what is happend to casual free love and casual sex [Archive]

stonner

10-19-2005, 07:09 PM

what has happend brothers and sisters to casual sex is it still around i ask
if any of you people out there share my views then send reply to this message and if you would like my email address just ask thanks for your time time peace

Oz!

10-19-2005, 07:12 PM

of course casual sex is still around.......especially in the uk....gettin' laid has certainly never been difficult here :)

gandhiwars

10-19-2005, 09:05 PM

It's around. But diseases also became much more common.

rubytuesday

10-19-2005, 09:07 PM

The answer, in one word: AIDS.

stonner

10-19-2005, 09:18 PM

u can still have casual sex with a condom

gandhiwars

10-20-2005, 04:40 AM

I would rather have it with a girl tho

hahahaha that was funny.

rubytuesday

10-20-2005, 06:57 AM

Condoms seem to put some people off.

rmorgan

10-20-2005, 07:29 AM

It's pretty easy for a girl to get laid...
...if you don't mind drunken morons slobbering all over you.

R

nomad12

10-20-2005, 11:40 AM

im tired of drunk late night after bar sex. I need sober exploratory sex.

mystical_shroom

10-20-2005, 09:49 PM

im tired of drunk late night after bar sex. I need sober exploratory sex.
sound like a winner http://hipforums.com/forums/images/icons/newicons/icon14.gif

IronGoth

10-26-2005, 06:58 AM

Three words:

AIDS

child support (DNA tests can now identify you with almost 100% accuracy)

And now that women have choices, many of them are opting to do things like IVF.

nitemarehippygirl

10-26-2005, 07:07 AM

And now that women have choices, many of them are opting to do things like IVF.hahaha, i really don't think ivf is causing the drop in the popularity of 'free love', IG. :p
society's opinions have changed; ask most guys or girls and they'll tell you they want a loving , long-term relationship with one partner. most people i know, anyhow. but maybe i just don't hang out at enough swinger parties.

i think it's really funny that 'stonner' is posting for any free lovin' ladies to pm him.

HAHA.

like every other 16 year old kid out there.

:)

IronGoth

10-26-2005, 07:22 AM

No, I mean in the sense that there are women out there who "don't have time to deal with men" and want to skip straight to the C-section.

TomDijon

10-26-2005, 03:14 PM

lol... and yeah, gotta love the invention of condoms. but i agree full heartedly, i mean, i don't believe everyone should just use each other for sex, but long-term relationships just seem like an easy excuse for people to stick to their ways. and not that you shouldn't love that person, but why should you only love one person? why can't we learn to love many people at the same time? if we just overcame our insecurities and saw that our partners can love others without loving us less, then tell me, what's the problem? and don't say unwanted pregnancy's and std's and all that bullshit, that's what condoms are for

sassure

10-26-2005, 09:07 PM

Yeah, the casual stuff is often boozed and sloppy, which is a downer. Hyped-up off-the-wall impulsive heat-of-the-moment stuff is better......

AmericanWanderer

10-29-2005, 03:34 AM

The answer, in one word: AIDS.
Damn, you took the words right out of my mouth.

thelionking

10-30-2005, 10:58 PM

yeah causal sex is what leads to aids and other stds!

ThE_BluE_ShoE

10-31-2005, 02:21 AM

i dont think there's anything wrong with casual sex as long as both ppl are mature and responsible adults. i dont mean adult as in age 18+, i mean as long as the basis is still love, even if they aren't in a long term relationship. sex based on ego is much too popular and accepted of a concept for universal free love to mean much, but if two ppl have established that they really feel love for each other rather than just momentary lust, i dont think there's anything wrong with sex w/out serious relationship then.

LordHelmet

10-31-2005, 02:41 AM

Weeble

11-02-2005, 07:19 PM

There is a vast difference between casual sex between two people who have known each other and two people that just met. Even if you are in a serious relationship with a person you can still get STD's and unwanted pregnancies. The only difference between casual sex and committed sex is a label and sometimes love. You still have to be careful, smart and honest with someone no matter if it's casual or committed. That being said, you can't say that the decline in not having casual sex is STD's. It's not about them at all, it's actually more about the fact that awareness on such subjects are higher then they used to be because of the fact that more people from all over the world can openly communicate due to technological evolution.

hippiewise

11-03-2005, 02:00 PM

from someone that experienced the sexual revolution. it was outrageous at first, especially for women as we had always been told that "nice girls don't do it". i had been oppressed by an abusive husband, a mother that was a religious fanatic and everything was fornication to her. when i had the courage to leave my abusive husband and first started smoking pot, man, what a world i found out there. back then the only thing you had to worry about was the crabs and gonnerea (sp). but after a while i got really tired of one night stands. i always wanted love and sex, took me awhile but i finally found it with my wonderful husband. but it was an exciting time to come out of the uptight 50's and go into the new and exploratory 60's. but i feel now that everything needs to be done in moderation. my generation was like a bunch of kids in a candy store, we didn't know that drugs and too much free sex could hurt us. i lost alot of good friends from too many drug overdoses and a few friends that died from aids. life is a total learning trip, in the long run, for me, i like monogomy and having one sex partner. no judgements here, just talking about my life.
hippiewise

RetroGroove_Grrl

11-03-2005, 03:19 PM

There is nothing casual about sex for me. For me, its very sacred.

SkeeterVT

11-04-2005, 02:44 AM

The answer, in one word: AIDS. That's not the only answer and you know it. The other answer is: We're all getting older. As we grow older, our desire for casual sex diminishes and our desire for real intimacy and companionship increases.

Does this mean we all eventually settle into monogamous relationships? Of course not. Yesterday's casual sex and promiscuity can evolve -- and for many people (including myself), HAS evolved -- into today's polyamory, the ability to have deep, loving relationships with more than one person, openly and honestly with the blessings of all persons involved.

-- Skeeter

natureslaze

11-09-2005, 04:04 AM

there is a difference between hippie free love and dirty sluts

ecomamma

11-09-2005, 11:35 PM

there is a difference between hippie free love and dirty sluts
well said!
http://www.hipgallery.com/photopost2/data/500/me_.jpg

nothing wrong in a bit of free love till you meet the one who captivates you....long term...

PIXIEFIED

11-09-2005, 11:42 PM

if one thing life as a traverlling musican has taught me, it is that love is never free, it makes a mockery of man.:p

pabloman

11-10-2005, 12:51 AM

We all need love and we all need to give love in equal measure

Goodwitch13

11-10-2005, 08:42 PM

I feel that people's inability to be true to themselves and others has played a huge role in the demise of free love. People don't / can't trust anymore. Whether it is an emotional (head games) or physical ( STD's) concern, the fact is that we can't trust.

Simple example: The disclosure of # of sexual partners we have had. Guys twist the numbers to the ladies so they don't come across as a man whore. Guys twist the truth to the other guys so that they don't seem un-manly. Story goes the same for the ladies.
Why can't we give each other a chance to embrace and appreciate our honesty? I may not always like the truth, but I will forever appreciate and respect it.

Let the chips fall as they will. Why hide, manipulate, lie, embellish, elevate, or simply deny the truth of our desires or dislikes. We have know one to blame but our own selves. Not society, the government, males or females as a group. Somewhere along our journey we made a lifestyle choice. Now we are living that choice.

freakon

11-19-2005, 04:51 PM

some groups i've known had so called "free sex". but if u look closely, it's just a game, with a lot of lies, manipulation, sorrow, jealousy.... look under the surface, and u see some nasty behaviors....
Doesn't mean that free love/sex doen't exist, sure it does. But there are many players enjoying intrigues and powerplays and manipulating underdogs.

Silly Angel

11-19-2005, 11:37 PM

it's not just a lack of trust though. a large percentage of people who have stds don't even know it. and whoever said that stds and pregnancy are not an issue just an excuse because we have condoms...well you need to go back to sex ed. Condoms are helpful in some cases, but a lot of diseases are transmittable by contact. You can get stds and you can get pregnant when you use condoms. It's pretty common actually.

harry yang

11-20-2005, 10:55 AM

Casual sex is more and more popular in China.So is AIDS.

electricstar

11-23-2005, 01:55 AM

There is nothing casual about sex for me. For me, its very sacred.
I totally agree.
Until you are able to understand the concept of "universal love" probably isn't wise to try here and there and everywhere. People are not toys!
Even one night encounter of love can be a great Love experience if there is great respect.
I may be more easily intrigued by a hippie girl and get that sacred feeling with a pagan sister but anyway there is not anything casual. There is always some click that make it happen. And make you desire to hold that person in your arms and protect her/him.

My advice is to listen to the lyrics of the beautiful Patti Smith song: Because the night. There is a sentance that can make you cry and it is "they can't hurt you now"
Nothing to do with romance or sex excersizes. It is all about the love you bring in your heart.

[...]
come on now try and understand
the way I feel when I'm in your hands
take my hand come undercover
they can't hurt you now, because the night belongs to lovers
[..]

semperfi

11-26-2005, 09:36 AM

Oh it still exists trust me but so do the STDs

TooMuchTheMagicBus

11-27-2005, 03:54 PM

casual friend-sex. i've had some of that be careful there's a 50% chance it'll ruin your friendship and a 50% chance it wont.

urbangal

11-27-2005, 08:10 PM

Great topic folks. As someone who came up during the rise/fall of phone chats lines and then the explosion of the net were my casual sex rate went HIGH, I totally agree with Retrogroovy. Sex is sacred to me now and I'm relearning how to treat it as thus. That said, I miss the closeness I used to have with regular lovers. Sometimes no sex at all just nekkid cuddling....maybe sex later *eg*

imaginarytree

11-27-2005, 08:50 PM

Sadly enough, though I'm only 18 I have had the times when I've done the "free love" thing. I have had sex with several of my close friends. When I chose to date somebody, in the relationship way, my "sex-buddies" know that I am monogamous (well, most of them do). I have a very open perspective on sex. Of the people I have had sex with, there have been guys that have been virgins and guys that will straight-up tell me that they've had some 10+ partners. I've never been pregnant, and never had an STD.
It's all about responsibility. You can't just have sex with some stranger off the street you just met, and you can't expect for everyone to understand your opinions about sex. You can, however, have love and respect for multiple people and show this and recieve this through sexual relationships with more than one person.

US MARSHALL

12-15-2005, 02:34 AM

How about ethics. Anyone have them anymore? Sorry... sex is great and if I thought I could do it with any and everyone I saw it would take the fun out of it. So maybe meeting a girl and winning her over is part of the fun. Then she will be their for you and you will be their for her. Sorry I’m old fashion.:cool:

RimmyDelicious

12-18-2005, 10:50 PM

im tired of drunk late night after bar sex. I need sober exploratory sex.
I feel the exact same way. I just don't know any other places where you can find women looking for casual sex, other than bars/clubs.

happy_kel

12-22-2005, 11:31 PM

Casual sex is more and more popular in China.So is AIDS.damn right.

wouldnt it be nice to be able to have casual sex, which actually thinking about it the virus and whatnot around now still dont seem to stop many people from going out and having random sex.

sex is one of the top dangers around now days.

Free Bud

12-25-2005, 03:47 AM

I dont think that everyone should just go around having sex with everyone. i mean i dont think a few one night stands every now and than is bad but its not something i really would be into doing often. i dont think that you have to be in love with someone to have sex ethier tho. and i do think that if you have good friends you can sleep with them and still be good friends and nothing more