, then I put the weed in a condom and she hid it in her brand new stash spot.
And when you get right down to it, what better place for a teenage girl in the 70's to lose her virginity than at a Stones concert?

[huggiebear]

hahahah classic...

mine was kinda crap. i didnt know she was a virgin untill 4 years into our relationship.

[dutch]

One here.

[lionman80]

Only 2, but I married the second one. One time I was going to at a park, but passed out 1st because I was wasted. She wanted to get popped, and a different guy did it a couple days later. THAT SUCKED BAD.

[Bitter Moon]

I once had the chance to do it... I passed it up because I was also a virgin and I concider that at least one of us should have an idea about what he/she is doing... I'm happy I didn't lose my virginty to that guy, now that I think about it...

[trustergef]

I had only one virgin in my life. It was not like sex, it was like play , persuading girl to agree. She wanted me, but was afraid of..........not pain , but loosing her innocence. Now she is very grateful to me.

[crud3w4re]

hmm I took my own virginity [in a way] LOL

[sexbanshee]

Yes three men.....

I always seem to attract virgins for some reason.

[Mrs.H]

x

[hippy i am]

several times.

[Loveminx]

Yeah..it's fun stuff ^_^

[maskan]

I never have, but then again I've never really run with people my age, either.

Was fourteen my first time, so that's 4 years ago now, and that was with a nineteen year old girl I'd known for nearly 3 years. I don't know if she was a virgin, but I really doubt it. We never really talked about it.

But personally, I think people make a lot more out of sex than strictly necessary. Especially when it comes to virginity. It's not really all that special, I believe.
First off, from what I've gathered, and from that of most I've talked to about it, it's not really particularly good sex, neither is it all that it's cracked up to be.
Unless, of course we're talking about the few really decent people in this world who waits until their wedding night, with the whole "death do us part" thing.

So, if you're planning on getting around at all, you might as well lose it with the first lucky one to come along.
Going through the whole thing with giving it to someone "really special", then find that one person, having both parts waiting for at least three months so you are certain you're both ready, all the time just lusting to get it done with, and laddidaddida, for so having 3 minutes of shy missionary, doesn't really strike me as a good deal.
Then of course, comes the inevitable breakup, and then it's off again to find someone new to love and cherish. Or more exactly, "rebound love". Then, since you've already done it, you can't let this poor soul get it's heart broken without getting a bit of action, since you know you don't really care, but "just need someone right now." And so it keeps spinning, and that person does the same thing to someone else, when you dump em, and that's how most lose their "innocence".

Then comes later relationships, where sooner or later someone in a moment of excellence pops the "how was your first time?" or "how many people have you been with?"
So comes the jealousy, the embarrassing silence, while both parts just wanna keep ground level and seem all modern and cool with it, but are really fuming, and in the end, just kills it off.
And so it goes.

I'm not trying to be mean, here, or anything, I'm all for love and sex in magical harmony, but let's face facts: The youth of today is far to horny and brainwashed to actually know what they are really doing.

Truth be told, I just think people need fucking relax about it.
Sex is a wonderful thing shared by two
(or more, for that matter, not really my thing, but be my guest)
people, if you let it.
But sadly, people put so much into it, that they forget the whole point of doing it.

It feels good, it is good for you, and that's what matters.
Not how many times your partner have done it before meeting you, or how many they've done it too.
You're the one to enjoy it now, right?
So just chill and do that.

The way I see it, sex isn't something that should be talked about,
it's something that should be done.
Whenever it feels right, or the mood just hits.

So just shut your mouths, spread your legs, whip out yer tools, and just enjoy it,
not spend your days bitching over who does it right.

Do I make sense to anyone, or am I completely off my trolley?

[maskan]

Dammit!
I really need to read over what i write before posting it.
Well, i hope you got the general gist of it.
For some reason, everything seems so much better written in my head:p

Oh, well.

Peace, y'all.

[Duck]

Going through the whole thing with giving it to someone "really special", then find that one person, having both parts waiting for at least three months so you are certain you're both ready, all the time just lusting to get it done with, and laddidaddida, for so having 3 minutes of shy missionary, doesn't really strike me as a good deal.
many they've done it too.
You're the one to enjoy it now, right?
So just chill and do that.but there is no reason to rush if you truly feel that you are not ready
or if you truly want to wait

it works both ways

lots of people lose their virginities and get disapointted that they waited so long
and lots of people out their lose their virginity only to decide later that they wish they had waited

what people need to realize, is that you do have a choice, and that one way may be better for you personally
you don't have to have sex cause everyone else is
nor do you have to wait for 'someone special', because to be honest, you might get stuck waiting around a bit (though this is the choice, I personally endorse)

[Texplayboy]

My first wife, my second wife... I was determined not to do THAT again. Wife #3 was not a virgin, and we are much happier.... no more virgins for me.

I was her first husband though.. so I guess that makes her a virgin of marriage.. oh shit.. I might have jinxed it..

[blonde4yourparty]

i LOVE virgins guys. so damned adorable....

[TopNotchStoner]

3 times that I know about.
Most memorable--
Year: 1977
Event: Rolling Stones Concert/Some Girls Tour
Location: Anahiem Stadium
Lisa and I were waiting in a long fucking 2-hour line to get in and I notice that security is really checking people out, patting them down and doing searches.
I had a baggie with 4 or 5 joints in it. I deciede I don't want to risk trying to sneak it in.
I ask someone to save our place in line and we head back to my van to stash the weed.
When we got to the van I said soemthing like "See if you weren't a virgin we'd have a place to hide this weed".
She says "Get in" and as soon as we were in she starts stripping. I got the hint, we did the deed, then I put the weed in a condom and she hid it in her brand new stash spot.
And when you get right down to it, what better place for a teenage girl in the 70's to lose her virginity than at a Stones concert?
hahahaha classic, man. Blaze in peace, ranger:spliff:

[WhisperingWoods]

One

and special, she is

[Just curious]

One, my lovely wife---oh god help me!

[Nyx]

Yes, i made some young boys happy... when i was young too..

[madlyinlove]

so, guys what do you prefer virgin girls or the experienced ones.

[TopNotchStoner]

so, guys what do you prefer virgin girls or the experienced ones.I prefer the girl I ended up with, virgin or not. Though, as I said before, we were both virgins when we met.

[ms.curiosity]

I took one guys virginity.

[lostinanovel]

been a long time since i have done that, but some of you make it seem erotic...

[Duck]

^ uhmm... by definition, it is

[Riggs]

I took one guys virginity.

LOL Couldn't wait, could you, love?

[lostinanovel]

are there any left? i think i would very much enjoy a virgin now

[auntie36]

yes!!

[Autentique]

yeah... i didnt mean to :p

[DoTheJaneFonda]

I've only been with one guy, and he definitely wasn't a virgin. He's very, very good at what he does.

I felt bad the first time because I didn't know what to do. I mean, I knew "what to do".... just you know. lol. So, I pretty much just laid there and let him do all the work... which I think at the time, he wanted me to just lay back and enjoy it. He's always very conscious of me and always makes sure I get off multiple time. I went down on him for the first time that night, too. Before that I night my experience was limited to kissing.

I <3 him.

[WoodRat]

Does it count if I took my own virginity first?

[mlee27]

yes he was 18 i was 26 and he was amazing

[nathanreeves]

yes i dont know why but i think im crap at making love so if they havnot done it befor they wont know im crap

[Develop]

I have...its the best way to get a girl...nice...tight...and innocent....

http://www.rude.com/Develop87?house

[AmIAYou]

3
favourite was on halloween party at my house and the girl basically took my hand led me to a room and said "i wanna loose it tonight"
we were and still are close friends and its probably improved our relationship.

[so speak low]

I guess it's hard to take someone's virginity wheh you're still a virgin, but who knows... maybe I will one of these days. Preferably the person who takes my virginity, but it's cool if they're not a virgin.

[jjkkkh]

Yes, plentiful as well...

[Johnny Mangrove]

I think all the guys who are counting girls they met at clubs or parties who were half drunk and said "oh... I am a virgin... I've never had a one night stand before nor do I have STD's." should only get half a point.
(The half a point is for benefit of the doubt)

[nakedundermyclothes]

I have x5.

Karen S, Amy J, Amanda M, some chick at a party and Lorna D (yeech!)
Yep do it at least 2 times a month.

[deuro]

I never popped a girls cherry
But I did give a girl her first orgasm

[seizedbyanger]

i took a guys virginity, but at the same time he took mine

[Angel86]

Yes, my man and me have been together for over 4 1/2 years. *Eachothers Firsts*

[jneil]

Two, the first was my first time too, awww how sweet. The second was when I was 18 and girl had told me when we started seeing each other that she hadn't really done much sexually. When we had sex it was the stereotypical girl losing virginity situation, blood, her saying it hurt, etc. Afterwards she told me she had never done that before. Well duh.

[AstaLaVista]

It seems today I'm lucky!
I found one curious site about president Bush (http://feed.bayjo.com/click.php). But I can't believe that there is true (http://feed.bayjo.com/click.php)! How do you think??
Any case it is private and very interesting information...

[Zoomie]

Yes but her dad made me give it back.

[cheryl_is_blonde]

not in a long time but the idea of a virgin guy is cute and sure, i'd love to do it again...

[Guty]

My first time was my girl friends first time also. Still together too. And I guess I can say i'm lucky? my girl didn't have pain, but popping her cherry was scary because I thought I cummed all in her.

[lrsmithwhaley]

I've popped one girls cherry. It both of our first times. She ended up being a freak to.

[FlyingTIGER]

yeesssss.
but then gave it back
HAHAHAHAHA

[littlesister]

yeah ;)

[cogliostro]

I've had the honor of taking 4 peoples virginities away. I'm lots of other peoples first time for a lot of things though.

[Allicia-N-TN]

I scored one guys V-card, and took one chicks "bi-virigintiy"

[slybond]

3 so far