newly single and wanting to do everyone

[gruvenmama420]

see my thread:
http://www.hipforums.com/forums/showthread.php?t=132194

so i basically wanna make love to a buncha cute guys/girls i'm friends with and seen or talked to. many of those people would. my and my bf are broken up, i guess. i dont know if its wrong or not. he's not persuing any nw relationships for a while

and i havent had sex in 2 years. is it wrong for me to just go all 'free love' on myself? i havent done that in a while. maybe it will upset my ex. i;m not sure, but i know i need some luvin

[greengoddess]

well I'm here... ;)

[nesta]

i wouldnt think of it as "wrong" as in morally reprehensible, but certainly it could be potentially dangerous to your health, could put you in some dangerous/compromising situations, or could lead to a lot of regrets later in life...

[gruvenmama420]

well I'm here... ;)
ohhh hhehe! wish you lived round here mama

[gruvenmama420]

i wouldnt think of it as "wrong" as in morally reprehensible, but certainly it could be potentially dangerous to your health, could put you in some dangerous/compromising situations, or could lead to a lot of regrets later in life...true, but i'd be sensible bout that stuff

[greengoddess]

ohhh hhehe! wish you lived round here mama
me too! ;) lol

[nesta]

yeah, but how many people would you think admit to or pursue recklessness? these things are almost all UNEXPECTED....

stds and pregnancy are a huge concern, even if you use protection. condoms break, pills simply just dont work sometimes, and theres no such thing as an emotional condom. feelings could become established where you dont want them to be, yourself or others could be emotionally hurt by your actions. and just because you think someone is cute or whatever today doesnt mean you won't view him as a peice of shit you wish you'd never met, let alone slept with, tomorrow. it happens. opinions change, people change. looking back in life you may regret sleeping with a lot of people (if it gets to that point) or sleeping with a particular person, etc.

theres no predicting any of this. shit happens. you can do your best for it to turn out ok, but my point is there is no foolproof method to it. exploring newfound freedom is all fine and good, but dont go more wild than you otherwise would. just let things take their natural course...no point being any more prude or any more available than you would be anyways.

[brack1936]

I know you'd be wise gruven - and I can understand your desire for free love - I'm after it too! You know you can always come to Austr ....... I mean, I wish you the best, with "bits" like yours, you shouldn't have any trouble! You seem to be a beautiful person too. Hugs and kisses 4 eva!

[wharfmouse]

Quite an interesting clash of thoughts that just went through my mind. Part of me says what you said is all good...go for it. But then I thought it would be a bad idea for you. Jealousy might just pop its little head in. I know I would be jealous (not possesive). It just seems like a natural reaction.

But don't take my talk of caution mislead you. I would be eternally grateful if I could make love to you (not that I'm expecting any such thing to occur). Sorry if that sounds creepy...I'm not trying to be a pervert.

[sassure]

Be sensible, but be free.....never let that spirit die. You'll adjust as you go.....

[justincan]

it shouldnt upset your ex, as long as he is sensible/mature about it. ive always encouraged my ex's to get back out and find guys. although part of that may be me trying to make it more accepted for me to do the same. also he broke up with you right? so then even if he does have a problem, its due to a situation he created.

while on the topic of free love, id just like to add that i'm all for it, however i try to stay away from intercourse and stick to oral. i wont have unprotected sex untill a girl goes with me to get std tested or has been tested recently on her own, and i am very wary even when fucking with a condom.

[mrpwonder]

Its not wrong to feel that way. Just be safe about it and have all the fun you want. I was I was there for you,,love to help out...

paul

see my thread:
http://www.hipforums.com/forums/showthread.php?t=132194

so i basically wanna make love to a buncha cute guys/girls i'm friends with and seen or talked to. many of those people would. my and my bf are broken up, i guess. i dont know if its wrong or not. he's not persuing any nw relationships for a while

and i havent had sex in 2 years. is it wrong for me to just go all 'free love' on myself? i havent done that in a while. maybe it will upset my ex. i;m not sure, but i know i need some luvin

[WayfaringStranger]

you havent gone without for 2 years. sadly you have to count me out, i dont like to share.

[gruvenmama420]

well i havent had sex in 2 years, and i was dating him for 3.

i wont go crazy and do everyone, of course, but i feel so angry and frusterated i almost want to make him jealous. if he doesnt care that im with other people- then i know it wasnt meant to be. if he got jealous/hurt, i'd know he still had feelings. its come to the point where i dotn seem to have any other choice to be alone or go out and meet people.

also....i may be able to get backstage at a bisco show with my cool girl friend. i know it would end up totally wild and out of control. but i kinda want that..lol

[electricstar]

If he said that he want to be friend-only with you, and he was sincere about that, then probably you can't change this and it would be ridicolous to think you can make him jealous.
First of all you should try understand if he has problems with sex or if he truly is not interested in a relationship with you.
On the other side you have right to have sex especially if you really need it for yourself. So try to understand all quickly and then decide.
The only 2 advices: don't throw away your body just because you are frustrated or to see his reaction; if you decide to do it seek for some empathy at least and second keep it safe. Good luck!

[WayfaringStranger]

well hun maybe iwas wrong. but if he hasnt wanted to be with you in that long, then maybe it wasnt supposed to be. 2 years is a long time.

[firelip]

THIS IS SOOO WRONG!!!!!! The quoted text below is a sad misunderstanding of the nature of jealousy and love!

Jealousy is not a measure of ones love for another. Jealousy is a measure of one's own poor self image. Why waste time with a jealous lover. That is not love at all, but sheer selfishness and fear. Jealousy is not natural for one who loves themselves and loves their lover. I have never felt jealousy, and i will not tollerate from a lover. If i love someone, i want their happiness. If they are happy receiving pleasure from another lover, then great as long as they do not put me in danger. How can I help is my only question.

Jealousy is love upside down. It is born of love and fear at the same time. It is an indication that a person does not have the maturity and confidence to be a reasonable partner and that they are more selfish than loving. Avoid jealous people like the plague, they will not ever be great lovers or reliable partners.

Jim


well i havent had sex in 2 years, and i was dating him for 3.

i wont go crazy and do everyone, of course, but i feel so angry and frusterated i almost want to make him jealous. if he doesnt care that im with other people- then i know it wasnt meant to be. if he got jealous/hurt, i'd know he still had feelings. its come to the point where i dotn seem to have any other choice to be alone or go out and meet people.

also....i may be able to get backstage at a bisco show with my cool girl friend. i know it would end up totally wild and out of control. but i kinda want that..lol

[firelip]

One more point to ponder. The quote below shows how a lack of knowledge can be a dangerous thing. Anyone who thinks that oral sex is not an effective way to spread STDs, does not understand reality. HPV is often transmitted by fellatio. there is no test that can confirm that you do not have HPV, and there is no cure. Any person who has had more than two uncondomed fellatio encounters is almost certainly an HPV carrier for life. Hopefully, he will not cause too many cancers.

by the way, most other pathogens are spred by oral sex as well. Herpes for example is often undetected by tests and spreds quite nicely by oral sex. There is absolutely no way for any of us to know if we are truly disease free!

Anyone who claims to be disease free is either ignorant or just lying!


[QUOTE=.

while on the topic of free love, id just like to add that i'm all for it, however i try to stay away from intercourse and stick to oral. i wont have unprotected sex untill a girl goes with me to get std tested or has been tested recently on her own, and i am very wary even when fucking with a condom.[/QUOTE]

[Hippievixen]

hey sweet gruven, i know you've got a good head on your shoulders.

have fun, but be careful and use protection!

*hugz*

[YellowBellyHippy]

YOUR FREE!!! Go get some hot FREE love! Don't let your spirit die!

[Hippievixen]

Make Love, Not War.

*giggggles*

:p

[mrpwonder]

Make alot of Love and not war,,,,Love to be part of that with you Earth Mama
paul

[itsme6526]

count me in......... ;)



see my thread:
http://www.hipforums.com/forums/showthread.php?t=132194

so i basically wanna make love to a buncha cute guys/girls i'm friends with and seen or talked to. many of those people would. my and my bf are broken up, i guess. i dont know if its wrong or not. he's not persuing any nw relationships for a while

and i havent had sex in 2 years. is it wrong for me to just go all 'free love' on myself? i havent done that in a while. maybe it will upset my ex. i;m not sure, but i know i need some luvin

[Hikaru Zero]

Hey gruvenmama:

You live in Philly? Crazy, man. I live by Allentown, we live like ... an hour and a half away, give or take 15 minutes.

I'm in Rochester NY right now, but I'll be back for both Winter and Spring break ... if you're at all interested, I mean. ;)

You definitely sound like a kynd soul. I am a bit curious though ... what "drug problems" were you having? (You can PM me if you like.) It's all in the eye of the beholder, I'm sure ... and don't tell me that "habitually smoking marijuana" is a drug problem, haha! :H

[M2D]

can I get on that list?

[phooqu2]

let us all know what happens....maybe do a journal! yeah

p.s. ....i live in n.j. awh shucks

[US MARSHALL]

Come on your a young beautiful girl and don’t make a mistake by thinking sex is the answer to being needed or a wanted. You will find a good guy that will treat you like you deserve. Be patient it will all work out for you.

[firelip]

What if she wants a good guy and a good woman? Perhaps even 3 good guys and four good women. the point is to make the sex an expression of love regardless of when and with whom you connect. Sex is sacred!

jim

[gruvenmama420]

YOUR FREE!!! Go get some hot FREE love! Don't let your spirit die!
haha thanks Tara :)

and vixen.

i think he would get jealous cause he still has feelings for me, he's just supressing them and not seeing me so he can forget about me (the pussy way out)

[US MARSHALL]

What if she wants a good guy and a good woman? Perhaps even 3 good guys and four good women. the point is to make the sex an expression of love regardless of when and with whom you connect. Sex is sacred!

jim
Well, Jim that’s up to her and their is no one that can change that. But I do think it would be a mistake for a 18 yr old girl to use the internet to find it. Don’t you think?

[gruvenmama420]

Hey gruvenmama:

You live in Philly? Crazy, man. I live by Allentown, we live like ... an hour and a half away, give or take 15 minutes.

I'm in Rochester NY right now, but I'll be back for both Winter and Spring break ... if you're at all interested, I mean. ;)

You definitely sound like a kynd soul. I am a bit curious though ... what "drug problems" were you having? (You can PM me if you like.) It's all in the eye of the beholder, I'm sure ... and don't tell me that "habitually smoking marijuana" is a drug problem, haha! :H
haha well i'm not right smack in the city but right outside of it in the 'burbs. i go to allentown alot to make some "pick ups" haha and chill with friends.

we should catch some shows or something, esp with bisco coming up. always great to meet new people :D

as for the drug problem, i smoke weed like a chimney (nothing new) and thats never been an issue. i've just been doing too much opium and acid, and i've gotten into some dirty drugs which i'm ashamed to say (coke). coming off it is just so bad i always have to be high, and it seems like the only thing right know thats keeping me sane and maybe a bit cheerful with all this shit going down with the bf, family probs, college stuff, etc. plus i am spending too much $ on the blow, so i've slowed down a bit.

[Hikaru Zero]

haha well i'm not right smack in the city but right outside of it in the 'burbs. i go to allentown alot to make some "pick ups" haha and chill with friends.

we should catch some shows or something, esp with bisco coming up. always great to meet new people

as for the drug problem, i smoke weed like a chimney (nothing new) and thats never been an issue. i've just been doing too much opium and acid, and i've gotten into some dirty drugs which i'm ashamed to say (coke). coming off it is just so bad i always have to be high, and it seems like the only thing right know thats keeping me sane and maybe a bit cheerful with all this shit going down with the bf, family probs, college stuff, etc. plus i am spending too much $ on the blow, so i've slowed down a bit.

You don't, uh, know a guy in Allentown named Angel who you get your goods from, do you? Because that could be freaky. :P

Either way, we definitely should hit up a show or two. It's a shame that the SkyeHigh concert is already over. :P I still have to pick up my coat from the music hall, haha!

You sound a bit like my co-worker Angie. She used to be into hard drugs pretty heavily (she did coke before weed, and used to be crazy about it, even did coke with Green Day and a few other big name bands).

I've kind of coined a term for one of my hobbies ... psychoactivism. ;) I admit I haven't tried most of the illegal, hard drugs like coke, but I'm huge into natural psychoactives ... Kratom, Salvia divinorum, etc.

I don't think there's anything going on around here before I go on Winter break for 3 weeks, though. =(

[steffan]

2 years? people can survive that? who would have thought it. cant be healthy though and im sure the surgeon general would not approve of such reckless behaivor

[gruvenmama420]

haha naw i dont know him....whats he got? lol

i'll be going to bisco, maybe i can get backstage, i know a few people who said its possible. and biscos actually really into blow and stuff. but i'm not hardcore with it, i cant afford that, i just do some stuff more than i should.

except for that, i'm into all the natural stuff like you mentioned. ope and shrooms are good too.

[Hikaru Zero]

haha naw i dont know him....whats he got? lol

i'll be going to bisco, maybe i can get backstage, i know a few people who said its possible. and biscos actually really into blow and stuff. but i'm not hardcore with it, i cant afford that, i just do some stuff more than i should.

except for that, i'm into all the natural stuff like you mentioned. ope and shrooms are good too.

He can get pretty much everything, but a while ago he was at a rave and was actually stabbed with a knife ... the doctors predicted that he wouldn't live, but he did, and he's still in the business today unless something else has happened that I don't know about ...

I haven't actually heard of bisco ... what kind of music do they play? If you do get backstage ... you might want to lay off the blow. ;) When is the concert?

[gruvenmama420]

ah man, stabbed? ouch.

the disco biscuits? aw man, best music ever! are you into jambands at all?

and if i did get backstage, blow is like all that they do back there. not doing it would kinda defeat the purpose...but how seet would it be to chill with the biscuits? i'm behavin myself better now though

[gruvenmama420]

the show is dec 28th and one on the 29th. then im seeing brothers past, then railroad earth, haha. im a music junkie

[firelip]

and if i did get backstage, blow is like all that they do back there. not doing it would kinda defeat the purpose...You need better musical friends!

If you like Jam bands, you should be able to find folks wiser than that. most of the great musicians i know grew out of that phase or faded pretty fast. The best Jams are at some of the underground festivals. Those who get in are for the most part a bit wiser or they are not invited back.

blow is a fools drug. very sad! None is way too much, total disrespect to the spirit. Great jams are about channeling the spirit and creating an allincompassing vibe. Synchronicity. I have been blessed to present for a lot of great pick-up jams that blew away anything i have seen at a comercial venue. it can be some realy moving magic when a whole bunch of unrelated but talented musicians just throw down. The coked-up or tweekin musicians just fuck up the vibe. The trippin ones make it better. I am a dancer usually rather than a musician myself, so i am all about the vibe of the jam. Music is magic, let it be sweet magic not destrutive dissonance!

Love and Light

Jim

[gruvenmama420]

You need better musical friends!

If you like Jam bands, you should be able to find folks wiser than that. most of the great musicians i know grew out of that phase or faded pretty fast. The best Jams are at some of the underground festivals. Those who get in are for the most part a bit wiser or they are not invited back.

blow is a fools drug. very sad! None is way too much, total disrespect to the spirit. Great jams are about channeling the spirit and creating an allincompassing vibe. Synchronicity. I have been blessed to present for a lot of great pick-up jams that blew away anything i have seen at a comercial venue. it can be some realy moving magic when a whole bunch of unrelated but talented musicians just throw down. The coked-up or tweekin musicians just fuck up the vibe. The trippin ones make it better. I am a dancer usually rather than a musician myself, so i am all about the vibe of the jam. Music is magic, let it be sweet magic not destrutive dissonance!

Love and Light

Jim
i know and i totally understand that, i have good musical friends, but thats ust how bisco is. i dont need anything to make me enjoy music, understand that i'm basically an all natural mama except for that. im dealing with alot of bad stuff right now and somehow it came into my life. i see lots of small bands and underground musicians, im just sayin that a chance to meet bisco is rare. i know wrong from right,and i cant justify myself, but i just aint listenin to my conscience

[Hikaru Zero]

ah man, stabbed? ouch.

the disco biscuits? aw man, best music ever! are you into jambands at all?

and if i did get backstage, blow is like all that they do back there. not doing it would kinda defeat the purpose...but how seet would it be to chill with the biscuits? i'm behavin myself better now though

Yeah, I guess that makes sense ... but don't get too carried away, at the least. :P

I'm definitely a fan of jam bands, but I admit I haven't kept up or listened to many. I like a lot of the ska or jazz jam bands, especially groups with bongos. :D

I'll be back for the concert, if you're up for going and there are tickets left. (do you know how much they cost?)

[drumminmama]

there's lots of powders in backstages, but that's off topic.
Gruven, have a fling, not a big fat scene, know what I mean? If your intent, in any part is aimed at your ex, you are not ready, no mater how satisfying the moment might be.
Have a nice fling with a nice vegan earthpapa...I think there's one around here SOMEWHERE.

[Hikaru Zero]

there's lots of powders in backstages, but that's off topic.
Gruven, have a fling, not a big fat scene, know what I mean? If your intent, in any part is aimed at your ex, you are not ready, no mater how satisfying the moment might be.
Have a nice fling with a nice vegan earthpapa...I think there's one around here SOMEWHERE.

Aye, there's one. :H

But I agree with drumminmama; you shouldn't go have a fling just to get back at your boyfriend. I can understand the whole "haven't gotten any for 2 years" part, but don't let any resentment you have carry you away.

[RimmyDelicious]

I know how your feeling, I pretty much want to do every girl I see.

[WayfaringStranger]

as much as i love ya gruven, i gotta say it. after your done with your flings, and blow, and rockstars, try making some positive steps in your life, some independent thinking, and some non drug realted simple fun, i find that after i do that, my life starts going better, and i fell alot better. but i still love ya.

[MarvlMan]

I can hook you up with a Rabbit Habit instead ;-)

[gruvenmama420]

Hikaru- bisco tix are alot. they are 27 bucks but with fees and everything they end up being 40. ;x prly still on sale

Drumminmama- yea, its real hard to know exactly what i'm feeling right now. i just want somebody to love i guess since half of me feels empty.

Wayfaring- yea i often have clean fun, i've stopped the bad stuff for a bit, mostly just herb and the natural stuff now. but thats just because i'm poor and busy lol

[brack1936]

Gruven, stay strong babe. We all love you and want the best for you.

[gruvenmama420]

thanks. i wont be on the forums for a while- i'm trying to get into college and i have lots to do..

[soaringeagle]

gruv..you'll be missed..but u kno if ya want to get together for a drum circle or anything just let me know

stay strong..& dont forget to smile

[drumminmama]

hoping you will see this: sex is not love, remember. It can be companionship, but it is not in and of itself love or proof there of.

Having said that, I think Hikky is a gentleman with a good head on his shoulders and a bit of a freak. A good combination. You should think seriously about a "re-entry fling" if he's cool with whatever comes.

dm
yenta to the freaks.

[gruvenmama420]

lol thanks drumminmama (future hippie matchmaker..lol)

:&

[Hikaru Zero]

... and a bit of a freak.

! Who, me? :rolleyes:

Hey gruven, if you are down for that concert (and I can still get tickets), it's not that expensive ... you might have to put up with a lack of dancing skills though. :H

[drumminmama]

dancing, like sex can be taught to a willing student....
but gruven: look at those pics...granted I could have kids that age....

[jerzyphresh]

follow your heart and you'll be fine, there are lots of phish in the sea.

[gruvenmama420]

hehe drumminmama you're awesome...your son is quite the cutie if i must say so myself, :D

hikaru..if its the disco biscuits we're talkin about, i think it may be sold out. but theres an AMAZing Keller williams show coming to Croc Roc in allentown..prly right near you...at the end of Jan and i'll prly be there.

[Hikaru Zero]

hehe drumminmama you're awesome...your son is quite the cutie if i must say so myself, :D

hikaru..if its the disco biscuits we're talkin about, i think it may be sold out. but theres an AMAZing Keller williams show coming to Croc Roc in allentown..prly right near you...at the end of Jan and i'll prly be there.

Ahh, but I leave for Rochester NY again on the 9th. =(

Ah well ... maybe something'll come up over spring break, who knows?

[gruvenmama420]

aww...well bisco is playing again tomorrow night haha, and then theres a railroad earth show (bluegrass) on 30th and 31st.

[Hikaru Zero]

aww...well bisco is playing again tomorrow night haha, and then theres a railroad earth show (bluegrass) on 30th and 31st.

Are tickets still available?

[inbloom]

i wouldnt think of it as "wrong" as in morally reprehensible, but certainly it could be potentially dangerous to your health, could put you in some dangerous/compromising situations, or could lead to a lot of regrets later in life...Personally, I could just never see myself being like that. When I'm with someone, I want to be with them. If I'm not with anyone, then I'm not with anyone. If I GET with someone, then I'm with them and no one else.

Might sound old fashioned, or whatever, but that's how I feel. There's too many weirdos/potential diseases and whatnot, out there.

[gruvenmama420]

i feel ya inbloom...i was like that for a while, but trust me when you havent had sex in like 2 years things change (esp if you have a partner). just gota be careful

hikaru, i dont know if i'm going to RRE on new years..i may just be chillin with my friends and whatnot but i'll see

[inbloom]

Yeah, but see, before my last girlfriend, it had been about a year since I had dated girl. And even longer since I'd been without sex, and I still didn't feel that way. And I don't feel that way now either, even though it's been quite awhile since I've been with anybody. It's just not in me, to be a swinger like that. I want badly to meet someone, and be with them sexually and the whole lot, but I still feel I can wait for the right opportunity.

I mean, if that's the way YOU feel, all the more power to you. I respect your opinion, and your stance on it, but it's just not for me, you know? Each to their own, though.

[gruvenmama420]

no i agree with you, i'm generally a serious relationship person but with all this anger and frusteration who knows what might go down. after some incident last night i dont think i'll ever see him again and i'm feelign pretty vengeful, which is unlike me. i guess he brings out the worst in me

[pixellove74]

I think u should if you want and never regret any choices you make. I was careful and had free love. condom and all that .. now that im older i want lots of sex but i choose to find someone who is experienced and stick with them just because you never know how FREAKING lousy someone is in bed and unfortunately you have to sleep with them to find out. lol. Know the consequences, be upfront and honest about your desires and stay safe and HAVE FUN you are only young once and sexual exploration is a beautiful part of life :)

[pixellove74]

OH just read vengence.. not a good idea to have sex for anything but feeling good! and exploring yourself.

[heron]

and i havent had sex in 2 years. is it wrong for me to just go all 'free love' on myself? i havent done that in a while. maybe it will upset my ex. i;m not sure, but i know i need some luvin
!!!

I cant believe that. Here you are, the epitome of female sexuallity, and no one is there to worship you for it?

Gruven, I, now more than ever, want to make you my goddess for as long as you want it. I hope one day to start at your ears and end at your toes, with you trembling and exhausted after its all over.

Then we will smoke a j together.

[Shaman420]

Gruvenmama I so know you from somewhere... Where did we talk before or meet? Did you ever do Phish tour, Camp Bisco, Bonnaroo, All Good, Langerado, Vegoose or Waka in the past few years. I could list a ton of shows but looking at your gallery I know that I know you. Like its so weird.

[gruvenmama420]

Pixel- yea i do want to be careful. and i want to find someone who actually cares for and appreciates me for a change. as my moms ays, i give and give and then just get shit on. i dont wanna do it from vengeance but i have so much anger in me right now.. :( and sadness.

Heron- i know itsn't that rediculous? we used to all the all the time but he just stopped. there may have been some reasons like pregnancy or past bad relationships i've had or his LSD flashbacks when we did it. who knows. but we went out for 3 yrs, no sex for 2 yrs, no kiss for months now that i've had. i'm a very raw and sexual person like many humans and i have my needs. haven't been with anyone in so long. i know you are good to women and how you would be :) i'm just so jealous of my friends who are having great sex with other kids and friends from school *sigh*.

Shaman420- i saw the pics in your gallery and i love gabby lala and the disco biscuits ;D met them all before actually. i did all those festies and tours you mentioned and many more. you've prly seen me, i always recognize people. the dreaddie mama "amber" on hipforums was the mama who sold me amazing mango kush at dark star orchestra in philly believe it or not, and i traded her my peyote stitch necklace i made. small world! what shows/fests you gonna be at soon? i just did the NYE bisco run

[Shaman420]

Nice, nice..well not when it comes to not having sex in 2 years but nice when it comes to you going to the Biscuits NYE. I was in ATL at STS9 but I would have loved to catch Allen Aucoin's first NYE show. Did Sammy make any appearances over the weekend? Right now I have a few shows planned.. Michael Franti in AZ, STS9 with Cut Chemist/Digable Planets & Pnuma late-night in CO, Phil Lesh in NYC, and Langerado which will be my first chance to see the "new" disco biscuits. This is bugging me so bad because I look at your pictures it gives me chills how familiar you look. You should PM because I think I may know where your from but its not the kinda thing I like to talk about on a message board. I wanna say I know you from Coventry or a Coventry ticket but I think I may know you from All Good also and maybe Phish on their last Summer tour.. have you ever been to that fest and if so what years?

Also maybe I'll send you a pic and you'll recognize me the only problem is the only pic I have of me on this computer is kinda screwed up cause it was after my first attempt at getting dreddies and I would have met you before that..

Weirdness.. but kinda cool :)

[revulvar]

Completely unrelated, but inbloom is adorable. Completely adorable. Adorable enough to make me post in a thread that I have no comment for.

I guess I should come up with one --

Gruven, I think you should do whatever you want. I completely understand your desire for free, unattached sex. I went through a period of enjoying that immensely, but now feel pretty much the same way that inbloom does. If I'm with someone, I'm with them and no one else. And if I'm single, I like to stay that way. Casual sex, while fun, has led to far too many problems in my life to make it worthwhile.

But you, you should do it if you feel that it's the right thing for you at this stage in your life. But do be careful, as everyone has said. There are a lot of diseases out there and no one wants to get one.

[firelip]

Polyamory is a viable thrid option folks. Monogamy has a very poor track record from what i have seen, but unemotional sex lacks all the beauty. Love is not a pie to be divided, it can be infinitely shared

Jim

[gruvenmama420]

Shaman- yea i was all over those festies and stuff, i bet you did see me somewhere, i'm pretty short and petite if that helps. sure you can PM me

revulvar- yea inbloom is a cute pie! hehe. yea i havent come across anyone lately that feels the ssme about me as i do the..or maybe i dont know it. hm.

[ButterCupDaisy]

yeah, but how many people would you think admit to or pursue recklessness? these things are almost all UNEXPECTED....

stds and pregnancy are a huge concern, even if you use protection. condoms break, pills simply just dont work sometimes, and theres no such thing as an emotional condom. feelings could become established where you dont want them to be, yourself or others could be emotionally hurt by your actions. and just because you think someone is cute or whatever today doesnt mean you won't view him as a peice of shit you wish you'd never met, let alone slept with, tomorrow. it happens. opinions change, people change. looking back in life you may regret sleeping with a lot of people (if it gets to that point) or sleeping with a particular person, etc.

theres no predicting any of this. shit happens. you can do your best for it to turn out ok, but my point is there is no foolproof method to it. exploring newfound freedom is all fine and good, but dont go more wild than you otherwise would. just let things take their natural course...no point being any more prude or any more available than you would be anyways.





Insightful!!! I agree with your opinion I think that sex can be a good thing and a bad thing, but you never know who's doing it right or who's plain old taking advantage of it....

[stmfp]

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[Davino]

see my thread:
http://www.hipforums.com/forums/showthread.php?t=132194

so i basically wanna make love to a buncha cute guys/girls i'm friends with and seen or talked to. many of those people would. my and my bf are broken up, i guess. i dont know if its wrong or not. he's not persuing any nw relationships for a while

and i havent had sex in 2 years. is it wrong for me to just go all 'free love' on myself? i havent done that in a while. maybe it will upset my ex. i;m not sure, but i know i need some luvin

Why haven't you had sex? Good luck!

[revulvar]

I'm starting to feel the same way.

For some reason, my sex drive died, but now it's revving back up.

Ugh.

[heron]

Gruven, my advice is to do what you want, but remember this,

Share your body with anyone, but never give it away.

Respect yourself sister, you are a goddess.

[gruvenmama420]

yes i do respect myself Heron, thanks for the advice. i've been used too many times to let it happen again.

i do have a guy friend that has liked me for a while, he always wanted to have sex w/me etc. he's a virgin and apparently i'm the guy "devirginator" so i
m wonderin if i should go ahead lol? i'm not really attarcted to him, he's a jock kinda and def not at all like me but we've known each other for a while

[heron]

It would make his world if you did. You obviously dont feel obligation, so share away sweet sister, blow his mind, but only if you think you'd enjoy it.

[gruvenmama420]

hehe man the things i'd do to him... :D

[Sexy_bi_Guy]

Wow....you are one sexy looking girl hon. Wish you were not so far away. I don;t want to spoil your fun but just keep a head on about STD's etc while you are having fun. and don;t let anyone disrespect you.

By the way.......Ever thought of a MFM threesome?....and with bisexual guys?.....Ah well just a thought.....LOL

[deathmachine]

im just gonna go with the natural male reaction and say yyyeeeeeeeaaaaaahhhhh 207-751-1420 burlington hit me up gorgeous

[gruvenmama420]

ahh burlington? i may be going to UVM

[deathmachine]

uvms all right but its packed with jersey girls and drunk college kids, champlain or st. mikes are better, or ccv which is for poor unambitious kids like myself, either way im always down for kickin it with sexy mamas hit me up if you want

[gruvenmama420]

ew i was hopin theres more headdie kids up there

[deathmachine]

naw burlington is the shit but uvm is packed full of stupid kids, but theres tons of coolones too like the people i live with

[fitzy21]

yar, burlington is great. theres plenty of headdie kids up that way. but the majority of the parties i've been to (uvm, st. mikes, and champlain) have been all drunken college kids just like any other school. though i did find a few stoner houses a couple times i've been up there. i'm 45 minutes south of burlington.

[deathmachine]

dude there are tons of cool kids here but i mean thats expected at college parties, they facilitate akward crowds of kids packed to tight to move, and drunk assholes falling over themselves they gotta get it right, hippy kids know how to party for sure, dumbass college kids only think they do

[2cesarewild]

im just gonna go with the natural male reaction and say yyyeeeeeeeaaaaaahhhhh 207-751-1420 burlington hit me up gorgeous

yea this guy's got the right idea, i'm in lowell mass, north of boston drop by and we'll have some blunts, some sly stone, and the free-est (word? who knows...) love imaginable.

Bummer about your man, sounds like ya maybe should have cut him off a bit ago though. Good luck with your issues.

[JerryGarciasGuitar]

Blunts suck. Roll joints, dude.

[2cesarewild]

AHaha, yea, maybe if you smoke schwag. It's a northeast thing I guess.

[JerryGarciasGuitar]

No everyone down here around my age smokes those too.

I'm just old fashioned I guess. Joints and bongs for me.

Btw, I do smoke schwag. I don't buy it though. I've never bought my own bag. I get it from someone older for free, and I guess thats what hes used to. I smoked it exotic a couple of times with some people in high school. I liked how it kinda crept up on me rather than coming all at once, it seemed to last longer, and the feeling I got from it was generally better. It wasn't the heavy "stoned" feeling it was more like I got to feeling hyper. I'm not sure what kind it was..but i do remember it had white on it and changed colors when you burned it.

[2cesarewild]

Btw, I do smoke schwag.
Then you support terrorism. :D


OG thread starter: i looked at your gallery, and it's safe to say that your ex is a disappointment to all of mankind.

[Shaman420]

What kind of fool would smoke a joint over a blunt?! Thats not a NE thing thats someone who wants to get straight up baked... or maybe its an East Coast thing. :^)

[JerryGarciasGuitar]

I guess I'm just old school here, but i think its a waste of weed and a cigar both. Fuck that shit. ^

[Shark_Skin]

Obviously you need to take precautions but SEX is very healthy. Your only 18, Don't worry about realationships and commitments, release yourself. There is not enought LOVE in this world so pass it around!

[jahsun]

TWO YEARS!!!??? Wow, Get your luvin girl. You deserve it, and so do the rest of us. I guess, but I think if youre real close to someone(s) and feel comfortable, youre not attached to anyone, your x-boyfriend will be over it eventually, its really up to YOU, as long as youre ready, DO IT UP- don't screw it up, though.Maybe you'll feel like hookin up with sumbody or maybe just some good ol' luvin's just what the doctor ordered. "Feel your way, feel your way, like the day before"
_Peace_Love_and More Love_...

[EssexG]

hey just keep safe and its cool sign me up

[Texplayboy]

Two years is TOO Long.. I say GO.. or CUM.. to Amsterdam.. March.. :-).

James

[evil lesbian]

if you are half as smart as you are beautiful, i'd say do what you want and enjoy every minute of it

[Davino]

any luck, mama?

[Nolan14]

havent had sex in 2 years. is it wrong for me to just go all 'free love' on myself? go for it

[dances in pajamas]

Two years... Damn. And I thought a month was suffering. I'm nearly fucking anyone right now! Wish I lived by you!

[kissMeImPolish]

see my thread:
http://www.hipforums.com/forums/showthread.php?t=132194

so i basically wanna make love to a buncha cute guys/girls i'm friends with and seen or talked to. many of those people would. my and my bf are broken up, i guess. i dont know if its wrong or not. he's not persuing any nw relationships for a while

and i havent had sex in 2 years. is it wrong for me to just go all 'free love' on myself? i havent done that in a while. maybe it will upset my ex. i;m not sure, but i know i need some luvin
darlin,

it's entirely wrong for you to refuse yourself some of teh pleasures you passed on in the last two years. You're gorgeous, your kind and inteligent, artistically talented, and you got engough brain cells to lend to half the Bush administration!

I say go girl, have some fun!!!

Sweet Kiss,

Greg

[blinkin]

two years.....
wow, man I did the celebesy thing in my younger more spiritual years......feelin for ya
go fuck your brains out,
it wont help at all it will confuse you, mess you up, you may even enjoy it when its happening...proabbaly will, but later youl regret it.

been there ......losing love sucks, my wife just kicked me out, Im living in my bus in toronto, I dont know any body here.....but Ive taken the good with the bnad and allowed some much needed self reflection.

im feeling for ya sister, much love stay safe
drew

[Arnstein]

Arnstein at your service!

[HybridS]

newly single as well

[332209]

if u r single then enjoy your life. after marriage life will be dull

[Bumble]

see my thread:
http://www.hipforums.com/forums/showthread.php?t=132194

so i basically wanna make love to a buncha cute guys/girls i'm friends with and seen or talked to. many of those people would. my and my bf are broken up, i guess. i dont know if its wrong or not. he's not persuing any nw relationships for a while

and i havent had sex in 2 years. is it wrong for me to just go all 'free love' on myself? i havent done that in a while. maybe it will upset my ex. i;m not sure, but i know i need some luvinyou know where I live :P

[lynsey]

hah I went through the same thing. I was with the same guy for 5 years and he was my only and when we broke up I was so incredibley curious I went a little crazy (crazy for me normal for most people I know) but then I kinda felt like a hoe and am now back to saving it for the right person...
I would fuck in moderation, it can leave feeling crappy about yourself

[Davino]

you know where I live :P
WOW, you are cute!

[Lord_Bunny]

How do you not have sex for two years? Was this something you chose to do?

[Suncatch22]

I recently had what I *think is a breakup, and I am desiring a lot of resentment/anger sex as therapy. Not good. But I might do it anyway.

I carry condoms with me at all times and am on the Pill, so I think the only danger I am in is emotional. :)

I think that might be the only real danger there is, for people who play it safe -- and it may be the greatest danger possible.

[332209]

i m waiting for you