i cant get wet!

[Moon Child]

when my bf and i are fooling around and were about to have sex, i cant get wet! i'm horny and i want it, but no matter how much he fingers me (and it does feel good) i just cant get wet and it frustrates him and its starting to annoy me. it wasnt just one time, but its happened a few times now. has this happened to any of you? why?!

[benr]

he dosent turn you on! tell him hes a turn off and find someone who does.

[HybridS]

maybe you are horny..but just not feeling like having sex atm or maybe he turns you on mentally not physically

[SithInHeels]

As cliche as it is : Try relaxing.

[seaweedyness]

if you really want to you can always use lube in place of getting wet, even though creating your own is much better. as for advice, try doing what they said above, relax and just go with it :)

[Bella_Donna]

Some types of birth control can have an effect on how wet you get. My advice: Invest in some lube.

[ihmurria]

lube's the way to go

I don't get that wet either, no matter how aroused I am. Your body's natural lubrication isn't always a reflection as to how turned on or aroused you are, there are many of us out there who simply don't get all that wet. As long as you let your boyfriend know that it's just how you're wired, and that he's doing an amazing job turning you on, ya'll should be fine (with a little lube when required)

[darkangel]

i dont get wet at all during any form of sex, but after about half hour of stopping im ringing wet and soaking the damm bed, why, when the fun has stopped?

[freakon]

ha ha ! i know the feeling darkangel! when i was 18-15, i didn't get wet, now that i am 34, wow, i can get saoked really quick..... i think that your body hos to train to get wet, don't worry about it, you'll get better with age, that my experience.....

[darkangel]

what im 41!!!! i cant get wet when we are doing anything but after when the party has finnished and hes gone to sleep 1/2 hour later im soaked!!!

[steffan]

maybe if you masterbate before hand that would help,

[SithInHeels]

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[darkangel]

i have no idea how to do it and to be honest i have got a clue as to where to start, as i said in the other thread about poeple posting telling that masterbating is the answer to all problems, it isnt it just infurriates me more and makes me feel even more useless.

[Bella_Donna]

Masterbation= Touching Yourself For Pleasure.

I can't understand how you wouldn't know how to do it... Just let your hands wander all over your body, concentrating on the places that you derive the most pleasure from. That DOESN'T mean you need to spend the whole time stroking your nether regions, in fact, some of my most sensitive pleasure places are nowhere near my pussy. Example: The back of my neck and my scalp. A little head massagin' does wonders for me.;)

[darkangel]

yes a head massage is good but that is it just good not bloody amazing or anything, it is was it is a head massage.

hands over rest of body = equals nothing other than when i have an itch on my back but hardly orgasmic or even a turn on!!!!

[steffan]

i wonder if ther are men who do not masterbate? i doubt it. and just to clear up any posible missunderstandings, ( i have been miss judged too often on this site) i do not think masterbation is the cure for anything other than a temporary repreve from hornynes. its almost a bodily function,a nesesity for us poor single folk and i cn't
never recall giving that advice on this site before
sex however can a be a big help for almost anything, it gives you a better atitude and if you do it right,its decent exersize for those who do not get much exersize. two of the most important things for a healthy mind and body

[SithInHeels]

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[Supermegaman]

Lube!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Soberbeah]

use a garden hose

[liguana]

For me it varies, prolly with the time of the month. Often I don't get all that wet until the climax and we usu. head for the lube in these times, other times I get wet enough on my own.

Tell your bf to lighten up, he getting frustrated isn't going to help matters and is only gonna make you annoyed and not so wet.


Just a side note... I was playing with my clit today while standing up, I started with a minimal of jojoba oil on my finger only, not enough to make me 'wet'. I got really wet pretty quickly, it's as if standing up allows the juices to flow down.

[confused.com]

Im only 18, and I ant seem to get wet either, I am soo horny and I love my bf 2 bits, so its not that he aint turning me on? I just seem 2 dry up? I think it may be stress? what do u think? I have been on the same birth control for years now... and never had this problem... any help?

[jia]

Not just birth control, a number of different medications and a number of conditions effect how much lubrication a woman produces.

Anything that reduces mucus production (cold drugs, etc) will hinder you getting wet

[Gumby]

when my bf and i are fooling around and were about to have sex, i cant get wet! i'm horny and i want it, but no matter how much he fingers me (and it does feel good) i just cant get wet and it frustrates him and its starting to annoy me. it wasnt just one time, but its happened a few times now. has this happened to any of you? why?!

Some girls just can't get wet. I had this room mate that was complaining about that all the time. No matter how horny and hot for someone, she had to use a lube. Even when she would fuck her dildo, she couldn't get wet on her own and she loved that thing.

[femlady]

Couple of things. First make sure you are hydrated and very aroused before sexual encounters. You may want to talk to your physician though cause you may be suffering from hypo sexual desire disorder (http://www.femininereview.com/topics/female-sexual-dysfunction/hypo-sexual-desire-disorder/) (HSDD) or female sexual dysfunction (FSD) (http://www.femininereview.com/topics/female-sexual-dysfunction/). There are plenty of natural libido enhancers out there that can help but there are also two pharmaceutical options nearing availability, LibiGel (http://www.femininereview.com/topics/hormone-therapy/libigel/) and Flibanserin (http://www.femininereview.com/topics/hormone-therapy/flibanserin/) I for one would not go those routes but they are options to consider if you think the problem is serious. As an alternative you could stick with natural female aphrodisiacs (http://www.femininereview.com/topics/female-aphrodisiac/) and plenty of water based lube and make sure to get plenty of stimulation before going for intercourse. Good luck and feel free to PM me if you have any questions.

Jill

[Lennon_Skye]

As cliche as it is : Try relaxing.

I agree, but other than that you could try using an additional lubricant just to make it easier and more comfortable for both of you.

L_S

[Mrs. White]

I have the same problem also, it's prolly nothing major. Many women don't get very wet while getting aroused. We use lots of lube and have fun! Try having him give you oral sex first, that really gets the blood pumping. Me personally, I don't like getting fingered as much as some oral foreplay :) That seems to be the trick sometimes. Good luck!