Maybe my mother is right

[Jennifer19]

Maybe I do need to be on an Anti depression. I think they are going to make me feel worse but right now, I don’t care about myself. I don't want to die or anything like that. I just don't care about myself anymore. I mean I am always crying having one panic attack after another. And my mother said in the future she would like me and my dad with her their to sit down and talk about stuff that happened when I was little. I get upset about that cause I don't want to about the stuff he did when I was little. I mean looking and porn in front of me. Question me about my mother and stuff,and always laying guilt trips on me, about coming up to see him. everytime I go to see him I get so upset...

[warmhandedcanadian]

Anti-depressants can help with anxiety too. If you ae feeling that low, they can help. It's alot better than suffering.

You dont have to feel guilty like your doping yourself up, they just adjust the seretonan levels in your body.

[nimh]

couldnt hurt to go talk to a doc about meds. and ask about counselling too, sounds like you have some issues to work thru (dont we all).

good luck!

[hippychickmommy]

Panic attacks are rough...what do you do when you get them? I mean, how do you deal with them? When I used to get them, I did a lot of breathing exercises and meditation/visualization. It helped tremendously.

Anti-depressants can definitely help, but, I honestly think that it might be good if you talked with a counselor in addition to the meds. Antidepressants can be a positive thing for many people, however, they won't take away the deep-rooted issues in your life.

Either way, I wish you much peace and healing sweetie.

{{{Hugs}}}

[lynsey]

): I would give them a try. Just be aware of the side effects because they make you feel so good sometimes I had/have a tendency to not eat healthy or get enough sleep. Just go on a daily and not a prn as they're horribley addictive ): Good luck Jen

[Jennifer19]

): I would give them a try. Just be aware of the side effects because they make you feel so good sometimes I had/have a tendency to not eat healthy or get enough sleep. Just go on a daily and not a prn as they're horribley addictive ): Good luck Jen

I have been on them in the past. I was on Zoloft, and I felt so empty and bad about myself, I couldn’t take it anymore. Cause I felt so bad. I was on eflexor in the past and then I started taking them again, and I felt even worse about myself. So I am just like what the hell I will give it a try, not cause I think they will help. At this point in my life I don't care about myself anymore. So it’s like what the hell

[Jennifer19]

Panic attacks are rough...what do you do when you get them? I mean, how do you deal with them? When I used to get them, I did a lot of breathing exercises and meditation/visualization. It helped tremendously.

Anti-depressants can definitely help, but, I honestly think that it might be good if you talked with a counselor in addition to the meds. Antidepressants can be a positive thing for many people, however, they won't take away the deep-rooted issues in your life.

Either way, I wish you much peace and healing sweetie.

{{{Hugs}}}


When I am having a panic attack. I get really upset and start crying my heart will start racing. Sometimes I might get a sick feeling inside me

[hippychickmommy]

When I am having a panic attack. I get really upset and start crying my heart will start racing. Sometimes I might get a sick feeling inside meI definitely remember feeling that way. I used to get so bad that I couldn't stand to leave the house because I was afraid of having an attack. At times, I even convinced myself I was dying because they (the attacks) would get to severe, I could barely breathe, my chest would hurt, I'd get insanely dizzy, and I felt almost as if I were in a fog, detached I guess you could say. I came close to having my husband take me to the ER because I thought something was seriously going to happen to me. Many times, he would talk me out of the attacks.

Next time one comes over you, try some slow, deep breathing, and keep telling yourself "I'm in control" over and over, basically, talk yourself out of it, or visualize something that gives you peace as you inhale and exhale, convince youself that you really are in control, that you can get a hold of the anxiety and kick it's butt to the curb, that's it's not going to take a hold over you! It may or may not work for you, but it can't hurt to try. I found that it helped me out quite a bit. I still practice a lot of deep breathing exercises when feeling anxious.

I'm so sorry you're having these attacks, they can be brutal.

{{{Hugs}}}

[indescribability]

Anti depressants and anti anxiety medication can be very helpful. I did not like being on them, but the showed me the way things could be and in my mind were supposed to be. Which meant that it wasn't impossible for me to get the same feeling without them because I then believed I was capable. I would say to go see a therapist. They will either recommend meds, counseling, or both.

[warmhandedcanadian]

When I am having a panic attack. I get really upset and start crying my heart will start racing. Sometimes I might get a sick feeling inside meI am having this prob myself right now ..... I mostley feel sick though.

[vonnie]

You have my total sympathy. I was a victim of sexual abuse as a child and spent 31 years keeping the secret to myself.

When I was 14 I developed an eating disorder and was referred to a child psychologist which was useless. The last thing I needed was to listen to a man who was the same age as my father telling me how perfect my life was and how much I had to offer. In the end I pulled myself out of that phase, went on to meet a wonderful man who understood me. He was the first person I ever told about what had happened to me.

Since then we've married and have 3 children (18, 16, 12). For the past 4 years I have struggled with depression and feelings of worthlessness. Panic and tears became a way of life and I would spend hours imagining what it would be like to get away from everything...ie: suicide.

A wonderful Psychologist talked me through my abuse issues and 31 years after the event I was able to confront my father and force him to confess his actions to my mother (yes, they were and still are married - he has cancer).

I can't say my life is rosy, as I am currently under review at our adult mental health team after hitting a very low patch where panic attacks were daily and my life was on hold. BUT, my life is worth living. I have 3 children who love me as much as I love them, a husband who I can honestly say worships the ground I walk on and the knowledge that none of this is my fault.

You say you are made to feel guilty by your parents and that sucks, big time. I understand exactly what you mean though - my family all live 300 miles away and talking to my mum on the phone always means listening to the latest develpments in dad's terminal cancer as well as how she's coping. When I see them I have to stay with them as there is no one else who can take us in...and I have gradually learnt how to turn things around to deflect the guilt away from my shoulders and back to where it belongs.

My advice, don't be afraid to ask for help, both psychological and pharaceutical. The prescribed drugs can help relieve the worst of the physical symptoms.

I hope you manage to find peace and happiness in your life soon - no one deserves to suffer for something that's not their fault.

xx