Boy Meets Boy the book, and my revelation

[pianoperson60]

I just finished reading the book entitled Boy Meets Boy- if you haven't already gotten your hands on it, I highly suggest that you do. It was an easy read, yet full of much much thought. It was quite cute too. I felt like I was Noah from the book. hehe

After reading it, I realized something. I realized that this school year, I've been acting in a way that I hope appeals to others. No, I am not in the closet- my whole grade and pretty much school knows that I'm gay, and everyone is cool about it, which is nice. However, if I ever show a sign of being gay around certain people, they act kinda weird, for example, they roll their eyes. They don't dislike me or anything, its just a sign of...I dont know what the right word is- maybe something like disapproval or maybe its simply a way of saying "okay thats weird." And throughout this schoolyear I have surrounded myself by some poeple like this- people who accept me for being gay, and are cool with it. But the moment I mention my first boyfriend (remember the whole dilemma I used to post about my by german boyfriend, hehe, how long ago that seems...) or something else relating to me personally being gay or taking gay actions, certain people act uncomfortable or put me down, not with words, just with body language.

I've decided that I really need to stop fighting myself. No, I am in no way possible of being flamboyant, but thats besides that point. The point is that I will not act differently to appeal to others. I follow that moral in all other aspects of my life, why should I skip it here?

So yeah, I dont know if you guys really care, but I felt like putting it out there.
Cheers and Much Love,
Dylan

[whynot]

where can this book be bought

[henry101]

I think that's a good attitude to have, especially considering that these people have already accepted you being gay. I imagine that they just have knee-jerk responses to anything that conjures up the mental image of two guys together. Hopefully, over time, they'll get over it.

[LogsOnSticks]

Yeah, pretty much what Henry is saying...

I remember you mentioning that you're from a very small town that lacks gay culture. That's probably a reason for their awkward reactions. I wouldn't exactly call their actions a state of disapproval. After all, they seem to have respect for you. Rather, its probably a new culture shock and experience for them they need to adapt to.

[pianoperson60]

yeah...but mind you my town is a small LIBERAL LIBERAL town, known for a big adult gay populatoin...lol
whatever, its not hta big a deal, its more of me building my own walls around myself, which I shall break down myself. haha metaphorss...
Cheers, and Love,
Dylan

[Mychal]

A lot of people are cool with you being gay, but they don't want to hear the details.
That's okay, they don't have to be your friend.

When I'm in the lockeroom at work and the dudes start talking that dude crap about women, "The secretary has a hot bootie, woo hoo." "Did you see the headlights on her" and I don't want to hear that shit, I'm always like, "I know what you mean, you ever notice kevin? He's got a fine ass." They shut right up and I can change my clothes in peace.

Sometimes is good they don't want to hear it.

[LogsOnSticks]

lol Mychal, that's really funny.

You're lucky react awkwardly in your situation, some places would beat the shit out of the person. Especially since it's a locker room, heh....

[pianoperson60]

haah yeah, its all good. Its not liek I ever give details, I just say something like "i havent have sex yet with a guy (or girl for that amtter)?" (not randomly, but if it comes up in convo) and htey get weirded out. w/e

there have been funny times where i've shut down striaght guys. like once, my guy friend said "but like, woudl you EVER have sex swith a girrl JUST to see what it was like?" and i said, "well, I dont know, would oyu ever have sex with a GUY just to see what it was like?" and he shut up. it was funny haha
Cheers and Loe,
Dylan

[LogsOnSticks]

Yeah, its clever to turn the tables onto the other person with questions like that.

Especially with homosexuality. Like with the example you gave, the guy obviously didn't think about the other way around when it was thrown at him because no matter how much he accepts it or respects it, it's still considered "taboo" to him on some level.

[Night_Owl49]

Especially with homosexuality. Like with the example you gave, the guy obviously didn't think about the other way around when it was thrown at him because no matter how much he accepts it or respects it, it's still considered "taboo" to him on some level. Yeah, exactly. It's just an example of how far we still have to go...

[PatchOnPatch]

I was in the closet at my school, I came out after high shool. there was one fem guy, he got beat up and had to drop out. And there was a chick who wore a lesbian power t-shirt, she lasted a month after that. The kids were cruel to everybody.

People have it much better now a days.