Animals compete and humans are organized animals. There is always competition among people. Neither working as groups or individual. Were you never an athlete? You never compete on at least an intellectual level? If you don't compete on some level you will die, that is a rule on Earth.
there are unknown near infinite ways to 'loose'. there are only four that i know of that come close to being any such thing as a loser. and then only if you choose them.
People are called losers and looked down on for living at home past age 25 but not for being in ISIS.