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#21 Lvlygrl

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Posted January 18 2017 - 07:53 AM

Oh, the first guy your been with, if it was his first time too, that doesn't count. Clumsy awkward virgin sex doesn't count

I'm not sure if he had others before. He was older than me and I usually don't ask about past relationships.

 

So it very well coulda been clumsy.



#22 penguinsfan13

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Posted January 18 2017 - 02:38 PM

Heart medicine would do it. I also was on some stuff that was for helping my kidney stones pass. Only got it up one time over those two months and barely. Also nothing came out and the orgasm was pretty much non existent. Just a feeling of not being horny anymore.

Edited by penguinsfan13, January 18 2017 - 02:38 PM.

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#23 nympho man

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Posted January 20 2017 - 03:10 PM

I know one of the guys we share with will have trouble in threesomes we've had with him. Typically my wife sucking on his cock will eventually bring him around. I think it's nerves to be honest though. I have stepped out to let them have some alone time and he will be hard as I come back in.

Then he seems to be just fine.

#24 Mr_Self_Destruct

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Posted February 06 2017 - 03:34 PM

Hmmm, I'm guessing if its a virgin first time thing then alcohol might have been involved...

Brewers droop perhaps?

 

PS: If you're married now why does it even matter?


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#25 Lvlygrl

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Posted February 06 2017 - 06:21 PM

Hmmm, I'm guessing if its a virgin first time thing then alcohol might have been involved...

Brewers droop perhaps?

 

PS: If you're married now why does it even matter?

because my husband (now separated) was having issues too and I wanted to know if it was me



#26 Mr_Self_Destruct

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Posted February 07 2017 - 02:32 AM

because my husband (now separated) was having issues too and I wanted to know if it was me

 

Ah ok, got it. 

 

Maybe they're feeling pressure to perform? Have you tried "taking control of the situation"? Telling them they're not allowed to do anything or (basically) move? This takes all the pressure off them and they can relax and enjoy. They might even find they struggle with this and have to take-over the action.

 

Alternatively, you could look at options such as Viagra, Stendra, Sildenafil. These can often help. Just a suggestion.


Edited by Mr_Self_Destruct, February 07 2017 - 02:37 AM.

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#27 Lvlygrl

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Posted February 07 2017 - 06:18 AM

Ah ok, got it. 

 

Maybe they're feeling pressure to perform? Have you tried "taking control of the situation"? Telling them they're not allowed to do anything or (basically) move? This takes all the pressure off them and they can relax and enjoy. They might even find they struggle with this and have to take-over the action.

 

Alternatively, you could look at options such as Viagra, Stendra, Sildenafil. These can often help. Just a suggestion.

Ya I've tried everything, just not the pills though. He's young enough and healthy that he shouldn't have this problem. Aww well, not my concern anymore



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Posted February 07 2017 - 10:17 AM

the simple answer is "not enough blood in the penis"


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Posted February 07 2017 - 11:22 AM

If it's not happening consistently, you're worrying about nothing.  I personally find bad hygeine to be very deflating, I just can't hang with stank or skank.  Back or knee pain can cause a stiffy to vanish quickly, so if you just finished having him move furniture or he's been under the Buick all afternoon, you might want to be the one on top.  

 

But another factor that can really douse the flame is ridicule/bitching.  Seriously, if you tend to get critical of your mate during sex, don't expect peak performance unless he happens to prefer grudge fucking you for running your mouth.  There are only a few REAL issues that can limit erectile performance, the rest are mental.  Age is only a marginal factor, en Franklin fathered children into his 80s.

 

By the way, wtf is this "I didn't give it up for 3 months" business?  Can you possibly make sex seem less romantic than phrasing it like it's some kind of commodity?  As if it's SO valuable it should have a stock ticker symbol?  I'm not suggesting that anyone should have sex before they are ready, but this sounds like a series of qualifying stages or landmarks must be met before you, the owner of sex, can allow such contact.  It sounds so cold and calculating and I have to say that itself is a serious turn-off once a guy realizes he has been manipulated for so long.  Unless, of course, you are VERY talented and 3 months is worth the wait.  

 

So much about this is a matter of perception.  Making a guy jump through hoops is not how a lasting, loving relationship happens.  It's no better than keeping score, as if it's all a game to you.  Good luck with that.



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Posted February 08 2017 - 07:14 AM

anxiety I would say.