Talie Bear's coming out party???

[neckienoo]

My parents are planning a big 21st bday for me. I'm not allowed to bring the biy i've beentalking to. My parents don't approve of him.The thing is I have attraction to one type of man, trouble. Hey,if I'm gonna be with a man I want the classic tough as nails and gritty!

[neckienoo]

how come no one posted yet???? I thought it was a cool thead.

[Snowdancer]

My first reaction was Good for her! I am always glad when someone figures out who they are, that can be a hard thing. I also kind of wondered if you were asking advice on what your Mom felt. To be honest my Mom went to the next life last February as did my Dad years before without really knowing about me. Mom, like yours, didn't want to hear or know about, often denied anything about us that she didn't like. She to the end didn't believe that my brothers or I were freaks even though whenever we got together we reinacted the Furry Freak Brothers pose for a photo. With that knowledge I decided that I was never going to come out to her so didn't. Your case is different as you have already told her. I am just sharing in case it can in any help you.

On the lipstick lesbian thing. That is great too. Again I say. You need to be who you are & it's great that you have figured it out. Interestingly enough you are the first woman I have encountered that refers to herself in that term. Not that I go around asking people to define themselves. I do know some lesbians who certainly could be defined in that term. One couple in particular both appear quite feminine, both I have usually seen in skirted business suits. Both wear typical make-up & hairstyles normally seen on female business people. I suppose it is possible that if someone wanted to ask them if they thought they were lipstick lesbians they would have trouble denying it. Possibly they openly use the term. I just greet them as a human couple & we talk about the usual things people talk about. As I said I don't ask people to define themselves normally so it never came up.

Maybe you have said it but have you concluded that you no longer want a romantic relationship with men? Or are you just stating that you have always had them go bad because you have always gone out with the bad ass men? If it is the later I may be able to share with you that a good friend of mine (straight female, middle aged) claims that she has a
Bad Boy Radar & most always has gone out with that type. Her current boyfriend doesn't fit that description but from what I know of her past lovers I would say she is right. In the years I have known her she has had a few relationships & ended them herself but not necessarily because these guys were so evil that she had to. I guess what I'm getting at is maybe you haven't found the right bad boy for you if that is what you want. Like anything else you are going to know your wants, needs, life path better than I could possibly.

Is this the kind of thing you were looking for?

[psyche]

i think i'd be considered a lipstick lesbian. and i loooove other girly girls. unfortunately a lot of them are conceited bisexuals who only date girls when there is no available guy around. at least that's what i've gotten out of my experience. but i wish you the best of luck, and if you lived closer to me i would prooobably do more to help ya out, if you catch my drift.

[neckienoo]

Thank you both for your input! Psyche, I'd definitely call you a lipstick girl. You're incredibly attractive and you're an artist on top of it. You make me wish I lived in Canada...haha.