Why do we have this attraction toward sex?

[skybird]

Have you ever wondered why we are so attracted to sex? Why do we have this feeling for love and to be loved?

The answer is very simple. I can endevour to answer it in a scientific manner or in a biblical manner.

Scientifically:

Some scientists have discovered a long time ago a gene in our blood system that is responsible for being a catalist between our body parts, such as the skin, the eyes, the nostrels, etc and the brain, which is really the largest but most important sexual organ we have. That gene is what's making us go wild with sexuality whenever we "see" nakedity or when we are in sexual or even less than sexual contact with somebody. Given that most of us are hetrosexual we are automatically "attracted" to the opposite sex. Andgiven too that those of us who are not heterosexual, that is Bisexual, or homosexual, they are in turn attracted also.

This particular gene is most active in women, not so much in the sexual sense but ALSO in her want to reproduce children. She will normally come to the age in which she finds it "natural" to want and long tio have a baby. So there you have it in two folds. One, that she gets horny during her hormonial bouts (or to some otherwise) and two, her natural homonial "clock" to need and want children.

If you study the science of evolution you will find that all creatures and humans learn to "survive" the race. That is done and obtained by reproduction. And this urge for reproduction in our systems is what's making that particular gene to make us feel horny and as a result... our sexual attraction to the opposite sex, etc.

Biblically, there is mention in the Kabbalah about the Creater who has embedded this gene into our system so that we may "multiply".

So why fight it? Why make it unattractive and dirty when it's actually in our genes, in our system?

Make love not war! :)

[Hikaru Zero]

Uh ...

Genes don't travel specifically through the blood. Maybe you meant "chemical?" But if you have a gene, it's going to be in every cell in your entire body.

Also, scientifically, I'd argue that the reason why we have sexual tendencies is because they're necessary for reproduction and survival.

[Natedog]

There has got to be more to this. Human emotion simply can not be reduced only to physical explanations.

Of course the basic force or necessity comes from the need for the race to continue, and reproduce.

But you're right, why fight it, and what is so "dirty" about it. A lot of what gets taught about "sexual morality" is, I have to say, criminal narrow-mindedness; the kind of narrow minded, sheep-producing "thinking" that has kept true liberal freedom from a lot of people.

Whether we call ourselves hippies, free spirits, or any name, it is up to us to help people open there eyes.

(At least we do not live in the Victorian Era! :rolleyes: Lets keep up the program to free people. :)

[Hikaru Zero]

There has got to be more to this. Human emotion simply can not be reduced only to physical explanations.

If they can't, how do you explain using psychoactive chemicals to tamper with human emotion?

Humans are purely physical creatures, and while I understand that it may seem like there is something more to it, I don't understand how other people can't fathom the idea that there isn't something more to it.

In my opinion, it is what it is, which is why it's so beautiful, and fragile.

Whether we call ourselves hippies, free spirits, or any name, it is up to us to help people open there eyes.

Quite right. =) *thumbs up*

[MarvlMan]

Lmao

Because it feels good

Why do you salivate when you see a really good advertisement for food? Because it tastes good

[andcrs2]

Learned or involuntary (genetic) response?

[buttrfly)i(]

Lmao

Because it feels good

Why do you salivate when you see a really good advertisement for food? Because it tastes good
that so true! we associate sex with feeling awesome and we want it. its the only logical reason.

maybe is genes but who cares really.

[skybird]

Uh ...

Genes don't travel specifically through the blood. Maybe you meant "chemical?" But if you have a gene, it's going to be in every cell in your entire body.

Also, scientifically, I'd argue that the reason why we have sexual tendencies is because they're necessary for reproduction and survival.

Well yes you have explained it better than me. It's basically a chemical reaction. And the key word here is survival.

So next time you feel all horny and fluffy remember that your survival kit is on mode "On". ;)

[Hikaru Zero]

So next time you feel all horny and fluffy remember that your survival kit is on mode "On". ;)

lol ... "berserk pack," ala Doom. Hehehehe ... :X

[hippychickmommy]

It's all about passing along your genetic code. Survival of the fittest. Procreation.

Of course it feels awesome, but our desire for it is inbred. Whether or not you want children doesn't matter. Your body does, and sends off the signals to get busy. ;)

[Natedog]

If they can't, how do you explain using psychoactive chemicals to tamper with human emotion?



That is the reason the psychiatric drugs don't do any good. Certainly they "tamper with" human emotion. They do not improve them. They seriously f--- up people's minds.

What is really astonishing is that these deadly substances are approved for use and encouraged by our government, while harmless weed is illegal???? Go figure.

[toolstheshit44]

sigmund freud.........

[Natedog]

Freud?? What does he got to do with this? He was utterly clueless. :rolleyes:

[ArmOutsideIn]

Why do we have this feeling for love and to be loved?The idea of love is conidtioned. We grow up seeing it in movies, on tv, reading it, hearing people talk about it. We want to be loved because we're all under the impression that life cannot be worth living unless someone loves you. We're raised to be needy.

[Tsubasa]

The idea of love is conidtioned. We grow up seeing it in movies, on tv, reading it, hearing people talk about it. We want to be loved because we're all under the impression that life cannot be worth living unless someone loves you. We're raised to be needy.
I disagree. Yes, there are movies with plots that exemplify love. But look at what our culture actually reflects: commercials and sports and politics and fast food and "no down payments until 2007" all exude the idea of instant gratification. Those movies are just the foolish daydreams of the Western culture. Westerners watch the movies and they like them, but the next minute they're out buying a faster car or a bigger TV or a better computer.
I think that we're conditioned for a fast, selfish lifestyle that lacks substance. People who suffer the most problems in life (e.g. depression, addiction, suicide) are generally very sold on the idea of "I want this now". There isn't an influence in our popular culture pushing us towards honest, deep connections with other human beings. I think that loving connections with other people provide a depth to life that we would not otherwise have.

We can't be satisfied with insubstantial, materialistic objects. Our bodies are of the material world and need the material world to survive. Our minds and our hearts are of a different realm. Our thoughts don't manifest physically, the manifest within us. And therefore our minds and hearts demand something different to survive. A depth of character and meaningful relationships are what make humanity thrive.

[ArmOutsideIn]

But look at what our culture actually reflects: commercials and sports and politics and fast food and "no down payments until 2007" all exude the idea of instant gratification.
What about the singles hotline commercials (with the horrible actresses giggling about how they had so much fun staying in on the phone all night) or the commercials for yet ANOTHER match making web site to help one find their true soul mate?
And every show, or almost every show (you might throw a few exceptions at me) has some sort of twisted love plot, exploiting both sex and the idea of love. What about fairy tales we hear about as children? Of princesses trying to find their Prince Charming or their knight in shining armor?
Maybe these influences aren't pushing us towards "honest, deep connections with other human beings" but they're pushing us to fake that out of desperation.

We don't have only material objects to rely on if we don't have meaningful relationships. People forget that they always have themselves. We always have our minds and our thoughts, but we're so busy panicking about being alone that we become blind to what is always with us.

[ArmOutsideIn]

you don't believe that...:p
Sure I do...why else would I post it?

[toolstheshit44]

Freud?? What does he got to do with this? He was utterly clueless. :rolleyes:
your utterly clueless.....you obviously havent read up on him. he describes the drives for sex within a human.

[Kyle01]

great joy to have sex... abselutly

[MeMilesAway]

I disagree. Yes, there are movies with plots that exemplify love. But look at what our culture actually reflects: commercials and sports and politics and fast food and "no down payments until 2007" all exude the idea of instant gratification. Those movies are just the foolish daydreams of the Western culture. Westerners watch the movies and they like them, but the next minute they're out buying a faster car or a bigger TV or a better computer.

No way. I agree with the previous poster. It is all sensationalism. First this attraction toward sex is more noticeable in Western culture than the rest, and because of the very reasons you listed above. These movies we watch are filled with auditory infused love scenes that embelish 'love' and create unreachable emotional expectations. Same with sex scenes that are created to look like a performance, but aren't real.

Big movie kisses from Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt (bad example im sure?) have our eyes fixed on the big screen as wet lips collide and tongues tussle. Art dictates life more than the opposite.

Someone said 'inbred' but I prefer 'programmed' and it ain't Darwin's evofooltion, but culture. Forget Freud and look at Chomsky, Hall, etc. This whole attraction toward sex has jumped centuries ahead once instant porn and cyber sex became Western Culture.

[Natedog]

your utterly clueless.....you obviously havent read up on him. he describes the drives for sex within a human.
He talks about it, yes, but as far as I can tell, he made up everything he wrote, or pulled it out of his ***, basically. If he had it figured out, we would not need this thread, huh.

If anything he said had any value, we'd be all set and all have what we want.

Bye

[Woodstock_Blazer]

I agree man. Nothing worse than these annoying girlies who dont want to have sex and dont relise THEY COULD FKIN DIE TOMMROW! get laid as much as you can before its too late JJEZ.

[BigKing]

Procreation, fear and survival.

[2cesarewild]

He talks about it, yes, but as far as I can tell, he made up everything he wrote, or pulled it out of his ***, basically. If he had it figured out, we would not need this thread, huh.

If anything he said had any value, we'd be all set and all have what we want.

ByeBefore you completely dismiss him, have you gone through any psychology curriculum at a university? They teach a lot about his methods. If they were completely useless, he would not be covered so much.


Anyways in response to the thread question, I believe in evolution. The number one purpose is to propagate your species, which is through sex, so I think that we are all attracted to sex because it is pro-evolution. Someone who is always wanting sex is more likely to spread many seed. This is at its most basic level though, as human desire is complicated.

[wolfie65]

Not everyone is ATTRACTED to sex.

[morningstarshine]

Not everyone is ATTRACTED to sex.No, but everyone has some sort of sex drive.

[wolfie65]

No, but everyone has some sort of sex drive.
That depends on what you call "sex drive"

[evil lesbian]

the reason that it has become unattractive or dirty is because our 'polite' society is one that has taught itself this "if it feels good, don't do it!"

[CckBlocking]

Love is real. Even if its just our human nature to not be alone and stay with someone (safety in numbers) we still feel and love eachother. You can't deny that there are some pople whom you want to be with forever and you want to know everything about them. I'm thinking of this movie right now with Keanu whoever where he's the spawn of Lucifer. And Lucifer says love is no different chemically then eating large amount of chocolate. Its true, but that doesn't mean love is fake, our enitre excistence is based on chemistry and darwinism.

Sex is propelled for our desire to procreate, creating the best possible offspring and also explains the general basics of why males and females think of sex differently. Society has chagned our desire from survival of the species to happiness in ourselves.

I know I'm doing a crappy job explaining all this, but my own thoughts aren't really formed fully on this matter. So I'll repost as I feel necessary.

-CB

[CckBlocking]

P.S. I was just thinking about something we learned in my advertising class.


In a capitalistic society such as ours (America, Europe, etc) sex is one of the only things that you can do for free. Everything else cost money. Sex is open to everyone throughout the world as free entertainment. THe influence of our Capitalistic societies can befelt through out the world, even in third world countries. In these places where people can barely afford food and clothing, sex, love andreligion are the only things they have to hold on to.

-CB