Tease her arsehole just a little with your fingers and your tongue when you lick her out. Nice and gentle and casually ask her if she likes what you're doing in a tender, loving whisper. She may surprise you with pleasured moans and encourage you to carry on. So my advice is be gentle, be loving and don't push your luck if she doesn't seem to be enjoying the attention! Good luck because anal play is amazing!
Well..it helps when women hear first from other women that anal has its rewards. That's why I first tried it. My roommate in college told me all about it, so I wanted to try it before my bf even asked. And now I've gone on to tell my close friends over the years about anal. In the absence of that, watch some porn together...and ask her if "we can try that sometime"....and it makes a great birthday or anniversary present.
I had to finger and tongue fuck a girls ass for years before she let me push it in. Its all about her wanting it. Some love it and some are just willing to do some butt play but most like a finger during sex or oral.
Cbizzy, As with any sex act, it's always a good idea to tell your wife what you want to do before you do it. When I began dating my girlfriend, we'd drink a lot of wine and talked for hours. We'd talk sex for at least an hour an evening. She trusted me to not judge her. I have not violated her trust. I had never had anal sex. She has had it a lot with about six dudes. She offered it to me. By then, we were in love. She explained it in detail. She told me of her bad experiences with anal sex, which were because guys were too exited and rushed when they needed to take time and properly lubricate their dicks. Anal sex can never be rushed. It has to be planned in advanced. She has to have her colon voided. Use an enema if there's a possibility that she has to drop a deuce. Within five minutes, she'll shit her brains out. My girlfriend has always taken a shower after dropping a deuce before anal sex. She has said that when she first got in to anal sex, some guys would finish with shit on their dicks. She learned to avoid that embarrassment by going with enemas. I believe she learned the enema routine from one of her sorority sisters. This part of anal sex cannot be avoid. Fecal matter can cause a woman a very serious infection. Always assure she goes with an enema if there's a slight possibility that she needs to drop a deuce. My girlfriend taught me to give her enemas. I always keep at least one in my bathroom. She is not in to anal sex to any great degree, but there are times when she craves it. So I have to be ready for those times. My point is discuss anal sex with your wife long before you want to do it. Remember that she'll have to prepare for it. Never rush in to anal sex. Use silicon lubricant. Insert one well-lubricated finger in her ass and slowly bang her ass. When she's ready, slide a second finger into her ass. When she's relaxed, assure that your dick is well lubricated. I always let my girlfriend lubricate my dick. She knows exactly how much to lose. Go very slowly at first. When she's comfortable, she'll probably want you to bring it. Lubrication is another crucial aspect. The times that dudes have hurt my girlfriend during anal sex was when they were not well lubricated or have used the wrong lubricant. She told me that lotion will not work. After anal sex, you'll have to take a shower to assure there is no fecal matter in your groin area. My girlfriend used to shower with dudes after they had banged her ass. She didn't trust them to thoroughly wash their dicks. She'd wash their dicks. She said that after anal sex, her former boyfriends would always want to fuck her, so she has to assure that there was no chance of fecal infection. Cbizzy, if you approach anal sex with your wife the right way, she might surprise you. Even better, maybe she's waiting for you to make the first move.
Gently explore the area with a finger but, dont insert anything, just gently massage her there at first. Get her comfortable with it before you pursue it all the way...
