dirtydog

Not all jails are created equal. Some of them are very low key environments, with everyone just trying to get along. Others (reportedly) are sheer hell. Of the five I've been in (San Francisco City Prison, San Francisco County Jail, Great Falls Montana and Billings Montana County Jails, and Los Angeles County Jail), only the latter falls into the 'sheer hell' or frightening category. Just keep quiet without letting anyone walk all over you, and don't rat on anyone, and you'll be fine.

I don't know what your migraine situation is, but it sounds like you need medical assistance. Do what you have to do to get it.

Quig

Most of the guys (and some of the chicks) I grew up with ended up doing time. Some did easy time in state prisons, some did very, very hard time in federal prison. Shit, I know a guy who has a bail bondsman on speed dial on his cell lol

Either way, I'm glad I never went. My buddies were all poor. They did a little hustle, just trying to get by...then boom, they land a 5 to 10. The ones who tried to go straight upon their 'rehabilitation' can't find work because of their sheet.

A friend of mine did a few years for a very violent crime. He had a brutal upbringing, but was otherwise a decent guy. He didn't want to work for minimum wage so, being a fairly large guy, went to work as a debt collector for a drug dealer. Went to collect some money, stuff got rough. I won't go into specifics, but it was bad. His so called "partner" snitched on him and my friend spent over 5 years locked up.

Now he's out. He tried to go straight, but couldn't find decent employment. He was offered a job as a bouncer at a nightclub in the ghetto, but when they handed him a bullet proof vest on his first night, he quit, not to mention that he wouldn't have fit in well; when he was in a federal clink, he had no connections, so he got a bunch of swastikas tattooed on his chest to get in good with the bikers and Aryans. He's not a white supremacist by any means, but blacks, whites, and Hispanics stick together on the inside; dude didn't have much of a choice.

If our system allowed ex-cons halfway decent employment, this dude would be a civilian just like me or you. But that don't happen, so he's back collecting money for dealers.

MaccaByrd

While I hope this never becomes an issue, I hope these stories don't put the fear of Zues into you. I've watched many documentaries on prisons for both sexes and while survival of the fittest causes the sectioning off you hear about in men's prisons, women tend to stick together and bond while incarcerated. This may not be the rule - I certainly can't speak from experience, but incase you were trembling by now!

Again, it probably won't get to that point and you seem to know that. But you're clearly under a great deal of pressure at the moment. I have only had one ER-worthy migraine in my life and I cannot imagine what you're suffering all the time now. I hope that the good in life pokes it's reassuring head up soon. In the meantime, you've got the sympathies of a number of internet strangers.

Take care!

largeamount

i may have to do my first bid here soon but if i could get out of it with a a little comm serv i would do it right away, aso in case u were unaware, ANY business in your community can count for comm serv hours so if you have a friend that owns a store have them write u a bullshit letter of community service

PeaceInTheStreets

I'm confused why do you have such a hard time doing your community service if I may ask? I don't mean to be rude at all and i'm sorry if I in fact come off as rude.

rosebud1225

i was afraid of going to jail for not completing my community service hours too. I procrastinated, which made it worse, cuz I had to do my community service every day til I was finished, even though I had more than enough time to do it twice a month and spread it out. Community Service is fuckin hard, I hope I NEVER have to do it again!
I am still on probation too, so I'm trying to behave until it's all over cuz I don't wanna go to jail. But sometimes I think that it would be cheaper to just do the time and have all the fines and community service taken care of in one place.

Delfynasa

try topomax, it is supposed to be good for migraines,
and if your PO isn't a total shithead, s/he might be worth
talking to, s/he might have a solution you haven't thought
of:-)

Mothman

It seems like the universe is forcing you into situations to confront your phobia.

Boogabaah

tried topomax.. doesn't do anything.

i finally talked to my PO today. she told me to just get in contact with the courts in this county and they should help me. why the fuck was i not told this months ago? so thats on my 'to do' list now.