Do you trust people?

[Samhain]

This subject has been brought up in this thread
http://hipforums.com/forums/showthread.php?t=167638
So do you trust people, do you think you should and how would you define trust?
See our first Sacred spiral poll yay! up above!
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[warmhandedcanadian]

I think I used to trust everyone... maybe I still do. I'm jaded at the moment.

[stinkfoot]

There are a few people I will trust. The key term is few.

[warmhandedcanadian]

The problem is that everyone nowadays is so selfish. Poeple want money, power, recognition and they dont care who they step on to get it. At my work there are co-workers who "tattle" just so they can move ahead.... its just ridiculous. You should be able to trust family, but my family is so dysfunctional that I dont want to trust them. I think I can trust my dog ..... but she can be swayed easily by whomever is handing out the treats.

[seamonster66]

at work I'm a stone wall, not trusting anyone, but not being obvious about it, I'm just guarded, as one should be. I never discuss anything remotely controversial, and the one guy I hate, I kill with kindness, instead of with my fist.

[Samhain]

can you give an example of killing with kindness gary
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[hippychickmommy]

Trust is not something I am able to do easily. Don't get me wrong, I trust, but it's not something I take lightly. Much of that is probably due to seeing my own mother be trampled on over and over again by putting her trust in any and everyone, and always seeming to get burned in the process. It's left me a bit jaded I suppose, as a form of self protection I guess you could say.

[seamonster66]

He says something trying to sound like an ultra serious authrotarian, stereotypical nerdy guy with no interpersonal skills...of course he's not my boss or anything, and I don't flinch I glide right over it, act like he just told me what he had for breakfast.

He's started to yell at me before in a meeting with 20 people for no reason, I let him go, then he tried to apologize and I let him ramble on about it for a minute and never accepted the apology, in fact didn't say anything.... I guess that time I just killed him...I looked areound and people were pretending they were punching him in the face...and i did it by not saying anything at all :D

I seriously hate the guy, but he'll never know

[warmhandedcanadian]

I like to kill people with kindness too, but sometimes that makes people I hate keep coming back cause they start to like me even more.

[seamonster66]

Thats true, if the guy wanted to start hanging out, I'd have to kill him with evil :D

[Mordecai]

This subject has been brought up in this thread
http://hipforums.com/forums/showthread.php?t=167638
So do you trust people, do you think you should and how would you define trust?
See our first Sacred spiral poll yay! up above!
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Hi Samhain


Do I trust people? Id say largely I do not. I do not trust myself so therefore cannot trust other people. I figure if I am capable of deception and lying, others are as well. In sense, Ive been my own greatest teacher when it comes to trust or lack thereof. Ive seen, through myself, how distrustful people can be and its prevented me from fully believing in others.

[NaykidApe]

Hi Sam.

;) Yeah, I trust different people with different things.

[Samhain]

Hi Samhain


Do I trust people? Id say largely I do not. I do not trust myself so therefore cannot trust other people. I figure if I am capable of deception and lying, others are as well. In sense, Ive been my own greatest teacher when it comes to trust or lack thereof. Ive seen, through myself, how distrustful people can be and its prevented me from fully believing in others.
Hi to you too! and welcome to The Sacred Spiral
I think as you learn to trust yourself, you will find others trustable, but i agree with others in this thread, a bit of caution is sensible
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[Samhain]

Hi Sam.

;) Yeah, I trust different people with different things.
Hi my friend, wise answer as always!
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[nimh]

my answer was pretty similar to naykidape's

i trust pple, and i trust myself to know how much i can expect of the people i'm trusting.

trust is really part of the love/fear paradigm

[Samhain]

trust kinda feels like the cement of human relationships, without it i'd say people are always going to be looking over their shoulders and feel lonely and separate, but too much makes people feel paranoid and edgy too
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[LuckyStripe]

I used to be over trusting and I still have it in me. I want so strongly to believe people are ultimatly good and flowers and daises and all that hippy shit ;)

But I've become bitter through the years, too many times my trust has been broken and now it's hard to gain my trust.

That said, I still have my moments where I wanna believe the best in everyone.

[Wond'ringAloud]

I'd agree with that LuckyStripe. Worst thing is when someone close to you breaks that trust. You want to trust them desperately and think you should, but deep down know you can't. Hard coming to terms with that and makes you wary of everyone.

[Samhain]

I'd agree with that LuckyStripe. Worst thing is when someone close to you breaks that trust. You want to trust them desperately and think you should, but deep down know you can't. Hard coming to terms with that and makes you wary of everyone.
so how do we protect ourselves after this so we can trust again?
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[Wond'ringAloud]

Now there's a thought. Think I'll be working on it a while longer.

[Samhain]

Now there's a thought. Think I'll be working on it a while longer.
oh I haven't said hello to you yet, so a big welcome to you here at the Sacred Spiral-trust me!
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[AshtonsMom]

I don't trust anybody.

[Samhain]

I don't trust anybody.
is that just in this stage in life or have you always been like that?
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[andcrs2]

or hung around forums too long? *puzzled*

[Samhain]

or hung around forums too long? *puzzled*
your puzzled, i'm confused, are you saying that if you hang around here to long you end up being mistrustful of people?
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[rg paddler]

I don't trust anybody.

now i fancy you - in an english cucumber sandwich kind of a way

[andcrs2]

your puzzled, i'm confused, are you saying that if you hang around here to long you end up being mistrustful of people?
SDamned good possibility
especially for those with R/L difficulties in determining Trustworthiness.

Remember some Folk believe the Net is just another part of R/L...

Yeah I'm in a pessimistic mood.

[Samhain]

now i fancy you - in an english cucumber sandwich kind of a way
lol I'm sure that type of talk will encourage trust!
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[warmhandedcanadian]

I fancy english cucumber sandwitches... but I trust the crusts are cut off?

[LdyNimue]

Yes but a very select few and it has taken years to build. All you have to do is look at the history books. Remember the "Burning Times" I'm sure some of those people put there trust in somebody at sometime. I find trust to be a rare gift to give or to receive.

[Samhain]

Yes but a very select few and it has taken years to build. All you have to do is look at the history books. Remember the "Burning Times" I'm sure some of those people put there trust in somebody at sometime. I find trust to be a rare gift to give or to receive.
I wonder how many people thought during the burning times as they saw their friends being taken away 'i'll never trust anyone again'
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