tallwoods
06-18-2004, 03:28 PM
Hello.
I am new at this so please bare with me.
I am middle age and have not found my place in life.
I have no idea what to do with my life and no concreat wants,
I just no I am not happy.
anything you can tell me would greatly help.
( please exscuse the spelling I cant find spell check)
Thank you
old_crone
06-19-2004, 07:10 PM
Hi Tallwoods
We all are new at this time around, even if we are old souls. You are not alone in not knowing what you want to do, or the path you want to take. So if you do not mind I am just going to walk in, and share with you what comes to mind.
Back when my girls were growing up My middle daughter was seemingly on a broken record of not knowing what she wanted, or who she was. The challange was she is a genious, and could do anything she wanted. Give her any musical instrument, and within 15 minutes she was playing it like a professional. She could sing any song, and bring tears of wonder, and beauty to your eyes. Once she started something she grew inside with whatever adventure, or challange was before her. Well this one day she was off on this crying I don't know who I am or what I want to do with my life. Her sister promptly got a box of matches, and tried to set her sisters shoes on fire. When I exploded, and what she was trying to do, she looked at me with these child eyes of innocents, and smiled, then said, "Oh, just creating a fire to give her something to focus on."
I never forgot that. """OH, Just creating a fire to give her something to focus on."""
When you do not know what you want out of life use the opportunity like foreplay, and act as if, the feelings will catch up, and you can create your own fire, and passion on any subject, or level you want to. Do not wait until you feel like doing something. Begin as if you already are wanting too.
I did some work in a prison way back when, and asked a prisoner who had murdered some one when the idea came to him to take the life he did. He said, "they were dead before I met them because I dreamed their death long before I took action, or their life."
Dream a path, and then walk the path you dream.
Back on the farm I grew up on when it came time to harvest the gardens, or orchards we were ready, and prepared. You see we spent all winter, and spring, and summer preparing before the harvest ever took place. My father used to call this "The done factor" The done factor was preparing your own possabilities, and potential with vision of embracing the harvest yet to be. Somehow we knew that what ever was planted needed time to season, and grow within us.
So it is with a life path. Embrace the done factor, the dreaming, and creating your own fire, and focus. The journey counts far more than the harvest because without the done factor the results will be lacking.
So often we get caught in our old patterns, and habits and its easy to doubt ourselves, give up in a million different ways, or to wait until the moment we know comes. All of these will leave you wanting, and unsure and will breed more tears of frustrations, and lacking than you ever dreamed you could feel inside.
So shake the cob webs loose inside, and reach for your own path through your own creations. Magic does not happen without letting go of desire, and attachments.
I remember this old man dying in the hospital who cried like a baby because he did not want to be alone. He had spent his whole life riddled by fears both real, and imagined. When there was nothing more he could do but die he found a way to live within his own choices, and healing. He found he was his own steps. The steps were just choices he had made. No judgement. No good, or bad. Just truth. We are where we are, because we choose to be....The done factor again.
You came through this time to face this place inside yourself. Your previous life was a nun in seclusion looking for truth, and wisdom apart from this world. Seeking to maintain a sacred purity of thought, intent, and courage. All of which you had. but never understood because you never had to face the using of these things. You never had to face yourself, or put yourself to the test of your own choices, and heart. This life time you are not in seclusion but part of a path, and world that ask for no more than you believe in your choices. You are your own creation. So begin creating. The feelings will catch up. The knowing will happen, and love will become your light in a world you no longer run from emotionally, and internally. Find out who you are, and then ask yourself to be true to that self. In this your wholeness is being seasoned, and the fires, and passions within you will grow.
tallwoods
06-22-2004, 01:55 AM
Thank you old crone for responding to my question.
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