I think this will sound shallow

[lilylove]

So I think I have a stereotypical horny guys mind in my body. I am going to sound shallow but sometimes I just want sex. No strings attached. I could comfortably do a 'fuck buddy' set up and not get emotionally attached. I hear all these girls get sad over guys who don't call, or who they have a guilty one night stand with. I feel lame cause I don't mind that. Maybe I'm not shallow and I'm just a slut cause if the vibe is right and I like the guy I have no qualms doing the nasty on a first date. It's funny too cause I've had guys think it will be weird in the future if they have sex with me. But I don't get all weirded out. I can have sex and then just stay a friend or even aquaintence and hang out like nothing happened. Should I try and fix this or am I just a minority of loose women? I don't have a problem with having sex and moving on.

[deathmachine]

nothin wrong with that girlie let me know if your ever in burlington

[skybird]

It is not shallow at all, it's just you prefer to get the sexual attention only at this period of your age. That is reasonable in my opinion. Then at a latter age you can always apply your emotional energies with a guy so as to settle down.

I sure wish that most women would be like you. :&

[theblackrose]

listen here...you can do whatever the f you want to in life as logn as you dont hurt other people while youre doing it...and in my case, you can do whatever you want, and i encourage a little pain, refer to my thread on biting aand blood..youre fine girl, physically and morally

[Woodstock_Blazer]

i wish i knew ppl liku U!

[skybird]

i wish i knew ppl liku U!

Well don't think that it's gonna work the way you want it to work. It's a matter of physical attraction. It doers not necessarily mean that if she is like that, then she's going to have wild sex with you instantly. :X

[makno]

no, yall kin have some hot coco n toast ...then fornicate like theres no tomorrow !! ......Well don't think that it's gonna work the way you want it to work. It's a matter of physical attraction. It doers not necessarily mean that if she is like that, then she's going to have wild sex with you instantly. :X

[lilylove]

It is not shallow at all, it's just you prefer to get the sexual attention only at this period of your age. That is reasonable in my opinion. Then at a latter age you can always apply your emotional energies with a guy so as to settle down.

I sure wish that most women would be like you. :&
So what, I'll grow out of this?
I just wish sometimes that there was a sign that said "No it's ok, this doesn't mean we're married" A good time is a good time. As long as I am being safe and making sure there are no mixed messages about what is involved...I'm good...right?
You don't think that sounds a bit skank-like? Hmmmmmmmmmmm

[makno]

i think its way more realistic than thinking one has to completely compromise oneself and combine your life with someone just to have a good time . its unrealistic and dishonest to think if your phisicaly atracted to someone that you have to give up your autonomy . i dont think youll grow out of it . in life ive been with someone for 5 years and another for over 10 years . .but now im more thinking along your lines ....its not skank like unless someone has relations with someone they detest . dont let people sell youi on the idea that structured long term relationships are inherently better than short n sweet ones .....i think your just being realistic n honest .

[sugarmaggie]

From a liberal womans point of view, I think you can do what you damn well please. If it feels right...do it. I tend to live by that. :)

[Woodstock_Blazer]

Well don't think that it's gonna work the way you want it to work. It's a matter of physical attraction. It doers not necessarily mean that if she is like that, then she's going to have wild sex with you instantly. http://www.hipforums.com/forums/images/smilies/devil.gif
Fkin hell calm down. I was just saying that if there is someone who 'like liked' me (as your such a teenager) then it would be good to have no strings attached more often and not have to pretend you bleedin luv em.

SHEPEHERDS BUSH geezar!! Gaar!! (ME)

[YEMphish21]

i dont think it's skankish at all. i used to ask myself that same question though, so i know what you mean. My friends and i all have a really...close relationship. we can have sex one day, then be friends until the next moment arises. as long as you're safe, have a great time!

[BigKing]

If ther safe and dont hurt any1 people can do whatever they like in my opinion.

[ZePpeLinA]

i don't think it's a big deal to be honest. I often think i could have sex with anyone i wanted given the opportunity, no strings attached of course. In a funny way, I think is less complicated than actually pursuing a relationship.

[Leslie]

I don't find anything wrong with it.It's nice to not have any kind of emotional attachment to someone you're having sex with.

[Neo-hippie]

Right on sis! keep on rocking

Blessed Be

[dannyandkodiak]

i've noticed lately that we are switching roles.. woman are becoming more open because we are so use to men using us and leaving us that eventually we all started doing the same thing. well not all of us but a pretty big majority of us. men are starting to hold back, I can't believe how many men i know who are virgins.. well maybe they are just saying that they are.. but i also know a lot women who say the exact same thing you just said.... it's completly natural and it's about time right?

[grimjivey]

it's completly natural and it's about time right?

It is about time, for all concerned...

Safety has got to be #1, but fun and physcal love are blessings that we should not let slip away.

[hippyman1252]

it almost sounds like you want to be a skank or slut or whatever names you keep calling yourself. I dont mean that personally toward you but your not a skank or a slut because you enjoy sleeping with people and like your sex, Who doesnt? Some of us are just more apt to get it and thats that. Make sure the feelings are mutual and understood before you hop in with someone then you wont have that worry. Your not a slut because you like to fuck like a rabbit when ever you get the chance. Be happy with yourself and quite worrying what others may think because like the saying goes "Those who matter dont care and those who care dont matter."

Peace

[dannyandkodiak]

It is about time, for all concerned...

Safety has got to be #1, but fun and physcal love are blessings that we should not let slip away.
shows what i know hey? :)

[Texplayboy]

I think your head is on straighter than most people. Male or Female. Good luck in your search, be safe, and always be honest with yourself. Life is an adventure, with many stops along the way. You get to decide what you want it to include. Of course, I might need to join a sex-aholic group therapy, but I know I would just be scoping the chicks..

Free your mind, enjoy your body.

James

[rastapatch]

I think that mostly it is ok to have sex with someone without marrying them, or even arranging your life around them. I also think that it's better to wait a little bit sometimes, and i will list two reasons.


1. Sex is better with 'the right person' and you don't want the 'wrong' girl sitting on you lap when the 'right' girl walks in (so to speak).

2. Waiting can be just downright sexy.

For the most part though, if you are safe and clear, which you seem to be, then you should not be worried about it.

What is safe is a whole can of worms for a thread of it's own. lol

[Capn_Danger]

I think that mostly it is ok to have sex with someone without marrying them, or even arranging your life around them. I also think that it's better to wait a little bit sometimes, and i will list two reasons.

1. Sex is better with 'the right person' and you don't want the 'wrong' girl sitting on you lap when the 'right' girl walks in (so to speak).

2. Waiting can be just downright sexy.Well, maybe for some people, but others among us are a bit more...red-blooded :X.

1. The "right person" for me would understand and accept my attitude towards sex, really. I don't really see myself being with someone who is less open-minded than that.

2. It can? Are you sure? I'm pretty damn skeptical about that one, lol. Waiting can also be excruciating, frustrating, and fucking boring! I say, if the desire is there and both people are mature enough to handle it, go for it! Life is too short to miss out on stuff like that.

And lilylove, loving sex, being earthy and sensual, or being casual towards sex doesn't make you a slut or skanky. It makes you liberal and red-blooded. Being promiscuous doesn't mean you have to have low standards, and I'd think of a "slut" or "skank" as someone who doesn't respect themselves or demand that their partners are worthy of being with them. You can have casual sex and still be respectable, definitely.

[evil lesbian]

i am the same way especially when i used to be with guys.
maybe your a lesbian LOL, i'm just kidding so don't take it the wrong way.
i see where your comming from though sometimes you don't want people to need you or you to need them you just want to enjoy their company

[Caitlin]

Nothing wrong at all..youre just a free and open human being...I feel pretyt much the same, and have acted upon these tendencies before

[rastapatch]

captain danger, hmmm?

hmmmm.

That's a joke about the monkey, right? I mean your not the monkey are you? and you don't look dangerous? It's a joke right? about the toitlet? or somethin like that?

Your post speaks for itself. I won't try to flay or defend you. Folks can see it. I will point out one thing though, for your own benefit, though you might percieve my intent differently.

I am quite sure i, and most the folks on this thread, have experienced what you are talking about. I am almost equally sure you do not know what i am talking about ((insert soft smile here to make you feel better)).