Hi everyone. I'll cut to the chase - I'm kinda sleeping with my boss. It started two months ago, with him being the main driver and initiator. We've had sex about 6 times while we've been away with work and the last time was last Monday. In the beginning we used to text constantly flirting and sending pics (outside of work hours) but about about a week ago he just stopped. I initiated the convo a twice but it didn't go anywhere. I think I've done something the last time we met but I don't know what. We switched it up a bit and I tied him up and rode him, but it wasn't anything really kinky. I think maybe I was a bit quiet the next morning towards him as I hadn't slept a lot. We also didn't kiss at all that night. Everything else about us is the same, throughout us sleeping together we've kept work professional. He is fine with me at work and we still have a laugh. We have to work really closely together in a small team so it's hard to judge whether he is being distant. However what I'm trying to say is that everything is good with us apart from he's stopped texting me. I get the feeling maybe he's lost interest. I'm honestly fine if this is the case as to me it was just sex but I'm not sure whether to raise it with him or let it fizzle out? I want to ask him if I've done something wrong but I don't know if this is a good idea and whether I should just leave it? Btw I know what I'm doing is wrong etc work wise but he isn't married or anything. I knew this would end at some point, which is why I'm being careful and if it's fizzling out, I won't fight it. Does anyone have any advice? Would you talk to him about it or is the lack of texting a non-issue and I'm just worrying for nothing? Thanks
I just want to add we had prearranged last week to meet on Thursday. But I'm not sure whether to go anymore as he's not mentioned it since then.
Two adages come to mind: Don't dip your pen in the company inkwell. Don't put your meat where you make your bread.
Ok thanks. So your advice would be to let it fizzle out then? The sex has already happened, I know it's wrong. I don't have any feelings for him I just don't want to keep something going if he's not interested.
A friend of mine wasn't sleeping with the boss but it was some other high ranked person in the company. She got treated like a queen. She got the easiest work and she got secret bonuses that no one else got. If I were you id say keep what you got and if he drifts away, just do it quietly
well good way to have job security. at target all the managers were having sex with coworkers even if though they were in relationships
Many a successful relationship started at work. If neither of you has other ties there is nothing wrong, except maybe make it public and above board. However if it's an extra-relationship fling for either of you, the boss/employee dynamic spells potential grief - probably for you, the employee. tread warily.
Are you single?And are you sure he is?Maybe he's met someone else and that explains why he's ignoring your texts! Maybe he had the urge just for sex,has had it now,and the urge has subsided.If you value your job,I'd let it fizzle out tbh.If you become a problem to him,you'll be out the door.
