Fake people...

[Penny]

If there is one thing that I really cannot stand, it's fake people. And what's terrible is that there's an incredibly huge amount of fake people on Earth.

My family has moved to a new house recently... and we have new neighbors... the first thing they did when we arrived was ring on the doors and say (in a really fake, sweet voice) "Hi! We're your new neighbors, and well, we just wanted to say hi and if you need ANYTHING, just ask us! hehehe". About 2 weeks ago, I heard their daughter (a really annoying kid, she spends her time shouting the name of her dog, Pipa) say, loud enough, as always "Wow, there's a really wonderful atmosphere at our neighbors!" being sarcastic, because everyone was yelling and going crazy in the garden because the dog was barking like crazy at the people walking on the street, and my mom was having a nerves attack for some reason... I forgot why... Then my sister told me that the mother of the really annoying kid had said, with a toad voice (that woman really reminds me of Dolores Umbridge from Harry Potter, if you've read it), that "the French neighbors are nutbars". And she makes sure to say "hello" in this really sweet way every morning when she take the kid to her private school for rich people.

Another time, I went to buy a skirt in this store, and I don't really speak good Spanish and I said I wanted the skirt but completely fucked up, instead of saying "I'll take it" I said something like "I need it" - and the clerk looked at me in this really sweet and understanding way, and then told the other clerk, in front of me, and loud enough so I could hear it: "haha, you heard what she said?", like if I didn't understand Spanish. I got really mad... but kept it for myself, but now I really regret, I wish I could have said: "Finally, I don't want that skirt, and by the way, I understood you". But instead I just slammed the door and almost broke its glass.

I don't understand why the world is so fake... I mean, what does being fake bring to people? They just wanna feel like everyone loves them and like they're very respectable? God, I'm always so frank to everyone, and when I shouldn't express myself, cause it's true sometimes it's not good, I just don't... but I don't fake anything! So many people think I'm a bitch I'm sure for being sincere, and cynical at lot of the time, not really by what I say, but the way I act in general toward people or things I don't like... and some people also probably think I'm fake when I'm being sweet.

Really... so often I feel like I'm from another planet.

[wiufcaoltp]

Yeah, I know.

I can't believe our neighbors. That little brat next door never shuts up, she's 9 and has the voice of a 5 year old and is always screaming in a grateing, high-pitched voice.

[makno]

i dont know if im realy being fake or faking being real....if someone is truly fake , arnt they being their real self being a fake ?? i just dont know im realy confused .....no im just kidding ....everything i say is a lie and thats the truth !!

[wiufcaoltp]

I don't think I'm fake, but I suppose I could be a bit more real sometimes; I mean that I usually just keep quiet about what's on my mind. I almost always try to be polite, at least, but it's not like I act in a way that contradicts what I think.

[Anarkogaia]

From politics to economy, the law of lie is everything. You must lie to get enough vote, you must lie to keep this frightening system alive, ....

Try to transpose your dream-world in reality every day, by smiling to the grumpy old woman next to you on bus, by helping the others even if they don't help you (but try to avoid the profiteers, with experience you'll recognize them easily, there will be accidents but does it really matters?)


Kisses


I'm sorry for my dilapidated english ;)

[Penny]

Nah your English is just fine, no worries :) Anyways, perfect people aren't interesting :p

[Pressed_Rat]

I agree, Laety. Most people are very fake. This is why I pretty much keep to myself.

[God]

What is this 'fakeness' that you refer to? Are you talking about people who never really learned how to relate to others, because they never really knew how to relate to themselves, or accept themselves for that matter, and therefore they feel more comfortable wearing a mask or an act?


We're all fake, we're all stuck in an act. The only real difference is that some of us are conscious of this, and some aren't. Try to accept and love everyone, because they are just like you and me.

[Penny]

No, no, I was reffering to hypocrits.

But also, I don't understand why some people should wear a mask, they shouldn't be scared of showing who they really are, I mean, they should stop living for the others, and start living for themselves (by that I don't mean they should start being selfish, but they shouldn't care for other people's opinion on what they are, what they do, what they like, etc.) It's really sad...

And I disagree that we're all fake. That we're all in an act.

[God]

Those people are simply afraid. What they need is love. And the vast majority of us, even those who are aware that we all wear masks, still are behind a mask, although we are a lot more open now. Anyone who isn't truly stuck 'to an act' as jim morrison would have put it, is either enlightened or insane.

[Penny]

Have you read that book "The Power Of Now" by Eckart Tolle (or whatever it's spelled)? Because what you're saying reminds me of it... I haven't read it yet but wiuf has, and I plan to start reading it soon...

[Jaz Delorean]

yeah don't you think that people are too scared to be themselves though? like in front of others. like, if you see a homeless person, you get a huge desire to talk to them, and i try to always talk to them because it's a wonderful thing for them, but the majority of people just stroll right past and throw disgusted looks at them - now, is that what they really think or is it because everyone else is doing that? does anyone study psychology here??
Jaz

[Penny]

It's true that a lot of people just act like sheep. They don't have a personality, or don't show it, because they're scared of becoming a "black sheep". But why? That is something I never really could understand... maybe if I had a conversation with someone scared of being truly themselves, then I would...

Many times, I wondered about some people I know, I wondered if they were the same once they were all alone. I guess that a lot of people are so scared of ending up alone or in a minority, that they just become someone else, some who fits the society's standards.

[FreakyJoeMan]

One of our neighbor's kids is a compulsive stealer, and he stole shit from our house.

[Penny]

Yeah, one my little sister's friend (well, not anymore) stole the equivalent of 15 dolars in my mom's purse, + some of my sister's toys and clothes. She's 12 and always plays with younger kids, like my sister who's 9 years old.

[TomDijon]

it's true, all of us can act fake soooooooometimes... well, it's totally possible to not act like this though. i think that anytime you lie, any time you act in a way just to impress people, anytime you act in general with the purpose of having people think that's who you are, this is acting fake. and sometimes it's impossible to get along without doing this, but it's because of your situation. you can get out of it. fake people really bother me too. i see them all the time saying and doing things just so their friends will think they're cool, where as really, depending on how good of a job they did, they end up making a fool of themselves. personally i'm done with acting like someone else to impress people. not only is it demeaning, it's soulsucking. it makes you forget who you really are. has anyone here read the electric kool-aid acid test?

[Jaz Delorean]

no i haven't read the electric kool-aid acid test, i have heard a lot of cool things about it though, what is it?
Jaz

[dhARmaMiLlO]

hey Penny, I think you'll find this interesting, or despairing, whichever :p

http://www.hipforums.com/forums/showthread.php?t=6233

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[Penny]

Thanks for posting that link dhARmaMiLlO, that thread is very interesting!

[dhARmaMiLlO]

:) thanks for replying to the post penny.

I must ask anyone who's been to California. I hail from the UK region thereabouts. When I went to the west coast of America I couldn't get round the accent there. I thought everyone was being sarcastic whenever they made a compliment!
It was just so strange to have people so blantantly pay you compliments when you've only just met them. Perhaps that is a culture difference.
It was so confusing. At one point I got a bit angry with someone and asked if they were just winding me up. They looked as confused as I had been.
"Have a nice day!" They said in the most sickly servile way. It made me shudder.

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[Maes]

I heard their daughter (a really annoying kid, she spends her time shouting the name of her dog, Pipa)
PIPA: Pulse Integrating Pendulum Accelerometer
hmmmmm, nice name for a dog.

[dhARmaMiLlO]

Penguin Intervention Prevention Alarm...

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[LivingLegends]

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[fugedaboudit]

yeah, i keep thinking, let's get real people, life is too short for crap...

[ZePpeLinA]

oh yeah...fake people....my university is fakeness central
Most people seem to be living in a bubble..but its been a while since i stop caring, i just live my life. i'm not a fake person, i shouldnt be worried!

fortunately, we have lovely neighbours, they are really nice people. I cant say the same for the rest of the people in my neighbourhood (some are really rude and unconsiderate, i.e. play music really loud at night, etc) but hey

i think its best to ignore people like that.

[NatureFreak412]

There are a lot of fake people around here, man I cant stand them. They call me bad and say I am going to hell and stuff, but they are the ones that get drunker than shit on saturday night and go to church on sunday and claim to be saved... I mean come on...

I hate also when people try to be something else to try and fit in with others, especially the really drastic things they do to change.

[rubytuesday]

:) thanks for replying to the post penny.

I must ask anyone who's been to California. I hail from the UK region thereabouts. When I went to the west coast of America I couldn't get round the accent there. I thought everyone was being sarcastic whenever they made a compliment!
It was just so strange to have people so blantantly pay you compliments when you've only just met them. Perhaps that is a culture difference.
It was so confusing. At one point I got a bit angry with someone and asked if they were just winding me up. They looked as confused as I had been.
"Have a nice day!" They said in the most sickly servile way. It made me shudder.

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Oh yeah, I know! It's so weird...I still haven't gotten used to it, and I've lived in California for a pretty long time...
It's mainly cultural differences. They aren't being 100% sincere--they're just trying to be nice, or even just socially acceptable. It's an empty gesture towards friendliness, and it's a big part of life here, I guess. I always thought that was how the whole U.S. was, but I went to Utah and they seemed to be more genuinely nice there--certainly none of this fake shtick.

Don't worry about it too much, though.