Where is the best place to meet gay people? (MERGED)

[SageDreamer]

Where do you think the best place is to meet other gay/lesbian/bi/trans people?

[Rigamarole]

Shania Twain concerts.

[lutsko67]

The Net Is The Bext Place. U Can Check Various Chatrms And Sites, Never Leave The Ur Comfortable Chair Or Have To Buy Em A Drink. If U Dont Like That Person, U Can Move On To Some 1 Else Again, No Drinks, No Bars, No Bullshit!! Peace N Love,kat

[KewlDewd66]

Sage,

It all really depends on what you want to meet the gay dudes for?

If you are after a quick trick, anonymous sex, ONS, bars and spas are the best.

If you are after a fellow activist dude who'll tell you all his political views in detail before anything or nothing happens, you go for your local gay org.

If you want to make friends first, explore the relationship possibilities, etc, the net is the best place...

KD

[andrenio]

At first I went to a gay organization. I thought it was the best way because of the possibility of meet gay guys in an easygoing way and with time to really know the people and to decide which ones look interestings to me in order to become friends or something else, while I could help with the gay cause.

The problem is that the number of people you may meet there is very reduced, and that, in fact, it works like a small gay club, with always the same people only interested in getting a partner, rarely friends, and where you have to deal with people who either don´t like you or you don´t like them, it is pretty uneasy, and, the worst thing of all, ineffective.
I was a few years in one of this orgs. and all I got was a friend between a lot of disappointment and worthless wait. And that is all what I saw in the others, you just had to see their faces to understand it: it did not work. This is just my experience in one of this organizations, a small one, with about 20 or 30 persons, in the city of Granada, south Spain. In practice, it worked as the particular game preserve of the manager.
I thing the only purpose and utility of this orgs. is to demand for improvements in social conditions for gay people.

The few partners I have had I´ve met them all in gay bars and pubs. At gay bars you have more people and a wider range of them. You may find someone you find attractive, ( "love is at first sight"), you can see the way he behaves, if you like him to stare at him, and, if he likes you and stares at you, get closer and talk. This is the way I´ve got most of my partners and friends.
The best thing is that you may have a look at someone before meet him, which get you information of that person and about if you like him or not. This is a clear advantage over internet meeting.
Many people says that in the gay scene people only look for sex and nothing else. I thing you may find all kinds of people, but that most of them are looking for partners, althought they enjoy having sex in the meantime. Personally I don´t like casual sexual encounters but I go to the gay scene, and I´m not alone.
Some people says as well that they don´t like the scene because of the huge number of queens you may find there. Well, I thing there are people of all kinds and you don´t have to deal with those you don´t like, that´s all. I don´t like them, I respect them, but I don´t deal with them.

Internet meeting seemed to me to be the panacea for gay relations when I first got into it: easy, cheap, you can use it whenever you want... I began to chat with people on internet and to meet them soon afterward. But I met quite odd people, people which I only did not have nothing in common or simply did not like to me. So, I got quite disappointed. Although you may know something of the person you are chatting with by the way he writes and the things he talks of, you only get to know someone really whe you see him, the way he looks, speaks, moves, the facial expressions.
Presently I only chat with people after seeing them in a profile with photo, I like gaydar and that kind of gay meeting websites, and I consider important the use of webcam and, if possible, videocall, so that you can see and listen the other person.

So, I believe bars and internet are the best ways, but internet only if you see the person before.

[La Dulce Vita]

A truck stop . But dont jump in the TRUCK . "tractor trailer".

[KewlDewd66]

I must admit that I made a very similar experience to that one of andrenio when I strated frequenting few local gay organisations. They may have their functions all right, but unless you are big time into activism, it most likely won't work...

KD

[SelfControl]

I get pretty much nothing at gay bars. The odd fling, but nowhere near the torrent of promiscuity I was led to expect. The Internet works better, even if it does make you feel like crap.

[La Dulce Vita]

The Beach .

[GayOldBoy]

I am on six different web sites. Two for LTR, and four for anything I can get. So far I have found more time-wasters than anything else, but I have made some very good contacts.

One guy is a regular, and has been to see me six times so far! This isn't a relationship thing, it's because I give good service, and am a friendly, considerate host! I give pleasure, satisfaction, and a welcome most others wouldn't even consider!

Before anyone asks... NO I am not a rent boy! I give freely, and expect my "Friends" to do likewise!

I have heard that when one goes to gay pubs, clubs, bars, etc. there is always a "clique" thing going on. That is... if you aren't known by anyone, you're not likely to be! You have to be one of the "In Crowd" to get on with anyone!

Yes, you do it all from your favourite chair, but you still have to get up off your arse and go meet guys. BUT make sure that who you meet is the person you EXPECT to meet.
I ALWAYS make sure I have a face photo, name, phone number I have already called them on, their address if possible, an e-mail address that I have sent and received messages to/from. But these aren't always possible, so get as MANY of them as you can, before meeting someone on the internet. ALWAYS meet in a PUBLIC place. I use the local fast-food outlets, as they all have CCTV you can make sure you're both seen on. (Together, preferably.) I keep a little black book of guys I am meeting, a copy of photos on my PC, and as much info recorded about that guy, and where and when the meet is to take place.

If you don't like the guy you've just met... Back off with a very polite reason for not taking them to your home, or going to theirs. If you cancel a date after meeting them, NEVER go straight home! Always go in a different direction until you know you aren't being followed!
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Be safe, have fun, take care my friends,
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[La Dulce Vita]

sounds more like a soviet spy meeting than a date . and dont forget to take the Walther PPKS .

[GayOldBoy]

sounds more like a soviet spy meeting than a date . and dont forget to take the Walther PPKS .Maybe so dear boy, but it is the BEST way I KNOW of! And looking at you (If those pics really ARE you.) in the pictures you just posted in the "How do you tell if someone is gay", thread, I would take heed of every word therein!

I, at 55, take these precautions, and I am having as many successful, pleasurable, and regular meets as I can get!
I have rarely been let down after confirming a date for a meeting. I have, so far, NEVER had any problems/trouble from any guy I have met, either. They KNOW the score before you meet them. So you both know what to expect when the meet takes place! I.e. NO DISAPPOINTMENTS!

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[Echelon]

I've been looking for about a month now and I'm having problems finding good places to meet other gays online. I can't find any forums, and I've tried chat rooms, but it's just nothing but horndogs. Any suggestions?

[mushie18]

i haven't met any guys online...

besides this place :)

[loverboy]

I've been looking for about a month now and I'm having problems finding good places to meet other gays online. I can't find any forums, and I've tried chat rooms, but it's just nothing but horndogs. Any suggestions?yes hello you will find many genuine people from all countries on this website in my signature it has helped me find many gays and finally i settled down with one of them please look in my sig its free to join and upload photos
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[psyche]

i'm gonna say either the internet or gay bars. pride events and parades/after parties are also good, as a lot of homos come out of the woodwork that you won't see around again, unless you grab the chance at getting a number. in my experience, gay organizations are mostly made up of couples, but they're good for support and networking, and if you're looking to just make friends. that might just be the case in my town, though.

[BuffFilmBuff]

In LA, I seem to meet gay guys everywhere. I haven't been to any of the Pride events, because I'm usually out of town for them. Gay bars can be either really fun or a nightmare. If you want to meet me, don't just grab my butt. Have a little bit of class. Gay organizations can be okay if they're not too political.

[outdoorlads]

Have any of you looked at OutdoorLads.com as a good place to meet new lads?

<a target="_blank" href="http://outdoorlads.com">
<img border="0" src="http://www.outdoorlads.com/images//odlb.jpg" width="406" height="70" alt="A website for Gay/Bi Lads under 35 who like doing Outdoor Sports... Camping, walking, climbing, caving, etc."></a>

[outdoorlads]

Well i guess that didn't work...


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[LewLew]

Meeting someone can happen ANYWHERE! I've found that it seldom happens when you are "actually in search of it!" Don't "prowl" just go OUT and be yourself, someone will come along and you'll be just the person they've been wiating for! Call it "fate," call it "destiny," call it "kismet" -- just remember to recognize it for what it is -- the chance of a lifetime and allow it to shake you to your very core! "Love at first sight" CAN happen... but so can love that you see over and over again, every day... sometimes you're too busy looking for it to see it, standing there, right in front of you.

[Star Cat]

So, I believe bars and internet are the best ways, but internet only if you see the person before.Right on.

I recently tried somewhere else where I could supposedly meet others who were gay, and I had only intended to make friends and nothing else unless I met them first, and yet ran into two weirdos who caused me trouble immediately off the bat. So I went, "Obviously, something's seriously wrong with this. If this has happened only within this short period of time then these guys are kooks," and quietly took my leave, scramming as quickly as I had joined, lol.

I only use the internet with extreme caution now.

[Geneity]

I love meeting guys on the internet, chatting with them for awhile and then going to see them. That's how I met my first boyfriend and the time I spent with him is irreplaceable. We talked on the phone and all sort of stuff and immediately clicked. It was just luck, I can tell you that, but still amazing.

I've yet to go to any gay bars or bars in general, being under 21. Totally lame America with it's high drinking age. Organizations do not interest me. I want a fun, carefree, gay guy. Not one who's obsessed with gay rights and activism and things of the like. Politics are not for me =)

[Nair]

Well? Is there anywhere else, to search other than gay bars? And where do you find same sex partners, or even begin to look for them, when your atypical for your sex, both physically, and in personality, and your only attracted to other people who are atypical in a similar way?

Where do atypical males, seeking other atypical males go? By atypical, I don't mean merely homosexual, I mean having unusual attributes for someone who is a male. I am very atypical myself, and I am only attracted to atypical types, and haven't a clue where to look first.

Also since my form of homosexual attraction, is a bit unusual, it is hard to understand, and I don't know how to come out of the closet, when I know my sexual orientation will still be confusing, and enigmatic to some people. My parents will definitely be accepting, but I don't think they will understand the TYPE of homosexual attractions I have, it will always be a mystery to them, they can never understand.

I know this seems like a very short starting post. I'm definitely certain of my sexual orientation now, but I have no clue how to explain it, and my biggest problem is finding homosexual males I can relate to, since I am so atypical.

[happyonehit420]

you used the word atypical like a thousand times. in what way are you "atypical". like what separates you from other homosexual guys? if you explained how you're different, it would be a little easier to help you out.....i think.....

[Nair]

you used the word atypical like a thousand times. in what way are you "atypical". like what separates you from other homosexual guys? if you explained how you're different, it would be a little easier to help you out.....i think.....http://www.hipforums.com/forums/images/newsmilies/smilielol5.gifTrue. Atypical as in an unusual for a male.

Lets see, thin frail looking build, cries a lot more than the average male... To the shoulders or longer hair, lower than average sex drive, and likely a whole lot of razors, to keep off the facial, and body hair. I don't mind if it's not natural, I simply am commited to staying smooth, and thin myself, going to rather fanatical lengths at times, and I expect the same commitment in turn.

I'm a very androgynous male, and likewise I am only attracted to other androgynous males myself. Now vanity and such, isn't that rare amongst homosexuals, what is rare, is several personality traits I have.

Example of me with your typical guy, who just so happens to be gay he would likely say something like:"Umm... It's the fifth time you've been crying this week, your too timid, passive, and sensitive, cry way too much, don't have enough interest in sports, refuse to drink alcohol, I think your eyebrow plucking, and impractical hair is just weird, you have such a small build, it looks weak, and is unnattractive, your low sex drive would likely frustrate me, and no I wouldn't be comfortable with my own body, if I shared some of the physical attributes you find attractive".

I have a very feminine personality, for a male in other words, and I sometimes have a difficult time, finding others I can see eye to eye with. I can relate to some guys, but not the average type. I am very attracted to more androgynous guys, on the other hand I have such an unusual personality, for a male, that it is hard for me to relate to most guys in general.

I can still usually relate better with homosexual males, than heterosexual males, merely due to social based reasons, but even then I often have a challenge, finding someone else who is male, I can relate to, as far as personality goes.

[mushie18]

Your standards are kind of high...

But anyway, I've met people at college, through mutual friends, introducing myself, etc. It all comes down to you. I've never met a person in a club/bar. Not saying I wouldn't but I don't think it's too hard depending on your location.

[gticharlie]

Cruisingforsex.com

[*Andy*]

TeH INTERWEBZ

[SlickyPants]

Andy may have a point. I was wondering this same thing. It can be a real pain to meet other gay people. I joined an online gay community for the country that I live in and I was instantly bombarded with welcome messages from various users in my area (The site has a feature that shows who's online in your province). It kind of overwhelmed me. One guy even recognized me from high school. Another guy I was chatting with for a bit even invited me to meet up for coffee later this week. Anyway, I managed to find like 600 profiles in my city of a varying mix of people. I never joined looking for love though, just for friendships. But hey, if love happens, I'm not going to avoid it.

If you do meet people over the internet, use some common sense when it comes to your safety and don't be surprised if someone isn't who they say they are.

Samhain wrote up some general guidelines to follow if you aren't sure..
http://www.hipforums.com/forums/showthread.php?t=238935

[happyonehit420]

you aren't really too terribly different from a few gay guys i've met before. I even see similarities between you and me. I'm incredibly thin, very feminine, and used to have really long hair. I'm not really that sensitive, it takes a LOT to make me cry, but that's just a conditioning of my childhood. But androgynous males in the gay world aren't that hard to find, really. I guess it just depends on where you live. Also, it sounds like you have really low self esteem. If anything, that would be the only thing some people find annoying. You really aren't the only one like you, there are tons of guys out there that are looking for your type, you just have to be able to be found. Keep yourself out in the open, someone's bound to come along.

[mushie18]

i hear www.manhunt.com works well.

I think that's more for sex though.

[lostdazedintime]

cruise the locker room of your local YMCA.

I dont try to pick up guys in gay bars, they try to pick up me, I likes my man, he's ex cop and knows how to mess with people mmmmmmmm

[calisouth]

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[joystick2]

I used to meet men at local parks and adult threatres.

[SelfControl]

OK, if we're talking generally rather than just for sex:

Universities/univerisity towns.
Gay districts (apparently)
Bjork gigs

I mean, it's kind of a weird question in a way. Normally if you want to meet someone, there's a reason why you want to meet them, and the way/place that you meet them will largely be dictated by that as much as by their sexuality. If I want to meet someone for sex, I'll go somewhere different to if I just want someone to talk to.

But yeah, in my experience, the most rewarding "meetings" are the ones that happen by accident. Doesn't help much, but it's still true. When I meet someone out of the blue, rather than because I was looking for them, it's such a nice feeling, like you've "achieved" something.

That said, last couple of guys I've been with I came into contact with them on-line. Not on specifically gay sites though - I've met maybe three guys off Gaydar.co.uk in God knows how many years of using the site - but from forums like this one, or from them just getting in touch.