Starting to get really bummed

[Kinky Ramona]

So...the past year I held a job for a total of two weeks and quit because of frequent panic attacks and stress, not to mention my assistant manager refused to give me an afternoon off when my grandmother was having hip replacement surgery. I was on the payroll for a month total, but it certainly doesn't look good on my employment record. It was my first job, though, so...I feel like I can't even keep a stinking job.

In the midst of all of this, after graduating 6th in class last May, I could only obtain a total of $1,000 which most know isn't near enough to go to a university. I'm not elligible for any loans because I don't know anyone who would be willing to cosign for me and I have no credit to speak of. I've tried to find other jobs in the area, but living in a small town, I wasn't popular in high school, so no one's even looked at my application (when I turned one into the local grocery store, the assistant manager threw it away). I'm so afraid I won't be able to attend school next semester either. What really frustrates me is my dad makes "too much money" for the government to be any help at all, but here Uncle Sam is giving many kids I graduated with (who barely passed high school) excess money to go to school. That's not fair at all. Ack. Is there any hope for the kid who comes from a middle class family to go to school?

So far my only solution is getting a marriage license so that they can declare me impoverished. It makes my life feel so rushed...I don't want to marry Daniel just so I can go to school, I want our wedding to be a very special event, not just a quick exchange of vows at the courthouse so we can get government aid for school.

Ack...sorry, just ranting and maybe hoping some people will urge the spirits that be to give a little good karma my way. I guess eventually the stress will pay off.

[Samhain]

Have you ever had one of my goddess blessings?
would you like one?
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[nimh]

can you take a year off, and get declared independant, or whatever the term is that means your parents arent responsible for you any more? or is there some kind of paperwork that your dad can sign saying that he refuses to be responsible for you financially. i seem to remember wayyy back that a couple of my friends had to do something like that to get their student loans, but that was in ontario, so it's probably different in texas.

it's often a good idea to take a year before college so that you get a chance to experience the world before you lock into a career for the. rest. of. your. life.... in australia they call it going on walkabout or some such silliness.

i wouldnt get married to get a student loan though, that's hardcore.

[nimh]

oh, crap

there i go trying to solve everybody's problems again

i hope everything works out for you to your highest and greatest good.

[Samhain]

oh, crap

there i go trying to solve everybody's problems again

i hope everything works out for you to your highest and greatest good.
why are you saying oh crap, I think it was great advice, I think its good we can be here for each other
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[nimh]

oh crap was bc i reread the op, and saw that she wasnt asking for advice, she was asking for good karma to come her way.

[badwolf]

I know how you feel, I'm going through similar times myself.
Not having money is hard, especially if you want to do something major like travel or go to school.

I keep telling myself that everything thing will resolve itself. Things may not happen the way I want or expect them to, but life continues and I have faith that I will get through.

Good Karma is on its way.

[Samhain]

oh crap was bc i reread the op, and saw that she wasnt asking for advice, she was asking for good karma to come her way.
I'm sure she won't mind the advice too
:rolleyes:
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[seamonster66]

are you sure you need a cosigner for a student loan? I think they are easy to get.

[warmhandedcanadian]

i wouldnt get married to get a student loan though, that's hardcore.
word. Don't even get married.

You are not going to get alot of empathy from employers for grandma's hip surgery though Ramona. From my experience.

[Kinky Ramona]

are you sure you need a cosigner for a student loan? I think they are easy to get.Yeah, every loan I applied for demanded I have a co-signer and everything short of a urine sample from said co-signer. Ridiculous.

You are not going to get alot of empathy from employers for grandma's hip surgery though Ramona. From my experience.Oh yeah, I know that, but the way the whole situation was handled was rude and ridiculous, and trust me, any future employer asks, I'm simply going to state it was a family emergency. They don't need any more detail than that and they won't get any because it would go into ages of explanation of why it was important I be there. I was originally hired on as temporary help, told I was only going to be filling in when needed, then my manager quit and the assistant manager went power hungry and everything went to a big mess, we were horribly understaffed (yeah, that really doesn't make me look very good for freaking out and bailing...lol), and they were in the midst of changing companies entirely. I was bound to call it quits no matter what. Working at a convenience store is definitely not stress-free. Scary thing? I'm going to be applying and probably working at their rival store in town. Woot. A life lesson, can't start off anywhere but the bottom. Booo. Haha. At least I know things will be a ton more stable at this other store.

And to everyone else, thank you for your comments. And yeah, advice is more than welcome, I wanna get off my feet and out into the world. And Daniel and I have been planning to be married since before I even started struggling to find a way to go to school, so financial aid is definitely not the foremost reason we'd be tying the knot. But I don't want to get married until we've gotten our financial strains in order and we know we're capable of living somewhat comfortably on our own. Getting married would insure the government would pay for the both of us to go to school, no questions asked, but I want to be able to afford a decent wedding, lol.

And Sam, I'd love you to send one of your goddess blessings my way. I'm more than willing to accept any extra help from the powers that be.

Sorry if I seemed like I was whining terribly, folks. I really wasn't trying to rain on anyone's parade. I know a lot have it much worse than me and that most of my problems are my fault anyhow. Thanks for listening to my grievances. http://www.hipforums.com/forums/images/smilies/biggrin.gif

[Samhain]

Sorry if I seemed like I was whining terribly, folks. I really wasn't trying to rain on anyone's parade. I know a lot have it much worse than me and that most of my problems are my fault anyhow. Thanks for listening to my grievances. http://www.hipforums.com/forums/images/smilies/biggrin.gif
only speaking for myself it doesn't sound like you where whinning, when I was 21 I was unemployed and had no employment history behind me, had not worked for about 3 years since i left school, i got sent to do retail in what amounted to a pound shop on a goverment scheme, which ment i didn't get paid anything was working for just my benefits.
I'm 30 now and I'm a trained nurse, my message is that anyone can turn there life around, just keep at it and take oppertunities where offered even if at the time they may seem a bit crappy!
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[hippychickmommy]

{{{Hugs}}} I know it all seems overwhelming right now, but things have a way of working out for the best.

Byt the way, you should be proud of yourself. You're doing an excellent job.

[Kinky Ramona]

Thanks...you guys are really a big help. Samhain, I wanna thank you especially because you've pretty much given me reason not to give up, since you turned your life around. I'll just keep trying until I can get it right.

On a sort of really sad note...Daniel's best friend from Dallas died Monday in a Harley wreck...we just found out. Wow...life certainly has a way of kicking you when you're down...on a better note, though, Daniel completely finished the screening to be a correctional officer at the local prison unit. He'll find out if they accepted him down at Huntsville early next week, and hopefully start training at the academy in early June. That'll mean we'll finally be able to take care of some stuff we need to and get out on our own and have cars for the both of us (he's just got to finish putting the engine in his) so that I can work, too.

[seamonster66]

quote: aniel completely finished the screening to be a correctional officer at the local prison unit. He'll find out if they accepted him down at Huntsville early next week,

well, good I guess, although i suggest moving somewhere that incarceration isn't the main industry.

and i guarantee i turned my life around more than Samhain, but this isn't a competition :D

[Samhain]

quote: aniel completely finished the screening to be a correctional officer at the local prison unit. He'll find out if they accepted him down at Huntsville early next week,

well, good I guess, although i suggest moving somewhere that incarceration isn't the main industry.

and i guarantee i turned my life around more than Samhain, but this isn't a competition :D
Do share Gary and yes i expect you did do, I mean looking at some of the threads in the H/F recently, my life has never been that bad, had a roof over my head, supportive friends, family and partner, the thing that I bettered myself in (and had to do mostly on my own, because I had too) was my job and career- truth be told i have been deeply blessed by the goddess.
my last advice still stands to anyone, take oppertunities when you can and kinky sorry to here about your friend
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[ihmurria]

*hugs* I know you're gonna work through this Mandy, you're gonna figure out a way to make it function. You're all clever like that :D It takes time, patience and perseverence but I know you'll be ok, no matter what happens. You're one tough cookie (and a sexy, delicious cookie at that!)