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#1 Lvlygrl

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Posted January 21 2017 - 09:45 PM

Do you use toys with ur partner during sex, and if so, how did u introduce it to u r partner or vice versa and what was the reaction?

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Posted January 21 2017 - 10:50 PM

I bought her a vibrator for valentine's day. 


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Posted January 21 2017 - 11:36 PM

Do you use toys with ur partner during sex, and if so, how did u introduce it to u r partner or vice versa and what was the reaction?


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Posted January 22 2017 - 06:49 AM

Please type words out. This isn't a text platform.


Really sorry, I didn't know it bothered anyone. I'll start typing out my words.

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Posted January 22 2017 - 11:28 PM

Really sorry, I didn't know it bothered anyone. I'll start typing out my words.


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Posted January 22 2017 - 11:29 PM

Thanks!

Wouldn't it be Thank you?

 

 

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Posted January 22 2017 - 11:30 PM

Much appreciated bro.
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Posted January 22 2017 - 11:34 PM

Wouldn't it be Thank you?
 
 
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Of course you are. You are always jo king. ;)
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Posted January 25 2017 - 08:23 AM

Do not use yet, but intend to.

 

The approach I am considering is offering my wife a vibrator and see how will she react to the gift. :)



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Posted January 25 2017 - 11:57 AM

how many men or women do you know that have been offended or disgusted by the idea. That' the only thing I'm worried about. Other than that, I say bring it on.



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Posted January 29 2017 - 05:28 AM

how many men or women do you know that have been offended or disgusted by the idea. That' the only thing I'm worried about. Other than that, I say bring it on.

 Everyone is different, but I imagine more couples have some sort of sex toy than do not. I guess it also depends on our age maybe. For mature married couples, it's maybe more normal than for a younger couple that hasn't been together for long.

 

For your first time, I would suggest something small and unimposing like a bullet vibrator or something similar as opposed to a huge dildo that might make the guy feel inadequate. 

 

If he has any doubts just let him know that this is only to enhance sex and definitely not to replace him. Someone said give it to him as a Valentines Day gift and that is a pretty great idea. Just tell him you bought something for "us" and can't wait to show him later. Maybe by some nice lingerie as well and make it all part of the same production.


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Posted January 29 2017 - 12:20 PM

I asked my wife if she was interested in trying a toy, and she was willing to try one. I bought my wife a vibrator.  She used it alone, but she liked it much better when I used it on her.  Over the years, we have tried different sizes and types.  So far, she has enjoyed having vibrators and dildos as part of our love-making adventures, but we don't use them every time.


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Posted February 03 2017 - 02:04 AM

I received a Dildo from a male friend as a gift when I was experiencing marital issues. And the one evening after a heated argument my husband stormed out to the bar and I ended at the same friend who gave me the Dildo. Nevertheless he used it on me or in me rather and did so for a few months till I got back with my husband but I still have it and the memories of my friend.

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Posted February 03 2017 - 03:25 AM

We have tried a couple different toys through our marriage but they never did much for my wife. I dont think she had the mindset to want to enjoy them. She did have a little pocket size vibrator that she would enjoy if I used it on her clit. Dont thonk she ever used anything on her own for masturbation.

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Posted February 04 2017 - 07:02 PM

Yes we do. How did I introduce them? I asked her. We're recent empty-nesters who have quite the awakening in the last year. I had accidentally discovered a bullet vibe about a year ago that she had owned a very short time. I found it exciting that she was enjoying her body as I had been enjoying mine several times a week. During some pillow time a week later, I brought up the bullet vibe. She was embarrassed at first but I reassured her that I was glad she had it. We used it that night. That experience opened up our new life together. We began discussing our goals as a couple again and the communication has been liberating. I asked her if she'd like something besides a bullet and we started searching -and collecting- together. Vibes for her. Vibes for us. Vibes for me. Toy pillows. Sometimes we play with them together; sometimes not and sometimes she plays by herself. None of them are a substitute but will absolutely enhance your experiences. Don't be afraid guys and gals, you'll be glad you did.



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Posted February 04 2017 - 07:36 PM

Do you use toys with ur partner during sex? Yes
How did u introduce it to u r partner? I told her I wanted to watch her get off with this toy (the magic wand )

What was the reaction? She obeyed and had a gushing orgasm.
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Posted February 05 2017 - 03:39 AM

Suggest the idea, but do it together. There's a heap of online stuff so you can avoid the embarrassment of personal shopping if that may initially be too difficult.

 

One hint. The big mistake a lot of guys make when buying penetrative toys for their wives/gf's - especially the first one - be conservative in size. She'll want something that's comfortable and easy to use, not some huge thing that is going to be a struggle and make eyes water..   Together  you can work up to those if you're so inclined.


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Ahhh. I wish!


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Posted February 05 2017 - 12:05 PM

As a senior couple and empty nesters too, we include toys in our sex play time. But not always. Sometimes we even include some porn. Masturbation is a very important part of our sexual health. So toys provide stimulation when we are not doing oral or fucking each other which happen 3-4 weekly, We love to watch other cum. We have a WeVibe, bullets and cock rings with a vibrator to hit her clit on the in stroke. We are very open with each other and no subject is off limits, so I guess it just happened. I am 63 and she is 58.
We like to discuss issues that effect senior sexual health.
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