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  1. Ejaculation and orgasm are two different functions of the male sexual response cycle. They most always occur together but don't have to. An orgasm is the peak of sexual function. When orgasm comes it releases built up sexual tension and is felt throughout his body. Ejaculation is just the release of seminal fluid or semen from the prostate area. They happen nearly at the same time but there is a separation in time between the two. Next time you masturbate sense yourself as you head for that point of no return. Observe that there is a very small time difference between ejaculation start and orgasm. And yes, a man can orgasm without ejaculating. It's known as a dry or a full body orgasm. Rarely if ever will he ejaculate without having that orgasm feeling happening with it. But he can have the feeling without ejaculation.

    In order to answer the question of what is considered an orgasm, let's look at what an orgasm is. An orgasm is a release of sexual tension gained from constant stimulation of the penis. It begins with muscle contractions around the anus and perineum, the area between the anus and scrotum or ball sac. Involuntary actions such as guttural sounds from the throat and spasms in other areas of his body occur with a generally euphoric sensation. The key to an orgasm is that release of any sexual tension. So if while edging, or even pausing during intercourse, an euphoric feeling can come across the male body lowering any sexual tension for the moment. At this point he has had an orgasm albeit a smaller one than at climax.

    Orgasms are experienced differently as an individual versus other men. Depending on the type of stimulation used, such as masturbation, a sense of releasing that tension can flow through the body multiple times before going ahead and peaking with ejaculation. From experience my own orgasm level will vary. There are times when I begin my sexual cycle and let it flow right into orgasm and ejaculation. Other times I will reach a level of stimulation, stop at the edge (edging), and enjoy a feeling of euphoria for a moment or two. Then continue on to another stopping point or go on to my climax. When I hit that peak where I will complete the sexual cycle or climax, orgasm becomes so intense sometimes I lose control of my extremities and even become hoarse from the sound I emit from my throat. All this is due to the immense pleasure I receive from having sex which is probably why I'm addicted to it.
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  2. This is my account of my first visit to a brothel. Traveling through Nevada as a young lad of 21 I had the pleasure of experiencing a fine lady at one of those "Ranches". It was on a whim that my traveling buddy and I stopped in. We were sent across country for work that was located outside of Las Vegas. These were the days of the CB radio craze. You know the Smoky and the Bandit era with the 55 MPH speed limit. We're heading down highway 95 north of Vegas when over the radio came a call.

    "Hello boys. Anybody out there? Stop by the ranch, We'd love to see you." I picked up the mic and called back and began bantering back and forth as long as we stayed in radio range. Once out of range we continued on into Vegas and headed towards the work site with a story to tell about our radio chatter. It took us 3 or 4 days to do what we had shown up for and after resting that final evening we lit out for home the next morning.

    David, my co worker, was in his 30's, married with children. Me, I was totally single while having an affair back home with a 30 plus year old married woman, who was separated and going through a divorce. We compared notes between the two of them as we worked since they were nearly the same age. David's wife seemed to not fuck as much as my girlfriend and I sensed he wasn't getting pussy as much as he liked. I was totally happy with the amount as when home it was almost every night and sometimes multiple fuck sessions on the weekends.

    We packed up the company truck that morning and headed back up highway 95 chatting on the CB as we went. Lo and behold hear comes the "Hey boys." radio call again. David picked up the mic this time and really got into talking with the madam on the other end. He got her to give us the location, which wasn't real difficult, and we made the turn off the highway. I'm going uh-oh, what the fuck are we doing. Right up to a set of mobile homes in a semi circle we drive. As David parked the truck he turned to me and said that I could stay in the truck or go inside with him where it's cooler. But if I ever mentioned a word of this he'd kick my scrawny ass. Well, I wasn't going to sit out there and roast so I followed him inside not knowing what to expect.

    As we stepped up on the front deck the door came open and we were greeted by the Madam. She let us inside but stopped me right at the entrance. Cupping my baby face in her hand she politely asked to see my ID. David was already at the bar before I could fumble the required proof of age from my wallet. The madam checked the date, handed me back my ID, and gently took my arm to the bar where she ordered me a beer. "On the house sweetie. We don't get many so young in here." Madam then handed me a short form to fill out. It wasn't much but did ask for name and address. I saw several Smiths and Jones there and one Doe. There were real names too but David had changed his name to Smith. I went ahead and put my real name and address on the paper. With that complete Madam gave me a peck on the cheek and the announced "Ladies, we have company."

    From out of every nook and cranny came a parade of the most beautiful women I had ever seen. All sizes shapes and colors, scantily clad, lined up before us and one by one introduced themselves. What a display of womanhood that was set before me. Since David led the way madam asked him to select a "companion" first. I have no idea who it was he chose as I had locked in on this gorgeous blond that seemed to be 5' 10" and about 130, fantastic breasts with a come fuck me face. Holy shit, I pinched myself to be sure this wasn't a dream. "Huh, what?" I asked as I came back to earth. "Who would you like to accompany you today dear?" the madam asked bringing me out of my trance. For the life of me I do not remember her name now but then I did and said so. For this story I'll call her Gloria.

    As Gloria floated to the bar she took me into her arms and laid a nice wet kiss on me. It was wet but it wasn't slobbery, just a moist lingering kiss long enough to where I could inhale her wonderful scent. Madam and the others, including David, disappeared from view as I sat there memorized by this woman before me. We talked a little but it wasn't long before Gloria asked if I wanted a tour of the place. She took my hand and we went through the passageway into the rest of the layout. Outside in the middle of the circle was a garden and hot tub. I remember seeing a couple of Asian girls in the tub with a client. They were all nude and having a good time. Eventually we got to her room where she and I discussed the services available.

    Not knowing anything else I settled on the standard routine of having sex until I finished. Once that was done and the fee paid she slowly undressed me as I did her. With every drop of clothing I could see Gloria's beauty develop before me. She knelt down and inhaled my cock into her mouth. Having my girl at home do this many times it didn't occur to me that there was a better way to suck cock. Gloria showed me there was. After a while she came up my body and to my face. A lingering kiss was laid upon me and then an invite to the bed. I laid back and Gloria climbed on top straddling my head with her thighs. She lowered her pussy to my waiting mouth and I tasted the second pussy ever in my life. What a wonderful taste it was. While I devoured her sex she retuned to sucking my cock. I have no clue if Gloria went all the way down the shaft with her open mouth as I was to busy exploring her inner folds and clitoris. Time was lost to me as I enjoyed all of this but Gloria was managing the clock.

    Pulling off my cock she turned to me and asked what position I wanted to try. Missionary is my favorite because I can watch my partner while I fuck her so I chose that. Gloria lays back and extends her arms for me to climb aboard. I guided myself into her waiting vagina. The sensation of sliding in that first time sent shivers up my spine as I sunk in fully. Gloria helped me along by reaching for and pulling my ass to her. I laid there motionless for a moment just looking at her once we had mated. She smiled back at me and caressed my face with her soft hand while gently milking my cock inside her.

    My impulse to thrust took over but I started slowly. Gloria took to my rhythm and met each thrust like the pro that she was. Lustful emotions began to rise as we continued to fuck each other. Unable to help myself I increased the tempo of my thrusting while burying my head into that golden mane of hers. Gloria had my body in a full arm embrace now with her legs wrapped around mine. She squeezed me closer to her with each thrust. It was way too soon when time for orgasm came upon me. When it happened it was very pleasurable. What made it so was how Gloria milked my cock with her vagina as I ejaculated. She also held me tightly to her body while I whimpered in ecstasy filling her vagina with my semen. As I began to calm down Gloria continued to hold me and speak softly praising me for how good it was for her. It was fabrication of truth that I know was said to most all of her visitors but it felt good hearing it. I finally rolled off of her and laid back on the bed.

    Thankfully there was time left for me to be able to cuddle with her a bit. We threw the covers over us and snuggled under them for a few more minutes. I must have dozed off because the next thing I remember was her gently calling my name and caressing my head. Gloria apologized but explained time had passed and if I wanted to stay longer she would have to ask for more compensation. I was tapped out and didn't have funds to enjoy her companionship further. Besides for the first time since I saw Gloria I wondered where David had got off to.

    I reluctantly roll to the edge of the bed after declining the offer of continuing to stay with her and Gloria helped me dress. She had already donned her nightgown and we went hand in hand up to the front lobby where madam was waiting. I asked about David and she said he was waiting outside. Gloria turned me to her and hugged, kissed, and thanked me for visiting. Madam did the same as she took my arm from Gloria to show me the way out. David was waiting in the truck with a Cheshire cat grin on his face. I climbed in and off we went heading back to our mundane lives with memories that will linger in our minds forever. Not a word was said about the chance encounter then or ever again.
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  3. I submitted to this thread Respond & ask a naughty question an answer or two but there were so many great questions asked and I wanted to answer most of them. So here are the questions asked of which I feel drawn to answer.

    Fantasies
    - What is your roleplay fantasy favorite? Laying face up on the bed I have my partner massage my head and scalp as if she were a masseuse I just met. She starts with a sheet covering my privates and slowly works her way down across my shoulders, chest, and abdomen to just above my genitals pushing the sheet down as she goes. Once there the sheet disappears and the fun begins. (Note: this has come true on occasion)

    - If your partner/spouse asked you to fulfill his or her fantasy and do something with someone the same sex as you, no one would ever find out. would you? Three people would know. My partner, the man I had sex with, and myself. Therefore I would politely decline same sex interaction. I just don't have it in me.

    - What is the best porn scene that has turned you the fuck on? Diamond Foxx did a scene as a blond where she was laid back on pure white sheets and pillows and slowly fucked. The way she took to the actor and enjoyed being fucked arouses me to orgasm as I watch it many times over. Another scene or scenes are any with Cytheria when she orgasms and squirts. She isn't acting as the intensity of her orgasm is real when her body shakes and trembles while she pulls off the cock and sprays from her pussy.

    - What is the one fantasy you have, which you haven't already done in real life? I want to fuck a very dark skinned black woman. As black as the pigmentation can get on a person.

    - Are you comfortable speaking openly about your fantasies with your spouse/partner? If not, what fantasy do you feel the need to keep to yourself? Years ago yes. Now? No, as I keep my sex life private for reasons that are uncomfortable for my spouse these days. All fantasies are mine and mine alone.

    - What’s your biggest fantasy that you’ve come close to fulfilling but haven’t yet?
    Again, having sex with a black woman. Had an opportunity recently to seek her out to fulfill this fantasy. But life ended up getting in the way and the opportunity passed. Maybe I'll give myself a birthday present by having this fantasy become reality.

    - If permitted what is the darkest sexual fantasy you would like to make reality?
    I would like to attend a swingers party, club, or go to Hedonism II in Jamaica. This really isn't a dark fantasy but one in which I may never get to make a reality.

    Fetishes
    - Have you ever done anything for a dare sexually you really wouldn't have done otherwise? No not really. We would play a game when we spent a weekend at a hotel. The game had us draw cards that depicted something sex with a time limit. A few times I didn't really want to do as the card said but in the spirit of the game did so. It always ended up well with many orgasms for both of us over the two night stay.

    - Guys have you ever smelled girls' panties? Yes, and felt like a pervert sometimes. Did my older sisters out of curiosity and got nothing out of it except asking myself why did I do that, pervert? Pulled several girls panties off and held them up to my face as we were getting ready for sex. Some made fun and called me a pervert but all of them let me bury my face and then cock in their pussy.

    Finding Pleasure
    - Where is your guilty pleasure place to masturbate? Anywhere and everywhere I can be alone to pleasure myself. I have never felt guilty masturbating even when I did so in places I could be seen.

    - Where did your best orgasm take place?
    I've had so many fantastic O's I couldn't tell you where the best happened. I do remember when I have had full body orgasms and could barely walk after they were so intense. But orgasm while laying with a woman, outdoors, in the open, under the stars, or with the many other scenarios I've encountered is just as good as any other orgasm I experience. So where did the best take place? Right inside my body.

    - Ever had sex with someone way younger than you (of legal age) or too old? How young and how old and who is better?
    Way younger was with a girl age 25, me 64. Older than myself was by 10ish, her age early 30's. Circumstances were different so judging who was the best is impractical. It was great having such a young pretty willing to show me a good time given our 40 year age difference. It was also great learning from a experienced woman willing to guide me along when I began having a sex life. Neither was better, just different.

    - Who preforms oral sex best on a woman, a man or another woman? The answer lies within the individual who has had both, a man and a woman bring them to orgasm. Although I've had no complaints from any of the women I have brought to orgasm with my tongue.

    - Has anyone found themselves inexplicably aroused by someone they shouldn't be? Someone like a family member or someone maybe not the right age? Inexplicably? Never. There's always a reason behind any human emotion and arousal is an emotion. Aroused by someone I shouldn't have been aroused by? Yes, because sexual arousal is an emotion that can't be subdued. Acting upon that arousal is what one can control. But yes, I have wondered what a family member might be like to have sex with. That's as far as it goes. I may be addicted to sex but I have limits as to how far that extends.

    Exhibitionism and Voyeurism
    - Ever have sex at some one else’s house? Often my spouse and I got frisky while visiting, especially overnight. We did fuck a couple of times at a neighbors house while checking it as they were away.

    - Ever had sex at a beach or a public place? Yes, many times and it was exhilarating. Midday in the lake, on a mountain top, out in the open on the ground in a campground to name a few places. If you have the initiative there's always someplace to have sex.

    - Anyone else get turned on by being in nature? I do love to hike and swim nude. It is a turn on to be secluded in a dense forest or feel warm water flowing around my nude body. The warm sun radiating down across me as I lay naked in soft grass or stroll along a babbling stream feels so right. It's not really sexual more than it's just the pleasure of feeling free of constraint from clothing.

    Multiple Partners
    - How many people have you had sex with during one single week of your lifetime and what were their first names? I hooked up with 4 different women in one week several years ago, all in massage parlors. The first was Wendy with what began as a massage ended up with her riding me to completion. That was on a Tuesday. The next day I tried to see Wendy again but she wasn't available. Instead I was offered a two girl massage for the price of one. Mi Ling and Lisa came in the room and took care of me, no massage, just sex. Come Friday I stopped by a different parlor and had the pleasure of a girl by the name of Anita for an hour.

    - Does anyone think it's particularly wild or unusual to have multiple sexual partners per day? I do not having had several threesome experiences. Well, maybe it is unusual as it isn't everyday most people have multiple partners much less sex everyday.

    - Have you had a threesome? Yes, several times. Always with women who I don't socialize with regularly. I keep my sex life apart from my normal life because some of the things I do sexually are not acceptable by most people.

    Not Mainstream
    - What is your weirdest, sex experience? As a young lad and first visit to a strip joint I saw an old man sitting in front of the stage. The stripper, a black woman, danced right up to the edge and put her pussy there for him to see. He stood up and buried his face in it right in front of everybody. Being so young it was a shock to see but today, hell, I'd probably dive in just like he did.

    - Watersports/pee games, yes or no, and what do you think about them? I've been curious enough to piss on myself either laying on the shower floor or just pissed in my pants to see what it felt like. I don't get much out of it by myself. Never tried it with a partner. Doubt I ever will. But, as a fetish that is erotic to some, I cannot refuse to allow them the pleasure they get from it. So if that's your thing go for it and enjoy.

    - Have you ever, or would you, live stream yourself on a porn website? No, I doubt I would since I don't have any interest in those websites. Maybe someday I might but I have to ask. Is there someone out there who would be interested in seeing a fat old man naked much less with a hard on?

    - Ever had gay sex? I am not in the least interested in having sex with men.

    - What's the most taboo thing you’ve heard, witness, been involved with or just saw in your life that has to do with sex? I have heard and see on porn sites people attempting to have sex with animals. Beastality isn't very erotic to me. I'll leave it for someone else to enjoy if that's their thing.

    - Ass licking do you like it, giving and taking? I wont do analingus as there is too much bacteria around the anus for my liking health wise. That's probably just a phobia I have about it. To have it done to me is fine but I'd rather her lick my cock instead.

    OOPS
    - Ever been walked in on having sex, by the girls mother? Not Mom but by my father, yes. In the bedroom we used when visiting he kept his clothes in the closet. We were going at it one morning, on top of the covers, and he walked in to get clothes for the day. He went straight into the closet. We went straight under the covers. It was an awkward breakfast that morning.

    - What’s the naughtiest thing you’ve done that you might not be proud of LOL? I was so horny one morning I ventured out to the apartment complex swimming pool. It was early, early, morning and I slid into the pool naked. The water felt so arousing that I had to masturbate. When I came I saw my semen floating away in the water and hoped the pool filter caught it.

    - What's the biggest accident/ mistake you've had in a sexual situation? I bent my cock once while fucking my spouse with long deep strokes. On the outtake I pulled back too far and my cock popped out. It wasn't lined up right as I slammed forward. My cock bent under my body weight which sent pain all through my groin. Two weeks later I was so glad to see the damage had healed.

    Strangers
    - Any one ever had sex with complete stranger? Yes, it is very exhilarating. There were times I didn't even know their name until after it was over.

    - Have you ever watched your partner with a stranger? No, but I don't doubt strangers have watched us having sex.

    - Have you ever deliberately exposed yourself to someone you don't know? No, I'm not one to take a risk like that. If caught the legal system penalties are pretty severe and life long.

    - Have you ever had sex with someone you really weren't attracted to? Yes, I had this older woman give me a massage who just didn't do it for me in the looks department. But the massage was so good and I got so turned on by what she did to my body when she asked what I wanted when I flipped over I couldn't say no. Glad I didn't because having sex with her turned out pretty good.

    - Have you ever paid someone or have been paid by someone to have sex with you? How did it happen? Many times I pay, not to have sex with me, but to leave me alone after. I've been to brothels, massage parlors, and hooked up with escorts. Once I was paid in a way by my mentor who was the first woman I had sex with. I fixed her TV and she rewarded me with dinner and sex. We ended up in a year long affair.
  4. In part one I showed statistics for extramarital affairs. Men having the higher numbers of infidelity but women were close behind. That stands to reason as it takes a partner willing to have sex, usually of the opposite gender, in order to have an affair. So both genders have high numbers concerning sex outside of the marital bed. I also suggested reasons as to why affairs happen. After that was all said and done I find there are solutions to be had to prevent the marriage breakdown that occurs over an affair.

    Now that my infidelity is out in the open between us we opted to let me pursue sex outside of our marriage. We have changed what our marriage is called. In not so many words we moved our relationship from a monogamous one to a more open one. The level of that resides in what we are comfortable with. What that means is it is acceptable to purse sex elsewhere but with conditions attached. These conditions, rules, boundaries, whatever you wish to refer to them as are how we together accept each others needs and desires to pursue pleasure without involving the other but yet maintain a strong and loving relationship together.

    Marriage falls into two categories, monogamous and non-monogamous. I believe a lot of marriages would not end in divorce if both people involved would learn to address the needs of the other. I’ve shown that more than half of marriages in the US end in divorce. Plus it may be that more than half of the partners in a marriage explore infidelity within the marriage. The problem is the affair is kept a secret until the offended partner finds out. When the truth is discovered the offended partner becomes angry as the emotions come out. They feel cheated that their trusting partner ventured elsewhere for love and companionship which should have been for them. Feeling betrayed they become fearful that they may not be attractive enough or adequate enough to serve as a single source sexual partner. They feel unwanted being left out of this part of their partners life while devoting themselves fully to the relationship and insecure feeling their partner will want to opt out of the relationship. But yet are okay, even happy for their partner if the partner finds pleasure in other areas besides sex. An ice cream cone or a beer with his guy friends. Getting her hair or nails done at a spa with a girlfriend. These activities are perfectly fine but when it comes to the pleasure of sex that has to be done exclusively within the marriage. The point I’m trying to make here is I believe that if people were more honest with themselves and their partner and speak about having their needs met with understanding from their partner these things should be able to be worked out. There are solutions to all of this.

    There is a term for an open marriage called "monogamish". It was first coined years ago by relationship and sex columnist Dan Savage who is gay. He shared his monogamish arrangement with his long-term partner. Within this monogamish agreement they're committed to each other but they can have sex with others. It is not just a phenomenon for gay men as Savage asserted that these kind of relationships are happening more and more with heterosexual couples across the country as well. Monogamish is more about an agreement that allows for encounters within certain circumstances that have been previously agreed to. In a monogamish marriage you are committed to one person, the “monoga” part, but you can enlist other people for sex which is the “mish” part. Becoming monogamish addresses the fact that a lot of people want to be devoted to their relationship but are in fact human, and have desires to explore sex with others. It isn’t a license to do anything you want sexually and respect and honesty are still be the foundations of the relationship. It simply looks to address the fact that as a society we place a heavy burden on people to be something they have struggled to be since the dawn of time in the first place. That is being with one partner sexually for life. Monogamish marriages are not the only type of open marriages.

    These other marriages are increasing in numbers with varying styles to them. My spouse and I ventured into a monogamish relationship which is probably the lightest style. In a monogamish marriage an agreement is set and followed. We have an understanding where we get our needs met both physically and emotionally. Her needs are different than mine but we both work to fulfill them for each other. Other types of marriages are more open than ours. Some examples of non-monogamous marriages besides ours are polygamy, open, swinging, polyamory, and polyfidelity. There are many other forms of relationships but these relationships explained below are the most common.


    Polygamy is a form of marriage consisting of more than two persons. The most common form is a marriage of one husband with multiple women, who are each sexually exclusive with the husband. There are cases where there is one woman with several husbands but that is is rare. The key is there is a single person with others attached and the others do not venture away from the single person sexually. Neither does the single person venture away from the others.

    Open Marriage Other relationships which signify a primary emotional and intimate relationship between two partners who agree to have sexual relationships but not romantic relationships with other people together or separately. They may bring in a sex partner to share with each other or they may do it independently. This type of marriage centers around adding one person to the relationship for sexual purposes. Sub forms include cuckolding, wife/husband sharing, threesomes, or a combination of these and other scenarios.

    Swinging. Best known and the most popular type of marriage. Swinging is where both partners in a committed relationship engage in sexual activities with others as a recreational or social activity. They will attend a party or club where they have sex with themselves and others around them. Bondage, discipline, sado-machoism, (BDSM) can be practiced as well within this group setting.

    Polyamory Which is the practice of intimate, emotional, and sexual relationships with more than one partner, with the knowledge of all partners. Partners may move in or out of the relationship as they grow or change and the relationship is not only about the sex involved. There are at least three or more persons involved in the relationship and some or none may be legally married. It might consist of three men and two women or any other combination of genders. This type of relationship deals with everyday life issues beyond sex such as financial, emotional, and physical. They will even include the responsibility of raising children that are born from the other partners.

    Polyfidelity These are relationships that use an evenly distributed rotating sleeping schedule that determines who sleeps together and when. These relationships are similar to Polyamory relationships except no one sleeps with anyone outside of those originally involved in the group. This may be the most difficult arrangement as trying to maintain a schedule for sex among the participants can be daunting. If the group breaks apart the marriage ends.

    I have presented ways to remain with a partner for a lifetime allowing for needs to be met. Hopefully one can work with the other together and both enjoy the fruits of the relationship as they explore the sexual world outside the marriage. It can be a very fulfilling and satisfying relationship if the partners can agree to allow themselves the pleasure of the many sexual activities that are available without expecting total control over each other. Besides, as I have mentioned before, the human being is not meant to be sexually active with only one person for life. For those who are curious about how to make this work I strongly suggest picking up a copy of the book "The Ethical Slut" by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy. It is a practical guide to entering and maintaining an open relationship where extra-marital sex in common.
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  5. I have had extramarital affairs within our marriage. I’m not the first or only partner in a thought to be monogamous relationship that has ever done so. Many others, both husband and wife, have committed infidelity in the marriage and broached the subject of having sex with others outside of marriage. Here's some data to ponder concerning marriage. Did you know the percentage of marriages that end in divorce in America is 53%? True, and the percentage of marriages where one or both spouses admit to infidelity, either physical or emotional hangs in at 41%. Now the percentage of men who admit to committing infidelity in any relationship they've had is 57%. On the other side 43% of men will not admit to it or did not commit any infidelity. This tells me that the percentage is actually higher of those who did as I conclude that a certain number of the 43% actually committed infidelity in the relationship but refuse to tell. Along with men the percentage of women who admit to committing infidelity in any relationship they've had is 54%. 46 percent either did not stray in the relationship or would not admit to it just like the men. Therefore the 54% number is probably higher. The average length of an affair is 2 years. I was surprised by the fact that the persons in the affair hid their involvement for an average of 2 years? The other spouses had no idea this was happening and was there no remorse with either of the participants of the affair? For some reason I am blown away by this stat. But not all is lost as 31% of marriages last after an affair has been admitted to or discovered. The reverse of this is that an overwhelming majority of marriages fail due to the admittance of an affair. At least the extramarital sex had something to do with the failure.

    Now here's a stat worth noting. The percentage of people who say they would have an affair if they knew they would never get caught: Men = 74% Women = 68%. I am surprised by the high percentage of women admitting they would participate in an affair. As for men I can understand. Statistically speaking, men cheat for a single primary reason and that is sex or the lack of it within the relationship thereof.

    Human beings are not monogamous by nature. The idea that two people must be exclusively together for life is socially expected. If you look at the reasons behind this position it is less complicated to remain with one partner for life. But humans have sex hundreds of times for every baby conceived. We have sex for reasons other than procreation, and the human desire to experiment is far too great for many to limit themselves to one sexual partner for the rest of their lives. Each human has a different level of sexual desire. While one may need sex every day another may only desire it occasionally. Along with that as we age our desires change. A partner may lose the desire due to many reasons. They may be medical or psychological. The other partner may move their level of desire in the same way or opposite. It could be they do not change their level at all. The reality is no one person has the same level of sexuality as another. I have a much stronger desire than my partner which I must satisfy in order to remain stable emotionally. I can not comprehend a life without orgasm.

    We have many choices when it comes to our sexual behavior. We are one of the few if not the only species that engages in sex orally, anally, by masturbation, and other forms including sex with physical pain (BDSM). Many of us wish to enjoy sexual variety, but insist on sexual exclusivity for our partner. In that way we don't have to deal with jealousy when it arises because our partner found pleasure without us. We are blessed or cursed with the deep outpouring of emotion. Jealousy in an emotion that intervenes in our relationship with a significant partner. It usually rises the strongest when sex is in the equation. Our brains capacity for intelligence promotes strong emotions like jealousy. Human intelligence is far greater than the next species level of knowledge. A large separation exists between the smartest mammal on this earth and us. We have the ability and desire to reason, invent, explore, laugh, cry, celebrate joy and sorrow, along with a plethora of other emotions as we travel through our lives. What makes human beings special is our ability to do things that are unnatural. Few other species in the world have sex for the pure pleasure of it. Less have sex in areas of the body not created for sex or have sex associated with pain or other fetishes. People are going to do what they want. Some couples learn to create the relationship and sexual lifestyles that they desire. Then they find a way to fit themselves into the culture while they maintain their chosen lifestyle. Most people choose monogamy because of it being so socially acceptable. Monogamy is fine if that's what makes you comfortable. But it's also okay if you prefer to enjoy other sexual partners such as in a polygamy or other type of relationship. Diversity is good, and we should all be able to live as we choose.

    The general rule is that men don't desire to mate for life with the first person of the opposite sex they come across. And it's because of this biology, it's believed, that many men experience the natural urge to "spread their seed". Now to be sure, in the case of marriages or committed relationships, there is far more than just biology at work. Many men report a loss of sexual desire for their wives after children are born. Their wives, to them, no longer appear as sex objects, but rather maternal figures. Another widely reported cause is the breakdown of fun or spontaneity in the relationship. For example, for men in long-term relationships sex will become routine or mechanical. It's not the adventure it once was, but simply a means to an end. And so they seek that adventure again, that adrenaline rush, with another woman or women. Yet, another cause of men wanting multiple partners is more biology related. The inherent need to conquer. Think ego. It's reported that many men will seek sex outside of a relationship simply to see if they can do it. To see if they can convince a woman they are attracted to, to sleep with them. It's the "notch in the belt" phenomenon that while frowned upon in America, is surprisingly widely accepted in many other parts of the world.

    As for women, when it was explained to me how a woman might define what an affair is the 68% who said they would if they never got caught made more sense. For women an extramarital affair is different. Most women don't cheat for the sake of sex. It's a secondary concern for them. The number one reason they cheat is for an emotional connection. In more than a few instances, women won't even cheat physically. They will carry on emotional affairs where they'll fall in love and experience emotional intimacy with a new partner, while never taking it to the physical level. By physical level I mean physically touching another person, male or female, from just heavy petting to a sexual interlude. These types of emotional affairs can continue for years without ever being detected. This may lend to the 2 year length of affair statistic I was surprised by. Studies have found that in long-term relationships, women, whether they work outside of the house or not, often find themselves shut out emotionally by their spouse. Over 70% of women are still the primary caregivers for their children while also being the cook and the maid whether or not they work outside the home. This leaves them precious little time for themselves to foster a woman's natural urge to grow emotionally. This is an urge typically ignored by men whose primary interest is physical contact. The man in the relationship may become oblivious to this need of their spouse. Thus the longing for a different partner by that spouse who can see them for who they really are begins. And in the weeks, months or even years that follow, they may find such a partner or think they've found one who is better than their spouse. An interesting point to take away from all this is that females deeply yearn for the emotional bond and will strive to find a way to fulfill it. Affairs initiated by women generally last 3 times longer than those initiated by men but most of the time may be taken up by the emotional bonding a woman requires before sexual relations occur. This bonding may or may not be recognized by the male participant in the affair until the physical contact is initiated. Like her present partner or husband this new man is also oblivious to this need. And the cycle continues.
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  6. In Part 1 I wrote about ejaculating semen and frequency. This post is about how long it takes to ejaculate. How fast can you cum? I have been able to do it in under 5 minutes and staved off the eventual squirt for several hours. But I've never timed myself so I have no idea how I measure up to other men. There was a study done in 2017 by a dating site in the UK where 3,836 people, male and female, responded to the question "The last time you had intercourse, how long did it last?" Those respondents across the pond (I'm in the USA) averaged in at 16 minutes and 58 seconds. That's from initial penetration through thrusting and on to ejaculation and orgasm. Here in the US we last longer but not by much at 17 minutes and 5 seconds. According to the study the average is 16:34 and US Males last the longest. Canadians are 5 seconds quicker followed by the UK men, Australians, and then Indians - real Indians, not Native Americans. I thought it interesting to note that there is over a minute difference between the men from India and everywhere else surveyed. The dating site did comment that it is perceived that women of Indian decent have smaller pussies and most Indian men are not circumcised. Other parts of the world have a higher rate of male circumcision. So it could be that Indian men are more sensitive while fucking tighter pussies than the rest.

    Then this begs the question, how many thrusts across those 16 plus minutes of ecstasy does it take for the average man to get to that point of no return? The Royal Society of Open Science published a research paper called "Friction-lowering capabilities and human subject preferences for a hydrophilic surface coating on latex substrates: implications for increasing condom usage" that addresses this. Yea, they wanted to know how durable rubbers are while on a cock sliding in and out of a pussy, lubricated of course. It's like wanting to know how many miles the consumer gets out of their tires. Part of the research was to know how many pumps we men do when fucking on average. So the researchers found another study done where men thrust in and out of a pussy from 100 to 600 times before they ejaculate. That's a 300 thrust average per fuck.

    How do I match up? In Part 1 I wrote I may have had eleven thousand plus ejaculations with around 3,000 possibly ending up inside a vagina. Even though the accuracy is suspect I'll use the 3,000 fucks in a pussy as a gauge for measurement. If I were average at fucking and I believe I am way above average at fucking women and it's my blog so I can say that if I want. Again, if I were average as far as time fucking the pussy I have been at it for 855 hours so far. That comes to over 35 days spent with my cock inside a vagina. Now, at a average rate of 300 thrusts per fuck (300 T's x 3,000 P's) the total is that I have pumped my cock inside a pussy approximately nine hundred thousand times (900,000). Wow, and if I keep going I might make a million thrusts before I die. That'd be 334 more pussies that I'd need to fuck which, given my age, I may not be able to do. But hey, I'm sure going to try.
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