A Question for Bisexuals

[Bocks]

I don't mean for this thread to be selectively inclusive, but for bisexuals: do you find that you tend to be attracted to both sexes consistently, or do you go through gay/straight phases?

[dmgreen]

I am attracted to both almost all the time. People are beautiful in general, weather male or female. :)

[kat_bb3]

I would'nt call it "consistent" but i can find a man attractive then two seconds later be atraccted to a woman. But consistantly i find more women atractive than men.

[TreeFiddy]

im usually more attracted to guys and i occasionally go through "phases" where im much more straight oriented.

[greengoddess]

I am attracted to men and women ALL the time, now that I'm married though, while we're out I mostly just check women out...

[lovelightlisa]

I would'nt call it "consistent" but i can find a man attractive then two seconds later be atraccted to a woman. But consistantly i find more women atractive than men.


yeah same here but consistantly, i find men more attractive

weird thing is though, all my boyfriends were bisexual too...

[GypsyPriestess]

I find all bodies beautiful, but I tend to get along better with men. I have to be able to be friends to be lovers, and though I love women's bodies, I have a hard time finding a woman I get along with well enough to want to take her to my bed. Does that make any sense?

[white ginger]

I'm inconsistent. The most turned on I've ever been has been with a boy, and yet usually I like to look at girls more. I'm such a confusing incomprehensible girl. :)

[FallenDreamer]

I'm mostly boy oriented but I do look at girls. So phases but usually I'm more interested in a person's aura first then gender.

[amp7325]

It's kind of weird for me. Sexually, I'm more attracted to guys. But I'd want to be in an actual relationship with a girl more than a guy. I dunno why, that's just the way I am.

[vimmeroony]

It's kind of weird for me. Sexually, I'm more attracted to guys. But I'd want to be in an actual relationship with a girl more than a guy. I dunno why, that's just the way I am.
Yeah that's a bit like me too. You aren't alone heh

[SunshineLovePeace]

I am attracted to both guys and girls all the time. I usually end up hooking up with guys more though. But now that Im in a serious relationship with a guy, I definitly check out more chics, its funny tho, me and my boyfriend check out chics TOGETHER :)

[lovelightlisa]

I am attracted to both guys and girls all the time. I usually end up hooking up with guys more though. But now that Im in a serious relationship with a guy, I definitly check out more chics, its funny tho, me and my boyfriend check out chics TOGETHER :)


*jumps up and down*
check me out! check me out! :p

[amp7325]

Yeah that's a bit like me too. You aren't alone heh
Yaaaay. That's reassuring for me. :)

[birdmite]

I go through phases. I just ended a 5-year relationship with a woman and now I just can't get enought cock!

-->S.

[Yourcrazedpoet]

yeah I find myself lusting for men but I really only want an emotional loving realationship with a woman

[SunshineLovePeace]

*jumps up and down*
check me out! check me out! :p
:D oh i do lisa ;)

[lovelightlisa]

:D oh i do lisa ;)



*giggles*

good to know ;)

[Bocks]

I sense a blossoming romance! ;)

[lovelightlisa]

I sense a blossoming romance! ;)



LOL *big grin* ;)

[Bocks]

*big grin back*

It's always good to smile. *nods*

[grimjivey]

*jumps up and down*
check me out! check me out! :p

Consider it done!:X Oh, and this ain't the first time...

[grimjivey]

its funny, I never even thought about men until I said "goodbye" to Christianity (just after the Christians voted George W. back into the white house).

Now I don't have all those rules. Its all new though, and I've still never been with a dude. I'd say I'm still 90% hetero, but definatly "open".

[lovelightlisa]

Consider it done!:X Oh, and this ain't the first time...



:eek:
hahahaha

right back at ya ;)

[lovelightlisa]

*big grin back*

It's always good to smile. *nods*


*nods too*
http://www.hipgallery.com/photopost2/data/500/wilson.jpg he agrees! :p


okay that was just an excuse to post a pic brian wilson...

but hey it is good smile, oh yes.

[Bocks]

Its all new though, and I've still never been with a dude. I'd say I'm still 90% hetero, but definatly "open".
That's such an open-minded way of thinking. Kudos!

[grimjivey]

That's such an open-minded way of thinking. Kudos!

Thanks Bocks!

PS. I love yer signature

[Bocks]

Merci beaucoup!

*tips hat*

[feministhippy]

I do kind of go thru phases where I lean more towards straight, and then I lean more towards lesbian.

[SunshineLovePeace]

LOL *big grin* ;)hehehe ;)

who knows...? :D

[lovelightlisa]

hehehe ;)

who knows...? :D


oooh :D

i love your new sig by the way!

[white ginger]

What I've noticed is that it might have to do with my menstrual cycles. When I'm super fertile I am attracted more to men, and when I'm not, I am to women. I think.

[lovelightlisa]

What I've noticed is that it might have to do with my menstrual cycles. When I'm super fertile I am attracted more to men, and when I'm not, I am to women. I think.


Hey yeah...
I think that might be true for me too...

[SunshineLovePeace]

oooh :D

i love your new sig by the way!thank you :D

the pic of you in ur sig has to be the hottest one yet :D

[lovelightlisa]

thank you :D

the pic of you in ur sig has to be the hottest one yet :D


thanks :D

and right back at ya!
that pic of you is so sexy :)

[Snowdancer]

I read this last night & had to stop to think about it. For me the attraction(s) come along as they do & I just haven't stopped to keep track.

As I think back on my life though I would have to say that there have been some cycles to it but I can't say how much of that is due to jumping in full force once I figured out I was bi then getting scared straight by AIDS. I still was attracted to guys in my second time in the closet & every so often would just have to go out & have an encounter.

Now that I'm back out though I have had atttractions to either gender within minutes of each other or simultaneously like when I met a couple that both made me hot.

OK so how's that for waffeling.:rolleyes: Honestly, any more in the past 4 years I have to say both.

[Snowdancer]

What I've noticed is that it might have to do with my menstrual cycles. When I'm super fertile I am attracted more to men, and when I'm not, I am to women. I think.

I suppose that goes with the theory of inate desire to procreate. I have often wondered if that is in there for us bis.

As I was trying to figure myself out (not that I really have yet) I remembered something that the high school biology teacher said about all beings have this. Where it lead my addled brain at the time is that I like women to satisfy that urge as well as & guys for male bonding as well as sex. That was something like 20 years ago now & I had abandoned it thinking it was just another of my crazy ideas but you have brought it up for me again. HMMMM.

[balance_n_venus]

I am attracted to men and women ALL the time, now that I'm married though, while we're out I mostly just check women out... Same Here

[Lilbabi17]

I am equally interested in guys and girls...sexually,i might see myself being with a guy,but other than that..i would be with a girl too

[white ginger]

There have been two couples that I've just gone dizzy over lately. I want them... unfortunately I'm sure they're like... 13 years older than me, if not 30 for one of the couples. One couple has kids. Huh.. attraction can be rough...

[lovelightlisa]

There have been two couples that I've just gone dizzy over lately. I want them... unfortunately I'm sure they're like... 13 years older than me, if not 30 for one of the couples. One couple has kids. Huh.. attraction can be rough...


Ah yeah it can be rough indeed.
I know how you feel...yip...same here..same here...

[l-foote]

I think all people are beautiful as well, though I find women to be especially attractive. So I would say that I'm more "gay" oriented...

[Captain Zeep]

I'd say the attraction is pretty consistant.

[Aaron!]

I've been through a long time thinking I was gay. But eventually I found myself more and more attracted to girls as well. Maybe I like boys a bit more, but I would definately say I am bi.

[RyJa]

I prefer and am attract more to girls, but still like guys

[Number6]

I definitely prefer women, I am often attracted to women on sight. I am rarely attracted to men on first sight. In fact, I can only think of one man I would have gotten on my knees for on the first day I met him.

[Autentique]

i think i find women more attractive, i love watching women... just observing how the move and how they talk.. for me women are more sensual about everything we do. but it's easier for me to get close to guys.

[Bishie lover]

I think I like both equally but it just so happens that I see more attractive guys than gurls XD

[summerguy713]

i agree that guys are more attractive than girls but i myself prefer guys a little more. people are all beautiful but the guys in our world are more attractive than the women

[mrpwonder]

I go through phases where I cann get enough of men and toher where I cannt get enough of women...

[Jucy]

At this moment I know exactly what your talking about. I am in love with this guy, but I find women to be so beautiful and ttractive. And its okay with him whichs weirds me out.

[cam64]

i go through phasese but i consider myself str8 but i get da hots 4 other gay or bi men as long as they r feminin but not to floppy wrist u kno supa gay

[TsuzukiAsato13]

For me, it's about even. But I've only found girls who really appeal to me lately (I'm female, BTW). But the people I usually find myself attracted to are characters from manga or anime. :: sweat drop ::

[bicuriousMatt69]

I would say it's like a 90/10

90% women
10% men

[Party Till You Puke]

I don't mean for this thread to be selectively inclusive, but for bisexuals: do you find that you tend to be attracted to both sexes consistently, or do you go through gay/straight phases?
I tend to be attracted to both sexes consistently, but there are times where I'm attracted to one sex other the other.

[gertie]

dependant on the person and the individual really.

[zilla939]

i usually just go for women since i already found me a guy and i don't think he'd appreciate me looking for another. but i find both sexes attractive in different ways. i appreciate feminine qualities in men and vice-versa.

[zilla939]

At this moment I know exactly what your talking about. I am in love with this guy, but I find women to be so beautiful and ttractive. And its okay with him whichs weirds me out.don't be weirded out.... take advantage of the fact that you and your man BOTH appreciate the beauty of the female. that's how my boyfriend is, too. it rocks.... i can be so open with him.

[dances in pajamas]

I would say I'm equally attracted to both. The one thing that kind of inhibits the quality bit is that I've never been in a serious relationship with a guy before. I've been in a serious relationship with a female, but I'd like to see what one's like with a man. But I'm not gonna lie, I can stare at women aaaaaall day.

It honestly depends on the person. I don't care what they are as long as I like who they are.

[Man_of_Death]

I would say it's like a 90/10

90% women
10% men


That kinda sums me up as well...

90% women
10% men

And I'm male like yourself.

[LTD]

I'd say I like females and males the same but I just can't get comfortable with eating out a female yet I don't like the smell or taste so i am debating weather I am even bi...I been with 2 females so far well 3 but only 2 all the way,I guess I'd pick a bisexul guy over a woman or man any day.

[erzebet1961]

I hear that a lot about being with females.....but I have yet to encounter that problem.....meaybe a nice warm bubble bath together beforehand would help...as far as taste....I never noticed anything bad....

[Man_of_Death]

I'd say I like females and males the same but I just can't get comfortable with eating out a female yet I don't like the smell or taste so i am debating weather I am even bi...I been with 2 females so far well 3 but only 2 all the way,I guess I'd pick a bisexul guy over a woman or man any day.

Depends on the woman entirely I think, I've had ones that taste great and other that taste not so great.

[KyndMama07]

I am attracted to men and women equally ( pretty much). I'm married and usually just look at women now.

[Dramatic_Pigeon]

I've always been more attracted to women. I generally don't get turned on by men. Although I prefer effeminate men and more androgynous women.

[TheMistress]

ive made a choice to only date guys from now on, but I am still attracted to women and sometimes sleep with them.

[pilgrimp]

I prefer looking at women but like both sexually. I love being with a m/f couple and will do things to both during the session. I go to the gay male baths in Denver. I am married and I do not cheat but I do men and she knows and approves.

[Corius]

In my entire life I have had a total of six partners and all were in long term relationships; three were with women and three with men. Educational and career considerations ended the first five and, although I do not see them often, all are still my friends. Only when I met the woman who has been my wife for many years was I ready and able to commit myself to a life-long relationship; fortunately she was of the same mind. I do not cheat, but I can tell you frankly that in my fantasy world I am still very bisexual and miss real intimacy with a man. Bisexuals sometimes have to make difficult decisions; in my case, I have no regrets.

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[Loveminx]

I'm not more attracted to one sex over the other.
I'm more attracted to one person over the other.

[Faye]

As this thread will show you it varries for each indivual. For me Iam attracted to both genders all the time. Right now I am not with anyone and all of my relationships that have been more then just flings have been with men.

[Isil]

Sexually, im exclusively attracted to guys, though I am bisexual.

Girls just dont...turn me on that much at all >.>

But, who I fall in love with will have nothing to do with gender.

And...for me, sex is a very small part of love (if its a part of love at all). So, if I happen to fall in love with a girl, the fact that I wont want to have sex with her wont really matter...

[kristian4o]

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[Patrick]

I am attracted to both guys and girls all the time but for different reasons.
I love women for their beauty and feminine traits. Emotionally I have the deeper feelings for women and fall in love with them.
With men I feel a deep type of sexual lust that satisfiys my soul more then sex with a women does.
Because sexually I am submissive in nature I feel completely natural servicing other guys and being a 'bottom' for them.
So, basically I am hopelessly bisexual.

[Jerimiah]

I am equally attracted to both women, and men.

[dances in pajamas]

I am attracted to both guys and girls all the time but for different reasons.
I love women for their beauty and feminine traits. Emotionally I have the deeper feelings for women and fall in love with them.
With men I feel a deep type of sexual lust that satisfiys my soul more then sex with a women does.
Because sexually I am submissive in nature I feel completely natural servicing other guys and being a 'bottom' for them.
So, basically I am hopelessly bisexual.I know someone exactly like that. He turns me on lots... hehe.

[Geneity]

I find it best to keep a ratio of sorts. I'm usually much gayer than straight, but I know I'm still attracted to women, although it's much more prevalent in guys. I think it's because I prefer the general guy mindset.

[ItzJessI3itch]

I don't consider myself bisexual exactly (i've only had sex with the opposite gender) but I do find that sometimes I am atracted to one sex or the other more then the other sometimes. I don't know if it's just the curiosity that makes me more attracted at times or if I'm not as straight as what I think I am... but I definately feel more attracted to one gender at times... and more attracted to the other gender at other times.

[Tishu]

Generally I get on much better with girls and am much more emotionally attracted to them, identify with them. But as for sexual attraction it's consistently both, though sometimes one or the other.

Though I've only ever been out with one girl, so I'm not the most reliably accurate.

[Kiwi_Toast]

I don't really go through phases, man.
Love is love..
I'm always attracted to both equally.

Girly Girl, Girly Guy, Manly Girl, Manly Guy...
whatever.

[fishface4000]

i go threw stages, i'm in a girl stage right now, i'm a girl too

[hippie_sassy]

I'm not a bisexual but I studied homosexuality and have some bisexual friends, so I think I can answer some questions here. I think bi's go to straight phases at first but later, they discover that they also like the other sex.



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[Biida]

It's not very often that I find myself attracted to a man. It takes a certain sort of something that I just can't describe. I might add I'm in a long-term relationship with a guy, something I hadn't seen coming.

Women usually do it for me.

[l-foote]

^^ i know exactly what you mean. theres just a certain lil something a guy has to have for me to be 100% attracted to him

i like chicks.

[peacexpansion]

I find girls bodies and spirits much more attractive, but i find it hard to have a real relationship w them. I can have relationships w guys but cant get girls out of my head sexually. Very confusing! Nice to know lots of people are confused with me

[ItzJessI3itch]

I find girls bodies and spirits much more attractive, but i find it hard to have a real relationship w them. I can have relationships w guys but cant get girls out of my head sexually. Very confusing! Nice to know lots of people are confused with me
Yea, I think that's the way a lot of us feel... The guy I'm currently "dating" claims deep inside I'm really a lesbian and won't admit it (jokingly) because I told him the same thing... hell I really don't understand it myself... but physically (unless he's getting down to the deed) I'm not all that attracted to men... but I don't want a relationship with a woman... maybe it's just what society has played in our heads (we should marry the oppisite sex) even though our minds wonder we have that wall....

[SkeeterVT]

I ended a 21-year relationship with a man about a year ago. Two months after the break-up, I met a woman to whom I'm now engaged to be married. Now 54, I came of age during the heyday of the original "flower children" -- and fell madly in love with the long-haired, love-beaded hippies, both male and female.

Today, 40 years after the Summer of Love, I'm still erotically attracted on my DC side almost exclusively to long-haired neo-hippie guys (Only now, they're likely to sport dreadlocks). But finding one of my generation who fits that description in this day and age who's openly gay or bi is like pulling teeth without novocaine. And I still feel uncomfortable with the thought of forming a relationship with such a guy who's young enough to be my son.

If I wasn't bi, I'd be terribly lonely. By the way, my fiancee knows that I'm bi -- and is bi-curious herself -- so the monogamy-versus-polyamory issue isn't a factor. But I've got a gut feeling that my former boyfriend of 21 years will be my last.

-- Skeeter

[stickychicky]

I am bi, I love guys sexually but I cant have a real relationship with them, unless it's the occasional f*uck now and then. Girls I can do both, flings and a real relationship. I actually prefer girls but guys are okay once in a while. But no one does it better than a chick who knows what you like. They just no how to please a girl, something to do with the fact that we both have vaginas i think lmao

have a good one bi brothers and sisters!

[stickychicky]

i also love the fact that girls and girls and guys and guys can get married here! woo canada!

[Biida]

i also love the fact that girls and girls and guys and guys can get married here! woo canada!
I thought that right went out when Harper came in.

[stickychicky]

hey emo kid, wow can you not use chat-speak, :)

thanks haha, no offense or anything its just hard to read and understand.

also it really depends on the individual person. I consider myself more lezbian than bi, but because of the occasional sexual attraction i am some-what bi. it's really the person. nobody is 100% bi or gay or straight. there is always that small non-sexual attraction that balances people out. every experience changes a person sexually, physically and mentally and it also depends if you meet someone so special that you just fall for them.

i know a lot of lezbians and gays who just fell head over heels for people of the oposite sex. its all about living life from person to person not label to label.

[Apples+Oranjes]

I don't mean for this thread to be selectively inclusive, but for bisexuals: do you find that you tend to be attracted to both sexes consistently, or do you go through gay/straight phases?
Honestly, I'm not sure I would ever have an experience with a girl/date a girl... I am/have been attracted to/liked girls, but overall I've always had a better connection with guys. Even as friends.

And when I'm attached, my sexuality doesn't concern me that much. To me, if you're with someone that you truly care about and want to be with, it doesn't matter what orientation you are... all that matters is the person you're with, and not what sex they are, or whatever else.

I've got a looooovely boyfriend right now, and just as I wouldn't scope out other guys dating him, I also wouldn't snoop for women either.

My theory doesn't involve sexuality as much as it does love... love is love, and I love who I love, and the sex of the person, or other people doesn't concern me. And when I am in love, I don't go looking for love in anyone else, regardless of sex, or whatever.

I think categorizing sexuality is overrated. Fall in love, and love every second of it, who cares what the sex of the person is.

[moongazer]

i go through those "gay" phases every once ina while, sure. the main reason why is because it usually happens afetr a guy treats me like sh*t. hm. yeah.

BUT i tend to like girls a LOT more anyways, so it doesnt phase me.

[sca2007]

im sort of weird cos i can imagine myself in a relationship with a woman more than with a man, yet i am more physically attracted to men, i dunno maybe i am just gay, id rather be bi =D more option! hehe
Sam

[emochiildof07]

sca2007 i feel da same way

[honeyfugle]

i am probably about 70% lesbian and 30% straight, but i always seem go for very very feminine qualities in people, male or female.

woman are just... beautiful. it must be said. everything about a woman is gorgeous. i pretty much just fall in love with women who are as femme as you like and really flaunt their femininity.
although, saying that i hate make up and think we all look 100% better without..

with men it's different. they need to have a certain something. the last guy i crushed on was Australian and had the most AMAZING dreadlocks. he works in my school so i saw him every day and built up this massive attraction to him. but saying that, i think i was more in love with his dreadlocks than anything else. :D
but generally in men, i cannot stand ultra-masculine personalities. i go for Femme guys! :D

[t_c_06]

hey,
i feel that i have gay and straight moments,
sometime i feel that i just dont care bout being straight and would rather be with men, but at the other times i think why the fcuk do i wna be gay?

[sandwalker]

I definitely go through phases, sometimes I'm totally into women, other times I just get totally obsessed with cock. Right now I'm in a cock phase :)

[GuruLite]

Everything is beautiful...particularly when tripping.

[Mrreal4two]

See the thread "Lonely for "my unique special real" Bi-Family"

I am a Bi-natured man who attracted to and has the ability to "love after the inward person" BOTH (not "either") a special Man AND (not "or") a special Woman. This is because I "experience thier souls differently" and am drawn to what each has to offer (physically AND spiritually) in a "relationship".

You see, with me, ironically, as one gender-bonding need is fulfilled it only enhances my need for the other.

When I am sexually active....

[NOTE: as I lead a celebate life-style, bisexality is a BORN "orientation" of "being" but can be also be (and often is for most self-claimed bi's) a "selected for now" life-style]

....Having good sex/intimacy with a male only makes me unstoppably passionate for a special female. And when I am in a good sex/intimacy relationship with a fantastic woman, I am even more passionate for my special boeeeeeee, my best man!

It is NOT as complex as it seems to the Monoganized society: Think: the movie BrokeBack Mountain "WITHOUT" the deception--drama that was inevitable because the two "bi" men were both hetero-MISSmarried(mated).

Now just meditate for a moment. If they had BOTH been a MAN about their dual "needs" AND dated and fallin in love with Bi-natured wives (women)...they would not have come to the "despair" they had to live "ALL THIER LIVES". There would be NO NEED to abandon the marriage and children for the commitment of the same-gender relationship they had.

But they, like us, live in a "single"-mate taught morality society that brought about a life of deception, hiding, desparation for same-sex intimacy.

I WON'T live my "one life to live" that way --- I would rather live a celebate life-style because other Bi folks (ironically) CAN'T or WON"T see that we bi-persons need to be "active" in educating the society (that instills morality to our Bi children) by word AND deed on the value of dual monogamy when we are attracted to both genders.

[franzde]

I personally find that my sexuality frequently varies. sometimes i can find myself longing for intimacy with another guy and then the next day feel that this previously strong urge has dissipated and been replaced by a strong urge for intimacy with a girl. I also feel as though it depends on typically male and female characteristics and what sort of company you feel you are lacking at the time.

[sublime94]

Its flip-flop. Some times I doubt im bi, but other times, I realize that I actually am.

[JaminBen]

I can walk down the street and say to my friends 'He's hot, shes hot, shes hot, he's hot' etc. I find both genders just as attractive in their own ways

[peaceloveandshrooms]

I'm bi but I am generally more attracted to women. I do kind of have phases though. For the past few months I have only been attracted to women and actually started to question whether or not I am truly bi. I currently have a boyfriend though, so I've been reminded of how much I like boys too.

[lostdazedintime]

it varies in level of preferance, but i really prefer guys.

[Jungle]

I go through phases mostly, but if I'm looking for a guy but see a hot girl I'd still be more than happy to go for it.

[lovelorned]

As for me, I only like one man, and I doubt I can stop..Other than him, I"m stright female all the time..the only reason I used to go through those phases you're talking about is becauseI grew up in a family that didn't accept gays or bisexuals, so I tried to stop, but I couldn't so, since I couldn't stop I just don't try anymore..the thoughts are still there..

[ardus]

Like many I am attracted to both men and women quite often, but the last couple of years most of my attention has been going to men. Who knows, maybe this will stick or maybe I'll swing back, but either way I am having fun.

[Geneity]

I put it into a ratio of 60/40 guys/girls. Though it does swing around a bit.

[Rave0]

Ah well personally I'm wishy washy. depends my mood, I find men and women both attractive at the same time but like..its takes more for guys to turn me on.

[Goth Scream]

Right now i'm in love with a girl, i'm atracted to her both mentaly and physicaly, but i have one-night stands with guys so with them, right now it's just for physical pleasure, and that happens only because the girl i previously wrote about convinces me to accept guys hitting on me. It's weird.. The idea is that i love my girlfriend and she loves me :) So right now i'm more atracted to women..

[Adrenaline]

I don't mean for this thread to be selectively inclusive, but for bisexuals: do you find that you tend to be attracted to both sexes consistently, or do you go through gay/straight phases?I sometimes go through phases like that, but most of the time I like both genders equally.

[Narcolepsy]

I used to think I was more sexually attracted to girls, but lately I've just been into the cock. If I were to put it into percentages, I'd say I'm 60% straight (men) and 40% gay (women). It fluctuates. When I was single, I thought I was much closer to 50/50 or maybe even more attracted to women. Now that I'm in a relationship with a man, I definitely feel more attracted to men.

[Psychadelik]

I'm more attracted to girls than guys...I find myself looking and thinking about girls more than guys. However, I do have my occasional guy crush and will check a couple out. In the long run, I'd rather be with a girl than a guy. :)

[nakedtreehugger]

consistently i'm attracted to girls. until a year ago, that was all i was into. then i met a guy that i surprisingly fell in love with. he's so far the only guy i've ever really been attracted to, but i'm open to the idea that it may happen again.

but through the whole experience of being "straight" for a while, i've realized that i fucking LOVE being in a relationship with a guy, because we get along better. it's awesome to be in a relationship with someone who you can just hang out with and be real. i have a hard time doing that with girls generally.

BUT, the original question... i'm consistently attracted to women. but sometimes when i'm fantasizing doing my masturbation thing, the thought of cock really sends me over the edge. so maybe i'm just confused, or in transition! lol!!!

[Jackbone]

I am mostly attracted to ladies, but some guys just make my head spin....

[moongazer]

i'm always going to find women more attractive than guys. i'm NEVER straight! lol.
there are times when i just solely go for women, though. just the thought of men creeps me out>.<
it depends on the day, really.

[dymatize]

When it comes to a woman - i LOVE 'em and can't get enough...from head to toe (my wifes got such pretty feet) but i'd say i'm pretty unusual coz when it comes to a guy i'm only orally and manually bi - don't find men a turn on - just cocks !!

[gratefulxdeadx88]

I would actually have to say that I am more physically attracted to guys, but a realationship with a woman is much different. My ex-girlfriend and I were together for about 1 year and 4 months and the attraction was very diffrent than that of an old boyfriend.

[lily120]

I think I go through phases lol.
I was in a room with really attractive people and I could pick three to fuck, I'd probably pick two girls and one guy.
Maybe because I'm not into my boyfriend, i dunno lol

[papelucho]

I go through phases, but often I am like Mrreal4two,


You see, with me, ironically, as one gender-bonding need is fulfilled it only enhances my need for the other.

If I really get into a guy, then shortly after I'll be really hot for a girl, usually within the hour. It's been such a mysterious part of my sexuality, I'm really glad that someone else is like that too!

[peterODB]

I'm male and bi. I seem to go through weeks where i'm attracted to both. But then on a cycle of every 3-4 weeks i just crave and want cock, no else but cock. I look for it every where i go, and seem to look for it more a night, until i'm statisfied.

[ganesha1967]

I am not into putting a meter to this question, or apply a percentage to which gender I prefer... I have found interesting mixtures of lovable character traits which are generally seen as typically male in women, as well as female traits in men. To me, as to other previous posters, the main aspect of attraction (be it the nice and butterflies-in-the-belly feeling of falling deeply in love or the hormonal, sweet and heavily-perfumed sexual urge) is the human being I am facing, not the gender of him/her.

If the mutual chemistry fits, the feelings I have for a person remain the same - as well as the sensuality, warmth and tenderness exchanged. Of course, there are definite variations on a sexual level... anyone can relate to that simply by laying your head in a woman's lap, and then into a man's lap. There is clearly a difference between the two. And having sex differs between making love to a woman or a man, too. That is just a fact of the different blueprints by which male and female bodies are built.
:D
When fantasizing about having sex (which I do, as everyone does, while masturbating) I have my fantasies about women and men I have been with as well as dream men and women, so to speak. Sometimes it is about being with either of them alone, or in a very intense group-cuddling situation leading to more than mere hugs and caresses.

So, I can't really say, which side I tend to prefer... I am more like walking on the middle lane, looking to both sides equally - and happily enjoying any encounters with people who happen to walk that middle lane together with me.

Lots of love (now that Spring has sprung for real),

:hug: :daisy: :rainbow:

~*Ganesha*~

[blueberrymilk]

Well for me, it kind of depends on the person.
I mean, I guess I like boys a little more then girls, but it’s hard to say.

[*__flower__*]

I go throught phases sometimes, but sexually guys rule, and love with girls <3

[Electric boy]

Depends on the guy or girl but overall the same. - I think girls more then guys but it just depends on my mood and weather they are straight or gay - hard to tell which i prefer more (guys or girls that is)

[wastingthedawn]

I usually feel pretty gender neutral about who I'm attracted too...but there are deff times when I crave just woman or just men for short periods of time.

[Karmalized]

I am attracted to both guys and girls all the time. I usually end up hooking up with guys more though. But now that Im in a serious relationship with a guy, I definitly check out more chics, its funny tho, me and my boyfriend check out chics TOGETHER :)

same here, but he still gets in trouble for it from time to time...haha
hypocritical, i know, but i think it's funny, he never says anything to me about doing it....:p

[Branwen]

I alternate between the two. I admire both sexes pretty much all the time, but I'll for months at a time where all I think about is women. hen, something switches and all I think about are guys.

[Theweirdone]

Guys: Purely sexual, not attracted to the guy per say. I'm more attracted to their penis. lol
Girls: Both physical, and emotional. I love the feminine form, and the sweetness most women have.
MTF transgender: Combines the best of both worlds
FTM: Not really my thing... Nothing against them, I'm just not attracted to them.

[sushiosoyum]

I alternate between the two. I admire both sexes pretty much all the time, but I'll for months at a time where all I think about is women. hen, something switches and all I think about are guys.

I'm currently in the 'dick phase'...I've been thinking about a nice cock in my mouth or ass everyday for the past three months! I like pussy too but I'm really bored with it, especially after the TERRIBLE lay I had a few days ago with this lame girl..........just reminded me that girls don't know how to properly suck a thick cock ;)

[hektopekto]

Definitely phases. While I never lose attraction to either sex, I often find myself thinking about one more than the other.

[Twiztid-nympho-Kay]

im not gonna lie i thought that maybe i was goin through phases but ikt turns out that im attracted to different features in both sexs....for instance a female knows what a fmale likes and a male has that sort of safety about him..i understand the question but its very different in people
=]

[Twiztid-nympho-Kay]

Guys: Purely sexual, not attracted to the guy per say. I'm more attracted to their penis. lol
Girls: Both physical, and emotional. I love the feminine form, and the sweetness most women have.
MTF transgender: Combines the best of both worlds
FTM: Not really my thing... Nothing against them, I'm just not attracted to them.


i agree with you...and honestly everything...ou just said is sooo true
=]

[Bottom]

How about this? A man who acts like a man in public, but like a woman in the bedroom.
That's how I've always described myself in personals...

Bottom

[whitney is awesome]

I don't mean for this thread to be selectively inclusive, but for bisexuals: do you find that you tend to be attracted to both sexes consistently, or do you go through gay/straight phases?

im usually attracted to both sexes consitantly. unless i think i've found someone special then i dont even think about any other guy or girl as a crush and i dont think about doing anything with them. like right now...it a guy.

[erzebet1961]

I actually envy Bi people at times , it facinates me how they can respond to both a male and a female....no matter how hard i have tried , males just dont hold a sexual interest for me.
Y'all Bi souls are very fortunate !

[mudpuddle]

You are Not missing Anything Special Darling...:P

[Tai]

Hmm yeah I do! But the difference is very little. I consider myself bisexual although I know inside that I am gay =P It's because sometimes but rarely I do get turned on by girls but most of the time its the meat not the salad

[vim]

Relationship-wise, it's just females I'm into.

But sexually, both guys and girls do it for me, and I do go through phases. I'm in total "guy" mode right now...

[NorthernLights]

I think that my sexual interest in members of both sexes is pretty equal.. however, i do find that i like to be in a relationship more with a man than a woman just cause girls are a lot more drama to deal with, especially if you're in a real relationship with one and they're overtly jealous..

[flegg27]

f

[jeancarleo]

attracted to both =)

[xxtaylesxx]

In my opinion men are much hotter than women, I fantasise about men in personal time, and If I was in a major lust fest, would prefer to have sex with men. But I think a relationship with a woman would make more sense for me, and regardless of body organs, the personality is what clings me to a person :D

[Puma concolor]

.........

[youdontknowme]

I've noticed lately that I'm a lot more into getting with a guy, mainly because it still hasn't happened after I've been trying forever. but I never turn down a female. I guess I'd call it about 50/50 but really right now just taking what I can get.
And typically I seem to be more turned on by men when I'm extremely horny then after I nut the attraction goes away temporarily, where as with women I can get horny in an instant and again and again if need be.

[GirlyGuy]

I go in phases myself. Right now, like vim, I'm in "guy" mode. :) I soooooo want a boyfriend right now I can't see straight. But then again, I guess I couldn't see straight to begin with. :D

[linalemonlime]

I'm bi-natured but not really bisexual....I mean I do check girls out sometimes but I lost my virginity to a boy and I've never had sex with a girl. I want to soon, though. I think almost all people are beutiful...not quite sure If I'm bi yet.

[Juggaloz4Lyf]

Right now i've been really interested in being with guys, tho its only been in the last month or so that i've seen a decline in my urge for women... i say it used to be about a 50/50 guy to girl ratio, but now its more of 75/25.

[dark suger]

yeah im in guy mode too i just really want a nice long clean cock to love

[angel_wings]

well, for me, i'm more towards guys than girls. that's in terms of kind of surface lefevl attraction. so i meet more guys i am attracted to than women i am attracted to. but if i do meet a woman i'm attracted to, the attraction i feel is much deeper and stronger than any i feel to a guy.

so i've had more casual encounters with guys but some of my most meaningful and fulfilling relationships have been with other women, even though ive been with far fewer women than men.

[lucyinthesky16]

i am really confused. i think that, if i wasn't beaten over the head with the "god hates you if you're gay" stick growing up, i'd be waaaaay more into women. How it is now is that, i'm more attracted to women, and would rather be in a relationship with one, and just be good friends with guys. But because of that accursed stick there's always this other voice saying "NO NO NO you have to date a GUY!!! or else your grandmother will hate you and you'll ruin your mother's life even more!"
yea, it's pretty heavy, i know. i am attracted to guys too, but only the effeminate ones.

[lucyinthesky16]

oh and a male's anatomy REALLY weirds me out...no offense guys. my ex bf told me i had "the sex drive of a manila envelope".

[Aine6923]

I wouldn't say that I go through "phases" of gay/straight, but I am fairly selective with which girls I am attracted to... there haven't been as many girls I like as there have been guys, but the ones I like I like longer and I think on a deeper level then many of those guys.

[addictedt0chaos]

Both. always always always.

[getthegimmies]

im definitely consistently attracted to both.
although i usually tend to be in more relationships with guys, i would much rather hook up with a girl.

[i_got_life22]

i'm not a person who goes into phases either. i find both beautiful always. however personality wise in relationships i tend to do better with men. but i do believe in falling in love with the person and not with the gender.

[fluttersteke]

I've had more relationships with the opposite sex but I'm more attracted to the same sex (women). But I tend to meet more men because I fear getting rejected by women cause most women I meet are straight. But overall, I am 50/50 but I'm currently in a serious relationship with a man and plan on being with him. We are both bi and both 50/50.

[ashleylove]

i'm usually constant. (:

[ChangeHappens]

Philosophy major here, with near identical sexual experiences. However, I have found that it is useless and unhelpful to the ends of having a good sexual experience, to ask the question: Am I gay straight or bi? The reason is that it simply is impractical and after 6 years of exchanging thought with the question, I have stopped for one very practical reason: Identity and thoughts about identity are guidance tools and naturally claiming to be either of these identities does little to help my sexual experience. Mostly I put my focus into thoughts that apply a better feeling my relationships. Special relationships with meaning and heart that I would potentially experience an expression of sexuality to its most satisfying essence.

Simple and satisfying, leaves you with more energy to actually bring beauty and the mysterious passions of friendship and sex into my life.

[biguy71]

Sexually, I'm equally turned on by both women and men that I find attractive. I definitely find a higher percentage of women attractive than men, however. I also have never had any desire to have a serious relationship with another man. For me, a hot guy is great to look at and have sex with, but when it comes to a relationship, I'm only interested in women. Sexual attraction isn't the biggest thing for me when it comes to relationships, though, so I don't think this is unusual. Just because I am sexually attracted to someone doesn't mean that I would want to have a relationship with them.

[kym1979]

A sexy person is a sexy person ... so its both all the time for me

[dominic2710]

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[jammyjam]

I'm generally more often attracted to girls, but if a guy is hot enough then he could probably make my knees shaky.:)

if i had to choose in a given situation between and incredibly sexy girl (perfect body, ass, boobs face etc) and an incredibly sexy guy (great body, hung, tall, handsome face) i would probably have to flip a coin.

[joshwilburn]

I'm attracted to both sexes at the same time.

[Vintage Shroom]

I just like everyone. I always tend to be with guys more though...girls I'm a bit more sexually attracted to.

[ObjetdArte]

i am attracted to both. it is not in phases. i like who i like.

[EtherialKay]

Although i have a boyfriend I find i am more attracted to girls at the moment :)

[FortuneFavorsTheBold]

I'm really inconsistent, haha. I find that if I'm with a girl, I look at girls more, if I'm with a guy, I look at guys more, etc...

Or if I'm not in a relationship, I think I'm more likely to look at girls. I think. Or maybe I just go through phases, I never really pay attention I guess. Haha.

[soulfulldove]

i've never gone through phases. im attracted more to girls, but i feel more comfortable around guys, so it's kind of a balance i guess.

[DazedGypsy]

I don't mean for this thread to be selectively inclusive, but for bisexuals: do you find that you tend to be attracted to both sexes consistently, or do you go through gay/straight phases?

consistent, equally.

[captainriffraff]

I find all bodies beautiful, but I tend to get along better with men. I have to be able to be friends to be lovers, and though I love women's bodies, I have a hard time finding a woman I get along with well enough to want to take her to my bed. Does that make any sense?

I can relate to that. I'd consider my personality somewhat androgynous in nature (by western societies standards at least). I'm not too keen on the typical girly gossip or drama, nor am I overly emotional. Thus, I tend to get along better with men and find myself becoming attracted to men more often because of this. However, when I do stumble upon a woman who I can relate to and is free thinking and such I find myself just as attracted to her as I would to any one else.

At the same time, for some reason my standards are much higher for men personality wise than they are for women. I think its that I find myself attracted to intellectual men who can understand and sympathize with the womans struggle- i.e. is a feminist, whether they are aware of it or not. Women of course, understand it.

Physically, I'm much more attracted to women. Personality, I just like people who are intellectual, down to earth, drama-free, free thinkers. I think another reason might be because its not easy as a woman to approach another woman with the fear that they wouldn't swing my way. My location also probably has a lot to do with it (I live in Orange County and am dying to get out).

But yeah, I hear you, mama.

[TheVampireLestat]

I myself go through phases. There are some times when I'll be exclusively turned on by women, and only very rarely by men; and there are other times when it's the opposite.

[ChangeHappens]

The question is so fucking worthless because sexuality is way more complicated than the contextual situation that the question attempts to understand. You just can't ever tell exactly, so whats the point, might as well just forget the question and enjoy it as it is, every savory moment.

PS. "fucking" was meant in a very passive aggressive sense. I am just frustrated with having to live in this society sexually, it fucking nargles me and twists me.
Still this is who I am at the moment so i wont take it back. Moving along now.

[seizedbyanger]

while i'm attracted to both, i would not be interested in having a relationship with another girl.

[reyesn7y]

I like guys more than girls, but where i live there are no gay/bi guys so i have to date girls

[seizedbyanger]

i'm sure there are, you just don't know it or they haven't come out yet.

[JayWJay]

Sexually, I'm equally turned on by both women and men that I find attractive. I definitely find a higher percentage of women attractive than men, however. I also have never had any desire to have a serious relationship with another man. For me, a hot guy is great to look at and have sex with, but when it comes to a relationship, I'm only interested in women. Sexual attraction isn't the biggest thing for me when it comes to relationships, though, so I don't think this is unusual. Just because I am sexually attracted to someone doesn't mean that I would want to have a relationship with them.

I'm with you Biguy71...

I also have an attraction to men (as a guy) but women are so much nicer to cuddle and fondle, and let's face it: their bodies are so much more appealing! But yeah still need a guy every now and then...

[Venatrix]

I'm always turned on by both, but I go back and forth in other ways--sometimes I'll be craving a relationship with a guy, sometimes I'll want to be with a girl. Dating a guy is a lot different than dating a girl, and it's those differences that I go back and forth on.
Also, I tend to find more guys attractive than girls, which I attribute to the fact that they're the opposite gender and I am biologically compelled to reproduce with them.

[mele_hibiscus_meli]

I am attracted to both guys and girls all the time. I usually end up hooking up with guys more though. But now that Im in a serious relationship with a guy, I definitly check out more chics, its funny tho, me and my boyfriend check out chics TOGETHER :)

I HAVE TOTALLY DONE THIS. :rofl: However... it totally creeped me out that I had the same taste in women as my bf at the time... And also it made me wonder why he was with me, and checking out women who were the polar opposite of me. Then he dumped me... and got with one of the types of girls we checked out together lol... so I guess that explains it!:p

[meifinis]

I am attracted to both guys and girls all the time but for different reasons.
I love women for their beauty and feminine traits. Emotionally I have the deeper feelings for women and fall in love with them.
With men I feel a deep type of sexual lust that satisfiys my soul more then sex with a women does.
Because sexually I am submissive in nature I feel completely natural servicing other guys and being a 'bottom' for them.
So, basically I am hopelessly bisexual.

Wow, this is EXACTLY how I feel--but in reverse.
I only fall in love with men but the sex I have with women is wayyy more satisfying.

[BornHippy]

I check out both at same time tho now that im single i mostly trying 2 get girls since havnt had them for awhile hehe

[BornHippy]

Wops dnt no if i answerd ? in ryt place sry

[babyjay]

I don't mean for this thread to be selectively inclusive, but for bisexuals: do you find that you tend to be attracted to both sexes consistently, or do you go through gay/straight phases?

i go through phases, when all i want is to wrap myself around a woman, and not get up for a couple hours.. but then i go through decidely neutral phases, when i highly dislike female personalities, even if i'm attracted to them.

[enigmax]

i usually look out for girls...but sometimes...i feel really horny for a guy...i dont really like fucking the guy myself..but rather give him a bj or let him anal-fuck me.

[deftone]

I am attracted to both almost all the time. People are beautiful in general, weather male or female. :)

What a wonderful attitude.:)

Personally, I am only attracted to other men in a sexual way. I'm not overly hung up on looks, but I do like a nice big penis. I like hung, hairy, masculine men, mostly.

[ChangeHappens]

For masturbation, I enjoy the comfort and allure a tranny offers. At times I do enjoy a gay porn. Also, I do enjoy a female, who looks real with real boobs some seductive chubby stomach with shape and some niceley shaped legs. I think sometimes the simplicity of male to male porn is invigorating, watching a guys hard dick while you fuck him or he fucks you is a real turn on because there is no doubt in my mind whether he likes it or not. I can see it right in front of me.

For the most part, I am attracted to personality. I have gone long on the body and I do find the greatest pleasure now in personality. The trick to this is to live out the body thing without fear, for fun. Without fear of the fear and eventually you start craving personality.


I am a bisexual personality lover/hater, user/used, mofo with a big heart an open mind and a love for fine food and fine all natural drugs.

The body only gets boring if you accept that you love it alot, if you accept your vanity as a healthy part of your emotions. If you fight your vanity, it will win, like any emotion, it must be compromised with...Other than that, bodies are good, especially being able to make a relationship conflict less through them...

In the future, I plan to have relationships that always have a sexual appreciation component to them...yes that means losing contact with my parents...but good riddance, all we do is conflict and I am not one to believe that sexual tension doesnt exist between parents and children, I think we've just accepted it as a part of the relationship so much so that we forget that it creates massive fights...no wonder sexual relationships, are so much better when they are....so much more avenues to shows appreciation....

To the yay sayers, were in this shit together.

To the nay sayers, pay mister Sigmeund Freud a visit sometimes soon..

[ChangeHappens]

To innocent by standers, consider your mind officially raped and badapapapa, Im Lovin' it.

[LorettaYoungSilks]

This thread, now like so many on this site, is so very boring now...

[ChangeHappens]

haha

[kitschy.hippie]

I am attracted to men and women ALL the time, now that I'm married though, while we're out I mostly just check women out.

Same here.

[Levett]

I think girls are better looking in general. Probably cos they take more pride in their apperance. I still check out well groomed men, but most blokes are too hairyand unkempt for my tastes.

[babyjay]

i get along with men very well, and lately females as well.
my close friends tend to be mostly guys, but i've gotten better getting along with girls now too (:

so its really evening out, i've always been more attracted to females than to males.
its personality for me, in guys. c:

[musicfreak9000]

sometimes i like guys WAY more than girls, sometimes i like girls WAY more than guys, it really deppends on what my hormones want at the time