I'm sorry about this mess. I had no idea I'd started such a storm by posting three similar topics. I've decided to just do what she said 'get out'. I just hope she's happy with her husband. I've decided not to approach her or contact her for as long as possible. [avoiding her may be hard as we both live in a small town] I've realised that trying to apologise to her is only going to make things worse and its selfish of me to try and 'fix' anything. I just hope the next time our paths cross, I have a wife or GF and she no longer see's me as a third wheel