So whats wrong with me then?

[Catchy]

Right. Possibly covered by someone else but it’s kinda pressing on my mind. Wouldn’t mind a first hand answer if anyone has any ideas...

Ok. I can masturbate. Hell, I actually LOVE masturbating its fun and it feels great. Girls DO make me horny, one girl in-particular actually (my girlfriend)...

So why is it that I'm rock hard when I’m masturbating but when me and my partner start having sex I just cant get it up enough? Sometimes I do manage it only to have 'my man' just loose interest half way through a job! It's really getting to my girlfriend because she thinks its her fault or that she’s not attractive enough and I know I'm not broken because I can do it to myself.

I've got some Viagra on the way off t'internet. Hoping that this is just a psychological thing and that after a good few sessions with nothing to worry about i'll be fine by myself. If anyone else has a suggestion please share :-)

[Anastazija]

It will be just fine if you relax.
My boyfriend was a kind of scared to have sex with me and he also thoug that there is some problem but now everything is great.
Try to have some beer, find a nice place, talk to ypu girl and find great music. Foreplay is very important.
Good luck

[Catchy]

Hey. Just do everyone knows, problem solved! Found a way of relaxing and she came 5 or 6 times!!! So happy.

[Anastazija]

Great :)

[ButterCupDaisy]

before the viagra, you should try to think about what is making you so hard to masterbate, so when you and your girlfriend are together she can fill in for what ever it is that makes you harder when you masterbate

[BigKing]

Try to have some beer
Dear god dont drink if your allready having problems.

[fritz]

Have you seen a doctor? If you continue on like this, I would.
As suggested, it may just be stress. Sounds like it. He might prescribe you a light downer. If you're concerned about that...You could just read up on precautions, quit when you no longer need them.
Good luck, I hope you find relief.

[chaos]

tried ginsing? or ganj?

[hipchick]

Hey Catchy,

Any updates on how things are going with you and your girlfriend? The issue you've been having sounds almost exactly the same as the issue I've been having with my boyfriend. He masterbates without troubles...but when it comes to sex, he just can't sustain an erection. We're totally all over each other, and love each other physically...but, yea, you know how it goes. It's definitely helpful, from the girlfriend perspective, that you have been upfront and let her know that she isn't the problem. A lot of guys would just blame it on the girl to be easier on themselves. Kudos to you for being so cool about it...

I'm wondering, could it possibly be distractibility issues? I know that my boyfriend has severe ADD (diagnosed quite young), and that his mind wanders a lot. He can focus on porn or the thoughts in his head more than sex, which offers so many distractions. Not sure if you can relate to this as well?

Anyhow, I'm glad to hear we're not the only ones facing this right now...I'd love to hear of any addition progress you two make, and perhaps my boyfriend and I can follow in your footsteps:)